Hong Yanwu's outspokenness made Ye Xuan a little angry, and when she heard this, she suddenly interrupted.

"Look at what you told us, we're so bad? You're extreme! People go to high places, and water flows to low places. Isn't it natural for people to live a lifetime and pursue success? Isn't it normal for parents to demand progress from their children? Doesn't it true that ordinary people's families also want their children to go to college, join the army, and find a good job? Also, people are social creatures, and everyone builds a complete society together, so as individuals in society, don't they need to care about the feelings of others? That is called selfishness! If you choose yourself like you, how can public order and civility be maintained?"

Hong Yanwu saw that Ye Xuan was emotional, and hurriedly restrained himself.

"Look at you, you're still in a hurry, even if I'm talking too much. Some are frivolous, sloppy, and generalized. Can I apologize to you for this?"

And as soon as he followed his words, he began to bring rhythm again.

"But then again, I also feel these questions, and I don't just say them. Before we continue, there is a premise that I hope you can understand, and I don't mean to complain or sarcastically say this, but I just want you to understand that there are essential differences between us. As for whether what I'm saying is right or not, I'll tell you, listen to it, and then we'll talk about it......"

"For example, for example, parents want their children to be successful. However, there is still a difference in cognition between ordinary families and cadre families. What the common people think is promising, that is, the child has a good character and respects his parents. As for the specific fame and fortune, of course it is good to be able to go up, but if you can't go up, you won't be forced. As for whomever has achieved his goal by disgraceful means, he will be spurned and severely punished once his parents know about it. But parents will never be indifferent and ruthless because their children have made mistakes, and they will do everything possible to get their children back on the right path and be a frank and unrestrained person. ”

"My own family is like this, and the reason why I was arrested in the first place was that my biological father reported me. But I don't hate him, because he doesn't want to give up on me, but to save me. You see, my family cares about me very much now, and they don't talk about anything about the past. Their only hope is that I can be a good person. As long as I can do this, they will support everything else they want to do. Not to mention that I wash the pig's intestines, even if I dig up dung and sweep the streets, they won't think I'm ashamed. As for others, does that matter to me?"

But on the contrary, cadre families have different requirements for their children. Since the sense of hierarchy is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people from the unit to the family, everything in their lives is determined by the level of their official position. Therefore, these parents continue to instill in their children from an early age the elite consciousness that they must be top-notch. They are accustomed to judging their children on test scores, school reviews, and awards they have received. Without these, even if a child is good in other aspects, he is still a childless in the eyes of his parents. ”

And many people are accustomed to treating their children as subordinates and asking them to act according to their own baton. When Lao Tzu is a soldier, his son must be a soldier, and when Lao Tzu is a diplomat, his son must be proficient in several foreign languages. The slightest disobedience will be severely punished. Yang Weifan was not like this? He originally wanted to learn painting, but he was forced to enlist in the army, and he had no right to choose his future at all, so he could only be under the supervision of his parents.

"If the children do make a mistake, it will be a punishable crime. In the place where I was in labor reeducation, there was a cadre child who worked in the Beijing Film Studio. He came in because he was fighting with another cadre's son for a girlfriend. As a result, his family was deeply ashamed of him, and his father, in order not to affect the political appearance of other family members, actually drew a line with him when he was released on parole for medical treatment and needed the help of his family the most, and pushed him into society to fend for himself. ”

"Actually, what I mean is that the common people and the children of cadres are not just different in blood, but the fundamental difference between them is the environment in which they are raised. There are mostly mediocre people who are content and happy, and there will be no obvious hierarchical differences in people's interactions. As for the children of cadres, interpersonal relationships are ubiquitous with a sense of hierarchy. Except for those who are too spoiled by their parents, other people must grow and succeed, otherwise he will have no place in life, and his life will seriously fade. Think about it, where can people in these two states of life have a common language? Therefore, in real life, there are not many children of ordinary people and children of cadres who become friends. Not to mention starting a family together......"

Hong Yanwu's almost wanted to make Ye Xuan uncomfortable, but although the words were harsh, they were objective facts that were common in her life, which made it difficult for her to find words to refute several times.

In the end, she could only mumble after thinking about it, "Your words are still too absolute! Aren't you friends with Yang Weifan? Aren't we friends? And like my parents, it's not what you say." They are very open-minded and often say that I can do whatever I want. Even including...... Include...... I choose who I will live with in the future...... As long as he can have a little courage. Able to move up a little bit......"

Speaking of which, the topic came back again, Ye Xuan inevitably looked shy again, and the girl's feelings were undoubtedly revealed.

But Hong Yanwu felt a little struggling, couldn't help frowning, and sighed. After thinking about it, he changed his perspective and continued.

In fact, I also admit that there will always be individuals and exceptions in any group. Otherwise, among the cadres I hate the most, there would be no alternative elements like Yang Weifan and a kind and helpful girl like you. Of course, your parents shouldn't be bad either. Just by looking at you, I know that your parents must also be extraordinary and of high quality......"

These words made Ye Xuan happy, and she hurriedly echoed it.

"yes, yes, my parents are fine. They are the most approachable. They were especially kind to the guards, aunts and cooks at home. In the past, my father used to participate in the activities organized by our school, and they were very kind and kind to the children of any family......

"But even so, cadres are still cadres, and the people are still ordinary people. There are certain group limitations and laws that no one can violate, and they cannot be broken. It's like the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, they all have to follow the laws of nature, the birds can't enter the water, and the fish can't fly to the sky. ”

It turned out that Hong Yanwu was just a false shot, and suddenly a big turn immediately dispelled Ye Xuan's excitement, so anxious that she almost didn't jump up.

"What's the matter with you, how do you talk and change back and forth, you make me really want to curse......"

"I'm talking about objective reality. You are also in a hurry to deny it, and I will prove it by saying a little. Didn't you say your parents were open-minded, and would you dare to take me home to meet your parents?"

Ye Xuan was a little angry, and replied without thinking about it.

"Why don't you dare? So, you will go to my house tomorrow, and I will introduce you to them?"

Hong Yanwu shook his head.

"Then how do you introduce me? Tell me the truth? Say I'm a labor prisoner, say I'm a pig intestine washer in a snack bar, say I'll teach you to dive, and take you to the park......

Ye Xuan's eyes couldn't help but widen, and he finally realized that something was wrong.

"Oh my God, if that's the case, then my father must be furious and lock me up!"

Hong Yanwu showed a smug look this time.

"Look. As you know for yourself, this is telling. You can't tell them about me......"

Ye Xuan was silent for a moment. After a long time, she whispered, "In the end, it's still a matter of work, if you want to change jobs, you can introduce ......."

But Hong Yanwu still resolutely denied it.

"No, you don't understand, that doesn't change the essence. People can change their clothes and jobs, but they can't change their family background, upbringing, and ideology. You're still young, and you can't imagine how many problems two people have to face together. Don't think liking each other is everything. That's naïve. ”

"Let's imagine if there really is such a feeling. If a poor boy enters a high-ranking cadre's family, can he not be weak-minded? Can he not feel inferior? No matter how hard he tries, he will not be able to catch up with what others can accomplish with a single word. No matter how good he is, he will be said to be using nepotism in the future. How much pressure does this kind of family put on him? And how can a cadre family, which is accustomed to judging heroes by success or failure, look down on poor boys? They will inevitably regard poor boys as speculators with a purpose. Always mentally fortified. Will they willingly introduce such a son-in-law to their relatives and friends, and will others make fun of them for it?"

"The reverse is also true, how do the 'princesses' of cadre families get along with the male family members of the small people in the market? The most important thing is that the status difference is too large, which will also cause the asymmetry of the relationship between each other, resulting in a taste of human relations. What would it be like for a man to see his parents being cautious about the "princess"? If his family had been cared for by the woman's family, how would he be able to stand up straight? His parents would also be worried that their son would be wronged, and they would be full of anxiety and worry. In all kinds of circumstances, it's no wonder that the relationship between the two people can be maintained. Even if there is some good in the beginning, it will be ruined in the end......"

Ye Xuan had a headache, "What you said...... It's too complicated! I didn't think about it, I didn't think about it......"

Then he actually cried, "Is it really because of the difference in family that we are destined to not be able to be together? How can it be? Isn't it feudal dross?"

Hong Yanwu hurriedly struck while the iron was hot.

"The words 'door to door' seem to sound a bit feudal, but that is the experience summed up by the predecessors, 'marrying a woman from a low door, marrying a woman from a high door' has a certain truth. I said this for a long time to tell you that it is not impossible for me to be with you, but that it is impossible for all the children of ordinary people to be with you. Only when you look for your other half among the children of cadres will you be recognized by your family, and both parties will feel comfortable, and you may have a good result. ”

Broken and crumpled, it was not in vain to go around in such a big circle, and then Ye Xuan finally said the sentence that Hong Yanwu wanted to hear the most.

"Could it be that I really misunderstood? You treated me from the beginning...... No ...... for me"

Hong Yanwu suddenly felt relaxed. and hurriedly filled people with good words.

"Honestly, that's true. Your personal qualifications are too good. It's the pearl of such a family. I'm not a fool, I know how we can have any delusions, and I can treat us as friends as equals, and be so willing to help, so I think I will definitely entertain you and make you happy in the south. I really didn't expect it to cause you trouble. I'm so sorry. But in my mind, you are a generous and kind person. I can understand the difficulties of others, so I guess you won't blame me......"

Ye Xuan's eyes burst into tears for a moment, "I don't blame you, but I ...... What if I can't forget you? I tried, I didn't want to see you, but I couldn't ......do it."

There's no way around it. Hong Yanwu can only make the last big move.

He smirked and deliberately spoke lightly.

"Don't say that, you think so, it's because you're young and your emotional experience is relatively blank. In the future, the more people you know, the more excellent people you will find. It's like people who have never eaten sugar, and when they taste some white sugar, they think it's the best thing. But it wasn't until he had eaten fruit candy, plum candy, milk peanut candy and chocolate that he realized that there were so many good candies in the world. So I'm flattered by what you value, but it's really unnecessary. I'm at best a 'Kanto candy' level, a popular thing, very rough. Moreover, I have already found the 'sugar' I like, and we will get married next year......"

Ye Xuan's tears were all contained by surprise.

"You, you have a partner?"

Hong Yanwu continued to pretend to be his grandson, looking very cowardly.

"Oops...... She's good at everything, but she's a few years older than me, so I've always been embarrassed to talk about it......"

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