Yang Yikun is interested in helping more male compatriots understand themselves and shape their beliefs. This means that he needs problems, he needs cases, to be able to analyze and provide solutions.

His own framework is already super strong, and he rarely encounters problems, and naturally he doesn't know what problems the men will have. So Li Shoucheng, a sworn friend who grew up playing with him since childhood, is the object of his observation.

Yang Yikun asked him to come out in the evening, and then began to build Li Shoucheng's file on the computer.

What kind of guy is this?

There are a lot of words to acquaintances and friends, Rory is verbose or talking, regardless of whether it makes sense or not, and likes to preach to others, and likes to make them accept his own opinions. In social psychology, he commits the principle that one cannot change another.

But in the face of women, he has no position to speak of! For example, he himself does not like such things, but if women like them, he will smile and say that he likes them too! In order to gain the approval of women, his principles will change again and again, and he is a flattering unprincipled licking dog.

"This guy...... What a prime example!"

Yang Yikun established Li Shoucheng's file, and there was also a blank treatment idea and program progress below.

After encrypting the file, exit and continue your daily work.

……

When he got off work in the evening, Li Shoucheng appeared on time at the café opposite the park where he met.

Yang Yikun ran from the park, he was wearing Adidas sportswear, black dry demeanor, the weather in March and April was still a little cold, but because of running and exercising in the park, he didn't feel cold.

Li Shoucheng, who was sitting at the open-air coffee table, was wearing a briefcase in a suit and leather shoes, a typical office worker, the heat of the coffee was steaming so that his glasses were white, and he quickly took it off and pulled the clothes inside his coat to wipe it twice.

"Why do you sell insurance?"

Yang Yikun pulled out a chair and sat down.

Li Shoucheng glanced at him a few times and complained: "Who can be as carefree as you, like an idle college student!"

Yang Yikun leaned back in his chair: "I was originally very young. It's you who see yourself as old. ”

Li Shoucheng was just about to quibble about something, but he interrupted: "Tell me something serious, what's wrong with you?"

Li Shoucheng muttered, but he belonged to the group of people who quickly shifted his emotions and began to focus on the problem, "How can I talk to my sister on Saturday?"

Yang Yikun didn't think it was a problem at all: "Talk casually, what can't you talk about?"

"But I just don't know how to talk about it! Who knows if they like it or not, in case I say it wrong, in case the girl is not interested at all, and thinks this person is too boring!"

Yang Yikun smiled and thanked the waiter who delivered the coffee, and then began to push: "Aren't you usually super able to talk? You can talk to the supermarket aunt for half an hour, why can't you say it?"

Although this is a past feat, Li Shoucheng's expression is entangled: "The problem is the sister - the problem is that if I talk nonsense, the sister will hate me!"

Yang Yikun seems to be drinking coffee casually, but he is actually increasing his efforts: "Then you talk nonsense with the supermarket aunt, why doesn't she hate you?"

Li Shoucheng struggled to find a reason: "I ...... It's different, if my aunt is offended, I will be offended, and I won't lose, it's a big deal, I don't care-"

Yang Yikun interrupted and asked, "Remember your mentality towards your aunt!

"It's the deepest idea, you just treat me as a psychiatrist, and say everything you need to say. ”

Li Shoucheng is not shy in the face of his dead friend: "I see beautiful, no, but whenever I see a living and cute one, I can't help but want them to be my girlfriend——"

"I want to hold soft hands, I want to hug, it's better to roll the sheets every day, and then play games together, and she feeds me biscuits, mouth-to-mouth kind, and calls me dear, and consults with me about the names of our children......"

"Ahem!"

Yang Yikun was a little sick to his stomach and interrupted this strange thing:

"Here's the problem! For Auntie, because you don't care, you don't care, based on this desireless mentality, your communication with Auntie is actually the most natural and smooth, you can even talk and laugh for half an hour!"

"And for girls, you have a strong desire, you want to have her, you want to be recognized by her, you entrust your happiness and happiness to them, you don't dare to give yourself room for mistakes or failures!"

"Girls can also feel your emotions, they will think that you are very strange, you have no other purpose, and you are not comfortable with you, so they will naturally be wary of you and beware of you. So you'll be more nervous, more worried, and ultimately fail!"

Yang Yikun's thorough comparison showed that Li Shoucheng understood a little.

"Then I should ...... Talking to girls without desire?"

Yang Yikun nodded: "When you first get to know, you should control your desires and don't show them!"

He was still entangled: "But if I don't have an idea, how can I pursue them?"

Yang Yikun shook his head: "Your problem now is that as soon as you want to pursue them, you will mess up! You know? I can be sure that if you don't have the desire to desire, you will give a better impression on women!"

"Desirelessness is a good novice mentality, you treat girls as supermarket aunts, as any ugly girl you are not interested in them and can chat casually, so you still have no topic and can't laugh?"

Li Shoucheng accepted it, but he still had a little doubt: "But in the end, there was no result." ”

"Why does it have to work out? I know women, and I've always seen it as a pleasure game, as an opportunity to show off my charms, and I don't pursue them, so they're attracted to me, you know?"

"Besides, not this time, next time there will be a lot of opportunities to introduce the girl to you, what are you afraid of! When you have built your mentality, you can go to the street by yourself, and you will pick up which one you are satisfied with, and you have a lot of choices!

Li Shoucheng eliminated the last trace of worry and believed him very much: "You are still enough buddy!"

Yang Yikun suddenly asked, "Have you eaten?"

"Nope!"

Yang Yikun slapped the table: "Then don't invite me to dinner, don't have the strength to say so much!"

Li Shoucheng did not have the slightest consciousness of being a tool man: "You said it earlier! Go!"

In addition to cheating and cheating, Yang Yikun gave him a new task: "Actually, you are very good at chatting, for men, for women who don't care." The problem is that you can't speak to the beautiful woman you like. ”

"That's right. Li Shoucheng agreed.

"So from now on, mission three: face your fears, step out of your comfort zone!

Although Li Shoucheng felt that this progress was too fast, he was still full of ambition, he thought he could do it!

Self-confidence is the strongest weapon!

It's just that he didn't expect Yang Yikun to give him a big turn of cold water:

"But! You have to fail! Even if the girl has a good feedback for you, you have to mess things up on purpose!"

"Huh?"

Li Shoucheng couldn't believe it, thinking he had heard it wrong.

Yang Yikun was very sure, he stood up, and even aggressively: "Why are you afraid? You are afraid of the result of failure! You are afraid of the scene of failure! It has become a nightmare in your heart and cannot be overlooked, but now you just want to experience failure! Experience it ten times, experience it a hundred times!"

"When you experience all these things that you think are fearful, you will feel that failure is no big deal, you have nothing to lose, and your face is not worth anything at all!"

"On the contrary, once you succeed, this is a windfall, this is a jackpot from heaven! You are a zero-cost investment, you will make a profit without loss!"

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