Sheng Lie smiled, "Later, when Sheng Chen asked me and her mother for their opinions, her mother kept helping her with ideas, I said directly, since you like Fang Shanmu, don't feel that it's a pity to give up Zheng Yuandong and Meng Wei, life is a process of constant trade-offs, if you don't give up what makes you hesitate, you will definitely not be able to catch what makes you happy." Later, Sheng Chen made up her mind to choose you, and after falling in love with you, she happily told me that she chose the right one. She also asked me, why are you optimistic about you?"

Fang Shanmu's heart tightened, although he and Sheng Chen had been married for many years, and when they talked about the past more than ten years ago, they were still slightly nervous.

There are always times when men are not confident, especially when they are young, when they are young and thin-dressed, except for self-righteous talent, in addition to enthusiasm, in addition to indomitable courage, in fact, whether it is experience or wealth, there is nothing. Compared with Meng Wei's persistence and unrequited dedication, as well as Zheng Yuandong's freedom of advancing and retreating, Fang Shanmu was completely a young man who was inferior to himself in front of the light of Sheng Chen.

"Because you are very similar to me when I was young, although humble but full of dreams, although small but unwilling to fail, have a heart for excellence, hope to surpass others and defeat yourself!" Sheng Lie finished speaking to Fang Shanmu very seriously, and suddenly grinned again, looking funny and cute, "Do you know what is the secret of my marriage and Ke Yan for many years and still maintaining a happy marriage?"

Fang Shanmu shook his head very cooperatively, although to be honest, he didn't think Sheng Lie really had any secrets, the marriage problem was a problem for two people, and it was difficult to learn from other people's experiences.

Specifically, it is a scolding and not fighting back, a daughter-in-law for many years has become a mother-in-law, and a man has become a Buddha for many years, you see that I am now a Buddha, no matter how she nagging and complaining, not listening to it or talking about it, after a long time, she will feel that it is not interesting, so she will not care about you, haha. ”

Fang Shanmu disagreed: "Nagging is nothing, but suspicion is not nagging, it is a question of my character and an insult to my personality." ”

"It's serious, it's serious!" Sheng Lie waved his hand and laughed, "There are suspicions and suspicions between husband and wife, and even quarrels and scolding, all of which are normal, the family is like a company, will there be a harmonious atmosphere in the company? When there is a meeting, there are arguments that should be argued, and there are objections that should be opposed, but after that, the difference will continue? You young people are too much in pursuit of perfection, what husband sings and follows the wife, what respects each other like guests, it is the marriage relationship of the old times, and the current marriage pays attention to equality, mutual need, harmony and difference!"

Fang Shanmu was stunned, he didn't expect his seemingly old-fashioned and traditional father-in-law to say such an insightful theory about marriage, he gave a thumbs up: "Dad, it's well done, it's taught." ”

Sheng Lie tried hard to squeeze out a smile, and the smile was more ugly than bitter: "Teach me a fart! I am not a metaphysical and profound theory, it is a lesson of blood and tears, a sad compromise and helplessness after years of struggle, woo woo ......"

Speaking of which, Sheng Lie actually cried quietly.

Fang Shanmu couldn't cry or laugh, and wanted to persuade Sheng Lie, but Sheng Lie cried fast and collected quickly, stopped crying in an instant, and smiled again: "Okay, okay, you should treat what happened just now as if it didn't happen, don't say it, you know, I still want to have a happy and stable life in my old age." ”

"Actually......" Sheng Lie hugged Fang Shanmu's shoulder, like a brotherly enthusiasm, "Sheng Chen is the same as her mother, that is, you are strong on the surface, but you are very weak on the inside, you are a big man, take a step back when you should retreat, so that your daughter-in-law is not ashamed." If you take a small step, she will make a small step, don't believe you try?"

Fang Shanmu nodded, feeling Sheng Lie's strong love for his daughter, as well as his trust in him, he was slightly moved, but he didn't agree very much with Sheng Lie's strategy of teaching the thirty-six strategies for marriage and forbearance, but he agreed with Sheng Chen's soft-hearted statement.

Also, why is he always going toe-to-toe with Sheng Chen and refusing to take a step back? A man is not only not ashamed to let his daughter-in-law, but also a manifestation of wisdom. But...... After thinking about it again, it is reasonable to let Sheng Chen, but in principle, he can't let it, as soon as he lets it, it shows that he has a weak heart, and acquiesces to Sheng Chen's accusation.

Whoever wins and who loses is small, and the name is big.

After only one day in the Sheng family, Fang Shanmu, Sheng Chen, and his son returned to Shimen. He stayed in Shimen for another night, and drove back to the capital early the next morning.

The son still wanted to play for two more days, and Fang Shanmu also intended to take him around the capital, but Sheng Chen disagreed, so that Xiang Dong could enter the study state as soon as possible, so as to save him from falling behind his classmates in the opening exam. Xiang Dong was not happy, and after some arguments from Fang Shanmu, Sheng Chen finally agreed to give another day of grace.

Fang Shanmu took advantage of the limited time of one day to take his son around the capital, and his son had a lot of fun, and he was also very happy. The only regret is that Sheng Chen was not together, and she stayed at home to help her son sort out his homework.

On the issue of studying in the east, Sheng Chen has always been very strict, sometimes so strict that it is almost high-pressure. At first, Fang Shanmu found it difficult to understand, he didn't have so many make-up classes when he was a child, and he was also admitted to a prestigious university? Sheng Chen did not agree with his theory, thinking that his educational philosophy was already behind the times.

Later, Xiang Dong's results proved that Sheng Chen was correct, and he has always maintained the top three rankings in the class, which made Xiang Dong quite proud, and also made Fang Shanmu very complacent. Sheng Chen's supervision and supervision behind him have contributed a lot.

After a day of playing, he was tired, and Xiang Dong went to bed early after dinner. Fang Shanmu slumped on the sofa as usual and watched TV casually for a while, and when he was about to sleep while yawning, WeChat rang.

It's Gu Hao.

"It's set, tomorrow at Lijia Restaurant, half past six, see you or leave. ”

Sheng Chen came down from upstairs and raised the mobile phone in his hand: "Did you receive Gu Hao's message?" Let me remind you in advance, don't quarrel when you see the riverside, show your proper manly demeanor, and establish a personable and cultured father image for your son. ”

"Okay!" Fang Shanmu replied categorically, "You also tell her that I won't take the initiative to stir up trouble, but ask her to remember my principle - if people don't offend me, I won't offend anyone." If anyone sins against me, I will offend!"

Sheng Chen opened his mouth, wanted to say something and swallowed it back, with both relief and loss in his eyes, and returned to the upstairs bedroom with mixed feelings.

Looking at the empty side of the bed that should have belonged to Fang Shanmu, Sheng Chen's heart was filled with bitterness. In all fairness, after getting to know Jiangbian, she is indeed too wary and restrained of Fang Shanmu, sometimes thinking about it, she will feel that she is a little unreasonable, but she always can't stand Jiangbian's encouragement, every time Jiangbian talks about Gu Hao's performance outside, and when her best friend husband is seduced by other women or cheats on herself, she is always afraid that Fang Shanmu will not be able to resist the temptation and leave her.

Although she also knows that Fang Shanmu is actually not a very emotional person, although he is now exuding the charm of a mature man, but for the girls of the current class of 90, he is neither warm nor meticulous and intimate enough, and his attraction is indeed limited. It's just that in the choice from Zheng Yuandong and Meng Wei, he finally fell in love with Fang Shanmu, Sheng Chen knew very well that Fang Shanmu's biggest advantage was not the handsomeness and stormy pursuit that made people fall in love at first sight, but his gentle and drizzly long manly charm and quiet love.

Fang Shanmu will be like a tall tree, not surprised at first sight, but very comfortable every time you pass by, and one day when you find that you are accustomed to naturally like him, you have penetrated into the bone marrow and cannot extricate yourself.

Some people say that don't pursue the girl you like, but try to improve your charm value. Girls are not chased, they are attracted by your light. In this regard, Sheng Chen is very much in agreement. Although Fang Shanmu was indeed chasing her at the beginning, unlike Zheng Yuandong's aggressive love show and Meng Wei's patient waiting courtship, Fang Shanmu also clearly told her that he liked her, and also showed the youthfulness and uneasiness of desperately wanting to win her heart, but in addition to the urgency, there was a trace of calmness that I was fortunate to lose my life.

It was Fang Shanmu's calmness that made Sheng Chen choose him in the end, because she understood a truth, all the people who pursued her were attracted by her charm, and they were good to her because they had needs and motivation, not charity, but love in return. So, whether it's Zheng Yuandong's courtship or Mengwei's courtship, what they ultimately want is that she will reciprocate the same feelings for them. But the problem is, she can't, or rather, she's not their kind of people.

In her bones, she has more similarities with Fang Shanmu, both warm and indifferent, slow and long, so basically not a class of people who will not become friends, let alone lovers and husbands and wives.

In the final analysis, she and Fang Shanmu are actually the same kind, and their temperament seems to be indifferent, but they are actually stubborn. On the surface, he is easy-going, but he is extremely principled and rarely compromises on matters that involve the bottom line.

But...... Sheng Chen's heart was slightly loose and regretful, she might really be too restrained by Fang Shanmu, too harsh and too distrustful of him.

When she was at home, her mother took her hand and said something to her earnestly, which she remembers vividly, especially one of them: "He can do it, but it can't be based on the premise of distrust and suspicion." Men have a good face, and if they hurt their self-esteem, they can't make up for it. If everything you start from is love and care, he will accept it......"

Yes, she originally loved Fang Shanmu deeply and was willing to care about everything about him. She is afraid of losing him, so she will try to keep him by her side, but why is the end result just the opposite? In marriage, two people need not only intimate love, but also wisdom and methods.