Happiness is a process, not an end, compiled by Zhang Baotong 2018.6.15

We always feel confident that life will be very comfortable and happy when we get married and have children. However, after having a child, I found that the child was too young and too noisy, so I thought that the child would get better when he was older. However, when the children really grow up to be more than ten years old, we find that these adolescent children are very difficult to manage and are not very obedient, so we often feel that it is difficult to communicate with them, and we want to wait for the children to be older and then they will slowly become sensible. In fact, no matter how old a child grows, there will be some things that worry and worry us.

We get a headache from our spouse's carelessness and lack of organization in life, so we often think that it would be nice if our spouse could get rid of it. We always want to take a vacation, we don't want to go to work, and sometimes we just want to wait until we retire so that we don't have to go to work again. However, when we retire and no longer have to go to work, we will have a helpless sense of loss, feeling that we have withdrawn from the stage of history and become a person who is no longer useful. When we bought a nice new car, we wanted to be able to drive our cars and go on vacation when we retired. But in fact, when we are really retired, will we be able to travel in a car? There are so many uncertainties and all kinds of magical unknowns in our future that we can't pin our hopes on the future. There is a saying that people should live in the moment, because the present moment is the safest and most beautiful moment, if a person can't live in the moment, then when can he live? For each of us, it is the most meaningful thing to have fun in the present moment and find happiness for ourselves.

Alfred Suzer once said, "All along, I always felt that my real life was about to come. However, at this point, there is always something in the way, and if you want to continue moving forward, you must remove these obstacles. Such as some unfinished work, some time to occupy or some debts to be repaid. Because only after you have worked out these things can you start your day. Later, I realized that solving these trivial things in life is my life. ”

This view made me realize that there is no path to happiness. There is no way to pursue and find happiness. Because the process of finding happiness is happiness in itself, you have to cherish the little bits and pieces you have.

Remember, time never waits for people, and it doesn't favor you and me. So, don't think that happiness will come when you graduate, don't think that happiness will come when you return to school, don't think that happiness will come when you get married, don't think that happiness will come when you get divorced, don't think that happiness will come when you have children, don't think that happiness will come when you retire, don't think that happiness will come when you have a new car or a new home, don't think that happiness will come when spring comes, and don't wait until you get a new life to realize that life is originally "don't wait for the future, be happy in time".

The process of finding happiness is happiness in itself, and there is no end on this path. So, you have to work as if you were not paid and love as much as you can, just like dancing on a stage without an audience.

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