The fifth grade has started, and the time of harmony has flowed in a hurry.

Before I knew it, it was the middle of April, and the school football game was about to start, and it was confirmed that the fifth grade children were mentally sound. Wang Xile: Before the fourth grade, they were still playing football, and whoever played far was a cow, but now they are mostly talking to me about what tactics the team uses, and at the same time, they also take the initiative to analyze the strengths and weaknesses of their own team and opponents. Last year, Wang Xile was completely confused about playing football, but this year, he suddenly stepped into the technical and tactical level, which fully shows that children's brain development will develop by leaps and bounds from the fourth grade to the fifth grade.

When football is hot, the study is coming. That night, Wang Xile handed me a parent feedback form for me to sign. The note was to the effect that Wang Xile had not completed his homework on time in the past two weeks, and hoped that parents would supervise their children to complete their homework at home.

"Joy, that's what's going on. "I read the feedback sheet and said.

"Dad, I've been so concerned about football during this time that I can't keep my homework done. ”

"It's a mistake to rejoice. Go, read all over 'Unexpected Brutality'. ”

After reading it, Wang Xile stood quietly beside me, waiting for me to sign his feedback form. I said, "Dad can't sign this word." ”

"Why?" asked the son timidly.

"Dad doesn't have that power. ”

"Why don't you have the power?!! ”

"It's a matter of your studies. Learning is your own business. You have to sign it yourself. ”

"That's not going to work. If I don't have your signature, the teacher will criticize me tomorrow. ”

"Even then I can sign it, but I can only sign the three words 'I've seen it'," I signed and said, "Your teacher will definitely be angry when he sees these three words tomorrow, because the teacher's original intention is to let parents cooperate well, manage you well, and study quickly, but I want to ask you if you use it?"

"No, I don't. No. ”

"So the rest, how to have a good relationship with the teacher, depends on your own ability. ”

"Okay. ”

"Joy, do you know the consequences of not doing your homework well?"

"I suffer a lot of criticism from teachers. I've been through a lot in the last few years. ”

"Not true. Not doing your homework well can make you disabled. ”

"What about it. No way!"

"During this time, playing football made you start from despising homework and slowly progress to not doing homework, didn't it?"

"Yes. ”

"You're good at football?"

"The right foot is great. The left foot doesn't kick at all. ”

"Shall we remove our left foot?"

"No, I can't. ”

"Why not? I can't kick with my left foot anyway. ”

"With my left foot removed, I'm disabled. ”

"This is the same as studying, because you have removed your homework from playing football, and after a long time, you will not become a disabled person in learning?"

"Dad, I understand the reason, isn't it just an hour to write your homework. ”

A week later, Wang Xile came to the middle school training ground that afternoon, and before he could open his mouth to speak, his tears were "brushed" and left. When I looked at it, I knew that the situation was not good, because he had recently played basketball with the girls in the first year of junior high school in middle school, and he already had some "king" demeanor on the court, and nothing would make him cry easily.

"Did you lose the game?" I asked with concern.

"What kicks and loses, it's all the teachers of other classes who are biased and biased," the son said angrily, "The students in their class don't blow the handball in the penalty area, our class blows, if we substitute the teacher as the referee, we will never lose the game 3-2." ”

Adolescence affects children too much. In the past, playing football was just a stuffy kick, who cares about the referee factors, just play well.

It seems that the emotions aroused by this football match have a profound impact on Wang Xile, and even on his classmates at this age. Because when he listened to Wang Xile's words, his whole body was trembling with anger, and his feet kept kicking this and that on the ground, as if he wanted to fight for his life.

"Joy is emotional. The same is true of sports competitions, where absolute fairness will never exist. I smiled and said, "Look at what makes you angry, can you be so angry?" ”

"No matter how you don't get angry, no matter what, the teacher can't be partial. The son said angrily.

"Didn't you also watch the NBA Yao Ming Rockets game with your father. Referees of such a high level in the NBA also make mistakes, and the bias of the referees at home is also obvious, not to mention the games between school classes. Then again, it's permissible for referees to make mistakes. ”

"Why?"

"The referee's rules give the referee room to make mistakes. Athletes are not allowed to make mistakes. ”

"Why?"

"Athletes who make mistakes have to suffer the pain of losing the game," I said, "and the referees make mistakes at most. It's the same as when you go to school, the teacher makes a mistake in class, laughs at most, and then says that he didn't pay attention and passes. If you make a mistake in your studies and fail the exam, you will be severely criticized by the teacher and even called the parents, so all fairness is relative, and it is normal to have some ups and downs and sorrows from time to time. Losing the game, crying and complaining won't solve anything, and this emotion can only make the problem worse. The only way to solve the problem is to increase your skills and shoot the ball into the opponent's goal more in the next game. ”

Wang Xile wiped away his tears, he walked to the side of the basketball court, and said to the big sisters who were playing basketball, "Take me one." ”

Complaining about the referee when you lose, finding reasons for failure, objective is always greater than subjective, is a common habit for many people in the face of failure, and only a good physical education can change this habit.

Two days later, Wang Xile and they were going to have a second game, and at noon he said, "Dad, in the afternoon we are going to compete with Class 5 (4), and there is a student in their class named Guo Lei, who is older than us and very powerful. If Liu Lei is asked to stare at him, Liu Lei is a little fat and inflexible to turn around; if Wang Chao is asked to stare at him, Wang Chao is small and not fast. Come to think of it, it's still me who is most likely to keep an eye on him. Although the strength of our class is weaker than theirs, if I can stare Guo Lei to death and not let him score, maybe the game can still be mixed. ”

"Joy, your idea is good, but it's very difficult to keep an eye on your opponent on the field. I said, "But no matter how strong the opponent is on the field, you can never give up the belief in winning." Kick well in the afternoon, Dad will go and cheer you on. ”

At that time, I just smiled lightly at Wang Xile's idea of staring at his opponent, because I had played a game for more than 20 years, and it was not easy for adults to stare at an opponent on the field, and I was a child who loved to catch up with the fun. I'm sure that as soon as the game kicks off, I forgot everything happily, and who can remember the special thing of marking people.

In the afternoon I came to the stadium to watch the game. In the game, the ball appeared within his son's reach, and he would take the initiative to attack to eliminate the danger, whether the danger was successful or not, the son's second reaction was always to immediately find the No. 18 who was half a head taller than him, which made the most powerful player in the school not score a goal in the whole game.

When the game was over, Wang Xile and they lost the game 2-0, I went over and hugged my son, but he didn't say anything to me, but gathered with a group of young teammates and chatted about the game. After a while, I looked at the back of the group walking towards the school building, and it clearly told me that the children's sense of teamwork was born from here.

In the afternoon training, Wang Xile came to the middle school and said: "Dad, I didn't score a single ball that Guo Lei asked me to stare at in today's game, and he was angry and threatened me with swear words." ”

"I watched it all. Are you afraid of Guo Lei threatening you?"

"Don't be afraid. ”

"Yes, people came to this world to overcome difficulties. Today, your flexibility on the field really made my dad admire. ”

"But we lost the game. ”

After Wang Xile finished speaking, he went to play basketball with the older children.