A love that transcends blood kinship, my brothers

As I typed these words on the keyboard, tears fell from my eyes. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info It turns out that my brothers are so important in my heart.

I'm going to talk about my brother, they are not related to me. However, our relationship goes beyond blood, they watched me grow up, we grew up on the same mother's milk, they are my wet nurse's sons.

When I was two months old, I was taken to my mother's house, which was four kilometers away from my grandfather's house. My nurse has an older sister and four older brothers, and I am the youngest in this family. My eldest brother didn't make a deep impression on me, and he went to Shenyang to serve as a soldier when I was very young. My sister didn't have a deep impression on me in the early days, because she went to Nanyang to study before I could remember anything. The farthest memory for me, a vague memory of playing in my grandfather's yard, when two beautiful older sisters came to pick me up. I know one is my sister and the other is her classmate.

My nurse's family told me that when my sister came back from vacation, the first thing she said when she entered the yard was to ask me if I was at home, and if I didn't put down my luggage, she would pick me up. By the time I can remember, my sister hadn't been back to my nurse's house for nearly ten years for various reasons, and I hadn't seen her. However, my sister still loves me very much.

My other three older brothers, they grew up watching me, and my favorite is the second brother. I can say that I grew up on the back of my second brother. My family used to say that I rarely spent time on the floor before I went to preschool. At home, I sit in the arms of my mother (my nurse's children and I call her mother), and when I go out to play, my second brother carries it, and the most seen in the village is that I ride on the necks of my brothers to play.

Later, I had to go back to my grandfather's village to go to school. On Saturday afternoons, my two older brothers would pick me up and take me back to my nurse's house, and they would take turns carrying me. When I grew up, they couldn't carry me, and first an older brother came to pick me up and walk with me, and then I went back and forth by myself.

Because we often walk this road, we have to pass through a village, and several families along the road also know us.

I remember when I was in the third year of junior high school, I passed by there, and an uncle saw me and said, "Girl, you have grown up, I am the one who watched your nurse's house, and carried you from here to your sister and your buddies carrying you, all year round, all year round. Girls as big as you can work, and your buddy is still carrying you. Baby, don't forget them when you grow up (writing this, crying.) )!

The other said, "You grow taller, and sometimes we see that we tire them, so we let them put you down, and your two skinny brothers always say, 'My sister likes to let us carry them.'" Now that you're older, why don't you go to your nurse's house every week?

They were talking about my second and third brothers. The second brother is ten years older than me, and the third brother is eight years older than me.

I heard them at the time and felt exactly the same way I feel today. At that time, I wanted to cry when I heard it, but the reason I cried was that they didn't come to pick me up. Because the second brother and the third brother also left as soldiers, the younger brother is only five years older than me.

Sometimes I often think that my height of 1.68 meters, with small feet and hands, may be the reason why I walked less and didn't work when I was a child. Because, there is an article that the feet and hands of volleyball players are larger than those of non-athletic people, hehe.

Then, I am hungry, and I think it is caused by my mother and brothers, and the small stomach is even more of the reason for them. Because, my mother said that I was a picky eater since I was a child, and I ate little, and I was afraid that my nutrition would not keep up, so I asked my brothers to shoot birds for me to eat in winter, and as long as I could go down to the river in other seasons, my brothers would catch fish and touch yellow eels for me. Think about it, if you eat so well and don't even let you go, how can you stretch it out......!

I won't describe the eating of birds, because there will be many of them in one shot. The brothers also have something to eat. The fish and the eel make me cry when I think about it. I wrote about it in the article "Remembering the Wet Nurse". After the second brother and the third brother left, these tasks became the younger brother's. The younger brother's hands and feet are not as good as the two elder brothers, he can only catch one back, and he is never seen when he eats.

I asked him once: Little brother, why don't you come to eat together, don't you like to eat?

The little brother said: You are young or you should eat, our mother will not let me eat, saying that you want to grow taller.

Hey, I'm in tears again when I write this......

And then I grew up. I left them and came to my home in Xi'an to go to school, and I was gone for many years.

Six years ago, my mother was critically ill and rushed back.

I went into the yard of the nurse and saw the eldest brother, sister, second brother, and third brother, and they quickly put down their work and came over like when I came back when I was a child. At this time, a neighbor in the yard saw me and said politely, "Duo'er, how good your mother is to you, you only came back when you were so sick, and you didn't take care of it for a day." ”

Before I could answer, the three brothers said at the same time, "Why do you say that? ”

On the same day, half an hour after I saw the wet nurse, my mother passed away. My three brothers and sisters repeatedly comforted me not to make me too sad.

My brother was on his way home at the same time as me, and when he got home, his wet nurse had been dead for two hours. The little brother cried sadly and said: Mother, you can't wait for a kiss, you can't wait for a kiss.

That night, I slept at my second brother's house. I slept with my sister and my 17-year-old niece.

In the morning, I heard the second and third brothers say, "Tell them to get up and eat."

As soon as the three of us sat up, the second brother came into the bedroom and came to me. I brought a sweater from the chair next to the bed and put it on for me, and the third brother handed the pants to the second brother, and when the second brother put on my pants, the third brother put on my socks. At this time, the two sisters-in-law also came in. After the third brother put on my shoes, I was about to get out of bed, at this time the second brother reached out and hugged me down, I stood on the ground, the second brother, the third brother began to lift my pants, the jeans were a little tight, and the brothers had a hard time pulling them.

At this time, the third sister-in-law spoke: "My God, look at you, your sister is so old, and you still dress her?"

The second sister-in-law smiled and said, "You are rare and strange, hehe." ”

Sister said: "That's right, we've always been the same, it's strange not to wear it, I'll comb her hair for a while." ”

My niece said, "I'm much younger than my aunt, why don't you give me clothes?"

Hehe, after listening to their words, I don't know what my brothers think, but I remember that the two brothers and sisters looked at me with love in their eyes.

When my second sister-in-law got married, I hadn't left my hometown, and my third brother hadn't married when I left my hometown......

After all these years, my brothers' living conditions are much worse than mine, but they have never asked me for anything. On the contrary, every Chinese New Year's Eve night, my second brother would always call me, and the first thing he said was: The dumplings are served, and you can eat after calling you.

I always listened with tears in my eyes, and I blamed myself in my heart: why didn't I think to call my brothers first tonight?

This is my brothers, we are not related by blood,

But their love for me goes far beyond blood kinship.

Maybe it's because I grew up with a different upbringing, and when I was an adult, I was different from most people. In my eyes, the concept of blood relationship is very weak, and the family love I get is precisely given to me by people who are not related by blood. I am not a person who is left and right, I cherish and value my feelings, I have few friends, but as long as it is a friend, it must be intimate and intimate family affection.

These friends are my relatives, and I look at them the same. We have not changed with time and status, on the contrary, our kinship has become stronger. Sometimes I often wonder, why do we become relatives?

I have the answer: we are all honest people, and the trust between each other is the same as blood kinship. In your heart, you think of each other as the closest people to you. There is no demand for anything in return, when I think of each other, my heart is always simple concern and blessing, there is no worldly component, I cherish each other's possession, and each other has a responsibility in my heart. Share the joy of life and share the troubles of life without restraint.

The reason why I can define the relationship between friends is because I get along with my brothers. So, along the way, I never worried about going astray with my friends of the opposite sex. I can accurately discern what kind of people will continue to associate with, and what kind of people will make us relatives in the world. This is what my brothers have told me in their words and deeds: When you give a kind of selfless love, you must reap the same love!

Originally, I was lonely in Xi'an, and the reason for growing up was very weak with my family in Xi'an, but now I have friends like relatives, including my older brother, classmates, colleagues, students, and today I have a monk. When we move forward with the light, even if our eyes are cloudy, as long as we see in each other's eyes are still childlike concern, we are still relatives, because this kind of eyes are only found among relatives, which is trust, love, and pity.

In this era, the relationship between people is complicated, most people wear masks and beware everywhere, as if others are here to take advantage of you, and some people don't believe that there is true love in this world, making life like acting. When dating the opposite sex, the purpose is to be a confidant, or a lover. What are these things? In my opinion, the above three are all self-deprecation! They trample on feelings! Disrespect to oneself! Such a mentality is destined to reap troubles, which is really a mediocre person disturbing oneself and turning the beauty of the world upside down!

I'm glad I'm lucky, I'm blessed!

Thanks to my brothers, having you by me in this life is a happiness that no one who has experienced the same experience can experience. Because my brothers have made me enjoy family affection that others can't feel in this life, and it is also because my brothers have made me understand how to give care to others in this life, how to look at others' care, know gratitude, and cherish ......

2011－9－18

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