A new week has begun. The sunlight shining in through the window in the morning reflected on his son's face, and there was an indescribable sense of power. He came to the living room to the music and said, "Dad, do you know the secret to playing 'Swordsman Love II'?" "He doesn't care if you want to listen to your mouth and turn it into a machine gun immediately, anyway, he has to tell you about how heroic he is in the game. My wife looked at her in confusion, as if she thought there was something wrong with our brains. Said:

"What day of the week is today?"

The wife originally had good intentions and just wanted to remind us to go to work, "It's okay, don't worry", and the son said that the game was on the rise and immediately replied. Unexpectedly, his wife became angry, and her voice suddenly rose an octave: "Wang Xile, Teacher Liu told me last week that your biggest problem is being late." ”

"It was overdone between classes, but it was much better than last semester. He saw that his mother's face was wrong, and quickly said, "Don't say it, it's okay, now my mother is happy!"

My wife said to me angrily: "Wang Jianhua, look at how bold the son you have cultivated, he is not afraid of people at all, and he will say three words when the adult says something." He also said that exploring new education is ridiculously dead. ”

"Reason walks all over the world, and it is difficult to move an inch without reason, isn't it--Wang Xile!" said the two of us into the washing room, and my son snorted loudly.

"A pair of living treasures, it's really infuriating. Whatever, you deserve to be late. ”

The wife's voice was gone. My son and I looked at each other, and a peaceful, warm, and contented emotion made us both giggle.

I came out of the washroom, pushed the cart to work, and when I went out, I saw my wife's car standing outside. The son said in a tone of regaining balance:

"And we said we were wasting our time! I had to ask. ”

The son walked to the dresser and said, "Mom,—— do you really want to be late, why are you so slow?" Hurry up, hurry up, or you're going to be late. ”

Today's sun elephant wants to sleep in the cage, hiding in the cloud band on the horizon and refusing to show his head. My son rode on the bike and hummed the song, "Are you like me working silently and hard under the sun, sweating and working silently......" This is a song I like to sing on the way to camping, and now it comes out of his mouth, and the song says to me: Education is a kind of penetration of life.

After school at noon, my son came to my office and said, "Dad, I have two more journal entries published." "What are you talking about? "I couldn't believe my ears. "I have two more articles published," the son pulled out two newspapers from the local league city from his pocket, one for the holidays and one for the previous week, and indeed there were two of his diaries on them. "Our teacher said that you must know the people from the newspaper, and there are not many articles in the whole school in a year. The son said absentmindedly while playing with a yo-yo.

"Joy, this is the result of writing about your life and yourself. Dad really didn't know anyone at the newspaper. ”

There was silence in the office. My son was playing with his yo-yo while I happily moved around in my chair wondering how to celebrate. At this time, the son completed a difficult action, "Dad, look at how handsome my yo-yo skills are!" He said, "Hurry home, I made an appointment with the door to play at noon." ”

He spoke casually, as if he hadn't published an article at all. I wanted to celebrate him, but I couldn't. I said, "I don't remember the ancient texts at noon?"

"Memorize! The ancient text is only forty or fifty words, and it can be done in ten minutes at most. Dad, don't talk about it, maybe the door is already waiting for me at our door. I can't let my friends down. ”

My mind was shocked, and I felt that my son's sense of responsibility had sprouted. I opened and closed my mouth twice, trying to say a few words, but the words that came out fulfilled his recent dream. I said:

"Hurry home and play yo-yo. ”

Good things come in pairs. Just one day, Wednesday. In the third class in the afternoon, my son was out of breath and ran to say, "Dad, I have the manuscript fee!"

I couldn't believe it was true, and I took the bill from my son's hand, a 20-yuan payment from Mangrove magazine, whose story of "the duckling was saved" reads:

On Sunday outskirts, ducklings, monkeys, bears, and elephants play games by the well. The wonderful performance made the stream below also let out a cheerful laugh. Just as the baby elephant's funny bamboo pole acrobatic performance made everyone laugh and leaned back and forth, only to hear the sound of "dong", everyone hurriedly looked, "Oh no, the duckling fell into the well." The laughter suddenly died down, and the atmosphere became tense. Everyone shouted, "What can I do? If someone comes to fetch water, the ducklings will become a human lunch." We've got to find a way to get the ducklings up quickly. ”

At this time, the little monkey hurriedly said, "Bring your bamboo pole to the little elephant, and I will pull him up." The little monkey said and hurriedly grabbed the bamboo pole, but the bamboo pole was not long enough, and it was still a little short. I heard the little duck say anxiously: "It's just that the length of the bamboo pole is enough, but my feet are webbed, and I can't hold it at all!" The little bear grabbed the bucket by the well and said, "Put the bucket down, let the duckling sit in the bucket, and we can pull him up." They said, "Good idea." "But the rope that tied the bucket was stolen by the one who lacked virtue, and everyone looked around and couldn't find it. At this time, the little bear had an idea and hurriedly shouted to the well: "Little duckling, don't worry, can't you float up if we pour water into the well!" So saying, they worked together to carry bucket after bucket of water from the brook and pour it into the well. After a few strokes, the baby elephant said, "It's too slow, look at me." So saying, he walked to the brook, sucked a lot of water, and staggered to the well. I saw that the trunk of the baby elephant had become a fountain, and the water was so big! Everyone laughed merrily. After doing it for a while, the duckling shouted, "Why hasn't the water level in the well changed much?" It doesn't seem to work either. No one spoke. After a while, the baby elephant burst into laughter, and everyone looked at him in amazement. I saw the little elephant selling Guan Zi and said, "I didn't want to use my secret weapon, but now I can't use it." Wouldn't I just stick my nose in and roll up the duckling!" said the little elephant, swaying like a general, and took two steps forward and stuck his nose into the well. Before he finished speaking, the little monkey suddenly threw the bamboo pole into the well, which startled the little elephant, and hurriedly withdrew his nose and asked, "Little monkey, what are you going to do?" The little monkey said, "Little elephant, you use your nose to wrap the bamboo pole around, isn't this length enough!" The little duckling's feet are webbed, and I can't hold the bamboo pole, but I can climb down along your nose and the bamboo pole! Let the little duck squat on my shoulder, and I will climb up carefully. Bear you answer at the well, seize the opportunity to hold the duckling, prevent him from slipping down again, so that the duckling will be saved?!"

The little duck was finally saved, and everyone gathered around the little monkey and praised it: "It's amazing, it's amazing." The little monkey blushed and hurriedly said, "This is the result of everyone's concerted efforts, how can I do it alone!"

Since then, the ducklings, bears, monkeys and elephants have often told the children about this rescue experience, so that they can also know that everyone's power is infinite and that nothing difficult can stop them as long as they work together.

There was a look in his son's eyes. He asked, "Dad, shall we pay for the manuscript?"

"The twenty dollars of wealth are created by you, and of course you are in charge. ”

"Thank you Dad. As he spoke, my son pounced on me, almost toppling over with his chair. He said, "I'm going to get the money quickly, but how can I get it?"

"You take your mother's ID card, go to the post office, and fill in the card number on the back to collect the person on your behalf. ”

My son ran away, but my heart swelled up......

At the end of school, my son came in with two bags of snacks and said, "Dad, it's a lot of fun for my friends." ”

"What's fun?"

"I'm earning a manuscript fee!"

"What does it have to do with your friends when you earn manuscript fees?"

"It doesn't matter, 'share the blessings and the difficulties' friends are waiting for me to buy delicious food!"

"How many bucks did it cost?"

"All spent. ”

"Oh, that's heroic. ”

"Of course. When Mr. Liu gave me the manuscript bill, I was so happy that I promised to buy delicious food for my good friends. ”

"How do you know I'm going to give you the money?"

"By feeling. ”

"It's right to earn a manuscript and share it with your friends. Did you buy food for the teacher?"

"Nope. That's all there are left for these two bags of tofu strips. ”

"The teacher teaches knowledge and helps you grow your skills, and I think there should be a teacher's share in the food. ”

"Dad, I see. ”

I don't know what kind of emotions my son is now, but I know very well the impact of the main tone of film and television culture on my son. "Sharing blessings and hardships" is an integral part of Chinese culture, but it is easy to create special interest groups to trample on the system and undermine the law, which is an obstacle for the Chinese nation to move towards a harmonious society.

In the evening, the wife said happily: "Husband, I really obey you." Others try to make the child learn to be obedient, but you make him more wild, and others let the child learn to write essays in the composition class, but you let him write what he thinks in play. Now you can earn money in national publications, which is something that many teachers have never experienced, and it seems that your messy and angry methods are really useful. ”

"Actually, it's nothing, I just respect the psychological and neural needs of children's growth. ”

"You say respect for the growing nervous need, why haven't I heard of it?"

"Oh, I've read a lot of reports on neuroscience over the years, and I have a kind of meditation, but I can't articulate it. ”

"Behind your, sometimes I think there's some truth to it. The wife said.

"I always feel that a single knowledge learning can only make people circulate at a low level of survival from beginning to end. However, once a person has the heart to seek to accomplish something with knowledge, he will move further and further towards the spiritual realm. And the critical period that determines the spiritual quality is before the age of twelve. I said.

A week passed. At noon that day, I had dinner at my mother's house. Mother said: "Xixi, Grandma Duan's Bobo and Xingxing both scored 100 points in the test that day, you have been studying for so long, why hasn't grandma heard that you have scored 100 points?"

Bobo and Xingxing are the grandsons of their mother's neighbor's grandmother's family. Bobo is in the third grade and Xingxing is in the first grade.

The son stopped eating, raised his head, looked at his grandmother, and wanted to say something, but said nothing.

After returning from his grandmother's house, his son was very serious about studying for a few days. "Wang Xile, how has your study changed in the past few days?" I asked.

"Nothing," he said, shrugging his shoulders.

This went on for more than a week. I felt a power flowing through him.

It's mid-March. It was a Tuesday, and the weather was windless and pleasant. After school at noon, I stood in front of the office window, the spring sun conveyed passion to the earth, and the students' steps had the taste of dance rhyme, which made people feel infinitely young.

"Why hasn't my son come yet," said his wife.

"It's coming. I said. The wife got up from her office chair and leaned forward and said, "This kid is coming home late, and he has to take care of it." ”

"Strict management is necessary for the little doll, the child needs to understand the rules in the common sense of life, and the strict management that does not conform to the rationality will eliminate the child's vitality. I said seriously.

"Here you go again. If it is not strictly managed, the students will not be messed up. Now it is difficult for Wang Xile to eat, and like him, the world is not in chaos. My wife sneered at me.

At this time, the son ran into the office out of breath. His cheeks flushed, his eyes lit up, his blood boiled, and he stared at his eyes and said excitedly, "I scored a hundred points in the exam." ”

"I'll see", my wife walked over quickly, and bumped me on the shoulder as she passed me, and I felt quite heavy. It is true that my son scored 100 points in the math unit test, which was his first 100 points since he started school.

"Wang Xile, this is your first 100 points, so celebrate well?" said his wife.

"No, I don't. Hurry home, I have to tell my grandmother. ”

The son was happy, but what he was happy about was not exactly that he had scored 100 points. Going to report the good news to his grandmother shows that his son has a tendency to subconsciously build a spiritual world from his own sensory world. Only by building their fortress there can one be spiritually liberated in the future.

"Grandma, I scored 100 points in math. These were the first words of the son when he came to his mother's house.

"My good grandson, grandma is so happy, the grandson of the Duan family can score 100 points, and the grandson of our Wang family can also be examined. Mother said mercilessly.

Oh my God! Comparing children with scores, not only parents, teachers, and society, but even grandmothers in their sixtieth year, how can this make children live! I stood there stunned, like wood.

On Friday, my son brought another 100 marks in the Chinese unit test paper. Now grandma has to reward money.

"Grandma, it's not about money. The son said.

"Take it, good grandson, I got a hundred points in the exam, and grandma is so happy. Anyone's grandmother will be rewarded. ”

My son looked at my face and firmly refused my grandmother's reward, but I knew that my mother's actions must have been learned from someone else.

In the days when I used to play games, my son would go to the computer immediately after dinner, but today it has changed. He slowly walked over to his desk and stood there. I saw that the child was on my mind and asked, "Joy, what are you thinking?"

"Didn't think about anything. ”

"Not true. You're thinking about things, and it's things you can't figure out. "I say for sure.

The son was silent for a while, and said, "Dad, I scored 100 points in Chinese and mathematics this week, and the teacher praised me, hoping that I will continue to work hard, study hard, and don't let other classmates surpass, now I want to study and play games, I don't know which one is right?"

My son has a potential quality that is growing. But something that sounded reasonable in exam-oriented education was leading his thinking about learning into a deep rapids-like danger. With the encouragement of the teacher, once the child's heart is 100 points in the test, once he has the mentality of comparing others with his scores, then his spiritual path when he is a student will gradually enter the danger of being attacked from all sides. The reason is simple: on the one hand, students always want to use scores to defeat others, and others will naturally want to beat you in turn, and it is difficult for score winners to understand the difficulties of others from different perspectives when they grow up. On the other hand, in the atmosphere of the first score, as soon as you walk into the classroom, you will naturally feel that there is a silent battle all around you, and over time, no one can get rid of the fate of psychological fatigue, and it is common to be wary of others in the future, not good at communication, and even indifferent. Once this emotion develops to a serious level, the child does not want to speak in the face of his parents, and if anyone bears this emotion, he will take the initiative to block many roads to life. Thinking of this, I said, "Joy, why were you studying so seriously some time ago?"

"To prove to my grandmother that I can score 100 points. ”

"Now that you've reached your goal, what are you going to do?"

"Didn't I ask you, I don't know what to do?"

"It is a very rare quality for a child to be able to consult with adults or seek advice from others. I want to ask: Do you study to be better than others?"

"It's not. But the teacher often said that. ”

"Let me ask you, the teacher's words are so good, can he talk about environmental pollution?"

"No, you can't. ”

"What does that mean?"

"This, this, this ......," the son said, glaring.

"A teacher's knowledge is limited, and what he says is not always correct. Learning is not to surpass others, but to enrich oneself. It's not right for you to compare your scores to your classmates to get praise from your teacher, that kind of praise is pitiful, and it's even more wrong to play nothing in order to keep 100 points. Joy, do you know the polar phenomena on Earth?"

"What's it?"

"It is men and women, north and south, red and black, etc., which make up the breath of life on earth. What do you mean by the polarity of man?"

"Yes, yes, yes. The son was speechless, but he was inspired to understand, and said, "It is sleep and wake up." ”

"What does sleeping and waking mean?"

"I don't know. ”

"Sleep is rest, wake up is work. Learning to rest is the other half of a person's knowledge. Do you remember the last time you looked for those two circles at the entrance of the middle school building?"

"Yes. ”

"Can you see learning clearly when you stand in the middle of learning?"

"I can't see clearly. ”

"Remember, joy, that whatever you see in your eyes is worth learning. Book knowledge is only one aspect. ”

"Dad, I see. ”

"Joy, Daddy doesn't want you to study for a class rank, if that means your brain is controlled by something. Daddy only wants to see you at two points. ”

"Which two?"

"First, pay attention to the lectures in class, ask more questions, and take the initiative to study for an hour at home; second, you can actively cooperate with others while playing, especially in playing games, you should improve as soon as possible. ”

"Why?"

"Because my dad didn't know much about modern games before, he now knows that games are smart clickers. Play the game three times a week for a fixed amount of time so that it can temper your self-control. This Friday, I think you know what to do. ”

The son nodded, his eyes brightened, and the light breeze caused by his running to the back room was pleasant. Oh, in Wen Xin's home, the laughter of the little master playing games sounded, which intertwined the love of father and son and melted the troubles of growing up.