After looking at Alice kindly for a while, Old Man Sun asked Ye Luo beside him, "Xiaoxiao doesn't want to be a chef when he grows up, right?"

"I haven't really thought about it. ”

Ye Luo was stunned, then shook her head and said: "However, as long as she likes it, no matter what she does, I will not object, nor will I force her to do things she doesn't like, it's all up to her." ”

In his opinion, children's learning and playing can be carried out at the same time, and there is no need to occupy the time that belongs to children's play because of learning, and even find a lot of so-called 'interest classes' for children to learn.

Children are not adults, their receptivity and mental endurance are very fragile, and there are some things that even we adults can't bear, let alone children of a few years old.

In order to let their children study well and become a school bully in the future, they will stifle their time to play, which is very unfair to children!

It may be in the eyes of parents that this is for the good of their children, but they deliberately or deliberately ignore whether their children are willing to learn or not.

"I have to say, you're really special, I've met a lot of parents of children, and very few like you. ”

Sun Zhenguo sighed: "Parents of other families don't care whether their children like it or not, they only know that they blindly find a lot of dance lessons, piano lessons, foreign language lessons, tutoring classes and the like for their children, and they haven't considered whether their children are interested or not, and whether they are willing to learn. ”

How to educate children has almost become the biggest concern of parents, basically except for beating, that is, scolding, these two common two, there are too few others.

Children are human beings, and we cannot disrespect them because they are our own children.

Whenever parents point out their child's mistakes, the child will always find many reasons to prove his innocence.

At this time, parents will generally angrily call their children's behavior 'quibbles', but in fact, this is not a quibble, but a kind of feedback from the child's parental education.

Education is a two-way street, parents should not only teach, but also accept their children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect.

However, many parents are not aware of this, they only care about their own 'teaching', and do not care about the information fed back by their children, and this kind of education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.

When children give feedback on our education, we must first respect it, and then analyze it.

Of course, this analysis is not only about the child's language, but also about the child's movements and expressions.

However, it is important for parents to respect their child's feedback, regardless of whether it is 'quibble' or not.

In the above educational example, when the child said the reason for 'our class children searched for this', the mother yelled at the child without analyzing the child's feedback, which is a sign of disrespect for the child's feedback.

Therefore, this mother also knows the real feedback of the child, and does not think that 'you are stupid' is a dirty word.

It is conceivable that parents misunderstand their children's feedback and suppress their children's feedback, and in the long run, the children will never give positive feedback to their mother's education again.

Without the cooperation of children, parents will inevitably have no way to educate their children.

When parents analyze the problems reported by their children, they can conduct purposeful education based on their children's feedback.

For example, if the child does not know the importance of politeness when he gives feedback, the parent will never do it, so you can explain the importance of politeness through examples and reasoning, and guide the child to be a good child who is polite.

If the problem is that the child does not want to know the responsibility caused by the recent wrong words and deeds, the parent should isolate the child and be a person who knows his mistakes and dares to act......

In short, no matter what feedback the child gives to the parent's education, respecting and carefully analyzing the child's feedback is the first prerequisite for achieving the purpose of education.

"I'm not going to let these things happen to Alice. ”

Ye Luo said solemnly: "Maybe in the eyes of other parents, it seems irresponsible for me to do this, but in fact, I don't think there is anything good about my approach, on the contrary, I think that only what children are really interested in will be what they are willing to learn, if they are not interested and unwilling to learn, even if we keep forcing them to learn, it may be counterproductive." ”

"Maybe some parents think that their children don't want to learn, but they don't want to learn, as long as they let them learn for a while. However, these parents forget that their children are completely different from being forced to learn. ”

"Parents can't accompany their children all their lives, and when parents are not around, they should also let their children live an independent self and have the courage and ability to face life. Parents should teach their children not only the ability to think independently when facing problems, but also how to cope with different difficulties in life. ”

Speaking of this, Ye Luo grinned and said: "In the process of training, when children encounter unfamiliar things and actions, parents should give their children great patience and respect, and when they make progress, they should not only blindly praise, but also learn to persevere, so that children can become a confident, frustrated, and calm person." ”

"I agree with your concept, although it may be more unusual in the eyes of stubborn parents, but this method is undoubtedly the best for children. ”

Sun Zhenguo glanced at Ye Luo in surprise and sighed: "As the saying goes, 'no rules are not a circle', but setting rules is not blindly ordering and threatening, before something happens, children should know where the bottom line of principles is, and then implement them according to the rules." ”

Especially in this not very easy process, parents should always respect their children and participate in their children's actions, give them time to continue to digest and absorb and continue to practice, so that the baby can really understand the meaning of the rules, but the premise of all this is that you must set an example for the parents. ”

Under normal circumstances, the parent's home-raising style will leave a deep imprint on the child's growth path.

In this process, whether it is corporal punishment or scolding, it will bring huge psychological pressure to children, make them live in anxiety and fear, and always worry that they have done something wrong, causing them to lose concentration, and even doubt themselves in serious cases, causing inner lack of self-confidence.

Studies have shown that beating and scolding will affect the development of children's IQ and emotional intelligence, and parents should educate their children in a firm and gentle way.

For children, sharing means losing, as small as snacks and toys, as big as the care of grandparents, they will not want other children to participate, this is nature, parents must first learn to respect their ideas.

To guide sharing, encourage children to try to exchange their own toys when they look at other people's toys, so that they will not be so difficult to accept.

Or when you are with your baby, take the initiative to borrow a certain toy from him/her, return it to them after a few minutes, and then

Then ask your baby to borrow something from you and return it in a few minutes, so that you can take your baby through the first step of learning to share.

If parents are really 'children', then they should learn a good family education concept, learn how to improve their children's IQ and cultivate their children's emotional intelligence.

Learn how to develop good habits in children, stimulate children's interest in learning, and make children fall in love with learning.

Learn how to guide children in daily life, cultivate children's good morals, and teach children to be educated people.

Learn how to get along with your adolescent child and help him through a critical period of development.

Ye Luo found that although Mr. Sun had taught most of his life, he was not the kind of 'self-contained' antique, but his ability to accept new things far exceeded that of many young people.

Now that Old Man Sun is willing to stay on the island as a principal, Ye Luo doesn't have to worry about anything at all when it comes to educating children.

At least the old man's educational philosophy is almost the same as his own.

Old Man Sun's eyes were quickly attracted by Alice's kebab movements.

After Ye Luo noticed that Old Man Sun did not intend to continue to dwell on this topic, he smiled and said to the people around him: "Everyone be quiet first, let me introduce you first, this old gentleman will be the principal of our elementary school on Miracle Island in the future." ”

After the people around him quieted down, their doubtful, puzzled, and curious eyes fell on Ye Luo's body, Ye Luo continued: "After the primary school on the island is completed next year, it will start recruiting students from the outside world, and it will be equipped with the best hardware facilities, and it will also be equipped with first-class teachers, if your children are of the right age, they can also be sent to us." ”

"This is just some discounts at the beginning, if you want to study in school in the future, you must have a household registration on Miracle Island, don't look at the current Miracle Island has nothing, but the future will be very good. ”

"Boss, are you serious? Are you really planning to open a school on the island?" Dusty asked, squeezing out of the crowd.

Ye Luo smiled and nodded: "Of course, Alice is estimated to be studying in this school next year, so you can know all aspects of the school's conditions if you think about it." ”

"Great, my children are all old enough to go to school, but because there is no school on the island, it is too troublesome to go to school in Newfoundland, so I have been delaying. ”

Dast said excitedly: "Originally, I planned to talk to the boss about building a school in a few days, but I didn't expect the boss to already have a plan, so I don't have to worry about the children going to school now." ”

"This gentleman, why do you believe in Ye Luo so much?"

Sun Zhenguo looked at Dast and asked: "Don't look at Miracle Island as a good place for tourism and vacation, the illusion is good, but its current conditions are too poor, and there is not even a school, aren't you afraid that your children will be delayed?"

"Hello, Mr. Chancellor. Because he's our boss, I trust him. Actually, it's not just me, but even the other employees believe in him. ”

Dast said to Sun Zhenguo seriously: "We can be said to be the first batch of employees recruited by the boss, and we have also watched Miracle Island develop little by little in the hands of the boss 'from scratch' to the point where it is now." Plus Alice is also here, so this school must be fine. ”

Although Dast was a little nervous, and he didn't say it too coherently, Old Man Sun understood.

He found that these people knew Ye Luo better than himself, and they also trusted Ye Luo very much.