On the first day of class in the new semester, I met Ms. Liu on the way to work at noon, and she was a little disappointed when she talked about Wang Xile. She is a teacher who always wants her students to improve. After I said that my son passed his summer homework in the summer, Mr. Liu, who never laughed, also laughed. She told me that there was a significant increase in the number of students who had not completed their summer homework this semester, and at that time I thought that Wang Xile's homework was improvised, and I reluctantly said that he had passed. In the second grade, you must hurry up with your studies, and once you fall behind, it will be difficult to catch up.

Mr. Liu graduated from the old middle school teacher, and those teachers can be said to be the most capable group of people in China's basic education, and they have a deep affection for education work. Teacher Liu, they used the scores to taste the sweetness of education, and I seemed to have left the original position and some civilizations behind the position, and began to be in another slightly different world.

After school in the afternoon, my son talked about the punishment of Chen Zhi and several other classmates for not finishing their homework. I interjected and said, "Stop laughing at people, think about yourself." I met Teacher Liu at noon, and she said that she took pity on you. ”

The son was woken up in a deep sleep, and was taken aback, his tongue became stiff, and he asked in a daze, "Ah, you met Teacher Liu?!".

"Of course. ”

"Teacher Liu also said in the class that he would spare me for the first time, and he would never be polite in the future. The son's eyes were like twinkling little stars, and they suddenly burrowed into the misty clouds.

"Joy, you have been away for as many as twenty-five days on vacation, and it is already a great thing to be able to complete your homework in terms of quantity, which shows that you are serious about your homework. I said it in a matter-of-fact tone.

"Seriously! The teacher said I was the least serious!" my son stood at the end of the line. He was confused by the fact that my teacher and I had different moods and the same evaluation of "seriousness".

Come home from school in the afternoon. I said, "Joy, it's time to do the computer play twice a week that you discussed during the summer vacation?"

My questioning made my son stunned.

"Oh, it's the first time I've heard you're in business. The wife said in an indescribable tone.

The happy son is gone. In front of him was a troubled little unlucky guy with gray eyes. It seems that children are not naturally immune to playing. "Joy, don't you want to?" I said, patting him on the shoulder, "If you have any ideas, let's talk about it." ”

The son's eyes flashed with water, and he whispered, "Can you play three times a week?"

The child is the age of playfulness, and he should not be disappointed in playing. If you lose play, children will naturally lose their childhood, and they will naturally have a lot of distress, and when they grow up, they will naturally have many gray thoughts about life. It is the family's responsibility to remove this distress for him. I said, "Yes." However, the timing is up to me. ”

"What's the matter?" the son asked.

"Wednesday, Friday, Saturday three days play. Wednesday night at half past nine must go to bed. Whether you can play or not depends on the completion of your homework, and the other two days are arranged by yourself. ”

Once the child's heart is satisfied, it will immediately react from the modal. He constantly changed the TV channel and moved his limbs between the kitchen and the living room. The wife said:

"Wang Xile, what kind of nerves are you doing!"

The son did not answer his wife's words. After a pause, he said, "Dad, am I going out to play or doing my homework at home?"

"What do you mean?" I asked.

"At the rate at which I write my homework, it's impossible to play on the computer on Wednesday. I wondered if it would be cost-effective to go to the building after dinner. ”

"Of course it's not cost-effective. Because from Monday to Thursday, when you go to the building, most of the time you run empty. I said.

"Dad, how do you know?"

Actually, I just said it casually, but I didn't expect my son to affirm my words immediately. I took advantage of the situation and said, "Whose children are in a hurry to study, even on Saturdays and Sundays, it is not too easy to find a few children to play with, let alone normal." ”

"That is. ”

"If you want to play games on Wednesdays, you can only improve your homework. ”

For two days in a row, after dinner, my son stopped talking about going to the building to play. On Wednesday afternoon, when the sun was still hanging high in the west, my son came from elementary school, and I asked him curiously if there was anything wrong, and he said, "Today is Wednesday and I can play on the computer." Go home early. ”

"Is your homework done?"

"Nope. ”

"You can't go home until the end of work, you do your homework in the office, and I'll do training for the students. ”

There was disappointment in his son's eyes.

When it was time to get off work, I came to the office to see that my son's homework hadn't been written a few times. "It took so long to write about this?" I asked.

"I can't write, my mind is full of games. My son sensed that I was a little disappointed with his homework, smiled apologetically, and said, "After dinner, I have to write hard." ”

Child, I don't think about the difficult factors of beautiful things at all, and the only thing that remains in my heart is the blank of beautiful things.

After dinner, my son went to do his homework. After writing for a while, I will go to the back room. I asked, "If it's not good, why are you running around?"

"Look at the time, I hurry up and do my homework. ”

I was helpless and didn't want to say anything, I always thought it was a sin to educate children with great truths.

After finishing his homework, his son rushed to the computer, and it was only a minute or two, "Dad, it's half past nine, and I can't play the game." My son cried to me. I was overwhelmed and wanted to reason, but there was no reason. I said, "Joy, dad can't help it in the face of the clock, it's not Dad who has the final say on whether he can play or not, but time." ”

"Dad, it's you who have the final say, and Mom says the same. ”

My son has an affection for the game.

"Rejoice, it's a promise to promise a plan. Which of the heroes in 'Water Margin' and 'Sui and Tang Dynasties' did not keep their promises? Keeping promises and talking counts is the same truth. ”

I pushed my son into the bedroom. He didn't want to fall asleep and pleaded, "Daddy let me play for ten minutes, just ten minutes!"

"Whether you can play or not is only decided by the clock. I said nervously, "Joy, I could have played the game today, but you didn't take advantage of it." ”

"What chance?"

"In the afternoon, I told you to hurry up and do your homework, and you thought about the evening, and in the evening, you would look at the time, and then you would waste your time. If you can restrain yourself next week and improve the use of time, you can play, and only by increasing your ability to overcome difficulties can you do things with good results. ”

No way, the son turned to his bed. Originally, it was a kind of happiness for me to talk to him, but now I am afraid to say anything more. Whether my son wanted it or not, I read the story in "The Myth of Silla", but my son turned his body and turned his face inward, without saying a word. I think my son was looking forward to hearing the phrase "you can play for a while", but I never had the courage to say it. Education must allow children to find themselves spiritually and to manage themselves.

When I got up the next day, I turned on the stereo and played music. Bel canto makes me can't help but connect with the beautiful imagination of children's progress. "Dad, sign. My son came over with his homework book and said. The melody of beauty is "gone" at once, and his homework is too messy. I said angrily, "Why is it so messy?"

"Writing too fast to play with the computer. The son whispered.

"Isn't studying seriously for the sake of playing games?" I cried out angrily.

The son was very aggrieved. I signed him angrily.

On the way to work, I was very uneasy, and I always felt that Mr. Liu would let my son come to me. I waited in the office in a daze. After the first class, a kind of embarrassment welled up in my heart. I am also a teacher who lives in a state of test-oriented education, and when the teacher criticizes a naughty child, it shows that there is still hope for the child, but when the teacher doesn't want to say anything, the situation is not good. At this time, Mr. Zhang, a political teacher, was criticizing several high school students, and I laughed in the growing reprimand, because several of the students who were criticized were definitely masters of scores in junior high school, and when they grew up, they stopped studying. It shows that the previous excellence of these children is false and does not belong to the source of their hearts. Thinking of this, my heart feels a little brighter.

After school at noon, my son came to my office with his homework book and said that he had been punished for his homework. I looked at the two big words "redo" written on the notebook, and was about to speak, when my son said, "That's not all, every typo from the previous few days will be punished." How can I finish it!"

My son is most afraid of writing. I was surprised and said, "That's a good thing!"

"Can it be a good thing to be punished for homework?!"

"This is a great opportunity for you to improve your homework skills. Once you've practiced, you'll be able to play on the computer on Wednesday. ”

"It seems to be. The son muttered quietly.

"As long as you can do your homework every day, you'll be able to play on the computer on Wednesdays. ”

"Hurry up and go home and catch up on your homework. The son said.

Penalty homework turns bad things into good things by changing perspectives. It enlightened me that children have great inner vitality, but they have not yet found something that he identities with, and education is to help children find this identity. Adults simply cannot control the child's enthusiasm for searching, but can only cooperate with him and develop this enthusiasm, so that the child who grows up will not be open to his mistakes and will have the ability to learn from his mistakes and improve himself.

Wednesday of the second week is fast approaching. As soon as it was time to get off work, my son came to my office and said, "Dad, hurry up and go home." After that, I went upstairs to find my mother. In less than ten minutes, the wife came down from upstairs. The wife smiled and said, "Look at your son, the computer was forcibly shut down for me, and the pen was snatched away." "What else can I say when I see this.

On the way home, the sun in the west was dressed by floating clouds like a red-faced woman—hazy and powerful. I have a clear sense of the fact that children's troubles are the ladder of progress in life.

As soon as he entered the house, his son first put away his schoolbag and chair, and then said with a smile: "Dad, Mom, I made it clear early that I won't do any work today, and you don't talk to me, I have to hurry up and do my homework." ”

"Oh! what a beautiful thing to say, as if you were the one who did the work. The wife said, "It's the same as your old man - one is more lazy than the other, and the one is lazier than the other." ”

After a while, we couldn't hear my son's voice, so we went to the study to see that he was holding a pencil in his right hand and an eraser in his left hand, and he was singing in his homework book with the tip of his pen. The wife said: "My son has run into a ghost, and he has never done his homework in this way. ”

"He's got a target. I said.

"What's the goal?"

"Play the game. ”

"What is this target?"

"From an adult's point of view, play is the natural enemy of children's learning, and from a child's point of view, it is the most important thing in life. ”

"What do you think you can do to get your child to learn like a game?" asked his wife.

"I don't know about that. I said, "I just know that the most important thing is how to get my son to finish his homework early and play games today." ”

"Doing homework for the sake of playing games, how does this look like a student?!"

"You don't care so much. In any case, the more things that can motivate a child to consciously relate to learning, the more opportunities he has to recognize learning and generate the requirements for learning. ”

"I don't understand what you're saying. All I know is that doing homework to play games is unheard of. The wife said, "Forget it, I can't talk about you." Let's eat. ”

"Cakes, porridge, bean sprouts, open rice. I learned the tone of the shopkeeper on TV, and called my son to eat across the room, and I didn't come out for a long time, I went to the study to invite, and he said reasonably:

"The porridge is hot, so it's cold first. It's too much of a waste of time to go out now. ”

My son's words shocked me. In order to fight for fun, the little time of the cold meal was taken into account. In order to play the game before half past nine, my son is willing to improve his homework skills and try his best to save time. This kind of thinking is the core energy of life, and it can teach people to progress, which is a natural mystery. It seems that the motivation for learning is not in learning itself.

After a while, "Mom, is the food cold?" the son shouted in the study.

"Don't say it's cold, it's all cold, and it has to be hot. ”

As soon as he finished speaking, his son rushed over and said, "Don't be hot, you have to lose time." He picked up the bowl and divided it by two, solved the "battle", and ran back to the study.

We had just finished our housework, and my son was like an atomic bomb exploding, and he said "Hurray", which startled me.

"It's so fast, it's just seven o'clock. I said uncomfortably, "Are you going to rewrite it tomorrow?"

"How can I be? ”

My son brought me the homework book, and I wanted to reason with him, and he went to play the game upside down. "The game is closer than Lao Tzu. The wife said.

"That's right. A child is not a child if he does not have a hobby of playing. I said.

My wife didn't expect me to say that. Angry said, "Thank you so much." Whose children develop a hobby of playing games?"

Alas, although my wife supports me, the children's grades have a strong impact on her. How she hopes that her child can surpass in his grades, but fortunately, her son has improved slightly in his studies.

At nine o'clock, I went into the back room to tell a story and put my child to sleep, but he kicked me out. After a while, well, why didn't the alarm clock go off at half-past nine? I was sure it must have been half-past nine, and when I got to the hallway, it was already ten o'clock. I was puzzled and said, "Wang Xile, why doesn't the alarm clock go off?"

The son smirked. He turned off his computer and went into his room. Shouted: "Dad, come, tell a story." ”

"I want to be beautiful, and I don't want to delay anything. I can only listen to the orders of the clock. I went into his house and said.

"It looks like I can only sleep. The son said happily.

"Joy, I ask a question. ”

"What's the problem?"

"Why did you write your homework so fast today?"

"Oh, in the afternoon, other students played with extracurricular activities, and I wrote in the classroom for a while. ”

"Joy, it's not right to do your homework just to play a game. Whether or not you can play games depends on your ability to do your homework rather than putting in more time, you are a smart child. Smart children do complex things in the simplest way. Dad wants you not to devote your time to school activities to doing your homework. ”

"Dad, it's hard to finish your homework in an hour, and if you don't want to find another way, you won't be able to play the game on Wednesday. ”

"Joy, the skills of the heroes in 'Water Margin' and 'Sui and Tang' are practiced in one day, which is not obtained through hard work, and if you want to play games, you can practice your homework skills on the spot. ”

"I'm going to do my best. ”

The son fell asleep with a satisfied look.

The biggest change in my son in the past two weeks is that he can finish his homework in one breath under supervision. Playing games on Fridays and Saturdays can take a break as long as you talk a few more times, bargain, and make a difference.

Fast forward to the third Wednesday, and the weather was quiet. I thought my son would come to look for us early, but no, we didn't see him after work, so we had to go to the elementary school to look for him. The elementary school campus was empty, and I was wondering, and I vaguely saw a child on the slide, and when I walked by, my son was coaxing himself to play. I said:

"Joy, it's time to go home. ”

My son was reluctant to follow me out of the campus.

When I got home, I thought he would do his homework early, but he played with a 4x4. He'll unload the left side of the car, and he'll unload the right side of the car. Has my son forgotten what day of the week is today? I asked, "Joy, what day of the week is today?"

"Wednesday. ”

"Why don't you do your homework and don't want to play on the computer?"

"Didn't you say last time that you should learn from heroes and heroes and insist on studying for an hour?"

The child's words made me have a feeling of 'close to Zhu is red, close to ink is black', this feeling is floating quickly in my heart, I can't tell you clearly, but I feel that it is a new thing. I said happily, "Joy, you are a heroic child, and you dare to make demands of yourself at such a young age. ”

I talk to my son about racing and he's very talkative, especially when it comes to winning opportunities. After dinner, at eight o'clock he quickly wrote his homework, finished his homework, and ran to the back room. "Dad, it's only five minutes. He came back dejected and said:

"Joy, you have made great progress. This is the first time you can finish your homework in one sitting without being reminded to do it without interruption. ”

"But I still can't play the game. The son said pitifully.

"Life's rewards for people will come in proportion to progress. Today you completed your homework in an hour alone, and the clock rewarded you with twenty-five minutes, plus five minutes of your own, for a total of thirty minutes. I said, "How about going about playing and sleeping for half an hour?"

The son ran away like a rabbit. At ten o'clock I urged him to sleep, and he said pitifully, "Dad, have I beaten this level?"

"Okay, hurry up. I said hesitantly.

After a while, the light in the back room was still on. I used to say, "Joy, children whose words don't count are the least welcome." ”

"Dad, I only have more than 200 rounds of ammunition left, can you finish the fight?"

My son is in the middle of a make-or-break situation, which is completely different from what I said. "Okay," I said.

"Wang Jianhua, come here," his wife's voice came from the living room. When I went over, she said unceremoniously: "Are you nervous, it's past ten o'clock, what are you running over and doing? My son is still playing games, and he has to go to school tomorrow, are you stupid, or are you fine?"

"He still has a bit of a bullet and goes to sleep when he finishes fighting. ”

My wife rolled her eyes at me. A few minutes later, my son turned off his computer and went to sleep. I waited for my son to call me to tell a story, and it was quiet. I said to my wife, "My son has made new progress. ”

"What's the progress?"

He began to think about when it was appropriate to tell a story and what was not. It's a balanced mindset that grows. ”

". He didn't dare. As soon as something gets in your mouth, it becomes a good thing, and if you can talk about your son's test scores, that's the real thing. ”

I didn't pay attention to my wife's words, and I said my sixth sense of feeling that my son and the adult already had a sense of trust in this family, and there was nothing he would not dare to try in the future.