"No, Ah Jun, when you started school, I remember that you were very brave when you bullied female classmates, I said again and again that you don't know how to repent, how can you be cowardly when you meet a powerful person?" Chen Xiaohe looked at Ah Jun very rarely, and his face was incredulous.

"I don't bully female classmates now, and now I don't dare to bully anyone, and I'm afraid that others will come to me. Ah Jun put on a look of being angry.

"Then why are you still complained by Teacher Wang from time to time?" Chen Xiaohe didn't know whether Ah Jun was telling the truth or quibbling. However, I can't help but don't believe what Ah Jun says.

"Teacher Wang can't tell whether I am chasing others or others chasing me, as long as she sees many of us running around and screaming, she thinks that I am also making trouble, in fact, many times others want to bully me, I just hide in Tibet every day, afraid that they will chase me. The more Ah Jun said, the more aggrieved he became, and tears were about to fall.

Chen Xiaohe really didn't expect Ah Jun to be so afraid of his classmates.

"Then why didn't you tell me before!" Chen Xiaohe asked.

"I told you, you said to leave everyone else alone, be yourself! You don't believe me. Ah Jun looked very hurt.

Chen Xiaohe knows that Ah Jun has a lot of words, and sometimes she likes to make excuses for herself when she makes small mistakes, but looking at Ah Jun's appearance now, she is not sure of her judgment.

I always thought that Ah Jun's naughty troublemaker liked to bully others and like to chase and fight, but was it really because he was timid and scared, and was also bullied by others? How could there be such a big gap with the imaginary Ah Jun?

Chen Xiaohe had a black line in his head, if it weren't for Ah Jun's fracture this time, he really didn't know that his school days were so miserable, of course, the premise is that if Ah Jun is true.

Chen Xiaohe vaguely remembered that Ah Jun had also said that there were boys who bullied him before, but those voices were all covered by the voices of others complaining about Ah Jun, Chen Xiaohe didn't care, but blamed Ah Jun for not reflecting on his own problems and suing others, at this time Chen Xiaohe would criticize him more harshly.

It seems that this treatment has had a great impact on Jun's behavior at school.

Ah Jun will feel that he can't bully others, but when others bully him, no one will help, and in the long run, he will form the wrong way to deal with conflicts, that is, he will only avoid conflicts and fear conflicts.

Thinking of this, Chen Xiaohe regretted it, she touched Ah Jun's head, "Ah Jun, it's my mother who hasn't done enough, you used to tell your mother that others wanted to beat you, but your mother didn't help you, and your mother will definitely help you in the future, it's not right for others to beat you." We don't cause trouble, but we can't be afraid, if others bully you and make you uncomfortable, you must also express yourself bravely, find a teacher to help you, or find a mother to help you, don't just run away!"

Ah Jun listened to his mother's words, and immediately burst into a bright smile, "Mom, really? Mom really wants to help me?"

"Yes, if any child bullies you in the future, you must tell me. Chen Xiaohe hugged Ah Jun tightly.

Chinese pay attention to "strict self-discipline and leniency towards others", especially in children, we may unconsciously make wrong guidance when dealing with children's conflicts.

For example, if someone else's child steals your child's toy, the mother will always say it's okay, let the child play with it, and then turn around and teach her child to be humble.

The consequence of this is that your child will also feel that it is okay to snatch other children's toys and feel that it is okay. But when your own children really go to grab other children's toys, you will teach your own children not to steal other people's things, and quickly return them to others.

For another example, someone else's child hit your baby, you just hold the baby's little hand and coax him, take him away from the child, the high-speed baby should be generous, do not care, and did not help the child to communicate with the other party;

This kind of "strict self-discipline and leniency towards others" approach is actually a huge harm to children, and children will become more and more inferior under this guidance, feeling that they are not as important as other children, and do not dare to have a little conflict with other children, and will only blindly tolerate it.

Chen Xiaohe was shocked to realize that he was transforming Ah Jun from naughty to self-dwarfing, and he couldn't help but break out in a cold sweat.

Isn't that the same way your parents behave?

Fortunately, he was fully aware of the problem, and Chen Xiaohe decided that he must listen to Ah Jun's voice in the future, help Ah Jun solve the problem, and no longer blindly criticize as a parent.

The correct way should be to treat one's own children and other people's children with the same standards, not tolerant of other people's children, and not strict with one's own children, only in this way can children feel the rules and justice, can distinguish between right and wrong, and are not intimidated by evil forces, nor take the initiative to do evil.

Chen Xiaohe didn't expect that the child's hospitalization would see so much by herself, and she didn't care about Su Fa's teasing, so she told Su Fa about Ah Jun's distress.

Su Fa first apologized to Chen Xiaohe, and then said that he was not very good at using double standards to demand his own family and other people's children.

Hearing this, Chen Xiaohe was glad for a while, fortunately, his family was not all like this.

After noon, Su Fa went to the train station to pick up Chen Jianqiang.

Chen Jianqiang carried a lot of things again, and Chen Xiaohe was also strange, how could it be that in just one day, his father could prepare so many things to bring.

After coming, Chen Jianqiang went straight to Ah Jun's bedside and looked at Ah Jun's arm again and again.

"How can you let the child hurt like this, and Ah Jun still hurts?"

"It doesn't hurt, grandpa, ah, no, it still hurts a little. Ah Jun saw the gentle grandfather and immediately sprinkled it.

"Your grandmother's fracture is almost right, and you're like this again, you can't run around next time. Grandpa said distressedly.

Ah Jun nodded vigorously, Ah Jun, who was no longer naughty, really looked a lot better.

When Chen Xiaohe saw his father, he also found that as his mother said, Chen Jianqiang lost a lot of weight.

"Dad, why are you so thin?" Chen Xiaohe said distressedly.

"It's nothing, it's just that I've been eating a little little bit lately. Chen Jianqiang said with a smile.

"How are you at home?" asked Chen Xiaohe again.

"He's still delivering couriers, as if he can only go home once in a few days, and I've never heard of him taking money home. Chen Jianqiang said curtly.