In the early 80s, as a person born in the 50s, as a generation that went to the mountains and went to the countryside, in terms of age, it was already the age to start a family.

Even the group of people who are the oldest "old three" have been delayed very late under the call of "late marriage and late childbearing".

If we take "starting a family and starting a business" as the main symbol of a person's "socialization process", judging from the current social environment, through the past few years, most of the educated youth have returned to the city. After returning to the city, he either went to work or worked as an individual.

Then the "karma", whether good or bad, is already considered "established". As the saying goes, men should get married and women should get married, and it is natural to think about the next step.

It's just that this generation is a generation that has a crazy "explosion" in the number of people. Then from birth to death, they have to face all the dilemmas and problems caused by too many peers in their lives. Every important part of life is destined to become a harsh test for them.

Marriage is no exception for them, and there are many practical problems that need to be solved.

First of all, someone must get married, which is the "object", the other half of the family.

But the people of those days were full of revolutionary enthusiasm, and social tradition has always equated "engaging in objects" with "playing hooligans", so those big men and women are generally inexperienced in this kind of thing.

At the same time, because they are getting older, the haze of young boys and girls is gone, and the purpose is to start a family and live a life. Time is of the essence. How can they not be in a hurry?

To put it bluntly, everyone knows that there is a lot of "window paper" around, but the problem is how to find the "window" and which "window" to "poke".

In fact, the step of "finding a window" is better solved. At that time, although there was no Internet, no QQ, no mobile phone, I had relatives and friends to introduce me.

It is precisely because it is a common phenomenon that everyone wants to have a single one, so at this time, the situation of media pulling fiber in society has begun to increase. As soon as each unit gets off work, they are all in a hurry to "make an appointment".

It is the last step, who to choose, has become the biggest obstacle.

At that time, people did not have today's concepts, and they were cautious and cautious about marriage. Although it is legally possible to get a divorce, there is a lot of criticism and criticism in the society, and no one thinks that with the "regret medicine", they can come casually. Everyone still regards marriage as a "hammer" deal, and it should be picky and picky.

In this regard, it would be easier for two people who were not in good condition to get together. Because basically they are self-aware, this can be more pragmatic to accommodate each other, you let me take a step back, and a good thing will be done.

I'm afraid that if you don't have self-knowledge, or if your personal conditions are really good, there will be many strange and varied reasons for refusal.

For example, women pick men.

"This man's spirit is polluted, and he is indifferent to the heroic deeds in the newspaper", "I don't know who Shu Ting is, I haven't read a single poem of her", "He hasn't grown up yet, he always watches cartoons with his nephew", "His parents love to play mahjong, is that something that good people play? That's gambling", "Liu Wenzheng's songs are so good, he doesn't like to listen to men's songs at all", and so on.

It's the same with men picking women.

"She looks pretty good, but I always think my work clothes are dirty. It's too much, the worker's work clothes, can it not be dirty?", "This is romantic enough, but I love dancing too much, and now I am being strictly investigated, don't arrest me again for this", "Although she has a good temper, she has five elder brothers, and in the future, the two of them will quarrel and find them one by one, who can stand it", "This is a pretentious person, who regards himself as the children of cadres and despises workers and peasants", "That is really familiar, and when you meet, ask me if I have overseas relations, are you looking for me or overseas relations?"

With this kind of standard, where is it so easy to meet the right one? I am afraid that if we do not pick ourselves into "rubbing piles of vegetables" with wilted roots and yellow leaves, we will not wake up.

Secondly, starting a family requires money, which was also a very acute problem at the beginning of the reform and opening up.

Times have indeed changed, and this is not like the time of "sports", when two bunks are put together and put together, it is considered a home. No jokes, no comparisons.

Although at this time, the society's pursuit of household appliances has not yet reached the most **, the most ferocious time, but the TV has knocked on the door of people's **, has become the most desirable item. Especially color TVs, which are things that no one can walk on when they see them.

Nowadays, people have a kind of compensatory mentality, who doesn't want their marriage to be more decent? It can be regarded as a happy end to the youth that has lost their capital.

However, it is unrealistic to proceed from reality. In the early 80s, the wages of ordinary workers rose from 41.5 yuan to more than 60 yuan, which seemed to be a gradual increase of 50 percent, but they could only save a few hundred yuan a year. Compared with the new consumption concepts and consumer goods blown by the wind outside, it immediately withered. This is a great embarrassment for people in the general class.

Of course, if you can't afford high-end household appliances for the time being, you can wait, and it's a big deal to save money to buy them slowly in the future. But furniture is a must-have.

No matter how many "legs" are prepared, the girl is willing to marry this kind of thing, which sounds very cheesy of a small citizen.

can put yourself in the shoes of a young man who returned to the capital and finally became a family. The woman wants it, the man wants to put it, and it is understandable to get married once in a lifetime.

Compared with spending your parents' money to fill the show and buy a house today. At that time, it was really tough and tragic to use the money he saved to save money to settle a small family.

The current popular color is floor yellow, and in addition to the wine cabinet, there is also a sofa among the must-have furniture. Since the furniture still requires tickets, many people ask carpenters to do it. On the side of the street, carpenters can be seen working everywhere in the open field.

And many ingenious people even do it themselves because of limited funds. With some springs and sponges, they were able to make a pair of improvised sofas with exposed armrests. Then cover a blanket with a "tiger on the mountain" or a "welcome pine" pattern, and it looks quite good.

But no matter how much you save, you still have to pay for most of the numbers.

Due to the limited savings of people who have been working for a few years, and the fact that there are many children in the family at that time, brothers and sisters have to get married, how much can you expect from your parents?

Then many people will have to pay for their marriage and pull famine.

Finally, in addition to people and money, there is also one of the most critical problems, lack of housing.

If there is no "person" who can find it in various ways, you can borrow money if you are lacking, you can make it up, and then find a way to repay it slowly, but there is no way to do it if you lack a house.

So from the advent of the "marriage tide", the heads of the housing management departments of various units began to encounter ice and fire, some people gave them smiles, some people scolded them, and even some people beat them when they were emotional.

Some families also quarreled over this incident, and their relatives turned against each other. There are also people who fight with their neighbors over building small houses.

In short, the importance of the house and the resulting conflicts are becoming more and more apparent.

As for Shui Qing and Hong Yanwen, in terms of marriage needs, the two of them can be compared with the "old three".

They are all 69 educated youths, and they are all 26 years old this year, and their age is not much better than the "old three". It's no longer inevitable that their families will be anxious about them.

If you talk about their respective conditions, both of them are not bad.

It's all college students, not to mention, one is out of the water hibiscus, and the other is dignified.

Shui Qing's income is nearly twice as high as that of ordinary people, and Hong Yanwen has a solid foundation in his family.

The house is a bit of a disadvantage, because any unit gives priority to male workers. But if she can really find a colleague in the unit to marry, dual-income will become an advantage. What's more, the "polar bear" is better than those units that do not have staff housing at all, isn't it?

Needless to say, the Hong family has dozens of empty houses, how can they give Hong Yanwen a yard of their own.

Seriously, if it weren't for Hong Yanwen and Shui Qing growing up together since childhood, and the neighbors had been doing it for so long, no one would have any meaning when they met each other, and the two of them would be quite suitable in all aspects.

In fact, it's not that no one wants to promote this, in 77 years, when the two of them were admitted to college and returned to the city, several neighbors talked about it half-jokingly.

But the two families knew that their neighbors were in-laws, and they didn't like to find this trouble. Second, they asked their children, Shui Qing and Hong Yanwen were full of words, they all looked at their studies first, and they all shook their heads, and they never mentioned this matter again.

So from this point, it can be seen that many things are not good for most people, everything is fate.

I am afraid that these two people are emotionally absolute idealists precisely because they have read too many books, far more delicate, sensitive, and unique than others. If you can't find someone who is compatible with you and makes you really like someone, with their temperament, I'm afraid I'd rather not get married than settle.

In addition, even in the eyes of their respective families, these two are not perfect.

Shui Qing is because she has Shui Xiaoying, and everything is child-oriented. In reality, not only does she need to consider Xiaoying's feelings, but she also doesn't want to have children after marriage, which will definitely discourage most men.

Although she has the name of "factory flower" in "Polar Bear", from the perspective of people's concepts and ethics at that time, how many men are willing to pay such a big sacrifice for other people's children?

And Hong Yanwen is also in a state of emotional injury, career blocked, and being reassigned. Now he is in the county seat of Fangshan, temporarily studying behind closed doors to relieve his boredom. How could he fall in love with a girl in the capital in this situation?

On the other hand, according to the current general concept, he knows that he will return to Beijing sooner or later, so naturally he will not provoke the girls around him or accept the tenderness of others.

Therefore, whether it is Shui Qing or Hong Yanwen, if they want to solve their personal problems in their current state, I am afraid that some of them will grind, and some will wait.

But things in the world are so desperate, and many problems are not diverted by people's will at all.

Aunt Shui was in a hurry to put it aside for Shui Qing's matter, but a sudden accident surprised the entire Hong family.

Hong Yanwen is really getting married. And it's the daughter of the enemy, Xu Chongya.