When I came back from Beijing, I asked my son to ask a teacher to make up for the missed lessons, but he rejected this idea. He said he could make it up.

Two weeks later, my son took his midterm exams. That day, he turned pale and said that he didn't do well in the midterm exam, and begged us to forgive him in a pleading tone. I took the paper and looked at it: 78 points in Chinese and 83 points in mathematics.

I shuddered and said, "Is this the worst grade in the class?"

"Almost!" The son whispered.

"Is it that I missed too many classes when I went to Beijing?"

"No," my son said puzzled, "I can understand most of the classes that I missed when I went to Beijing, and I asked the teacher if I didn't understand the parts." When I took the exam, I thought I would do it, but there were many mistakes in the exam. It's really annoying that the exam has been like this during this time!"

The son bowed his head in shame.

The early winter sun shone in through the window, and there was a deathly silence in all directions, and there was a "bang" sound, and the wife took the roll angrily, she did not speak, but her teeth were clenched.

"Rejoice, a bad test score doesn't mean you can't study. The problem is not in learning. "I cheered for my son, and I was relieved for my wife.

"Why?" asked the son.

"You're all right about the next question," I said, "the point is that you don't make too many mistakes, you answer the paper too hastily, and you don't concentrate enough." After the exam, let's analyze the test papers. ”

The wife coldly handed over the roll and turned to go into the back room.

After analyzing the test papers, my son quietly told me that I would have a parent-teacher conference in the afternoon, and I said that I couldn't attend the class in the afternoon and let my mother go. He was embarrassed and said, "Mom will definitely be angry if she goes." ”

I looked at it, patted him on the shoulder and said, "Joy, I'll adjust the class in the afternoon and make sure to attend the parent-teacher conference." ”

In the afternoon parent-teacher meeting, Ms. Liu introduced the mid-term exam in a frustrated tone, and the students' test scores dropped from the average score of 96 and 7 points in the past to 87 and 8 points. What happened next is something that I can't emotionally accept in this life. The children in the class stood in front of the room, as if listening to the verdict of the court! One by one, they read their own checks. We want to inject learning beliefs into children in this way, and dream of making the Chinese nation have a lifelong learning folk custom, which is not a big joke!

Listening to my son's examination, I broke out in a cold sweat. Because this is the first time I have heard my son confess to someone in public, "I can't do it, I fail." ”

In the parent-teacher conference, the teacher does not communicate with the parents about the problems in the child's growth, and blindly reprimands and complains to the parents on the basis of poor test results, which is completely upside down from the purpose of the parent-teacher conference!

Children in the third grade are observing the society with their own eyes and distinguishing things with their own brains, which can be unit exams, weekly exams, monthly exams, random exams, subject competitions, mid-term exams, final exams, ...... Become everything in life.

The children finished their check-ups and went out one by one. Teachers of various subjects have repeatedly said that the third grade is a transition period for learning, and the curriculum is also difficult, and parents must manage their children tightly, otherwise the consequences will be unimaginable. Then, Ms. Liu took a few excellent homework books for parents to read. The so-called excellent homework is nothing more than more rigorous training.

After Mr. Liu finished speaking, he stepped down from the podium to communicate with parents. She walked up to me, sighed, shook her head, and walked over, I understood her mood at this point.

After the exchange, the parents' faces were even more ugly, and the children were also called into the classroom again, and the "color" on the faces of some parents could not be hung up at that time. My son walked up to me, I patted him on the shoulder, and said calmly: "Wang Xile, the midterm exam did not hit a record low, and the study is very hard, so you must have the confidence to persevere." My son looked at me with joy, and I said, "Joy, Daddy has gone beforehand." Go home early in the afternoon. ”

In the evening, my son finishes his homework. I said, "Joy, setbacks and failures are common in life, you don't have to worry about your academic performance declining, the key now is that your heart is in turmoil, and the quality of your study for an hour a day has declined." ”

"Yes, yes. The son said, "Dad, our classmates are miserable today!"

"Why?"

"After the parent-teacher conference, several classmates were beaten, and the most pitiful were a few good friends who played with me. ”

"Parents attach great importance to their children's learning, and so does Dad. Children's ability to learn plays a decisive role in personal happiness, family well-being, and national honor and disgrace, and if no one wants to learn, then 'unexpected cruelty' will happen again. ”

My son winked, he didn't understand what I said.

When I came home from school at noon the next day, my son said, "Teacher Liu said that I wrote my homework very seriously yesterday and asked me if I had been beaten when I went home." ”

"I didn't beat you, I didn't scold you, why did you do your homework seriously?"

"Some students in our class scored more than 90 points in mathematics and Chinese, and they were beaten by his mother. ”

"Exams are like battles, victory or defeat is common sense. As long as you are good at summing up experience, you will definitely be able to do it in the end. ”

"I will. The son said solemnly.

I think back to my son's sudden rise in second grade, which made me feel satisfied, and I had a tendency to solve his problems and thought that he would move forward smoothly in the future, but I didn't expect that the original beauty of entering the third grade collapsed, and it verified the saying "There is no eternal thing in life". Now, more influences in life are re-launched on the new platform of children's progress, growth is changeable, children are changeable, and son's academic performance is a reality, and now the most important thing is to let his mind retreat to a position that is not easy to attack, and minimize the harm caused to his son by learning. I think that in order to prevent this situation from worsening, I want to improve the weaknesses in my life in order to achieve psychological stability.

What is the son's weakness?

After analysis, I think the following three points are the weakest points of my son: first, the quality of my son's bedmaking is not good, second, he is addicted to eating snacks and drinks, and third, the child does not have a correct view of money.

In the evening, I said, "Joy, Daddy will show you an example, and you will clean up your bed according to this standard." ”

"Dad, why don't you fold the quilt in the morning?"

My son asked me with a big open mouth, his face was hot, and he didn't know how to answer for a while, but I knew that parents were not the best strategy for educating their children. I stood for a moment and said, "Joy, you have a great question, but Daddy can't answer it right now, can you give Daddy a day to think about it?"

"Okay. ”

Children are synonymous with "problems". He is full of curiosity about everything around him, and his childlike questions are the starting point of all knowledge and the source of a healthy outlook on life. As they get older, their problems become acute. How to answer children's questions is the most important knowledge in education. The next day, my son came home at noon and said:

"Dad, have you thought about yesterday's question?"

"I've thought about it. ”

"Why don't I fold the quilt neatly and you don't?"

"Joy, you drank this wine. ”

"Children get stupid when they drink. ”

"If you can't drink alcohol, smoke a cigarette!"

"You can't smoke cigarettes either. ”

"Then don't go to school in the afternoon, let's play games at home. ”

"No, I can't. You can ask other uncles to teach you for you, and no one can study for me. ”

"That's weird! There are so many things that adults can do, why can't children do them?!"

"Adults are not the same as children. ”

"Well said," I said, "is it okay for a child to do things better than an adult?"

"No, I can't. ”

"Adults already have a certain fixed habit, like dad has a fixed habit of reading, do you have it?"

"Nope. ”

"Good deeds require hard work. There was nothing on the child. Good things should be learned from adults, and bad things should be criticized, so that they can make progress from generation to generation. ”

"Dad, I see. ”

"Got something. ”

"I understand that it's not right to fold a quilt with my dad. ”

"Why?"

"You have self-control and I don't. So I was wrong. ”

"What a smart doll, there is no difficulty that you can't overcome"

"Dad, the quilt is too big for me to fold. ”

"It doesn't matter, as long as you keep it, you will definitely be able to fold it after three months. ”

My son and I sat side by side, chatting happily about family matters, and from time to time we nodded and smiled at each other in a friendly way, and the light of family love flashed on our faces, which made him indulge in the warm world of home.

In the morning, "Wang Xile, you folded the quilt in a pile, it's so interesting." Before I could finish my sentence, my wife came and said, "Are you embarrassed to say, can he fold such a big quilt?"

"Joy, isn't your mom right?"

"Not true. ”

"Why?"

"Do your own thing. ”

The wife is an ordinary girl, she has many beautiful visions for the future life, she is full of femininity, and she is very good at housework. Since having a child, she has worked day and night for this family. Today, as usual, she helps her son make his bed, but he doesn't sell her account. The wife said unexpectedly:

"Kindness is a donkey's liver and lungs. Let's see who helps you later. ”

In the cool air, we eagerly walked towards the school.