"Dad has a new look, it's rare. ”

As soon as he entered the door, in addition to the joyful welcome of peace and joy, there was also a surprise greeting from his son, and he glanced at Fang Shanmu up and down in the direction of the east: "Tsk, such a pick-up, my father is also quite handsome, and he still has the style of the year." Could it be that my mother fell in love with you back then, because of your literary and youthful temperament?"

Fang Shanmu smiled angrily: "Stinky boy, get out of the way! When did Dad Wenqing? Your mother Wenqing is almost the same, she is more literary and artistic than me in her heart, after all, your grandfather is a professor of the Chinese department, and his name Sheng Lie comes from the poem - the peak of the period is in the twilight, and the great spirit shines on the ......."

"My mother's name also comes from a poem - if you don't come back in the middle of the year, it's hard to come back in the morning...... Grandpa said that he hoped that his mother would be in the morning of the prime of life, and good times would always bloom in good flowers. Xiang Dong grabbed Ping'an's tail and dragged it aside, before snatching Fang Shanmu from its side like a tiger, he took the luggage diligently, "Dad, will you stay a few more days this time?"

"Say, stinky boy, what do you want to ask Dad?" Fang Shanmu's eyes swept away, and when he saw Sheng Chen's busy figure in the kitchen, he lowered his voice, "Is it that you want to buy something again, and your mother didn't approve it?"

"Even more desperate than despair are those hopes that you have become tired of hearing. Xiang Dong suddenly sighed, "My mother always says, what gift do I buy when I take the first place in the class, what gifts are the second and third gifts, and the third place is open, don't think about it, why does she always give people vague hope, instead of buying me a gift first, maybe after being motivated, I can be admitted to the top three in the class?" I think there is something wrong with her education method, whether it is for me or for you, she only stands on her own position and takes the way of discipline as the starting point, and never considers the problem from the perspective of others, only when a person learns to empathize, is he a pure person, a noble person, a person who is free from low-level interests......"

"Okay, don't talk bad about your mother behind your back, just say what you want and she didn't buy it for you, right?" Fang Shanmu knows his son too well, since he was a child, his son wanted toys, Gifts and even favorite snacks, as long as he asks for it, Sheng Chen has listed the corresponding conditions, either how many students are admitted, how many homework they have completed, or how many seconds they have run in sports results, etc., at the beginning, his son was quite self-motivated, and he was willing to exchange what he wanted to get with his efforts, but over time, Sheng Chen became more advanced, and even the normal change of clothes and the replacement of schoolbags and homework books would become the bargaining chips for her to ask Xiang Dong to learn and progress.

The starting point of hoping that his son will work hard and achieve a higher level is right, but the method is wrong, for this reason, Fang Shanmu and Sheng Chen quarreled a few times. Every time he quarreled, Sheng Chen always cheered up, claiming that Fang Shanmu never cared about his son's studies, and didn't know his son's slackness and lazy cleverness, if it weren't for her strict control, his son's grades would plummet.

On the issue of his son's education, Fang Shanmu and Sheng Chen have a lot of differences, of course, he also hopes that his son has excellent grades and can be admitted to a prestigious university. At the same time, he is also a skeptic of the so-called happy education quality education. Farmers working in the fields, workers working in workshops, and white-collar workers working in air-conditioned rooms all work as hard as they do, and everything they want to get must be sweated, where is the happy and easy harvest?

Where is the good thing that the process is happy and the result is happy?

Don't squeeze your son's interests too much, let him spend all his time and energy on learning, and become a learning machine. Although Fang Shanmu does not want his son to go abroad too early, he also has a lot of dissatisfaction with the domestic education method that only focuses on academic performance and does not pay attention to the development of interests. He did a survey when he joined the network, among the emerging online writers in China, very few graduated from the Chinese department, most of them are engineering or science students, what does it mean?

It illustrates that the education model that focuses too much on practicality and is too rigid has stifled the talent and inspiration of many people.

When his son was a child, he was very fond of astronomy, and Fang Shanmu bought him an astronomical telescope. Later, for a period of time, his son was fascinated by the microscopic world again, so Fang Shanmu bought a microscope again. Under Sheng Chen's persecution, his son also studied musical instruments for a period of time, played the flute and played the violin, but then he was gone. At that time, Fang Shanmu was particularly opposed to Sheng Chen's insistence on letting his son learn from the East and the West, as if he didn't learn a musical instrument, he would fall behind his peers by some means.

Looking back now, it was indeed a waste of time and useless work.

Although you can also understand Sheng Chen's thoughts, he doesn't want his son to lag behind other people's children in all aspects, but everyone has their own strengths, and they can't always use their own shortcomings to compare the strengths of others.

How to find a balance between study and relaxation is a big topic, but unfortunately, no one has ever studied it in depth. On the one hand, the policy requires that the burden on primary and secondary school students be reduced, and on the other hand, parents are desperately enrolling their children in cram schools.

Fang Shanmu still hopes that his son can have his own interests and hobbies in addition to studying, just like when he was a child. Even if you are busy and tired, at least you can have dreams and look up at the stars.

Fang Shanmu's favorite thing when he was a child was lying on the roof alone, holding a triple-sized telescope, looking up at the starry sky on a summer night. Under the magnification of the triple telescope, the starry sky has several times more stars than usual, which makes people fascinated. Sometimes the sight of a moving satellite excites him for a long time.

When Fang Shanmu grew up, he learned that there was another kind of satellite, which was a geosynchronous satellite, which, like other stars, was fixed in the night sky, motionless, and could not be detected by his telescope with too low a magnification.

Today's children are much more materially rich than when they were young, but correspondingly, they have also lost too much innocence and fun, and their childhood is spent in endless homework.

"I, I want an astronomical telescope that can automatically search for stars, the previous one was too low in magnification and too few in function......" The son twisted a little, looked down at his toes a few times, and suddenly plucked up his courage again, "Dad, I want to be an astronomer when I grow up." ”

"No, you don't want to. Sheng Chen came out with a plate of fried cabbage and put it on the dining table, "You're out of business, Xiangdong, astronomer! Do you know how astronomers usually work? Are you willing to stay alone in the Gobi Desert in the observation station for three months or half a year? Don't think about it! My mother doesn't want you to grow up isolated from the world and live an ascetic life. ”

"Buying an astronomical telescope doesn't necessarily mean you can be an astronomer, right? Fang Shanmu had no choice but to hurry up and play sloppy in the middle, if it continued, the mother and son would have to argue for more than two or three hours without winning or losing, "Buy, buy one for your son, it's always a good thing to let him have more hobbies." ”

"Don't buy it!" Sheng Chen put down the cabbage coldly, "One costs more than 10,000 yuan, it's too expensive, he won't be interested in throwing it aside after a few times, it's too wasteful." Now that the family's income has been greatly reduced, and the income is beyond their means, you should not talk to him well, let him know the family's financial situation, and be mentally prepared to live a hard life. ”

Xiang Dong made a bitter face: "Mom, how hard is the hard life? You don't eat cabbage every day, do you? You have a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, and my father is also the CEO of a start-up company, why are we so poor that we have to cut my expenses to survive?"

"Who's going to cut if you don't cut your expenses?" Sheng Chen brought over another plate of vegetables, which was bean sprouts, "I haven't bought new clothes for more than a year, my cosmetics have changed to cheap brands, and I have sold a car, and now my monthly expenses are in addition to property fees, utility bills, and parking fees, which are your tuition, tuition fees, and daily necessities expenses, do you know how much money it will cost a month to maintain our current standard of living even if our family doesn't eat or drink?"

"Fifteen thousand is how much is it? It's not right, last time Gu Xiaoyuan said that one pair of her shoes was seven or eight thousand, and her mother's set of cosmetics was tens of thousands. Xiang Dong remembered something again, "Many of the classmates in my class also wear five or six thousand shoes, and when they come down in one suit, they will have more than ten thousand, to say the least." Our family of three plus a cat and a dog only costs 15,000 a month, which is not much. ”

The third dish was vinegared shredded potatoes, and Xiang Dong was desperate: "God, you can kill me, the three dishes together are less than 50 yuan! Mom, if this is in the United States, I can accuse you of child abuse." ”

"I'm sorry, but this is China. Sheng Chen smiled indifferently, "You're wrong, the cost price of three dishes is 10 yuan, not counting the value of my labor, plus oil and salt, it can't exceed 15 yuan." If you don't want to eat, you can skip it, save money and lose weight. ”

"Fifteen thousand is not much? Do you know what the average salary in the capital is? It's not that I hit you, Xiang Dong, after you graduate from college, it's great to earn 10,000 yuan a month. But you must know that from childhood to adulthood, various expenses such as eating, drinking, and lazing plus tuition fees will cost more than 3 million yuan to get out of school. Do your own calculations, more than 10,000 a month, more than 100,000 a year, how many years will it take to pay back the capital? Raising a child is a transaction with a high probability of losing money. ”

"Not to mention that you will marry a daughter-in-law in the future, and buying a house and a car is a big expense!"

"I'm angry, Mom, you're too much!" Xiang Dong turned around and left, and went upstairs in a huff, without looking back, "I really don't eat yet, I'm not in the mood!"

Fang Shanmu wanted to call her son back, but was stopped by Sheng Chen's eyes, she shook her head and sat down.

(Thanks to the book friend 20200116110715531, he was promoted to the Silver League!)