A child's progress stems from a deeper understanding of life.

As the sun sets, it's time to go home. Originally, my son has always performed very well in kindergarten, and he has won all the awards in various competitions on behalf of the class every year, and the teacher has praised him countless times. But when he first took the first grade, he only scored about 70 points, and my wife insisted on sending him to cram school, but I was adamantly opposed.

Why am I against?

When my son was in the middle of the kindergarten, in order to make him better, we sent him to the music and art classes. After a month, I found out that my son was not as happy as he used to be. He used to tell me who was better than him and who was better than him. It stands to reason that I should encourage my son to catch up with others, but there is a sense of foreboding that has a strong effect on my heart, and I strongly feel that my son is living in the shadow of others, and his heart has no power to save himself.

Education is a kind of life that builds self-confidence and perfects truth, goodness and beauty for children on the basis of discovering their talents. If the child is resolutely pressed with difficult learning tasks before he discovers his strong side, not only will he not have emotions about learning in his future life, but he will also be prone to depression in his personality. At that time, there was no score comparison in kindergarten, and my wife was persuaded by me that my son dropped out of the class.

Now what?

The usual noisy street has suddenly become particularly mysterious today. The trees on both sides of the road stood majestically as if commanded by someone, and no one was allowed to go out into the streets. Faced with the silence of the streets, I really had no choice but to slow down and go home.

When I entered the living room of the house, I saw my wife playing with my son on the sofa. I leaned over and my wife went to cook. The son held his loot in his hand and said excitedly, "Dad, these are all things I won by playing animation cards today." ”

"You're awesome. I said.

My son was dancing with his hands and telling me how he won. "Wang Xile, if you have to be so attentive to study, can your grades be so bad?!" His wife's voice came from the kitchen, and the house fell silent. Then his wife appeared at the door of the living room and said, "It's only the first grade, and if you don't catch up with your studies as soon as possible, you'll have no hope." Old man, it's all your fault, what else do you have to say now, it's almost half a semester, your so-called time can prove everything, what does it prove?"

I was silent, and my son bowed his head.

"Wang Xile, in the future, I will study first when I go home every day, and I can only play after I get my grades. Do you hear that?" said the wife sternly.

"You just say you don't want to play. The son muttered.

"You're still reasonable, if you have the ability to improve your academic performance, I won't say anything. Prepare for the class tomorrow. The wife's voice rose an octave higher.

The son was completely bored, so he drooped his head and went into the study to do his homework......

In the evening, when my son was asleep, I said to my wife, "My child's learning problem is a problem, I think," "I have to do it," and my wife interrupted me, saying, "I can't listen to your crooked reasoning this time." ”

I tried to feint when I saw that the front was blocked, and said, "When I went to a technical school, I got acquainted with a teacher Yang, he started from a small place, and his simple and philosophical education about life was like a beacon, although I only got along with him for one semester, but I felt that I had learned something that would benefit me for life, and since then I began to accept learning from my heart, and since then I have been working so much that the habit of reading and learning has not weakened but has become stronger and stronger, making life seem smooth and easy." Our children are still young and don't know what learning is, and coercive learning has no meaning for his life development. Sending him to the school will definitely satisfy the score for the time being, but this kind of behavior will not allow the child to gain the ability to grow himself. If you look at the children in the neighborhood around you, are there fewer cases where you don't study the older you get?" my wife looked at me and was silent, and then I said, "How much joy does the child bring us, and why is it that as soon as we go to school, the joy of the family is spoiled by this damn school study? My wife was still silent, and I continued, "Before educating our children, we must first establish a clear purpose, that is, what kind of person we want our children to become in the future. We don't have a big goal, but I don't think we can let the current school education turn my son into a bad character. For this reason, I have studied a large number of Chinese and foreign educational treatises, and I feel that I have prepared some theories. ”

"What's the theory, it's almost half a semester, and my son's exam results are still not good. The wife spoke softly.

"It's true that the child is having trouble learning. From the excellent kindergarten to the current poor students, you and I feel uncomfortable, like a blow to the head, but we must calmly analyze the reasons, not to blame the children, let alone follow the clouds. In the past, my son was excellent, mainly in dynamic activities, but now school learning is static, and it is normal to be uncomfortable. Nowadays, the most important thing is to help children slowly accept their own learning life, rather than using the psychology of underage children to force them to learn. ”

"Alas!" The wife sighed, her eyes revealing the tenderness of the past.

I saw that she was a little moved, so I hurriedly struck while the iron was hot and said, "It is not normal for most children to score 100 points as soon as they go to school." It is a misunderstanding of early education that they go to various study classes early to receive knowledge-based adult education, which can easily make children's brains become monolithic, lack understanding of life, and become teenagers with bad personalities. What's even more terrifying is that some adults have no educational goals, treat children as their own faces, and always want to create a child prodigy overnight, a blockbuster, and use children to satisfy their vanity. ”

"Who doesn't want others to boast about their children. The wife said.

"That's vanity. I said.

"Who doesn't have vanity. The wife sighed.

"We are both in school and know the students best. Every year, the average score of students from elementary school is less than 90 points, but after two or three years, when they graduate from junior high school, there are a large number of children who do not want to study. Students lack self-control over playfulness, and there are occasional violent incidents, and some even lose their sense of shame. You don't want Wang Xile to become like that!" I said kindly.

"If Wang Xile becomes such a child, then life will be really boring. The wife said.

When I saw that my wife was hopefully moved, I cried out, "I love my son more than myself." I wish him a happy life. I want to cultivate my son into a well-rounded person intellectually, physically, and spiritually through the exploration of quality education. You see, our children don't have the following three things. First, be broad-minded. ”

"It's too broad. His stuff is a public good. There was a sour taste in his wife's words.

"That's right. This is the basis of the quality of working with people, and it is also the result of our free education in the past. Three-year-old looks young, seven-year-old looks old, from this alone I dare to infer that Wang Xile will not lack partners no matter where he goes in the future. Look at how many dolls can take out their own things and take the initiative to play with others?"

"That's just as well. The wife said.

"Second, wisdom is outstanding. ”

"You have to get it, it's a mess in one test, and it's embarrassing to say that it's a mess in one test. ”

My wife's words amused me. I smiled and said, "My son has grown so big, except for the exam in the first grade, when did he not enter the ranking in the kindergarten competition?"

"Not really. ”

This shows that he has a good brain. ”

"In the end, isn't it pleasing to see that Joy never eats something alone, in order to show its potential filial piety?" I said affectionately.

"It's all up to you. Well, if the final exam is not good, don't blame me for not giving you face. ”

From my wife's words, I can clearly feel that the fire of "love" for children is constantly burning, but unfortunately this is too high for children who are just starting to learn!