An incident happened while visiting the Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum in Nanjing, and it was the biggest educational challenge I faced. Here's how it happened: On that day, a group of more than 50 of us came to the Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum. Finding a way to let children evade tickets is a vice of the Chinese, which sows the seeds of system destruction in the children's minds from an early age. When they entered, six or seven children who had come with him took advantage of the fact that they had not noticed and got under the iron railing, and when Wang Xile found out about this, he quickly ran over and stood outside the iron railing and shouted the names of the children to let them out. There were so many tourists that it was impossible for the management to know which child had gotten in. Being a thief is a common psychology of all people. The children were called back by Wang Xile. At that time, I told Wang Xile to stop shouting, he seemed to be enchanted and couldn't listen to me at all. In this way, the children spent a few hundred dollars on the entrance fee. The adults were angry and ridiculous about Wang Xile's behavior. A very qualified veteran teacher said:

"Wang Xile, how good it is for us to eat a big meal of this money, it depends on your trouble. ”

At that time, I was also angry, glaring at my son with my eyes and pointing my finger at his head, thinking about something to say.

Before my voice came out, Wang Xile said angrily: "Dad, don't you always teach me to be honest and have the spirit of abiding by the rules, they have violated the rules, is it wrong for me to stop them?"

Wang Xile's words were like another bombshell dropped in an embattled situation. I felt a very strong shock wave rushing towards me, this is a big question related to the child's lifelong ideology, I must immediately give the correct answer, there is no way back. My body temperature skyrocketed, my sweat was running down, my brain was running at high speed, but I didn't have the slightest idea about this acute question. I felt panicked, my head was a little dizzy, and my body seemed to be a little disobedient.

"Dad, what's wrong with you, you're angry with me, am I really wrong?" asked the son softly.

"Joy, you're right, you're doing the right thing, but there's something wrong with it," I said, "and your question is so good and so sharp, Dad has never faced such a big challenge, and I feel a lot of pressure on me, as if I can't answer your question." ”

"Dad, don't answer well, I'm not like that anymore, your face has changed, let's go sit there first. The son said with concern.

After a while, the tour group gathered, and it was time to move on. The wife was very unhappy by everyone's words because of the child's affairs. My wife told me to follow the guide, and I wanted to be alone for a while, so I walked very slowly with my son. My wife impatiently urged me to say that I couldn't keep up with the tour guide's explanation, so I couldn't know what it was? His wife was angry and said, "Wang Jianhua, don't want me to go out with you in the future, it's really not interesting to talk to you." ”

My wife left angrily, but her extreme actions gave me a little inspiration. I said, "Joy, you go with your mother alone, and when you reach the top of the Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum, your father will definitely be able to answer your questions." ”

Wang Xile left, but my wife's extreme way of anger pushed my thinking to be flexible: my son's actions were morally correct, but from a natural point of view, they violated the principle of symbiosis of opposites. If everything in life puts morality in the first place, then when you need a helper to start a business, you will fall into a "lonely person" situation, because absolute morality is integrated into one, and the result is "clear water without fish", because people are a combination of reason and animal nature, and people with different good and evil natures take on different things, so that things can be balanced. In human society, everyone must admit that the coexistence of good and evil is a kind of perfection, and everyone must admit that there is no such thing as a perfect person with good and evil, and perfection is like day and night, although it is one, but the boundaries are clear. The problem is that how to teach people to recognize the line between good and evil and use it for good is a very simple process of educational evolution.

As early as 2,000 years ago, Sima Qian used his godlike pen to vividly reveal that Xiang Yu, a gentleman who told the truth, was going to be defeated by Liu Bang, a hooligan who told lies. Even when our great leader, Mao Weiren, saw his favorite "Water Margin" among the trophies of war on the Long March, he was "cheeky" and embarrassed to take away the book like a child under the gaze of Premier Zhou! Everyone in the world has advantages and weaknesses, so the honest education of children has gone to the extreme, and in fact it is extremely detrimental to his growth, after all, social life has long proved that the teaching of "telling the truth and not suffering losses" is unrealistic and has ethical and theoretical defects. Telling the truth without suffering a loss smacks of pragmatism, which is an ethical weakness. To be honest, there are those who do not suffer losses and those who suffer losses, and those who suffer more often than those who do not suffer losses are theoretical weaknesses. Therefore, the honest education of children cannot evolve into "honest education." "People are complex, honesty can only be in a state of selflessness to dedicate oneself to the truth, with the truth to change human nature, so that honesty will not go to extremes, will not enter the situation of high and low out of life, thinking of this, I am full of confidence to stride forward.

When I got to the top of the mountain, I talked about the Republic of China for Wang Xile for a while, and then the topic changed, "Xile, my father was happy about your noble behavior just now," I stepped forward and kissed him, and then said, "Your behavior is as fearless and heroic as Mr. Sun, but there is something wrong with it." ”

"No. That's not right?"

"Joy, Daddy tells you a story that you are familiar with, and you can taste it from the story. ”

"Dad. Speak. ”

"Li Shimin captured Luoyang City. Wang Shichong, the king of Luoyang, was killed in battle, and his brother-in-law Shan Xiongxin was floated. Because Shan Xiongxin is a good man in Wagang, Li Shimin can be said to be benevolent and righteous in order to persuade Shan Xiongxin to vote. ”

Li Shimin knelt down for Shan Xiongxin. The son rushed to say.

"Yes. Did Li Shimin kneel down and persuade him to vote?" I asked.

"Nope. Shan Xiong vowed not to surrender, and said that he would recruit troops again to find Li Shimin for revenge. The son replied even more forcefully.

"And then?"

Li Shimin released Shan Xiongxin and allowed him to recruit troops and horses to seek revenge on him. Shan Xiongxin walked out of the door of the Zhongjun Mansion, thinking that his Wagang brothers had all followed Li Shimin, and that all parts of the world belonged to Li Shimin, so where could he recruit troops and buy horses to take revenge! Thinking of this Shan Xiongxin's heart, he was extremely painful, he pulled out his sword and kissed himself in front of the door of the Zhongjun Mansion. ”

"And then?"

"Shan Xiongxin just died, and Qin Qiong happened to come back from recuperation. When he saw Shan Xiongxin's corpse, he remembered how Shan Xiongxin helped him in the past, and he was very sad and cried. He said, 'Our Wagang brothers have sworn an oath and made a covenant, and now that the single brother is gone without a reason, what is the point of us going to war!' After speaking, Qin Qiong said goodbye to Li Shimin. ”

"And then?"

As soon as the Wagang brothers saw that Qin Qiong was leaving, they followed suit. ”

"And then?"

Li Shimin was anxious. He ran out of the Zhongjun Mansion and said, "Brothers, the death of the eldest brother is the fault of the younger brother. People can't be resurrected after death, it's not too late for you to bury Big Brother Shan's body and leave!"

"And then?"

When Qin Qiong heard this, she thought to herself, if we all leave, who will go to the ground for a single brother!"

"And then?"

Qin Qiong led the Wagang generals back to the Zhongjun Mansion. Li Shimin issued three orders in a row: 1. The three armies bring filial piety. 2. Shan Xiongxin's funeral was handled according to the specifications of the royal prince. 3. Give Shan Xiongxin's son as the king, and all the taxes in Luoyang City will be owned by Shan Xiongxin's wife and children, and they will be replaced forever. ”

"And then?"

Qin Qiong and the others stopped leaving as soon as they saw Li Shimin seeing the Wagang brothers like this, and vowed to follow Li Shimin to fight the world. ”

"But Li Shimin broke the royal family rules, and it stands to reason that it is not right. ”

Although Li Shimin broke the family rules, he gained many friends and laid the foundation for the country. The son said.

"Did Li Shimin use tough military regulations to get Qin Qiong and them to stay?"

"It's not. ”

"What's that?"

"It's like feelings. ”

"Yes, it's feelings. Joy, you always remember: man is an animal of feelings, rules are dead, feelings are alive, and if things want to move forward, they must find the best way to compromise between rules and feelings. ”

"Dad, I seem to understand. ”

"Joy, do you know Matsushita?"

In order for my son to better understand the problem between rules and emotions, I quickly introduced modern things.

"Yes. It's a Japanese thing. ”

"Panasonic, the founder of Panasonic Enterprises, and a good friend of Panasonic Ventures, once accidentally started a fire that burned most of Panasonic's property. The system of Japanese companies is very strict, do you think Panasonic should punish this friend according to the rules and regulations?"

"Yes. ”

"Do you think Matsushita punished him?"

"It's fine. Such a serious event can go unpunished. ”

"You're wrong," I said, "after the accident, Matsushita patted his friend on the shoulder and said just one sentence - let's do it." ”

"Why?"

"Joy, do you always want to do well when you study at your worst?"

"Yes. ”

"Now that you are learning and improving, are you 'forced' by the teacher or the class system?"

"It's not. ”

"Everything can only be prosperous if it is in parallel with the system. A good system is empty without emotional support. "At this time, a photograph from the Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum caught my attention. I said, "Joy, do you say that Mr. Sun can beat animals?"

"If you don't fight, you definitely won't fight, how can someone as great as Mr. Sun fight animals?!"

"Joy, look at this picture. ”

"Mr. Sun really fights animals, and he fights with a group of people!" The son said puzzled.

"Do you think it's important to have a few rabbits, or is it important to unite thousands of troops to build a new country?"

"It is important to build a new nation. ”

This photo is a record of Mr. Sun's use of hunting to connect with each other, and then unite thousands of troops. Sometimes, a small thing can be a wrong thing, and it will be exchanged for greater support, as long as the selfless wrong thing can also be turned into a good thing through service. I pointed to the photo and said far-fetched for Wang Xile. He said thoughtfully in the photo:

"I really had something wrong with falling out with the kids just now. ”

After Wang Xile finished speaking, he turned around and ran forward. When I came down from the Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum, my son was happily playing with the children, and the smile returned to his wife's face......