Our wonderful personality Zhang Baotong 2018.10.5

Personality is personality, which is a person's mental outlook and psychological characteristics. The term originated in Latin to refer to the mask worn by an actor, and later extended to refer to a character or character and its inner characteristics, such as a person's unique thoughts, qualities, behaviors, habits, and other characteristics. We have seen a lot of literary works and are more familiar with the personalities of the characters, and we can understand the personalities of characters such as Lin Daiyu, Zhuge Liang, Cao Cao and Li Kui, and see their vivid characters and life fates.

We come into contact and interact with many people every day. Each of them has different mannerisms, voices, and smiles, and if you analyze them carefully, you will find that each person's personality is very distinctive, and it is closely related to the genetics of their parents and the environment in which they were raised. It is often said that where there is a mother there is a daughter, and where there is a father there is a son. Explain that daughters and mothers, sons and fathers have many of the same personalities. For example, if the father has a hot temper, the son's temper is also very hot, and if the mother picks the door, the daughter is also very stingy. In addition to the genetic factors of parents to their children, parents are the most important teachers in their children's lives, and living with their children all year round will inevitably be influenced by their parents. Therefore, children will certainly have a lot in common with their parents in terms of personality.

Some people use blood type to explain people's personalities, and people with different blood types are classified into different types of personalities. Because there is a genetic relationship between the blood type of the children and the blood type of the parents, the women accept the blood type of their parents as well as the personality traits of their parents. But this argument seems a bit far-fetched. Because there are only three or four blood types, but people are thousands of faces, hundreds of people.

The environment affects a person's growth, and a person's growth will affect the stereotype of his character, and the stereotyped character will lead to a different life. That's why it is said that character determines the fate of a person. Some people will use "the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change" to describe the stability of a person's temperament, or even stubbornness. Because people's psychological characteristics and behavioral habits will have a fixed pattern, which invisibly affects and dominates you. Why do some people have so many greed, why do some people give selflessly, why do some people have a short temperament, why do some people have peace of mind? It's all about his character traits. But this nature is not innate, it is immutable, and many dispositions can be completely changed through long-term environmental influences.

The death of my father can be said to have changed the fate of our family and the character of our family. People say that children without fathers are timid. Indeed, at that time, I was not yet four years old, my sister was only six years old, and my brother was probably ten years old. The three of us became very timid and timid, and we didn't like to talk. I remember being bullied by others when I was a kid and never knew I should fight back. Even in middle school, when I quarrel and reason with others, I always can't say anything. Even later, when I became the secretary of the school, I didn't dare to speak in formal occasions at will, and I had to make full preparations before every conversation, but sometimes as soon as I stood on the stage, I forgot all the words I was ready for. Therefore, I never talk long, and if I do, I have to get the manuscript. My sister and my brother have the same problem. It can be said that the death of my father has a very negative impact on our lives.

And children without mothers lack love and don't know the rules. One of my former students was 17 years old and still in his second year of junior high school. His father was a stevedore at Xi'an West Railway Station, and his mother ran away with someone else when he was very young. He didn't study at all, and he either played poker with other classmates in class or deliberately made the teacher happy. Therefore, the teacher often coaxed him out of the class, afraid that he would stand in front of the classroom door and make trouble, and he had to find students to accompany him. His father sent him to school because he was afraid that he would be bad in society. Compulsory education generally does not allow students to repeat grades, but the school was afraid that he would affect the high school entrance examination, so they kept him in the second year of junior high school for two consecutive years. Later, I left school and heard that after graduating from junior high school, he entered his father's unit to pull goods on three wheels for other shippers. Just imagine, if the student's mother hadn't run away with someone else, the student wouldn't have become a child who no one cares about and no one loves. And no one cares about children who are not loved, and they are used to it, so it is very difficult to discipline.

Because of the increasing influence of social factors, the genetic factors of personality are slowly becoming blurred. Children enter kindergartens and schools from a very young age, and are often more influenced by teachers and classmates than their parents, and their personality traits will gradually become alienated from their parents. For example, a self-willed child will slowly become reasonable and obedient in a kindergarten or school environment, and a selfish girl will slowly become tolerant and generous with the help and influence of classmates and teachers. Or that the barracks can train a coward into a brave soldier, or that the church can transform a tyrant into a philanthropist. It can be seen that the role of environment often affects a person's personality more than genetic factors. Therefore, when we grow up, we can meet a good friend or a good environment, which will be of great benefit to the optimization of our personality and the future of our life.

Residents of different regions and different nationalities will have their own distinct personalities, even between cities and mountainous areas, the differences between the personalities of workers and peasants are very obvious, and even between urban and urban people, and between rural and rural people. As long as people are kind and friendly to each other, people of all kinds can get along sincerely and harmoniously.

Like colorful flowers, various personalities make up a colorful world. Thousands of people, hundreds of people, each character has its advantages and disadvantages, each character is blending with other personalities, so as to transform into a standardized moral cultivation and style of life, in order to be able to better understand and get along with other people, treat each other sincerely.

Knowing and treating others sincerely cannot hide the strengths and weaknesses of our personality, but only shows that we can better grasp our own personality, so that our personality characteristics can develop our strengths and avoid weaknesses. However, we should still see the strengths and weaknesses of our personality, and try to give full play to the strengths of our personality and avoid its disadvantages.

By knowing your personality traits, you can avoid many factors and difficulties that are not good for you when choosing a partner or looking for a job. For example, if I am not a good talker, I am actually not suitable for a secondary school teacher. I can teach well, but I can't be at the top level. I always won the second prize for speaking in college and observing teaching in secondary school because I was not good at acting. Even if I am not very suitable to be a secretary, I can't stand on the stage like some people can talk like a river. If I were a doctor or a journalist, I would have achieved much more and had a much higher level of ability. Besides, my student is not school material at all, and after graduating from junior high school, he went to pull goods on three wheels for others. Soon, however, the unit carried out reforms and wanted to contract out the delivery business. At that time, people's ideas were not completely emancipated, and no one was willing to contract at all. This student of mine was so bold that he contracted the entire delivery business. Through these twenty or thirty years of business development, he has become a big boss with hundreds of millions of assets.

Human nature is really wonderful, it not only reflects a person's style of life, but also shows some of a person's abilities. And these characteristics and abilities are really not something that anyone can learn if they want to. For example, I envy the optimistic and cheerful personality of others, but I can't do it anyway. But I also have my own personality strengths, which is that once I have a goal, I will persevere and never waver. Every personality has winners and losers, and will have a side of self-confidence, pride, and inferiority. It is one of the best gifts that our parents and God have given us, let us cherish and love it, let it bring us success and happiness in life as much as possible, and make us feel less discouraged and depressed.