It has to be said that the traditional way of marriage in China can be called a high-rise, far-sighted, and high-rise building.

Because it has solved many problems in a forward-looking manner, it has contributed greatly to the stability of the family and even to the stability of the country.

Even in later generations when free marriage was advocated, the truly upright people still held on to the essence of it.

Only people who are extremely self-interested and selfish regard this thing as a personal goal and a means to satisfy their own personal interests.

In fact, there is no real love.

Because true love is for the sake of loving others, and it is better to sacrifice oneself.

It is conceivable that people who are extremely self-interested can sacrifice themselves for the sake of their lovers.

In this pursuit, pushed to the extreme, it is the closest person who becomes his biggest enemy.

Therefore, the marriage regulations implemented by Chen Baicao are consistent with the traditional marriage content of the Chinese kingdom, which is to put the country and the family first.

Individual happiness can only be guaranteed if the State and the family are able to exist in safety.

Although Chen Baicao is very clear about these deeper and more comprehensive truths, he can only start with the specific content when he talks about it to the old city lord Lamai.

Otherwise, he would be even more confused by the second monk.

Therefore, after saying the first benefit, Chen Baicao also gave a detailed explanation.

Because the men and women directly discuss on their own, although the parties on both sides have the intention of making a careful choice, but after the passionate man and woman meet, the meaning of choosing a prudent choice is often no match for the impulse of lust, and there are people who are in a hurry and have no time to think carefully, and even field battles on the spot are not uncommon.

"Now that there is a matchmaker talking in the middle, and the matchmaker is a middle-aged and reliable person in the neighborhood, then for the compatibility of men and women, of course, be careful and cautious, and not be wrong. This is the first benefit.

"Of course, if the person who is a matchmaker doesn't choose it properly, she doesn't have the ability to be a matchmaker, and there will still be problems.

Also, the matchmaker is okay on the whole, but when she does that ticket business, she is occasionally unreliable, which also makes a good marriage a problem marriage, and harmonious couples quarrel all day long and become enemies.

But this kind of exception can be solved by strengthening the professional quality of matchmakers, and they can also improve in practice, at the cost of one or two couples having some problems, to improve the professional level.

"At the same time, I also prepared a big move to improve the overall improvement of these future matchmakers, this big move is, what, I plan to open a matchmaker training class!

"Anyway, if you have a beginning, you can gradually improve, you understand this, Brother Lamech?"

"Understood! but not very well...... Can I join your matchmaker's class?"

Old Lamech was particularly interested in whatever the old girl presided.

"Matchmaker training class! Of course! You're my first student. ”

Since Chen Baicao is going to open a class, he naturally opens the door to students.

"Great!"

Old Lamech was overjoyed, he had grown so big, and it was the first time he had been a student.

Chen Baicao continued to talk about it, which should be an exercise before the start of class.

"The second advantage of media concubines is that they can avoid treacherous and sneaky behavior.

"Men and women cooperate with themselves, and both of them are indeed sincere, but the most terrible thing is that one of them is not sincere, or greedy for her sex, or greedy for her wealth, or even greedy for temporary pleasure. Such men and women, from the beginning of their freshman year, have bad intentions, so they use all their scheming and temptations to get the other party to the marriage to allow their demands.

"You young men and women here are not very old to get married, are they? At most fifteen or sixteen years old?

"What insight do young men and women like them have, and they have fallen into the trap of those with bad intentions?

"Even if the deceived party feels that this matter is a little bad, but when the two people reach that level, they will inevitably feel that they are in love, and there are some who reluctantly agree.

"Regardless of that situation, when the insincere person has achieved his goal, he will naturally immediately change his face, or abuse the other party, or abandon the other party.

And the abandoned man promised it himself, and he was willing, and there were no witnesses around, so he had to eat coptis dumbly, and he suffered by himself, and he had nowhere to call for wrongs.

"According to me, since ancient times, this kind of thing has been common, and you don't know how many of this kind of things are here, but they must be indispensable.

"If the matchmaker mediates and deliberates, of course, this kind of treacherous trick will not happen, at least it will be greatly reduced.

"That's the second benefit – there's no market for the cheaters, whether they're men or women.

"Brother, do you know this benefit clearly? Also, you are also against this practice, in your big city, you don't want such a person, right?"

The old city lord Lamai said angrily: "Of course I don't want to! But there is already one! As soon as this new law is implemented, those little cubs dare to commit it again, and I will pinch out his egg yolk!"

Chen Baicao secretly sighed and shook his head.

Why are you talking so rudely? Won't you come up with some tricks?

Don't care about being angry with him, talk about the following benefits.

"The third and most important benefit is that it can reduce the number of divorces between couples.

"Once a man and a woman are successfully married and become husband and wife, under normal circumstances, they should not be separated for the rest of their lives.

"When the marriage cannot be kept, it is permissible for a man to leave his wife and a woman to go down to court.

"The husband and wife can only make this decision when they can't live together, and it is helpless.

However, if you can compromise and get along, get along well, and bridge the contradictions between the two, you will never be divorced.

Because the divorce of the husband and wife is an ominous thing, it not only causes great harm in the hearts of the two, but also makes enemies against the two families who were originally very close.

"But the biggest harm is the harm to children!

"Because they are divorced as parents, children can no longer receive both father's and mother's love at the same time.

However, people's psychology is tired of the old and likes the new, although they are married, after a while, when they see a beautiful person, it is inevitable that they will no longer fall in love.

"Since you are in love, of course you have to give up the old man and marry him and marry her.

"Since ancient times, there have been many divorces between husbands and wives because of this.

"If when he marries, he must be a mediator, then he will be a little bit unfree.

"I invited a matchmaker just now, why do you suddenly want to invite a matchmaker?

He himself couldn't open this mouth for a while, and besides, the matchmaker ran around, how troublesome, and of course he had to pay a certain fee.

"When they get married, they don't know how much formalities they have to pay, so they naturally don't dare to divorce lightly, and they want to marry again.

"There is another very important aspect, if you remarry after divorce, it is a second marriage.

"Since someone specializes in mediating concubines, they must inform each other of this second marriage status.

In other words, as a professional who is a matchmaker, that is, those highly respected experts, they have to make an evaluation of the person who is married for the second time.

This evaluation is expressed by indicators, if the first marriage is regarded as 100, then the second marriage may only be 80.

This is, of course, in the case of all other things being equal, and only on the basis of marital status.

"A 20 percent reduction in value also makes perfect sense.

"Because this second-married person will bring greater risks to the new family.

"Your second marriage is a negative record that can never be erased, because with the first divorce, the second divorce is much more likely.

"Also, the divorced man is good to say, the influence is not great, the woman is very troublesome, because she has lost her virginity.

"If you value this chastity in particular, I have the impression that chastity is valued everywhere.

"Then, if the person who marries for the second time is a woman, it will have to be depreciated by another twenty percent.

"Therefore, a divorced woman is only 60% of her original value.

"Brother, don't you see that this is a very big impact? By the way, all divorces must be reflected in the new household register.

"So these are the third benefit, if the newlyweds are not self-contemptuous and not stupid, they must not divorce, otherwise this mechanism of media concubines will give you a severe punishment! Under that punishment, the fate of ordinary people will be reduced by several levels. ”

Old Lamech was terrified when he heard this.

But he applauded: "Great, this time those naughty and mischievous guys are no longer obedient! By the way, are there any other rules?"

Chen Baicao said: "Of course, the biggest restriction has not yet been said! This is the dowry, but this is not like the first two requirements, which generally require both male and female parties, and twenty is specifically for the male side. ”

Old Mackey said, "Why is that? Isn't the man miserable enough?"

Chen Baicao said: "That's not it! It's because men are worse! You must have seen it, it's almost the same everywhere, there are fewer women who can't live with men, and more men who can't live with women."

"I advocate that women live with men, and I advocate that women obey men and make men the head of the household.

"I am afraid that the men of the world who do not understand the reason will be proud when they hear me, and think that women are under my protection, and that they should obey me for what I want.

"So they insult her, they bully her, or they use her as a plaything for my amusement, and that's very wrong.

"That's why I devised this method of employment, and when I got married, I made it clear to the matchmaker that the man must first take some valuables and send them to the woman's house.

This rule is called a dowry.

This dowry shows a sincere pleading, and it also shows a sense of respect and politeness, and the marriage can be considered certain.

"I mean to let the men know that the word wife for husband and wife means the same word.

"The word Qi indicates that it is equal to me, and there is nothing high or low.

"That man, with respectful courtesy and sincerity, asked the woman to come to my house, to preside over the housekeeping for me, to offer sacrifices, and to raise children and grandchildren.

"Although they come to my house, they do not casually follow my lusts, and they do not live purely for my private interests.

In this way, when a woman does all the affairs of the family, she is naturally of one heart and respect, and it is not easy to turn against each other.

"Brother, do you understand it clearly now?"

Lamech is making a fool of herself there! This old girl has talked too much!

hurriedly replied: "What the old sister said, the natural truth is sufficient, and I basically understand that the dowry is based on the evaluation of the woman you just said, and those good things, as a price, go and invite her to come over and work for you! Of course, those jobs are what she can do, and she is willing to do, right!"

Chen Baicao almost gave Qi Le!

Although this honest statement is not far away, but do you express it like this? It turns out that in your eyes, marriage is purely an economic exchange activity!

The dowry is to show that your love is sincere, you mainly love that person, or that you marry her to express your love in the future, this attitude can maintain a normal relationship between husband and wife, do you understand?

"But I can't work, why should I marry her? ”

"I ask you, if you marry a wife and you love her very much, what will you do if she is sick or too old to work?

"That'...... I'm going to take care of her. ”

"You take care of her, does she pay you?"

"Of course not, I love her, voluntarily, besides, she has no money, she married very early, where does she have her own money?"

"Isn't this the end of it? I still love her to take care of her, not the kind of economic activity that is to make money!"

Now, since the reason is extremely sufficient, what is the precious thing that is hired by the trade? I simply decided for them, lest those who do not know the matter have to fight over more or less, and instead make a dispute. ”

Chen Baicao said: "Your idea is good! I think you are still in the stage of drinking blood, and the most common thing is the fur of the beast, and the most important thing is the skin, so I decided to use the fur of the beast." ”

Old Lamai asked, "Now everyone is swarming to get the fangs of that wild boar, especially the one in the hands of the little white face of Baili Liangliu, why don't you use that?"

Chen Baicao said with a smile: "I know that you will be aiming at those fangs! But you didn't think that those fangs are useless for living at home? But fur can be used for warmth, and this is the most useful for women and children! There is another one, although fangs can also be exchanged for other things, but after all, there are not many people who have fangs, so because there are no fangs as a dowry, don't they get married? And fur is something that every family has! Even if he doesn't, if a man wants to start a family and become a parent, shouldn't he show his ability to hunt a few wild beasts or furs? ”

Old Lamai looked like he had suddenly realized that he was deeply instructed, and nodded again and again: "Reasonable, reasonable!