Just for love, there is nothing else to ask Zhang Bao to translate 2018.1.19

There was a time when I was really scared of love. Because that's when I fell in love and I got hurt as a result. I think that's probably why people call it "falling in love". I am willing to give my all and put my love into it. Then I don't know what happened, and all I got was disappointment, resentment, anger, and pain. My whole world was on the verge of collapse.

What's going on?Can't we love without pain?Is disappointment really the price of all our happiness when we're in love?Should we blindly accept the hurt we suffer when we're in love?It's only after years of spiritual exploration and inner inspiration that I realize that I can love without being hurt. I finally understood that unconditional love was the answer.

Be accepting of people expressing love in different ways. How do you express your love? You say "I love you" three times a day, you kiss him and hug him every chance you get, you never forget your wedding anniversary, you always have his favorite meal ready. And how does he express his love? He rarely says "I love you", he rarely kisses you, he forgets your birthday, he doesn't even want to cook. But he works overtime, walks the dog, helps you with your laundry, takes you to the movies, and calls you "baby". He may love you as much as you love him, he just behaves differently. If you can accept this difference, then you can have a healthier view of your relationship.

Love without expecting anything in return. This is the root of suffering: when you ask someone to give something in return for what you love. You are actually setting up reasons for your own disappointment, because love is not always given to each other, and it is destined to disappoint you. No matter what time and place, the love between two people will never be equal. No matter how much your partner loves you, she will never be able to meet all your needs. If you think you're going to love Him only when you get Him in return, that's the worst. Because it will keep you waiting in pain forever.

We must cherish the present and love the present, because the past is in the past, and the future is just a dream. The pain, joy and laughter of yesterday are just memories and do not need to be remembered. And your fantasies and troubles may never arise. So why pay attention to them? We have to live now, give love to our loved ones now, and do it now, enjoy it. This is the secret of inner fulfillment and happiness.

Yes, you would say that this kind of unconditional love is easier said than done. In particular, we may think of love as a mutual relationship that merely gives and receives. But we should still try to believe that love is just giving. People will say "give until you get hurt", and we will say "love until you don't hurt anymore".

Trust Zhang Bao Tong Translation 2018.1.20

The little girl and her father were crossing the river, and they were walking together on the bridge. The father, fearing that his daughter was afraid, said to her, "Honey, please hold my hand so that you will not fall into the river." ”

But the little girl said, "No, Daddy, you have to take my hand." ”

The father was confused and asked, "Does this make a difference?"

The little girl replied, "It's a big difference." She said, "I hold your hand, and if something happens to me, I may slip out of your hand." If you hold my hand, I'm sure you won't let go of my hand no matter what happens to me. ”

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not within its constraints, but in its connections. So hold your loved one's hand instead of expecting them to hold your hand.