In the previous generation, there were many couples who had no ego and only children.

The most common phrase among parents in China may be "everything is for the children", or "as long as the children are good, it doesn't matter what we adults do".

Then because they only see children in their eyes, some people completely ignore their other half because they have children, which eventually leads to the breakdown of family relationships.

If you wake up at this time, it's not bad.

What's even more exaggerated is that after the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife, many mothers pin all their hopes on their children.

The most common thing I say every day is that I'm all for your good.

You will never be able to let go of your "hope".

Treat children as their own accessories, and what kind of school they go to, what kind of job they want to get, and even what kind of partner they choose must be according to their own wishes.

The reason for these mothers is also very simple: because I have given everything for you, I have paid for my youth, I have even paid for marriage, you are born to me and raised by me, so you must listen to me for everything.

This kind of dedication is not so much a kind of love as a kind of moral kidnapping.

Many people agree that Chinese are more humane than foreigners.

What is the human touch?

There are also some people who, as soon as they hear that some parents in foreign countries raise their children until they are 18 years old, completely ignore them, come to the conclusion that Chinese parents love their children more than foreign parents.

Such a statement is also debatable.

Selfless love should not be reciprocated, and the "raising children to prevent old age" that the Chinese often say, fundamentally speaking, does not belong to the category of selflessness.

In the generation of only children, there will be at least four old people on top and two children below.

If the four old people don't plan for their old age, they all pin their hopes on the "Dumiao" at home.

Then this seedling must not be able to grow too well.

When people reach middle age, parents who have no ego at all are prone to parasitism on the birth of children.

These people, by taking control of their children's lives, to achieve their own unfulfilled ideals, to face the future that they dare not face.

Such love is too heavy.

In foreign countries, parents will first feel that since they have decided to give birth to their child, they are obliged to raise it until the age of eighteen.

At the same time, these parents also believe that they do not need anything in return for their eighteen years of dedication.

The reason for this part of the population is also very simple, when parents give birth to children, they do not have the consent of the child.

Having a child is a parent's own choice, and raising a child is also the obligation of the parents themselves.

When the child reaches the age of eighteen and has an independent personality, the child should have his own choices.

Children do not need to be responsible for their parents' old age, and parents do not save money and do everything they can to help their children plan for the future.

After adulthood, the child's future development is good or bad, it is his own choice.

You are you, I am me, and there will always be a boundary between me and you.

The emergence of such boundaries is the inevitable result of social development.

Of course, the welfare of Australia and the Nordic countries is unlikely to be in such a situation of old age.

In today's era, human touch should be considered a neutral word, and it is not always good.

Just as people in the city are not as humane as people in the countryside, it is also the inevitable result of social development.

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"I'm done. Qi Yi saw that Yan Yun didn't react, so he opened his mouth first.

"Qi Yi, I don't know how to comfort you about what you said today. After Yan Yun heard Qi Yi finish talking about the incident that happened in his family last night, he didn't know what kind of response he should make.

Yan Yun is very good at helping Qi Yi solve his psychological problems such as gains and losses.

But what Qi Yi just said, about the emotional problems of his parents, Yan Yun has never faced it at all.

Yan Yun now understands why Qi Yi never mentions his family.

"You don't need to comfort me, I think this should be the easiest year I've had in 10 years. Qi also told Yan Yun how he felt in his heart now.

"Are you serious?" Yan Yun confirmed to Qi Yi.

Yan Yun could actually feel that Qi Yi was serious, but she still couldn't quite understand Qi Yi's words, people with such tired voices looked like they had a very relaxed year.

"Well, seriously. Qi also affirmed what he had just said.

"That'...... Why is it?" Yan Yun asked.

"Tie two people who don't love each other with responsibility or children, it's a kind of torture, and it won't bring happiness to those around you.

My mom felt that she did her best to give me a complete home, but how could a home without love be complete?

When I was in junior high school, I actually liked to study, but the feeling of being forced to study by my parents' marriage was not good at all.

So after high school, I didn't go to school for myself.

After I went to Peking University, not only did I not contact my classmates, but I also did not go home.

I'm afraid that as soon as I come back, my mother will have to find a way to pull my dad and weave some illusions of family harmony for me.

For more than three years, I have not been back to Wenzhou, and I have even run from Beijing to the United States.

I think my mother should have figured out a long time ago in the past few years, and she doesn't have to do self-deceptive things for me.

When I came back this time, my mom should have divorced my dad and started a new life of her own.

Unexpectedly, in the end, I watched the two of them sign the divorce on the night of the Chinese New Year's Eve.

That's fine, I think divorce should be a relief for me, my dad and my mom. Qi Yi's tone seemed to be still saying something that had nothing to do with him.

"Then your mother is okay now, right?" Yan Yun's mood was a little complicated.

"Well, I made a fuss all night yesterday and was still crying this morning, but now that my mom has accepted the reality, she should figure it out soon.

Crooked, I'm sorry, I haven't had time to read the email you wrote to me yesterday.

I just turned on my computer and I'm going to get back to you as soon as I read the email.

It's just that I suddenly missed you so much, so I sent you the email I just sent you first.

You wait for me a little longer, and I'll write to you when I hang up. Qi Yi said sorry, and his voice was not as clear as usual because of exhaustion.

"Now that you've turned on your computer, look at the email I wrote you.

Then, you just get some sleep and don't rush to write back to me.

I'm going out with my mom and dad right now, and I don't have time to read the mail.

Also, we're on the phone today.

After reading my email in a moment, you should get some sleep.

When you're rested and have the energy, write back to me, or you can wait until tomorrow to write.

Xiao Qizi, as my appendage, you must listen to my command and be obedient, you know?" Yan Yun persuaded Qi to hurry up and rest.

"Okay, I'll be good. After hanging up the phone, Qi Yi clicked on the "New Year's email" that Yan Yun wrote to him, and soon saw the words in Yan Yun's attachment.

Yan Yun's words are like a gurgling stream, flowing through Qi Yi's heart, sweet and sweet.

At such a time, he could hear Yan Yun's voice and Yan Yun's New Year's surprise painted by Yan Yun, and Qi also began to look forward to the future of him and Yan Yun.

"Twinkle Red Heart", "Dwarf Tiger", "Squid", his crookedness, so attentive to him "said" what he wanted to hear.

Qi also feels that going to Melbourne and finding Yan Yun is the bravest and most beautiful decision he has made in his life so far.