As mentioned earlier, if we follow the ancient adage of our ancestors that "men should marry and women should marry", people born in the 50s have already entered this ranks.

Therefore, with the arrival of the peak of educated youths returning to the city, there will soon be a nationwide peak of marriage registration.

According to the data, taking Beijing as an example, in 1981, there were 198858 pairs of registered marriages in the city, compared with 69,679 couples in 1977, an increase of 1.5 times.

In 1982, it was 134 934 pairs.

Although this number has declined, it is still nearly twice as high as in 1977, which equates to an average of nearly 200 couples per 10,000 people forming small families.

It can be seen from this that during this period, older men and women are scrambling to "get rid of singles".

I can't help but sigh, it was really the golden age of cooks and carpenters.

It's just that behind this excitement, there is also haste and compromise.

Given the serious lack of understanding of the opposite sex among marriageable men and women at the time, many were already over or close to thirty years of age.

Moreover, in the ideology of the common people, marriage is still regarded as the need of social tradition, and the consciousness of "passing on the family lineage" is the absolute mainstream.

So in reality, even if it is a call for freedom of love, the new era of arranged marriages has long been gone.

But in reality, the proportion of wind and snow is still not much.

However, there are not a few disguised arrangements based on the views of parents and elders.

It's called no way, you don't have the time or experience. Where can we talk about two loves?

As long as the person's appearance is passable, he doesn't feel bad, and he doesn't feel disgusted after a period of contact.

The most important thing is to leave it to the parents to judge.

There are many things to do with the elderly.

It is necessary to find out whether the other unit's unit is owned by the whole people or collectively, what position, what type of work, what housing, whether there are any serious illnesses, whether there are elderly people to support at home? Whether they smoke or not, whether they drink alcohol, whether they have attended junior high school or high school, whether they have a docile temper or irritable, and even whether they have a figure-eight walking posture and whether their legs are generally long.

To put it bluntly, whether they can "help people live" is the central content they care about.

So this generation has been with them for decades, and after the children and grandchildren are full, when asked by their children about their love experience, they often give the answer of "get married first, then fall in love, and cultivate feelings in each other".

Of course, as long as you can grow old together, you can go the same way, which is another kind of happiness.

But it must be said that for both parties, when this step was taken at a young age.

In fact, I don't have much confidence in my heart, and I will have some regrets and losses, as well as doubts about myself and the future.

It can be said that they are forced by the pressure of the social environment and family to passively or actively choose to compromise with the objective status quo.

Therefore, Shui Qing's tiredness at this stage also comes from this trouble, that is, the great pressure on her personal marriage from her family and surrounding environment.

In fact, whether to find a partner or not is not a matter of life and death, and it is purely a personal matter.

Shui Qing is not unwanted.

It's just that she is a casual person, and she feels that she is too busy with work at this stage, and the child is the time to ask for someone.

There's no need to be demanding, I want to take a moment and think about it.

But in this era, it just can't be. Parents at home should urge, the "well-wishers" around them should help, and even the work unit and the street should interfere.

All of these people are very enthusiastic about introducing single men and women, as if they were unable to complete the tasks assigned to them by their superiors.

On the other hand, if you don't look for it, it means that you are mentally abnormal and have problems with your thinking, and such an alternative element will not be tolerated in society.

In this way, Shui Qing can't help but follow the crowd, so he can only squeeze out time and energy to try to find his other half.

But the problem is that these people who introduce the object to Shui Qing always like to balance wisely.

They have their own set of theories, what fish look for fish, shrimp find shrimp, phoenix perched on sycamore, and grass pheasants enter the shack.

The balance created based on this theory is to include age, appearance, family, personality, occupation, income, knowledge, and hobbies, and measure them carefully.

If one side is about to settle, then the other side has to be improvised, and the overall weight should always be equal.

For example, a girl has a few pockmarks on her face. Her subject is probably a little short-sighted.

Because pockmarks and myopia not only offset each other, myopic eyes are also easy to ignore pockmarks, and the success rate is naturally very high.

It's just a pity that this algorithm, although clever, can also be called sophisticated. But emotions and sentiments alone are not counted.

Then this balance is of course not accurate for Shui Qing.

The people who introduced her to her were gone off the board from the beginning, and almost all of them looked like uncles who didn't love their grandmothers.

It's a little bit like a widow who either has a poor job or family background, or is an old-fashioned widower.

Of course, even if this is the case, Shui Qing is actually not unacceptable.

Because she understands that a person's beauty and ugliness cannot only look at the surface. Even if the other party is a temporary worker or has children.

Comparing hearts to hearts, as long as the other party is willing to take good care of Shui Xiaoying with her, the two of them can be like-minded and know each other, and for her, the marriage is still happy.

But the key is that it takes time to see the soul, she is not in a hurry, others are in a hurry. People are not in a hurry, but they are still in a hurry.

And marriage is a matter of happiness for a lifetime, and it must not be so-so? Even if it is not in a hurry, it may not be really agreeable.

So I finally met two people who were okay, and soon blew the lamp and pulled out the wax.

For example, Sister Wei of the trade union introduced the deputy director of the planning department of the "First Machinery Factory", although he was widowed, the other party was only 30 years old, had no children of his own, and liked ancient poetry and calligraphy.

Originally, they got along with each other well, and Shui Qing admired the deputy director's insight.

But when they got acquainted with each other, when the two discussed the planning of their married life, the other party's utilitarianism and philistine were exposed.

In order to continue her promotion, the deputy director actually asked her to learn to socialize, learn to give gifts, and learn how to please the families of the leaders in the future.

This kind of dark side is unimaginable for Shui Qing, so he broke up decisively.

There is also a company officer in the military organs, and his "problem" is that he often travels for research at work, and he has to stay away for a long time after marriage, gathering less and leaving more.

However, he has been educated in the army for many years, and he is promising, educated, upright, and upright.

And he sympathized with Shui Xiaoying very much, and admired Shui Qing's behavior, and after seeing him a few times, he sincerely made bold words to help Shui Qing take care of Shui Xiaoying.

Originally, the two had a good talk, and there should be hope to get together.

However, this officer was still from the countryside, and he wrote a letter to his hometown to explain the matter, but he was resolutely opposed by his parents and relatives who were feudal and conservative.

They also know that Shui Qing is respectable, but Shui Qing is not good to say about taking a child through the door, and they are afraid that people will be buried under the root of their tongues.

In the end, there was no way, and this matter could only be stopped.

People are probably like this, they can think of it, but it's hard to stick to it.

And after experiencing these two things, Shui Qing certainly became more and more exhausted.

But this question quickly figured it out on her own. She decided to lighten herself off the wheel and never look at anyone again.

Because she finally knew that the most words that others said about her behind her back were, "With an indescribable oil bottle, she is not young, it would be nice to have someone to ask for it?"

So even if she did the right thing, in most people's minds, she was almost as worthless as a broken egg.

Unfortunately, if even the matchmaker sees it this way, then naturally he will not introduce a good partner to her.

But fortunately, she is neither regretful nor quite optimistic, anyway, this is the case, so continue to move forward.

A good marriage will definitely not appear all at once, so she decided to wait patiently until she finds a man who is not only beautiful in heart and appearance, but also has a true friendship with herself.

She believes that she can find it, she believes in fate, she believes in this world, there is always such a person who understands her, and is silently waiting for her and looking for her.

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