I've asked a lot of people a question: If you could go back to the way before, when would you want to go back?

Everyone's answers were varied, some wanted to go back to the 18-year-old boyhood and feel the taste of youth again;

I want to go back to the time when I met my first love, and treat her with 200% enthusiasm to prevent her from crying so uncomfortable;

I want to go back to when I quarreled with my boyfriend yesterday, I always feel that I didn't play enough at that time, and I haven't expressed my anger towards him.

Everyone's regrets are different, and there will always be moments when you want to go back.

So I always thought there was no answer to this question.

Until one time I stumbled upon an interview video, the protagonist is a self-employed entrepreneur who has already made a name for himself.

When the host asked with a smile on his face: Have you made any regrettable decisions, and if you could do it all over again, how would you remedy it?

Sitting in front of the screen, I imagined a variety of answers, and I think what he said was nothing more than a round scene in front of the media, and just as my mind was changing the answers, the entrepreneur spoke:

I do regret something, but if I was given another chance, I wouldn't look back.

Because there are no ifs in life, nothing can go back.

All assumptions are nothing but the most useless pastime for a limited time.

At that moment, I felt as if I had found the real answer to my question.

Why go back in time?

Your ambitious "if I had ...... then" is nothing more than a self-consolation.

At the age of 18, you still romantically fantasize about the plots of novels that appear in books, or you will talk about the gossip you heard yesterday with two or three friends, or you can't get used to listening to your parents' chatter;

You are still young and ignorant, you will still be at a loss in the face of love for the first time, and the way you get along too hard and full of curiosity will still make both of you scarred, or die without a problem;

You are still dissatisfied with your boyfriend's addiction to games and ignore your feelings, or will you continue a heated argument with him on the theme of "do you love me", "do you care about me", "do you care about me".

Ah, by the way, maybe this time you played really satisfying enough, but it just tore the emotional rift deeper.

What is the difference between winning and losing?

In fact, doing it again doesn't necessarily change anything.

But such whimsical assumptions are like a poisonous snake that haunts you and makes you pay no attention to anything else.

Addicted to the past and unable to extricate himself, he will still be bitten coldly, and then ......

Then, in the middle of the night, he collapsed to the point where he couldn't breathe.

I always thought that time was too ruthless, and there were so many moments that I wanted to recover, but I couldn't get back.

Later, a story was heard.

Time was taking a walk and met a homeless man who was crying.

Time asks him what's wrong, and he says he regrets that he was too playful as a child, so much so that he can't achieve anything now.

He cried and said that if he could be given another chance, he would work hard and so on.

Time softened, and it really gave him a chance.

He opened his eyes and found himself back when he was a child, and he told himself that he must study hard.

I ended up playing an afternoon of games with my playmates, comforting myself for tomorrow.

Later, he still became a homeless man.

He cried again to find his time, beating his chest and begging for another chance.

The second chance, he still grew into a homeless man.

And what about the third time?

There was no third time, time was furious, and everyone was canceled from having a chance to do it again.

Probably, we all think that we will not repeat the mistakes of the past like this tramp.

This kind of self-confidence that will never repeat the tragedy, that homeless man has also had, even more determined than you.

Do it all over again and it won't change anything.

What's more, "doing it all over again" is an impossibility.

Those "if I could" that you exhausted your mental strength, in addition to consuming more enthusiasm for life and wasting more time that slipped away, what is left is boundless struggle and regret.

There is nothing more terrible in life than:

While thinking about the past, I have to spend the present in vain.

You can think about the past once in a while, but don't think about it all the time.

The human heart is so big that you use it to fill the past, and your present and future have nowhere to put it.

It is because of this that you have a messy life and cannot find your way.

I saw a sentence in the circle of friends before: The greatest generosity for the future is to have no reservations for the present.

How can an old lamp illuminate a new way?

Be honest with yourself, don't lie in your memories, and don't compromise.

I've met a lot of people who have lived casually since then, and they thought it was just the worst outcome.

But after discovering that it was casual, life got worse.

Did you know that people who are not responsible for their lives will only be punished exponentially by it?

Life is a ray with an end, and once you set out, you can't turn back.

So, don't look back, don't stay, don't indulge, don't settle.

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