"???" Zigui didn't seem to react, blinked and pondered carefully: "Why." ”

"Your reason. Jiang Beichen instructed this son to return.

His face was very flat, without the smile he used to have, Zigui looked carefully, making sure that there was no smile on his lips.

She didn't know why, though he just had a flat face.

But she could sense that he seemed to be a little angry.

"What reason?"

"Why did you agree to Mo Lele's request? Jiang Beichen asked: "You asked about Mo Lele's expectations and plans for today. What about you? Do you have any expectations for Mo Lele, do you have a plan?"

Zigui didn't think about it.

She didn't speak, her eyes looked at Jiang Beichen, and her head was thinking about his words.

Half an hour, an hour, and so it passed.

Zigui still didn't open his mouth.

Jiang Beichen brought a cup of hot water and gave it to Zigui: "What you have to do now is to refuse, you have to learn to refuse your consultant." ”

She raised her eyes, "Is that okay?"

"A must. ”

"Oh. Zigui's heart was beating, she was afraid that she would not be able to refuse Mo Lele, let alone reject her.

"But, she... Her cause. Zigui thought about it and stopped talking.

The expression is quite tangled.

Jiang Beichen, who was watching, was also entangled.

"If you have a problem, just ask it. ”

Zigui walked directly in front of Jiang Beichen, and then pulled a stool: "Mr. Beichen, I don't understand why you have to let me refuse Mo Lele." Her current state of mind is still sensitive, and she is afraid of being rejected.

Once she is rejected, she always can't help but think about whether others will dislike her, which is a kind of inferiority complex born from the bottom of her heart. ”

He asked rhetorically, "So what?"

She doesn't understand, doesn't Mr. Beichen know?

The answer is for yourself. All you have to do now is to refuse all of Molele's demands. The longer you keep her waiting, the more troublesome it becomes. ”

"Good. Zigui stiffened his head, walked to the door, and then delayed opening the office door.

Five minutes, five minutes later.

Zigui walked towards Mo Lele: "Lele, I'm sorry, I can't accompany you today." ”

She was very disappointed, her face was full of dissatisfaction, and she looked at Zigui with questioning eyes: "I don't want to go with me, I'm afraid of being pointed at by others." In that case, why are you asking me what you expect and plan for today? Do you have fun with me?

These words were unexpected by Zigui, but after thinking about it carefully, with the current situation of Molele, it seems that such thoughts are very normal.

With so many, it is already very rare for her to be able to come out of the house, although when she comes out, Mo Lele will wrap herself into zongzi.

Zigui's face was flat, and he put away his smile, but he was not angry.

Just asked with surprise on his face, "Why do you think that?"

"Isn't it?"

Zigui's face showed a new smile: "Of course not." ”

Zigui took it for granted: "I came here to study, and as soon as I got out of the elevator, I was stopped by you, and I haven't seen the teacher yet, and I don't know what kind of learning content the teacher has arranged for me." With so many uncertainties, I promised you that I didn't think it through. I'm sorry. ”

"Then why are you asking me, do you have any plans and expectations for today?" Mo Lele was not such a girl before, but because of this campus loan, she was hit.

"Your expectations and plans are focused on you, not me. Zigui said: "So, I think that without me, your expectations and plans can also be carried out." ”

At this moment, Mo Lele was silent.

Zigui didn't say anything, just observed silently.

I don't know how long it took.

Zigui said: "I'll go see the teacher first, you are free." ”

She wanted to run away with a weak heart, but her face was still indifferent, and everything was taken for granted.

Zigui returned to Beichen's office.

She breathed heavily, looking very nervous, and looked at Jiang Beichen with a pair of big eyes flickering.

"I refused. ”

"Hmm. Beichen looked down at the information in his hand.

Zigui thought he was supposed to want something, but he saw that he was working very seriously.

One point, two points, half an hour passed like this.

Zigui is like an ant on a hot pot, pacing back and forth.

Finally, she walked to the office desk and directly covered the information in front of Jiang Beichen with both hands: "I don't understand." ”

Raising his eyes, a smile appeared on Jiang Beichen's face: "Sit down, slowly, I don't understand." ”

……

The flame that wanted to burn was extinguished by him with a smile and a word.

"I'm worried, Molele. ”

"You've let the client's emotions affect your own emotions in a way that you can't help them, and you're also affected by those negative emotions. Calm yourself down first. ”

"I ...... I can't be still. "She was frustrated.

"Come on. Jiang Beichen asked his son to return to him, he clicked on the computer, and the figure of Mo Lele immediately appeared in the screen: "You see, her mood is very stable, although she looks a little depressed, but she didn't do anything because of your refusal." ”

"You're sure she's not going to do anything if she refuses?"

"Whether I'm sure she'll happen or not, you have to learn to say no. Jiang Beichen was very serious: "An excellent psychological counseling room must learn to refuse."

You have to face all kinds of problems, and your counselors will have all kinds of people, and you will not learn to refuse, and you will not be able to go down this path. ”

"I thought it was because I wanted to let Mo Lele adapt to being rejected......"

"I asked you to refuse, it has nothing to do with Mo Lele's emotions. The cycle of wanting to cure a person with psychological problems is very long, and it is a process of boiling a frog in warm water. Jiang Beichen explained.

"If you learn not to say no and develop a habit of saying yes, then your life will be a mess in the future. ”

The son doesn't say anything.

Jiang Beichen continued: "Many people will rely on their psychologists through psychological counseling, and many people will misunderstand the existence of this emotion.

And then make some unreasonable demands, however, when you refuse, the other person's emotions start to deteriorate.

Such examples are all around you and abound.

Will you force you because of the deterioration of the other party's mood, or even use the bitter tricks of self-harm, and you have to agree because of the other party's health?"

"Of course not, but that's because they're all hurting and have some psychological problems... Moreover, they ...... They ......"

Zi couldn't go on, and she found that there was really no reason to convince herself, let alone Jiang Beichen: "Then what should I do." ”