Chapter 319: Growing Pains
Hearing Yin Bing's words, the girl Zixuan's face became sad again, and she sighed, "My troubles, you may not be able to help me!"
Yin Bing smiled, "Is it because it's from your mom and dad, so you feel that you can't fight, can't bear, can't escape, so you are so desperate that no one can help you?"
"You, do you know how to read minds? You're immortals?"
"Haha, that's right, so you have to trust that we might be able to help you!"
The fat man didn't know where to take out a small velvet cake and handed it to Zixuan, who seemed to like it very much, so he took a bite of it. Dessert has a very great effect on calming people's emotions, Zixuan finished eating the small cake, the whole person was in a circle, she crossed her legs on the bed and began her narration.
"I actually know that my mother loves me very much, but I don't know why I can't bear this kind of love, especially in the past two years, her love has suffocated me and made me miserable.
She always ordered me to do this and that, and if I didn't want to, she said it's all this and I was good, and she felt that I couldn't do anything other than study.
And then she also likes to pretend to be an enlightened mother, the last time I told her that I wanted to buy a Lolita women's clothes, she ostensibly agreed, but in the next few days she was sarcastic, saying that the people who wore LO were naïve children, or that Sang scolded Huai that my mind was on dressing up, and I was not learning at all.
She was like that every time, she seemed to care about me, but she didn't care about me. For example, when I was bullied at school, I obviously didn't do anything, I didn't talk to that female classmate for a few days, and she suddenly dumped me with the test paper, and I was very scared. I told my mother that she didn't ask anything, and asked me to find fault with herself!
I was very miserable and I was very entangled, I knew that my mother loved me, but sometimes I even hated this love, I often quarreled with her, but in the end the quarrel did not lead to anything. ”
At the end, Zixuan shed tears, and it could be seen that she was very painful and sad.
Yin Bing patted her on the shoulder and asked, "What about your father?"
"My dad would play games and watch TV every day when he came home, or he would quarrel with my mom and don't care about me at all, and I had nothing to say to him. ”
Yin Bing asked again: "So you want to commit suicide, right?"
Zixuan lowered her head, and after a long time, she said: "I can't find the meaning of my life, I feel that I live to endure pain, once I said to my mother, I don't want to live anymore." She came up and said that she had spent so much money and so much energy to support me, but I wanted to die, am I worthy of her! To be honest, after she said this, I wanted to die even more, and I felt that I was living to cause trouble for her!
She always repeatedly mentioned that when she was pregnant, she was found out to be a girl by doing B ultrasound, and her grandparents didn't let me want me because of their patriarchy, and she insisted on giving birth to me. She probably said this to make me appreciate what she had done for me, but now I really want to say that you gave birth to me without my consent, and who should I talk to!
It's not that I'm not grateful to her, I just feel too heavy and I'm so tired!"
Saying that, Zixuan cried again, Yin Bing didn't bother her this time, and let her vent her emotions well. Yin Bing moved a stool and sat opposite Zixuan, constantly taking paper from the paper drawer and handing it to her to wipe her tears.
Zixuan cried for a while before asking Yin Bing, "Brother monk, what do you say I should do?"
Yin Bing smiled: "Are you willing to listen to what I say?"
Zixuan nodded.
"I said you have to study hard, will you beat me!"
"Well, I kind of want to beat you! You're too perfunctory, I don't want to study now, and I don't think I can learn, I'm very tired of learning!"
"Yes, you're right. You feel tired because you don't know why you want to study, and even if you do, you're talking clichés, what I learn for myself, and study for the rise of China! That's all because you are lying to others and yourself, and you don't really agree with this viewpoint. I tell you to study hard, not just in school, but more in addition to school!"
"What is that learning?" Zixuan asked curiously.
"Do you know why your mother is so aggressive to you and always wants you to do what she wants?"
"I don't know, isn't it because she's that kind of character, she has to say everything herself?!"
"Hehe, you are really too young, too simple, do you think that if she is talking to her company leader and immediate boss, will she still ask the leader to do what she thinks? If she meets a national leader, will she still ask the leader according to her own ideas? If she meets an expert in the industry, does she dare to insist that she is right?"
"Those people are higher than her, more powerful than her, of course she doesn't dare!" Zixuan replied.
"Then you understand why she wants to force you to do what she wants, right? It's not because you have a low position, but because she thinks you're still a child, with no mature thoughts and concepts, and no ability to do things, so she will ask you to do what she wants!"
Zixuan was silent, and for a while, she opened her mouth to speak, and when she saw Yin Bing's smiling eyes, she stopped to think deeply, and said after a while: "I understand, I think I've grown up and can make my own decisions, but my mother doesn't think so." I only saw her strength, but I didn't let her see my growth, so she didn't trust me even more and thought I was immature as a child. ”
Yin Bing nodded, "You are very smart, you can understand a little! That's right, you are a child for the first time, you always do wrong things, and grow up in mistakes." Your mom and dad are also first-time parents, and they won't do that well either, and sometimes they will even be substandard. At this time, you have an advantage, you will grow faster than them, because you often reflect on yourself and then learn how to do better.
And they will be much worse than you in terms of learning ability, and few of them will correct their mistakes, because they don't like to reflect on themselves, and they don't like to learn, so they often have to ask you how to operate on computers and mobile phones. This also shows that when you really show what you are capable of, they will see it and rely on you.
So one day, you become more mature than them in terms of concept, and you are more planned and organized than them, then they will no longer be strong, and they will have to consult you for everything!
So if you want to be so free, you have to make yourself grow up quickly. And it's not the age that grows, it's the mind. ”
Zixuan thought about it again, her eyes lit up, "I seem to understand what you mean, such as the LO skirt incident, I shouldn't be negative, I should analyze what is the reason why my mother is reluctant to buy it for me, whether it is because the economic conditions of the expensive family do not allow it, or I am afraid that I will be addicted to these things and delay my studies, or I have a misunderstanding of this kind of skirt, thinking that it is not worn by normal people."
Then I used my actions to dispel her concerns according to her thoughts, so that she felt that my choice to wear the LO skirt was carefully thought out and that I would not indulge in it!"