March 1st is the day of the new semester. At noon, when I met Mr. Liu on the way to work, I felt a chill. I thought to myself that my son's winter vacation homework I just urged and never checked it specifically, and the homework of the last semester was not well written under the teacher's gaze, and I really couldn't imagine what the winter vacation homework would look like.

"Teacher Wang, you have to hold Wang Xile very tightly during the winter vacation," Teacher Liu said, "Wang Xile has completed his winter vacation homework very well, and there are several students in the class who have not completed their winter vacation homework." I thought that Wang Xile would not be able to finish it, but I didn't expect him to finish it really well. ”

I let out a sigh of relief, and my chilling heart was settled. Teacher Liu asked me what happened when Wang Xile came home late that day, which made me very embarrassed. At the gate of the primary school, Teacher Liu instructed again:

"The child must hold on tightly and not relax at all. ”

After a ten-minute conversation, I wondered why my son's homework was very negative last semester, so why did the winter vacation change in the relative absence of supervision?

In the evening, I asked my son about completing his winter vacation homework, and he happily said that Mr. Liu praised him in the class. "Joy, Daddy didn't ask about that. It turns out that you can't write your homework well when adults are staring at it, why is it that no one cares about your homework during the winter vacation and writes it instead?" I looked at him with eager eyes.

"I think differently!"

"It's all homework. Why do you think differently?"

"Dad, think about it, as long as you finish your homework, you can find people everywhere to play animation cards, play poker, play table tennis, play billiards, play football, and at night you can roller skate, play telegraph, and eat mutton skewers, who doesn't hurry up and write!?" the son said very frankly.

Yes, once a person knows what he needs, he will have a tendency to try to accomplish the tasks in the process in various ways, and this is the power of the goal. However, there will be many ideas in a person's life that may not necessarily lead to goals, and the process of education is the process of finding one's own purpose in life.

In mid-March, the sweetness of spring, mixed with the lovely sunshine, makes people have many good wishes for a new life, but the reality is very painful.

That day, I was having lunch, and said, "Joy, you have to borrow fifty of your father's New Year's money." This shocked my son, who was talking and laughing, and his eyes lost the ability to move, and he looked at me deadly, and I was very disgusted. I explained, "I'm borrowing, and I'll pay you back tomorrow when I go to the bank and withdraw the money." ”

Home suddenly became deathly silent, and I felt that my son must have something to hide from his family, and it must have something to do with money. This question must be answered immediately. I went to the drawer in the back room and found his wallet, opened it, and was shocked to find that there was not a penny in it. I took my wallet back to the dining room, and my son got up from his chair and hid in a corner behind the kitchen door, where it seemed that he could take refuge.

"Joy, what about the more than five hundred dollars in it?" asked his wife emotionally.

When I saw my wife's posture, I begged her to go out first, and only when I was alone could my son tell the truth. The wife closed the door with a "tom" and went out.

My wife is out, but I don't know what to say. It was so sudden, I was covered in fire, and I was afraid that I would be "blown up" by hearing a terrible answer. I steadied myself and said, "Joy, you must know where the money goes, don't you?"

"My brother borrowed it. The son hesitated for a while before speaking.

"How much did you borrow?"

"The day before yesterday, he borrowed my last twenty dollars. ”

"What about the rest of the money?"

The son leaned his head against his head and refused to speak. I, almost stopping my breath, stood there looking at him, looking at him. His body was still like that, his hair was still jet black, his face was as bright as before, but it was only the appearance, and there was something invisible in him that was changing dramatically, and this change was the main problem that education had to solve.

There was a look on my son's face that reminded me of a caged bird who had been abused. At this time, there are only two results of strong control: one is that the child has no illusions about the family's mistake of accommodating him, and will turn to forces outside the family to help him in the future; second, the child will have a fear of adults in his heart and dare not go against the wishes of adults, but he will self-harm in his heart for physical and mental growth, become a good doll who lacks self-awareness, and grow up to become the kind of person who explodes in silence.

I reached out and put my arm around my son, my hand touched my ribs, and I felt his heart pound. "Don't be afraid," I said, "tell Dad what the hell are you doing with those few hundred dollars?"

"I don't dare to say. The son said timidly.

At this time, his wife came back in, "What are you talking to him, let's beat him up to see if he says anything", and raised her hand high to prepare to beat Wang Xile. I grabbed her hand. At this time, my heart was beating loud and loud like a child. Finally, I persuaded my wife to go out again.

At this time, the kitchen, like the mood of people, was very messy, and the stove was faintly burning with an unfinished fire. The son shrunk and squatted in the corner, as if he had been robbed, not to mention how pitiful. I walked over, crouched down, grabbed his trembling hand, put my lips against my forehead and kissed him, and said, "Joy, tell me what the money is for? Daddy promises not to beat you and not to blame you." I pulled my son up and hugged him tightly, hoping that my young heart would feel safe.

The son opened his mouth as if to speak, but closed it. Accompanied by my kind gaze, a feeling of not knowing but still being sure, reflected on his face. "Dad, I played games at the Internet café with all that money. After saying that, he put his face on my waist and cried.

As soon as I heard the "Internet café", my brain "boomed". "Look, look, something has happened!" the wife pushed the door in, apparently she had been at the door.

The presence of my wife calmed me down and gave me new courage. I told her, "It's normal to play games in the online society as if they were commonplace, but why is it that in China it is like talking about tigers, and it has caused so much harm to children and teenagers." In the case of chasing after each other, there are still so many children and teenagers who are addicted to the Internet, which can only show that our education is far behind the times. If games were really that harmful, the teenagers in Europe and the United States who entered the computer revolution early would have been doomed long ago, but the opposite is true. Therefore, it is normal to say that games should be good friends in children's growth, but we have not found a good way. To be honest, I have a gut feeling that there is a toxin in China's education system that has the function of discouraging people from accepting new information. My wife didn't expect me to say that, and she was stunned. I said to my son in a lively mood: "Joy, there's nothing wrong with playing games, but it's not right for you to secretly go to an Internet café without telling your family!

"It's not me, it's my brother, a group of people with them. My brother always used my money to buy food, since the second day of the Lunar New Year, he said that he would pay me back when his aunt gave him money, and the day before yesterday he borrowed the last 20 yuan. The son explained in a trill.

At this time, the wife came to her senses, "Don't talk nonsense, as soon as the child enters the Internet café, it will be over! There are countless newspapers and magazines. She said, "It's all your fault, what advanced educational concepts, advanced educational thinking." ”

My wife was angry, but I laughed. "Wife, don't say that, as soon as the child enters the Internet café, it's over, and people in the Internet age still say such things, I will laugh at you for having a problem with your head. I'll take care of my son's game, you can rest, and my son and I will wash the pot. In the face of my begging confession, my wife said: "I really can't help you, not to mention the child's academic performance for the time being, as long as you can solve the problem of him going to the Internet café to play games, I believe you can talk to God." In the future, I will not say much about children's education. ”

On the way to school at noon, I bought my son ice cream and asked for ice cream, and a smile spread across his face. In a joke, I asked some substantive questions. Like where do you often play games, what games do you play, what kind of environment is there, and how many children are there? My son's answer was very serious, and I felt that the game had entered his heart deeply. When I got to the entrance of the elementary school, I said:

"Joy, let's go home together from Dad's office after school in the afternoon. ”

In the afternoon, I asked Wang Xile to lead him to the place where he played the most games, and wanted to scold the boss who had no conscience. "Dad, where are we going, the intersection to go home has passed. My son said behind me.

"We don't have a home," he said, continuing to ride forward silently. Out of the residential area, turn around the alkali field intersection, cross the railway line to the west, and come to the intersection leading to Azuoqi in the suburbs, "What are you doing here?" asked the son.

"You sneak into an internet café to play games, and Dad feels homeless. I said heavily.

Silence, deathly silence.

"Joy, lift up your head and I'll look at the sunset," I said, "and look how beautiful the sun is now." ”

The spring breeze of March is light on the face. The depths of the salt lake are shrouded in mist and brilliance, and the salt trucks not far away keep shuttling. The red sun was surrounded by a yellow fog and sunk towards the other side of the mountain.

"Joy, how beautiful the horizon is, it will be a different world in a while!"

The sun sped up its setting and became uncertain before his eyes. The salt trucks that make people see it all the way are faint, and the beauty of the sun that makes people reverie is gone. Far away on the top of the mountain, the sun was only the tip of the head, and a few weak rays of sunset made a final struggle on the mountain, like a man who had fallen into a deep pool and was about to drown.

I was deeply touched by this scene. This is a perfectly laid out, well-conceived educational animation, and the scenes and objects drawn are natural and simple, which gives people confidence.

We stood on the side of the road, neither of us moving or saying anything, until nightfall. "Joy, what do you see now?" I asked.

"I can't see anything. ”

"Not true. You saw it. ”

"I really can't see anything. It's black in front. ”

"By the way, you see the black. I said, "What did you see when you first arrived?"

"The sun, the cars, the salt boats and the beautiful sights. ”

"What about those things?"

"Blocked by the darkness. ”

"It was so beautiful before, but now it's dark, and if you go to the Internet café secretly, the beauty of our house will become black. I said, "You say that the sun has no light, can you call it the sun?"

"No, you can't. The son whispered.

"When the sun is gone, humanity will perish. When you sneak to an Internet café to play games, the sun of the family is disappearing," I said, "The sun of the family is the warmth of mutual trust." With that, I turned and walked south on the dirt road. It's dark in that direction. I walked more than ten meters, and my son caught up from behind and took my hand and asked, "Dad, where are you going?"

"You don't have to care, the alkali field is ahead, you go back to grandma's house along the asphalt, and the whole family is waiting for you to eat! ”

"Where are you going?"

"Go one kilometer ahead. ”

My son was shocked, and he grabbed my arm with all his strength and pulled me back. The two of us dragged forward for a few meters, his strength was exhausted, "Dad, it's a cemetery, I can't let you go for anything, I'll be very pitiful if you go!" The son suddenly let out a tearing cry, he no longer had the strength to drag me, he squatted on the ground with his schoolbag and howled and cried. How did the son know that there was a cemetery ahead, because we had passed it many times before we had gone out camping.

"You are your father's bloodline on the earth, the Internet café can make your heart die, and it will also make my heart die; I said.

"Dad, I was wrong. My sneaking to an Internet café will lead our family into darkness and send my family to the grave early. Dad, let's go home! It's so late, grandparents must be very worried, let's go home, Dad!"

My son's words gave me indescribable happiness. I hid my inner impulse and said, "Since there is still sunshine, let's go home." ”

When I returned to my mother's house, it was already past nine o'clock, and no one in the family had eaten. The father said angrily: "Isn't it just five hundred yuan, give it, I'll give it to you, don't freak out the child." "Daddy pulled out the money. Obviously, the wife told everything to the second elder.

"It's not about the money. I said.

"Jianhua, the doll is small, just scare and scare, as soon as the doll is wrong, it will be difficult to control it in the future. "Although my mother is illiterate, her words make me feel like I have read more than ten years.

"Don't say a word to anyone, I see that you two are out of school and think you're going home, look at what your grandparents are in a hurry!" said his wife.

"Joy, did your dad beat you?" asked the grandfather, kissing his grandson.

"Nope. My dad never hit me. We watched the sun set in the west for a while. ”

"Hurry up and eat. My mother said, "Jianhua, you must not do this again in the future." ”

To speak is to speak, and things are to be things. The matter of the Internet café is like a sudden thunderbolt on a sunny day. At night, I couldn't sleep, and many things were pondering and churning in my mind. "Some of your ideas are good, but the steps are too big and beyond the child's self-control. It is normal for a child to have something beautiful to reveal silently today and be fleeting tomorrow. But keep in mind that education is a kind of life that 'moistens things silently'. "In the middle of the night I heard a mysterious whisper teaching me.

Indeed, I have the idea that "the sand in the eyes is sweet" for my children, which makes me think too much about the good for my children. In fact, I should have been alert when my son was called back by his wife from Mr. Liu to make up his homework last semester. In the past, I always felt that what happened to other people's children would not happen to my own children. When I think about it today, it's ridiculous and stupid.

"Hungry and hungry, cold and warm" are desires that everyone has, and these desires do not need to be taught, and they do not produce any moral consequences. Video games in the Internet age are as ordinary as people's eating and dressing, but if they are not properly guided, they will keep children in a primitive state of ignorance. How to guide the child to enter the game with the right concept is important, not to control him to stay away from the game.

My son secretly went to an Internet café to make me go from suspicion to denial of the current moral education. That kind of moral education is very good on the surface, but as soon as the child leaves the line of sight, it changes. But where is the correct direction of moral education? At this time, the Book of Changes gave me inspiration. Inspiration told me that if we want to educate people to be intelligent and have the power of synaesthesia and heaven and earth, then their actions must be in harmony with heaven and earth. In this way, a person will have the spirituality to intuitively understand all life under the sun, and this spirituality will bring kindness, tolerance, and help to his life, so that his behavior will be in line with the trend and not be influenced by it. Once a person has this spirituality, his life will conform to the laws of nature, his strength will be condensed in his heart, and there will be no hidden doubts and anxieties. Man will become a man who is based on the ground under his feet and has a generous and benevolent heart, and then he will become a lover without reservation. Inspiration also said that nature education can give people a sense of balance, which is close to the sky and the earth, and becomes a link between them, and this sense of balance can make people's spiritual life real and free. As a result, people can naturally do what is right, achieve the right goal, and there is no artificial tension or deliberateness. The inspiration concludes by saying that if a child acquires a sense of balance from natural education, then all the principles of the world will be mastered, and when he grows up, he will not deceive his relatives in this life and this life. The knowledge in this book of my ancestors clearly tells me that nature can educate my children well.

Yes, we should increase the education of children to integrate into nature.

"Husband, you haven't slept all night, and you're still angry with the child?"

"Nope. ”

"Then you are angry with your father and your mother, you are so old, and his second elder has never said this about you. I see that your father and mother are really angry for our precious son, see what you will do in the future. ”

The wife is a careful person. The son is in the heart of the second elder, it is the incense of our Wang family's inheritance!

"I'm not angry with anyone, I'm angry with myself. Why am I so stupid to treat children as adults, thanks to the fact that I went to the Internet café and found out that it was only four months ago. ”

"What, it's been four months!" said his wife, in a convulsion.

"He told me everything. ”

"It's horrible. ”

"It's fine. I can fix it. ”

"Blow, blow and blow. What can you do about students going to the Internet to become a national nuisance!"

"Wait and see, I will definitely make the game a good helper for Wang Xile's progress. I said with confidence.

"If I don't listen to you, get up quickly, or I'll be late for work." ”

"If you don't believe me, I'll be able to solve the game problem. With that, I got up immediately.