Primary school students are in love with Zhang Baotong 2016.12.8

I thought that puppy love would only happen in middle school, but when I got to elementary school, I realized that puppy love actually existed in elementary school. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info is just a difference between the early love of middle school students and the early love of elementary school students.

The first time I found out about elementary school students' early love was not long after I came to school, once, when I was in charge of invigilating an exam in a third-grade class, the female teacher who was invigilating with me took some notes from the drawer of a student who cheated on an exam and showed them to me. One of the notes read, "So-and-so, I love you." "I was very surprised that the third grade pupil was only eight or nine years old, and this phenomenon could occur. However, at that time, we did not say anything about it, and we did not deal with it. Because I think it's just that they're messing around, at a young age, they know what to love and not to love.

Later, I often heard the teachers in the senior grades talk about the students' early love, and some people brought me the so-called love letters written by the students, which were nothing more than some: so-and-so, do you love me or do you love anyone, if you love me, you can't step on two boats. Or: I heard that you are going to have a birthday, what do you want me to give me? Once, when I was leaving the school gate after school, I heard someone shout, "So-and-so, your wife is here." "When I saw it, it was a couple of sixth-grade boys joking. Then, a sixth-grade girl came out of the school gate, and someone shouted to her, "So-and-so, your husband is waiting for you." However, the girl didn't care, looked at them and walked away.

I don't understand that. I think I also had the experience of early love, when I was in the second year of junior high school, when I was 13 years old, I fell in love with a girl next door, she was a year younger than me, at that time, I wanted to see her every day, and when I didn't see her, I felt empty in my heart. But at that time, we were all in love, tacitly, how dare others notice? It wasn't until later, when I became obsessed with playing table tennis, that I devoted all my thoughts to playing ball, and I didn't think so much about her. But in the sophomore year of high school, that feeling suddenly became obvious, and it seemed that I really had the feeling of first love.

I'm not so surprised that I've heard a lot about calling wives and husbands among students. During recess, sometimes when I come to the door of the senior classroom, I can hear the students joking around about who is the husband and who is the wife. Moreover, no one was annoyed or angry by the students who were being played around by everyone, and they looked completely acquiesced and indifferent. If this was in the era when we were children, it would have been a big ugly thing, and we would even feel shameless.

Obviously, whether it is serious or playful, this so-called early love is quite common in the upper grades of elementary school. But compared with the early love in middle school, it still seems to be a little different. Early love in middle school seems to be very affectionate, very focused and serious, which has a great impact on students' academic energy and academic performance. However, puppy love in primary school is more of a joke and has no obvious impact on academic performance. Because the schoolwork itself of elementary school students is not heavy.

Because I don't have much contact with the students, I don't know much about the real situation of the students. Regarding the early love of students, some teachers suggested that I take a look at our school's post. Once, when I was idle, I opened our school's post bar on the Internet. It's full of who introduced a certain female classmate to whom, and which friend of a certain female classmate introduced a certain male classmate. It's not just male classmates competing with each other for which female classmate. There are even some bad students in our school who are in our school and have a fight with the boy in our school over a certain girl, and they are going to fight somewhere. It's like the plot in Romeo and Juliet.

I don't think of these phenomena in students as puppy love. Because I think early love is a very serious and innocent emotion, and it shouldn't be this kind of slapstick and casualness. Once, however, a teacher was chatting with everyone and said that her son had gone to our school and had transferred to another school in sixth grade. As a result, a female classmate in the same class chased after her to write a love letter to her son. Somehow, she found out about that love letter. When she read the love letter, she was very annoyed, and called the schoolgirl to the office and reprimanded her severely. So that when the girl saw her, she was like a mouse to a cat.

I've been to some of the discussions about puppy love among elementary school students, and I've heard some teachers talk about puppy love. They have the following discoveries about early love: 1. Writing love letters to each other, 2. Male and female classmates giving gifts to each other, 3. Classmates like to fool them, 4. Intimate relationships, going in and out of pairs, 5. Grades decline. But according to my observation and impression of puppy love among students, it is nothing more than that, but I have not found any intimacy and excesses in their behavior, such as dressing fashionably, being unrestrained, hugging and kissing, and declining grades, which I have not seen or even heard of. Even if the love letter is the sentence "I love you", most of the gifts given are postcards. In fact, this early love of elementary school students is more like the envy and goodwill between male and female classmates. There is no need to educate and deal with such matters to such a serious extent.

However, when it comes to middle school, the situation is different, because the students are a little older, and their understanding and feelings of love are also different, so it can be said that the students' early love starts in middle school. From what I observed in the past when I was in middle school, junior high school students were already cuddling and kissing, and by high school, there were even cases of clandestine cohabitation, pregnancy, and running away from home. In my year of high school, there was a class of male and female classmates who ran away from home, and after a week of busy work with the school, teachers, and parents, the two students returned from Hanzhong and returned to school. This may have a big impact on them throughout their lives.

Generally speaking, children in normal families are unlikely to have any major problems, and students who do have problems almost always have some defects in their families and family environments. A normal and harmonious family is the best environment for children to grow up healthily, and the example of parents and the peace of the family are the norms of their behavior. Growing up in this environment, even if children occasionally make small mistakes or mistakes, they will easily correct them.

Treat the problem of puppy love in primary school students, neither exaggerate nor turn a blind eye, but really understand their motives and nature, if they are really playing in that way, just like children are playing at home, there is no need to make a fuss. If the child is playing real and it affects the academic performance, then it is impossible not to take it seriously. (To be continued.) )