During the summer vacation, my son played for two days. I reminded him to make a study plan, but he ignored it. By the third day, the fifteenth of July. The clouds covered the sun, and a cold air swept away the heat for days, and the weather was refreshing, just right for going out. I said:

"Joy, what are you doing carrying a schoolbag in Dalian?"

"This is my plan. I take some time out of my day to do my homework. ”

"Don't be nervous, it's impossible, put down your bag and write it when you come back. "I dissuaded with my wife.

"I can do it. I finished writing it last time I went to Hoh. The son said unconvinced.

"If you want to carry it, take it with you, and the schoolbag is gentle. I followed my son's voice.

"Wang Xile, I won't help you carry your schoolbag. My wife rolled over my eyes and said.

"Who uses your back. I can do it. The son said.

After his wife was dressed up, she was dressed in a snow-white silk knee-length dress, and her flowing texture was like a fairy. Son is the opposite. The wife frowned and said, "Didn't you want to wear new clothes?"

"Mom, this is the uniform of our football team, it's awesome!" he said angrily.

The wife shook her head helplessly.

"Mom, I'll help you carry this little bag," the son snatched his wife's bag coldly.

"Joy, it's full of valuables," said the wife.

"It's okay, I can protect it. The son made a statement without hesitation.

His wife smiled, showed satisfaction, and said, "Good son, help me carry it to the bus station." ”

"Let's go, let's go," the son walked in front of him happily with a schoolbag on his back and a small bag in front of him.

"Go out and take the child well, that kid is too jumpy, be careful not to lose it." "I kept telling my wife.

It's the time when students are going home from vacation, and the station is full of people. The gloomy weather, people are not nostalgic for the shade and snuggle everywhere. The flower beds at the station are full of flowers. The bees that come and go sing for people. There is a wind chime at the entrance to the station. As soon as the wind blows, the wind chimes make a strange, crisp and pleasant sound, floating everywhere with the wind, sending blessings of peace all the way to the people who travel far away.

"Little brother, you're wearing a team uniform. My mom made me feel embarrassed to death by letting me wear new clothes. "Auntie, they arrived early, and my brother said in a very unsatisfactory tone.

"Today's children let him wear new clothes as if they were going to 'kill' him, which we couldn't even hope for when we were children. Wang Xile's aunt said.

"That's not it. I asked Wang Xile to change into new clothes, but he refused to wear a football uniform, and in some places he didn't know what was sticky, and he couldn't wash it off. The wife said blankly.

"Get in the car, get in the car," the brothers rushed over as soon as the door opened. See who gets in the car first, it's the way they are most interested in doing things.

I put the line away and said goodbye to my family. When I looked at each other, I noticed that the smile of my family affected my mood. I looked at the 10 o'clock bus in the morning, the part of my life that had disappeared into the distance, and then I remembered to wave goodbye, but I could only wave it to myself.

People are at the end of the world, and love is in the heart. I finally survived until July 30. In the morning, my wife called to say that they had arrived in Yinchuan, and an electric current passed through me. At half past two in the afternoon, the air was filled with a thick heat. There was no wind underground, no clouds in the sky, and the air and the sun burned together. The situation at the station was very different from half a moon ago, with all kinds of trees pulling their branches, and the flowers in the garden drooping their leaves and low tips, some of which had been sunburned. I stood in the shade of a tree, surrounded by a suffocating heatwave. It's hot, it's too hot.

It was three o'clock, and I looked in the direction where the bus was coming from, "Where's the car?" and I muttered.

At half past three, the shuttle bus finally appeared at the intersection. My chest tightened, I felt like I was running out of oxygen, and my heart was beating faster, slower, irregularly. More than a dozen people who picked up the train poured out of the empty platform just now, and it seemed crowded on the small platform. As soon as the shuttle bus entered the station, my son saw me on the bus and beckoned to me through the window. As soon as the car stopped and the door opened, he was the first to rush down, "Daddy, Daddy, I miss you." He cried out and threw himself into my arms. I hugged him several times in a row, and as if no one was around, I completely immersed myself in the world of the two, unaware that we had become the focus of everyone at the bus station.

"When I see my son, I don't even want my wife," said the wife, "and go to the bank and get something." ”

I stuck out my tongue in embarrassment and said, "No matter how good my son is, I can't be better than my daughter-in-law." ”

"Don't be poor. The wife said.

I was taking the line when my son ran up and picked up his schoolbag and another bag and walked forward, "Husband, my son really used it, that bag was bought in Yinchuan, and he carried it all the way." The wife said.

I was overjoyed and felt that my son had a simple sense of responsibility.

We walked together to my mother's house.

"Hee Hee is back, I miss my grandmother. Mom said.

"Did you have a good time, are you tired?" asked Grandpa.

The grandparents kept asking, and the son kept talking. This is the only male grandson in our family, and he is the most important person in the life of the second elder. After a pause in the grandparents' questioning, my son opened his suitcase and took out two four-wheel drive vehicles and an electronically controlled car to show off to me, and began assembling them with his brother.

"You don't buy guns, don't you love guns so much?" I asked.

"Guns. I don't play anymore. ”

"Why?"

"The gun is just fighting, it hasn't changed, and the more I play for a few months, the more boring I feel. My mom wanted to buy it for me in Dalian, but I didn't agree. The son said.

"! I don't want a gun, and my lazy face made me buy that electronically controlled car, and the price is not low. The wife said in a complaining tone.

My wife took out a photo of herself out and there was a photo that shocked me. I asked, "Joy, isn't it afraid of such a big snake hanging around its neck?"

The son took the picture and looked at his heroic feat, and said, "What is this! I'm in the Dalian Qiulin shopping mall," and as the son was talking, his wife hurriedly picked up the conversation and said, "Dead skin, lazy face, screaming, grinding the adults to buy three race cars." The son stopped, turned around and continued assembling the race car with his brother.

"Why didn't my brother hang a portrait of a snake? I asked.

When the son heard this, he came to his senses. said: "My brother didn't even dare to go to the snake's side, which made my aunt angry." ”

After lunch at my mother's house, when I came home, my wife told me a shocking story about my son. She said: "That day, I took my two children to visit the Qiulin shopping mall in Dalian. At two o'clock, we were separated from Wang Xile. I quickly told my brother to guard the door, and I looked for it inside. After looking for a long time, I didn't find it, and then I realized what the old man often said, 'When you take a child out, you have to have an extra pair of eyes behind your back'. Doll, this is not a thing, this is a big thing for life and family. I'm looking for revelations in the mall. A manager of the mall asked if the child would go out, and I said no, and I asked my brother to guard the door as soon as the child was gone. The manager called the mall security.

Time passed minute by minute, I searched the mall over and over again, it was almost four o'clock and I didn't see the child, I was going crazy. I went back to the broadcast studio again, "The kid must have walked out of the mall, if he hadn't gone out of the mall, the security would have found him," the manager was talking as the phone rang, "The kid is with you," and my heart fell into my stomach with a "flutter" when I heard it.

"My mom was crying. The son interjected.

Let him say the rest for himself. The wife said.

When my son heard his mother say this, he was a little embarrassed, as if he had nowhere to put his hands and feet, he got up from the sofa, walked up to me and said, "Dad, I heard it on the radio when I was looking for someone." I was a little nervous at the time. The mall is full of people, and you don't know who's the good guys and who's the bad guys. I was afraid of revealing my identity and pretending to be nonchalant and walking around the mall, and I knew that I had to never leave the mall. I wished I could meet my mother, but I didn't meet them for a while. I figured I had to find someone to get me to the radio room. Whoever you are looking for, you must find someone who is reliable. When I saw a few older kids running around the mall, I immediately followed them as if I was in a group of them. They came to the stationery counter and picked and picked them, and the aunt who sold stationery was kind to these children. I initially decided to ask her for help, and for the sake of insurance, I went back and forth for a while, and after much comparison, I felt that my aunt, who sold stationery, was the most credible, so I told her that I needed her help. My aunt asked me what I needed help with, and I asked if she could lead me to the radio to find someone, and I was the kid I was looking for on the radio. ”

The wife took her son's words. "The manager took me to the stationery counter and listened to my son, and the manager was surprised and said that it was unbelievable that such a young child would think like this!" said the wife, "I had a strange feeling when I left the mall, where did my son have such courage and such a good idea." There is always something in him that is about to be seen, which is both worrying and reassuring.

"This is the inevitable result of practical education. I said.

"Why?"

"The more a person has within himself, the less he asks of others. ”

"What can a child have?"

"You'd be wrong. I said, "My son is tired of running around in nature all day, and others are tired of watching, but in the practice of playing, he has tempered what books cannot give." He learned to roller skate a lot, and there were a lot of bad words like 'fuck' and 'grandpa', but do you have them now? Who specifically criticized him?"

"Why is that?"

"Words are filthy and evil in heart. Psychologically speaking, swearing is a sign of weak ability, and if you want to use swear to show yourself, if you lack guidance, children may be led to evil by swearing. In fact, Wang Xile's play is different from other children's play in nature. ”

"Why?"

"Some children play as a reward for adults. For example, getting a good score in a test, or studying for too long to go out and play, this kind of play is an activity and has no purpose. And Wang Xile's play has a purpose, and it is shaping spiritual quality. You often say that I don't pay attention to my children's studies, and that I am a psychopath. In fact, I grasp children's cognitive life and people's ability through play. Through play, the son has made him believe that he has the ability to resolve crises through countless failures, quarrels and reconciliations with children. For example, in the case of the Qiulin Mall, the son was immediately aware of the danger, and some people may not have this kind of intuition in their lifetime, and this kind of intuition cannot be taught by intellectual education. ”

"After the Qiulin Mall, I feel a little relieved that my son is still so young!" said his wife.

"This is also the result of a philosophy of education. ”

"What philosophy of education?"

"The water flows for thousands of miles, never turning back, and flows into the sea. Children's growth is the same, but it is a pity that our education simplifies growth into learning, or scores, ignores the difficulties of crossing mountains and mountains, and pays little attention to what the content and will of children's lives are in line with.

The most absurd thing about education is to encourage young life with illusory things such as "failure is the mother of success" and "failure is the ladder to success". A child has to go through countless things the size of a grain of sand before they can produce something beautiful. Children who grow up in such an educational environment are bound to be like lambs in the wilderness, and the social consequences it brings are: the wind and the sun are good, and people tend to forget the dark clouds, and the storms and storms make the people lack the fighting spirit. At the same time, many children who cannot overcome the resistance of scores will automatically fall, and the "knife meat" type of people will spread all over society. ”

"You're saying too much. The wife said, "We said that the problem of our son is related to the country. ”

"The son is also a member of the country. Now that my son is free of swearing, it means that he has won many victories in playing, and he does not need to use swear words to show himself. Just like a person who plays mahjong with a broken mouth must be a person who often loses money, he wants to use words to cover up the fear of losing money. It's human nature. ”

"Husband, your metaphor is too good. Just now I didn't understand why my son didn't swear words, but now I understand everything when you say playing mahjong. The wife said with bright eyes, "However, no matter how good you say, only if you improve the child's academic performance, and only when this problem is solved, will others believe you." ”

"Learning is an unrepeatable process of life. From a scientific point of view, each child only has one chance to be educated, just like a person grows a body, there are strong stages. Education requires sequence, but also patience. ”

"Isn't it too fierce now? The wife said.

"The main thing is that games and cartoons take up too much time, and we have to find a way to compete with them. ”

"It's almost twelve o'clock, and my son is still playing games, and he hasn't played for half a month. What to do?"

"Manage, you must manage," I shouted, "Wang Xile, you come here." My son came to me and said, "Time doesn't allow you to play, you are a child with self-control." ”

"Dad, can I defeat this level?"

"Okay. ”

Ten minutes later, my son turned off the computer and went to sleep.