Dear Mom,

During the Qingming Festival, I was so uncomfortable that I couldn't even get out of bed, and I couldn't go to see you...... My father-in-law said that he had burned the paper for me, but I still miss you.

I haven't been to see you for a long time, and I've been very fragile lately, and I really want to talk to you, but my in-laws said that I'm pregnant now, and I can't go to those yin places in the cemetery.

When my father-in-law saw that I was depressed, he asked me to write a letter, and he brought it to me. So, after a long absence, I took up the pen and wrote you a letter.

What should I write about? I'm going to be a mom too? Or do I want to tell you about my married life? There's a lot to say, and I'll tell you slowly.

Dear mother, if you have a spirit in heaven, you should know that I am living happily now. I married a very good man and married a good man with a good duty. Far from the glory and wealth of the past, the current dullness makes me happier.

My husband and I are very affectionate, but we didn't want to have children so early, because we are both under a lot of pressure right now, we don't have the energy to take care of them, and we are also worried that we won't be able to give him a good life. But since TA is here, then we will leave TA.

Now, he has been with me for more than four months, and I like him more and more. We weren't ready for a TA and even did something harmful to our health, so I was very nervous at every check-up, and my husband was even more nervous than me. The moment he learned I was pregnant, he walked around the room no less than ten times and threw away all his cigarettes. He said it was as if he had thrown away all the unhealthiness.

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He has his anxieties, and I can't wait to trade my life for the baby's safety and health. Mothers in the world probably all have the same thoughts!

These days of living in Port City, I can't go anywhere, so I can only rest in bed. My in-laws gave me a videotape of my husband's participation in competitions in college. At that time, he was only in his early twenties, and he was very young, but his strength to not admit defeat did not change at all.

He said that this team was carefully selected by the school, and he served as the captain of this group of "elites" for the first time, and he was worried that the team members would not be convinced, and he was even more worried that he would not be able to do well, so he had to use his brain in everything and rush to the front. He injured his leg and continued to run, and he didn't know that the handle of the rope was worn out, and when the game was over, he found that a large piece of skin on his palm was gone......

I watched that 40-minute video several times, and I felt sorry for him and was proud of him. It is often said that a person does not know happiness in happiness, and he has been suffering all the time, but he does not feel bitter.

What touched me the most in the whole documentary was that he said to the camera that he wanted his girlfriend to see him running in camouflage. He's easy to be shy, and he can't even lift his head after he finishes speaking, but he's really cute, very sincere, kind of cute.

Of course, his girlfriend at that time was not me, but a very good girl who unfortunately died young. He told me about that past without reservation, telling me that he had learned a lot from her departure, and that what she left him was cherishment and hope.

Mom, I'm not jealous at all, that girl is really good, and she is a good match for him, so much so that after she left, he was tormented by longing for a long time. The two of them are very distressing, and I can't blame him, let alone be jealous of her.

After being with me, he thought about me alone with all his heart, and never took the initiative to bring up those old things again. He said that I happened to be there during his most painful time, and I was like a ray of sunshine that illuminated his life. For the rest of his life, he was willing to live with me.

Haha, in the past few years with him, the words he has talked about the most are "live". I originally thought that he only had his family and country in his head, but I didn't expect him to be a person who likes to live a small life very much. It just so happens that I like him very much, so let's live together like this!

Mom, I now live on Jixiang Road in Port City, which is where my husband grew up and grew up, and he has his breath everywhere. The room I stayed in had two single beds and the bottom of the bed was piled with all kinds of books. The mother-in-law said that he had read all the books. In that era of extreme scarcity of material life, these books accompanied him throughout his youth.

He loved books, and during his bed rest, I also looked through them. Although I was distracted when I read the two lines of "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", the notes he made attracted me to continue reading. He is very serious in everything, even if he reads extracurricular books, he is meticulous in his reading.

So, my husband is not a martial artist who can only shoot guns, climb walls, and run, he has read a lot of books, has an active mind, and has a high vision. Just like the instructor in the documentary commented on him, Qiao Nan's brain is very useful, others take one step at a time, but he can usually see ten steps later.

Mom, he's such a good man! Even if I write to you like this, I can't help but want to praise him. I want to be like him and become like him.

He is always very busy, with very little sleep, and at first I would complain that he didn't care enough about me, but in the two years since he came to Beijing, I have experienced his difficulty, so I don't blame him for many things. I often say that he is an elm lump who does not understand romance, but he says that he is not, and he is full of revolutionary romanticism in his heart, waiting for me to discover little by little.

I don't want to find out, because every time he is romantic, I feel very funny and helpless. I didn't even want to take a wedding photo, but he insisted on it, saying it was a gift from him.

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I had to pretend to be very touched and give him this opportunity to give a gift.

We took a few shots, and one scene was under a cherry blossom tree, and the photographer asked me to close my eyes and make a prayer gesture. I obediently did so, and it seemed like he took several shots before I opened my eyes. But as soon as I opened my eyes, tears fell from my eyes.

Mom, can you imagine? The moment I opened my eyes, he knelt down on one knee in front of me, holding a large bouquet of roses, and said to me, "Wenwen, marry me!"

I hadn't cried so much for a long time, I couldn't cry at all, the makeup artist had already prepared tissues, she wiped my tears, smiled and said to me, "We already knew you were going to cry, and I also brought all the makeup stuff with me - did you agree to anyone?

How could I not say yes? I reached out and wanted him to hug me like he had done before. But first he took my hand, took a box from the rose, and put the diamond ring on me. He said, "I'll get twenty floor tiles in exchange, and I'll buy you a better one later." ”

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You see, he's a guy who makes me cry a lot one second, and makes me laugh the next. took a wedding photo, but it ended up crying and laughing, and it was all out of foreign appearance.

But how could I not marry such a person?

I threw myself into his arms and told him, "Not only in this life, but in the next life, I will marry you." ”

This time it was his turn to moisten the corners of his eyes, and he was afraid to let me see it, it was really cute.

Later, I found out that he had already colluded with the photography shop, and they had never seen such a marriage proposal, so they happily agreed to help. The flowers were ordered by him, and the little sister delivered them to the store early in the morning. The entire proposal was seamless and flawless.

On the way home, I still couldn't stop crying, and he triumphantly told me that the battle plan he had made had never failed.

In this way, I thought that I would marry him very sloppily, but unexpectedly, he gave me a marriage proposal that I will never forget. And it was done on the spot where the wedding photos were taken, and the whole process was recorded. Only then did I understand what he meant by "gift", and I will cherish this gift for the rest of my life.

He was often not there for me, always full of guilt for me, and his family, did everything they could to make up for his guilt.

Needless to say, my sisters and sisters are all very good girls. According to her husband, her mother-in-law is a very strict person, and the students in the second middle school are afraid of her. Originally, I was very nervous, and I always wanted to behave well in front of her and dare not make mistakes, but later I realized that my worries were completely unnecessary. She is very strict with the living habits of her three children, but my living habits are not bad, so she has never found anything wrong with me. On the contrary, she always told me to marry into Qiao's family, don't treat yourself as an outsider, just tell her what you want.

What touched me the most was her honesty. She often said that she is a good hand at teaching, and she can do housework, but she can't cook, and she doesn't know if she can take care of her children in the future. And I am a person who has stayed in the ocean and has seen the world, so it is inevitable that I will conflict with the concepts of their older generation. If there is such a situation, it is necessary to say it in time, we are a family and communication is important.

Mom, I'm glad I met another mother, and she is still a reasonable and understanding mother.

My father-in-law was not good at words, and he had a long conflict with his son. He loves children very much, and remembers every one of my preferences. He is far inferior to his mother-in-law in terms of expression, and the only words he says to me are "eat more", "rest", and "don't need you to work". But he was really a very warm and simple man, and although he was not very capable, his neighbors respected him very much, and he had great prestige on this street.

Mom, I heard that you once entrusted a dream to my father-in-law and asked the Qiao family to take good care of me...... Thank you for finding such a nice home for me, and I'm having a great time now. Please also bless us so that our family can live happily in the future.

If there's one regret now, it's that I'm separated from my husband and I miss him so much. My in-laws were worried about my health and refused to let me go, and now that I am fine, I want to urgently return to him and stay with him for a few more days.

After I'm gone, the Guild will bring you this letter for me. I hope you can come to my dreams, I have a lot to say to you. Also, I don't know if you want to be buried with your father, so I don't dare to act rashly. If you have an idea, let me know in your dreams!

Ah, I talked to Sister Su Xue on the phone for a long time just now, and she told me a lot of things, telling me that at the moment the child was born, she didn't know why she was crying, and her first thought was to call her mother and hug her mother. As far as she knows, this is a very common phenomenon, and I should be like her!

But Mom, I can't call you anymore, let alone hug you. But I believe that you are still with me and with me.

Mom, I miss you very much, I hope the baby is born safely, and I will take my husband and my children to see you in the future...... So bless my child and come into this world in peace!

I love your writing the most

2013.4.20