Chapter 995: Bringing Happiness Home (Page 1/1)

Bring happiness home Zhang Baotong2018.11.15

Happy families are the same, unhappy families are different. This is a famous quote from Leo Tolstoy in "Anna Karerina". This sentence incisively reveals the joys and sorrows in marriage and family. And the indicator of this joy and sorrow is whether or not it is happy. A happy marriage and family are always full of happiness, while a family with an unhappy marriage is full of contradictions and coldness.

Home is a place of love, not a place of reason. What is love? Love is romance and affection, but it is also tolerance and understanding. Tolerance and understanding are sometimes easy to achieve, but sometimes they are exceptionally difficult. When you love someone, you will easily tolerate and understand any mistakes and mistakes she makes, but when you no longer love her, or even become disgusted and disgusted with her, even if she has the slightest mistake, you will yell at her and be angry.

A friend of mine fell in love with a recently divorced middle-aged woman at the card table after his wife was in a car accident. A middle-aged woman of thirty-six or seventeen years old, working in a railway unit, with a son who is in junior high school. The woman is tall and handsome, full of charm, cheerful and bold, but likes to play cards and gamble. My friend works as a company manager in a railroad unit with a girl who is in high school. After being in contact with this woman for a while, he was fascinated by the woman and offered to marry her. But the woman owed more than 200,000 yuan to others for playing cards, and proposed that if he could pay off the arrears for her, she would marry him immediately. The man didn't say a word, so he helped her pay off the 200,000 arrears. So, the two got married and formed a new family.

After getting married, although the woman continues to play cards, she no longer makes big bets, but only plays once every three or two days for entertainment. The two have been married for a long time, and the heat has not diminished, and they are as intimate and sticky as two lovers. However, after two or three years, with the loss of time, the relationship between the two began to be dull, and after another two or three years, the two began to have resentments, often arguing and shouting over trivial things such as you should wash the dishes and cook for him. Sometimes a woman loses a card game and her face is ugly, or a man encounters something unpleasant at work and is in a bad mood, so no one wants to talk to anyone when he enters the house, and even no one is willing to talk to anyone, so that it develops to the point of using hands and feet, exposing each other's ugliness and weaknesses. In the end, the two had to go against each other and go their separate ways.

Home is a warm harbor, even if there is a storm outside, as long as you return home, you can shelter from the wind and rain. So, home is not just a place to sleep, it's also a home for our souls. If we want to love this home, we must make it full of warmth and happiness. I read an article in the book about a man who was visiting a friend's house, and when he got out of the elevator, he saw a small wooden sign hanging on the door, which read: "Before you enter the door, please take off your worries, and when you come home, bring happiness into the house." The man was very impressed by this, and asked his master. The hostess told him why she hung such a wooden sign. She said that one day when she came home, she saw a sleepy, gray face, a pair of tightly knit eyebrows and worried eyes in the elevator mirror. This took her aback, and she wondered how she would feel and react to her children and her husband when she returned home like this, and she thought that her children would be silent at the table, and her husband would be cold. So, she wrote this wooden sign and hung it on the door to remind herself. However, the wooden plaque reminds not only herself, but also the rest of the family and the guests who come to the house.

I also have a deep understanding of this, my wife and I have had some ups and downs in our marriage, I don't think being with her will make me happy, and she feels that I don't care enough for her. We often don't say a word for a long time, and as soon as we do, we start arguing. So, the days go by upset, cold, and lifeless. Later, I felt that since the two were going to live together, it was a day to be happy, and it was also a day to quarrel and quarrel. The result of the quarrel made both of them very angry and annoyed, and they didn't speak for a few days. Not only is it in a bad mood, but it also makes people irritable, with headaches and stomach aches. So, I changed my mind and felt that I should live a good life. In order to do this, we must have tolerance and patience, not take some of the other party's habits and faults too seriously, recognize them too seriously, and still less make a big fuss and find faults. So, I thought that as long as she was happy, she could do whatever she wanted, and I would rather calm down and write my own work properly.

She is from Henan and likes to drink porridge, and I am from Hunan and likes to eat rice. However, I don't like porridge, and she doesn't like rice. So, we ate rice at noon and porridge at night. Over time, we all got used to eating rice and drinking porridge. She often thought that I was always sitting in the house and writing, and I didn't do much housework, so we stipulated that she would wash the dishes at noon and me at night. She does more light work, and all the heavy work belongs to me. She loves to watch TV, and not only turns on her voice very loudly, but also sings and laughs loudly along with the TV. I need to be quiet when I write, so I close the door. Sometimes, however, it is not possible to close the door. Listening to her singing and laughing happily, I didn't want to spoil her fun, so I could only concentrate myself. At half past nine in the evening, when she was going to bed, I turned off the computer and went into the living room to watch TV.

For many years, our relationship was not very good, and her relationship with our family was not very good, and besides, there was no heating in the southern winter, it was very cold, and her health was not good, and she was sick for three days, so she has not been back to my house for many years. During the Chinese New Year last year, someone in the family said that she had not come back to visit her mother for many years. I told my family that it was up to her to decide whether she would come back or not, as long as I came back every year. I don't want to force her to go back to my house, if she goes back to my house, it will upset our family, so I might as well not let her go back. As long as she is happy and happy every day, she will not make you uncomfortable. Therefore, whether a family lives well or not, whether it is happy or not, is either a mutually beneficial and win-win situation, a harmonious and shared ending, or a result of mutual torture and mutual defeat.

For the average family, there is usually no big deal, there is no need to quarrel, shout and shout. This will not help solve the problem, but will only make the war more and more intense. The reason why there are quarrels and shouts in the house is because there is no love between the husband and wife, only anger and resentment, like two powder kegs that explode when they encounter sparks. A lot of things in the family are like that, but if you take it seriously, it's like the sky is falling. If you're going to take it lightly, it's insignificant. If you have lost faith in marriage and love, then the atmosphere and environment in your home will definitely be gloomy, and if you use your home as a warm harbor, your home will be full of happy sunshine.

In order to fill your home with sunshine, don't bring the gloom into your home.

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