At noon on the 14th of January, his wife told Wang Xile to get ready to go to the study class and go out. The son was upset. How can I help him?

I was lying on the sofa, and at this time I heard a voice shouting, "Wang Jianhua, your son must not go to the intensive class, you must find a way to save him, don't you often say to your son, 'People help themselves, God will help'?"

I got up from the couch with an indescribable pain in my heart. I realized that I had been at home for too long and could not afford to watch my son slip into the quagmire of his school and be abandoned by the new life of diversity and creativity in the 21st century. The kind of rhetoric that "you will not be afraid to learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well and go all over the world" is a kind of thing strengthened by power and planned economy, and it will create a large number of people with bad character in the face of diversity, and it is impossible to last. I walked into the study and saw my son staring at the textbook in a daze and said, "What do you think?"

"I don't think winter vacation will be interesting at all. ”

"Why?"

"The students who go to the study class often say that they are very worried and have no meaning at all, but they dare not listen to the adults. ”

The son's gaze conceals anticipation, his tone contains a desire for freedom, and his demeanor reveals his own insignificance and loneliness. After a while, he asked pitifully, "Dad, am I really stupid?"

"You're not stupid, rejoice. I hurriedly said.

"Then why do I make the same mistake many times, and how can I not compare with others in the exam?"

The son asked a very challenging question.

I cleared my throat, steadied myself, and said, "Joy, many things around you have changed compared to kindergarten and you haven't. You used to get a lot of little red flowers in the kindergarten, which you got by fighting with the children face to face, and now you are sitting there to learn, and it is not a time for children to adapt to it. Like memorizing poems, other classmates have memorized so much, you chase after you from behind, and it doesn't take much effort to surpass, is this something that a stupid kid can do?"

"My classmates and I all came from kindergarten to primary school together, how did they adapt so quickly?"

"Son, your question is very good. I said, "Do many of the children in the kindergarten sign up for various classes early?"

"Yes. ”

"They sit better than you in class and don't make small movements and you're the opposite. Isn't it. ”

"Yes. ”

"You scored 92 points in Chinese, which is excellent, and although you are poor in math, you are all right in the back problems. It shows that you are very good at math. Now you have weaknesses that need to be changed, and as long as the weaknesses change, your academic performance will naturally go up. It's three o'clock, you go out and play. ”

"Nope. I can't play anymore. The teacher said that if you want to study well, you must play less, but I didn't believe it, but now I think the teacher is right. ”

"Joy, learning well is gratifying, but play is also learning, a child has no experience without playing, and there is no growth without experience. Only in play can children experience and learn valuable things, and only when they learn valuable things can they have the ability to become talents in the future. Your skill in playing animation cards is the most brilliant kind of learning, it is the basis of invention and creation, maybe you will become a great inventor like Edison in the future! Do you think about it, do you have the courage to do whatever it takes to do anything in your play?"

"Nope. ”

"That's right. We'll talk about learning later. ”

"Dad, I really don't want to go to the intensive class. The son bowed his head and said.

The words of my son are the struggle for freedom in my heart before the darkness comes, and he calls out to me with his weak life, hoping to get help from my father. My heart warmed up. Suddenly, a voice came from the sky: "Don't you long to nourish your soul?" Don't you look forward to a new life?—— go! Go to life! Go to nature! Although the things there are in a trance, they are the source of life, the source of man's search for self-learning and the source of lifelong learning. It is only in nature that everyone can perceive the mystery of learning, and at that time, human life will be infused with something that is invisible, silent, circulating, and creating all things. The voice was lost.

"Rejoice, go. I said.

"Where are you going?"

"Go to the activity center. ”

"I don't dare. My mother told me to study at home and not to go anywhere. ”

"It's okay, I'll tell your mom when I get back. I can't give you a definite answer right now about going to the school, but I'll do my best to help you. ”

In all fairness. On January 15, 2002, his son and his second aunt came back from Yinchuan, Ningxia to visit relatives, and in order to let his son and his little sister play for more days, the matter of going to the study class was temporarily put down. In those days, I went to the Yanchang Library to check all the information about the junior science and technology classes held by universities across the country. They believe that juvenile college classes are a way of running schools that violates the laws governing the physical and mental development of young people, and that it is a move that costs the people and money. I bring back the valuable things every day for my wife to see. On the afternoon of January 20, I was reading a book about US President Jefferson when a passage made my heart skip a beat. It reads:

U.S. President Jefferson's tombstone inscription written for himself on his deathbed does not mention that he was the president of the United States, but emphasizes that he is the father of the University of Virginia. It can be seen that he attaches more importance to education than politics.

Jefferson believed that primary education was the foundation of a strong country and a prosperous people, because only through primary education could knowledge be widely disseminated to the broad masses of the people.

Education proves to people that happiness does not depend on their living conditions caused by chance alone. On the contrary, it is always the result of conscience, health, effort, and the freedom to pursue all the just pursuits.

There is a time in the life of people, from the age of eight to fifteen or sixteen, when their intellect, like physical strength, is not yet sufficient for very strenuous and narrow activities. If he insisted on doing so, he would fall victim to a premature exhaustion of his energies, with the result that at first the young and young man would be made to have a sense of adulthood, when in reality he was still a child, and at last he would have become a child when he had become an adult. At that age, people are most receptive to memory and remember it the most, and the greatest effort in language learning is memorization. Therefore, it is best to study during this period. And it's long enough to be able to learn the most useful languages, both ancient and modern. It cannot be said that language is science. It is only a means of obtaining science. But if you have the tools in place for future events, the time spent on this is not a waste. There is a situation where the textbooks that children read are likely to be such textbooks that teach both useful facts and good principles. If this time is wasted, the intellect will become sluggish and declining. Just like the intellect sends the body, if it does not exercise during this time, it will become sluggish and degraded. In the process of physical and mental growth, progression, and decline, the relationship between the two resonant empathy is extremely obvious and strict. As soon as they are old enough, they should be sent to university to learn the science that suits their expectations.

Talent is the seed sown by God regardless of wealth, and if the nation does not seek and enjoy these talents, the nation will perish.

This passage suddenly distilled the Chinese and foreign educational and social philosophy that I had read over the years, and made me suddenly find the signpost in my confusion. I am soberly aware that exam-oriented education is an education without growth, and the road of exam-oriented education has come to an end in Europe in the early years. Education should have two lives: one is the professional life at work, and the other is the spiritual life in life. Its value has an impact on family or society. The seeds of the second life, planted in education and grown up in society, are the beginning of greater life, the hope of humanity towards a new life, and the center of educational work from primary school to university.

When I came out of the reading hall, new sensations flooded my body. When I go home, I always stand for a while at the intersection of the road and think about the problem in my mind. My heart was hot even though it was cold. All kinds of thoughts in the brain are running at high speed, and from time to time there will be a pleasant light in the eye, shooting towards the car at the far end. Pondering, I swept away my complaints and confusion about education, and dreams that only young people have appeared in my mind. The breakthrough in thinking has given me more courage, and my heart is happily spreading its wings and flying high with hope. At this point, what I thought was unreal became very realistic. I already have a rose-like blueprint and a red-flowered and leafy educational paradise in my mind, and I also know that the road to the educational paradise will be bumpy, so that children can find a reason to learn, and there is no road sign in the middle, let alone green, and there is a "score storm" gathered around me to face it. For now, I'm sure I'm going to convince my wife to give up sending her children to school.

When I got home, there was no one at home, and I sat on the couch and eagerly waited for my wife to come back. It's quiet at home, and you can hear my heartbeat. The strong voice of the heart drove away the loneliness caused by his son's study recently. I sat on the couch looking very warm. Every time I hear a sound outside, I always go out to look, and it is incomprehensible that the wind is blowing, and it is 7 o'clock, and my wife and children have not come back. I was about to call her, but as soon as I picked it up, I stopped, and my breath was strained by the thoughts that quickly appeared in my head, and I went back to the couch and seriously calculated my "battle plan" against my wife. ”

It was half past seven, and I was in a hurry, when the phone rang. My wife and son were at the beauty salon and asked me to go out to eat, and I said that it was too cold to go out, so I would make up for it. After I finished eating the instant noodles, I saw that it was still early, and to make sure I convinced my wife, I cleaned up. I cleaned the surroundings first, then mopped the floor spotlessly, polished the stove, and finally wiped down the chairs and coffee table. After cleaning, I walked around the ground floor and carefully designed the details of the conversation with my wife. There was a hurried knock on the door, followed by a son shouting, "Dad, open the door, we're about to freeze." I ran over and opened the door, and my son rushed in, and before I could speak, my wife said, "Husband, how do you eat the rice? Is it instant noodles? That doesn't work, I bought you meat, bread and jam." I didn't care about that, and said in an exaggerated tone, "Wow, wife, you're so beautiful today!"

"Pretty, pretty?"

"The face is beautiful, and the heart is even more beautiful. ”

The wife was puzzled for a moment, "Oh, it would be nice to bring you dinner," she said, "or am I doing a good job of beauty today?"

"The beauty is very good," I said, "and the face is pink, pearly and beautiful." ”

"Really, I'm that beautiful?"

"Of course. ”

The wife smiled and spun around a few times, and her face was full of smiles after the woman's beauty was recognized. "Today I read an article as beautiful as yours. I said. The wife said disapprerovingly: "It's a junior science and technology class again?"

"No, it's a master educator's concise and incisive view of education. The master said that education begins with the natural love of this little seedling and raises the child into a great tree of benevolence and fraternity; it starts by sorting out the messy wild roots and cultivates the child into a wise man with a sense of sacred justice; education should turn those who have the ambition to win power and fame for their poor self into a strong man who wins victory for the country and the nation; the essence of education is to infuse the child with a spirit that will never die, and once the child has this spirit, he will surely become a talent. ”

"It seems that your master has had a great influence on you today," said his wife.

"It's true. You also take a look?"

"Is it necessary?"

"In order to educate children, I think it is necessary for parents to look at it, just as I look at your beautiful face. ”

"It's not serious to say just three sentences. Let me see. ”

I took out the book and flipped it to my wife. After a while, she sat up from the couch, glanced at me, looked puzzled, opened her mouth, and wanted to speak but was sucked back by something in the article. The wife put down the book. "How?" I asked.

"Nothing. The wife picked up the book that had just been placed on the coffee table. The point of view of the article really caught her attention. Everything was quiet, and I could hear the rustling sound outside, and when I went out to look, I realized that it was snowing, and I went into the house and stomped my feet, "You are going to dirty the ground again," said my wife, "Well, why is the ground so clean today?"

"I cleaned my house thoroughly. I said.

"The sun came out in the west. My wife went round the house and said, "The stove is so shiny, what the hell do you have to please me?" I said.

"There's nothing to talk about, the results are clear, if you don't make up for it quickly, you can't make it up, it's that your parents haven't fulfilled their responsibilities. Do you say?"

The wife's words are so soft that they are many times stronger than a knife.

"What is the real responsibility for children's growth? During this time, we have read a lot of reports about junior science and technology classes. The state has invested a lot of the best human, financial and material resources in the selection of a large number of prodigies, and it stands to reason that they should all become pillars. "Sending a child to a study class is in essence a kind of deformed juvenile college class, which must have started to be lively, but in the end it delayed the development of the person, and it was difficult for the character to blend in with social life." ”

"The study class is an early development of a child's intelligence. The wife said.

"The educational method of the study class is not intellectual development, but a game of knowledge symbol training. Take the children of some of our middle school teachers' colleagues as an example, when they were young, they participated in various study classes early, went out early and returned late, and their test scores were surprisingly good, and they were known as prodigies. In middle school, when the leading position in learning is impacted, they show panic, they want to regain the leading position in learning, but they give up in the face of difficulties, the original desire to learn is gone, and some completely cut off the idea of learning. They look and behave like the depravity of their hearts, they walk in a way that is not serious, they don't know what to do, they smoke and drink, they fight with their parents. You have often heard these teachers say how good they have been to their children since they were young, and how tightly they have grasped education, but they never imagined that such a result would be for their children! This is the result of training-style knowledge education, and this kind of result will certainly be magnified rapidly in the future with the abundance of social materials. Europe has had this experience. ”

"You are telling the truth, but we are China. The wife said with a sneering expression, "The current children really can't talk about it, and they don't dare to say that there will be any good results in the future when they go to the study class, and they can't do it if they don't send it, it's really sad to die!" Then she picked up the book and pointed and said: "If according to the book, when the son grows up in the future, he will become a child, then what is the meaning of life!"

"That's right," I said, "the master's concise summary of education can make people understand the true meaning of education." Thank goodness for such a good article and such a beautiful wife today. ”

"Well, what about my son's education?" said his wife.

"I want to teach my son to play and learn to create happiness by himself while playing. I said.

"What kind of education is this?"

"The ability of parents to play with their children determines the future affection of the family, and the happiness in play gives birth to a beautiful human nature. I said word for word.

"Now just look at the score, who cares about human nature. The wife retorted softly.

"Speaking of scores, I have a lot of opinions about the 'basic knowledge and basic skills' of dual-base education, which is often mentioned and constantly strengthened. This kind of education under the rule of "double bases" will inevitably put the country in danger. The twin bases of education should be human nature and body. Human intelligence is naturally great, but the body is weak, and human nature is empty. Once a person has a good humanity, he will put forward requirements for his own development. This is the nature of living beings.

"Seems to make sense. The wife said, "Grasp the body and human nature first, I haven't heard anyone in China educate children like this?

It seems that the psychological penetration of his wife has been very effective in the past few days. "Everyone knows that Chinese students have always created the myth of gold medals in the Olympiad, but no one in the country has taken the crown of science. "There is an unwritten rule of the world about education: if a country does not have a Nobel Prize in science for 29 years, its education system is a failure." Our education system has been running for 29 years, and our education has sentenced the vast majority of students who are not born with strong motivation to learn to 'death' at an early age. In the West, the people who studied poorly when they were students and finally reached the top of scientific culture were Watt, Newton, Edison, Darwin, Einstein and others. This is unthinkable in China! If we use the current evaluation standards, our great leader Grandpa Mao is nothing!"

"Husband, after talking for a long time, you haven't said how to educate our children well?"

"To educate children, families must have a clear direction. You say that the east and the west will never be well educated. Early specialized knowledge training is the root cause of children's boredom and lack of self-improvement when they grow older. I don't know where the path of new education is, and I need to explore. But I must say once again that if I don't play, the relationship between my children and my family will decline, and I hope you will support me in thinking about going to school. ”

"I know you're going to say this," said the wife, who got up from the couch and stamped her foot on the ground, "what do you use to make me believe you?

"People say that sports training affects learning, and over the years, the athletes I have trained have won the top prize in the college entrance examination of the league many times, and some people say that it is impossible for a school with more than 500 or 600 children to achieve results in competitive sports, and my students have won the championship in the whole district. In this process, moral education in line with the physical and mental health of students plays a decisive role. Over the years, the children I have brought out, regardless of their academic performance, can be self-reliant in society. I said with confidence.

"Mom, I don't want to go to school. The son interjected coldly. "It's all your business, and you dare to talk more. The wife choked her son fiercely. The wife ran out of ideas, and after a while, she said slowly, "I think you're right." However, you have too many ways to mess up, don't make the child look like a person is not like a person, and a ghost is not like a ghost. ”

After many days of being guided by that oracle, my efforts paid off, which meant that there was no way out, and I had to explore the way of education to save myself. At this moment, I have a feeling of being trusted. "Joy, go, buy your dad a beer. I said.

"Buy me a drink and something to eat too. "My son spoke faster than I did.

"Okay. ”

After a while, my son came back, and he drank a drink and I drank a beer. The son asked, "Dad, why are you so happy today?"

Because your mom and I agreed on the worst problems in the house. ”

"What's the worst problem?"

"It's your learning problem. When it came to studying, the son frowned and turned his face to the window. I said, "Joy, give, eat this piece of meat." ”

The son turned his head, took the meat, and ate it silently, without a sound. "Joy, everyone's ideas should be respected, including children's thoughts. You didn't want to go to the school, and your mom agreed. I said

When the son heard that he didn't send him to the study class, he happily rushed to his mother, "Naughty to death, naughty to death, you have made my clothes oily......" The happy words of his wife and children made the family suddenly feel spring.