In life, sometimes you have to learn to be confused.

Everyone will have their own little secrets to a greater or lesser extent, so let each other have a little personal space.

For this, Feifei's mother has some experience.

A good sister kept a close eye on her husband, for fear that he would cheat.

As a result, he really cheated.

The man said: I can't get along with my wife, she is suspicious every day, so that his normal work can't be carried out, that is, he talks to his female colleagues at work, and after his wife knows about it, he is scolded.

Every now and then she would shout, "Why are you looking for a vixen?"

The conscience of heaven and earth, he is simply within the normal scope of work, can't he contact the opposite sex at work?

This is more feudal than a feudal society.

He explained that it was a colleague and that it was normal contact.

However, the wife just shook her head vigorously and insisted on her own thoughts.

And say, "Are you worthy of me?"

The man didn't feel sorry for her, at least he didn't ask his wife not to have normal contact with other men.

And after grabbing it once, the repeater function is turned on.

Endless beeps all day long, and she can't even stop her mouth from eating.

Later, as soon as the man saw her, he felt his head buzz and her mouth honked like a Gatling shot.

After a long time, he really had enough.

Eventually, he found another woman who was more considerate.

Even if she is new to her, she is not as good as her first wife.

When he divorced, he chose to leave the house and went to another place with his children and new wife.

Leaving behind a grief-stricken ex-wife.

Fei Fei's mother once went to comfort this sister, but after going a few times, she actually felt some sympathy for the divorced man in her heart.

That good sister became a person like Xianglin's sister-in-law, nagging over and over again.

No matter how much she persuaded her, she didn't realize her mistake.

Then, complaining vigorously, those complaints were just a few sentences, so that Feifei's mother could memorize them, and the former sympathy was gone.

Fei Fei's father naturally didn't dare to go, and when the resentful woman-like woman looked at him, it was like looking at a negative man.

Fei Fei's mother happened to take advantage of Fei Fei's mumps, and gradually went less.

In her opinion, even if you are divorced, it is not that the sky is falling, and living your life well is always remembering what you used to do?

In addition, she also instigated the relationship between Feifei's mother and her husband.

It was only then that Feifei's mother realized that she didn't understand this good sister very well.

Was time changing her?

Or is she finally revealing her true colors?

Feifei's mother gradually distanced herself from her later, and this woman really made her speechless.

In her, Feifei's mother can be regarded as learning something, some things can't be found in others alone, maybe the wrong person is herself.

There are mistakes that are not sad.

Sadly, I don't know I'm wrong.

What happened to her sisters made her more aware that after becoming a husband and wife, she should also be good at managing her emotions.

This is the reason why Yu Ying feels that Feifei's mother has the possibility of training.

Some people are really rotten wood that cannot be carved.

Yu Ying was very glad to meet their husband and wife, and said with a smile: "I am also blessed to meet you as a couple." ”

Feifei's mother shook her head and said, "Actually, really speaking, I'm very glad that Lao Xie saved my aunt in the first place." ”

"Now our two families are helping each other, and to be honest, I don't know where I could go if it weren't for my aunt. ”

Fei Fei's mother saw this very clearly.

If there was no Yu Ying, she was afraid that she would have resigned for the sake of her children.

After all, no one can take care of their children for them in the early days of their business, even if the children are already in elementary school.

It looks like the child is not small and will not spend more time.

In fact, in elementary school, parents are responsible for many things for their children.

Fei Fei's later studies were all Yu Yingbao.

This is something that my own family can't do, at most it's to help.

What's more, there are many problems between their husband and wife, and if no one wakes her up, I'm afraid that she will take a lot of detours.

How many times has she felt aggrieved, thanks to Yu Ying being her trash can on the side.

Fei Fei's mother knows this in her heart.

Now people only see their husband and wife succeeding, but how many people know the hardships that their husband and wife have suffered?

From the very beginning of preparing to go to the sea, there is a possibility that the business will die.

Even if the business is successful, it does not necessarily mean that the husband and wife are harmonious.

Because there are so many things that they don't understand.

With no one to guide them, they may take a lot of detours, will their husband and wife quarrel over this?

Fei Fei's mother is not sure.

Because I saw a lot of husband and wife for work and family, it caused a lot of quarrels.

Once the quarrel between husband and wife becomes a habit, the relationship between husband and wife will deteriorate, and I am afraid that it will not be able to go on.

One is not good, that is, Lao Yan flies separately.

This is the first threshold for divorce.

After this pass, even if the husband and wife support each other, survive the entrepreneurial stage, and the career is successful.

It doesn't mean that everything is fine.

There is always no shortage of women in this world who want to pick peaches halfway.

That kind of person will say with a heartfelt statement: she is in love with the man himself, not the man's money.

In marriage, regardless of the first-come, first-served issue, it should be seen whether there is love between a man and a woman?

An old woman who has no love should quit!

There are a lot of cases.

After witnessing it with her own eyes, Fei Fei's mother knew where her strengths were.

She has her own ability and has a common career with her husband, so she will be invincible.

Of course, Yu Ying reminded her that when she is with her husband, she should give full play to her strengths as a woman, face it with a gentle attitude, and don't be hard-handed.

In the battle to defend her marriage, she kept her family.

Among them, thanks to one person.

Thinking of this, she said to Yu Ying: "Auntie, thank you, although you just said that it was out of selfishness to help me, but the person who benefited in the end was me, Feifei, so our mother and daughter thank you." ”

Yu Ying smiled slightly, if you want to have a better connection with people, you have to know the good of others and keep it in mind, then the relationship will only be better.

Fei Fei's mother did a good job of this.

"No thanks, I also had it at the beginning, and I just wanted to raise Nan Nan, but that time I was chased by a dog, let me know that if this person has no money, he can't do anything. Yu Ying said.

"Yes, it's hard to move without money. ”

"The reason why I help you is just because I am a woman, it is not easy for women to live in this society, and it is really difficult to do their best for their work and be a good mother. ”

Feifei's mother said with great feeling: "Yes, it is a woman's duty to be a mother, and everyone thinks that a mother must do a good job." ”

But a lot of time and energy have to be occupied by work, so every woman who wants to be a mother and earn money can't wait to have three heads and six arms. ”

"It's not easy to be a woman. Fei Fei's mother finally said five words.

As a working woman, she understands the problems that women encounter at home and at work.

In fact, after shouting for many years about the equality of men and women, women will still be more critical when looking for a job after graduation.

It is because women are still burdened with the big problem of human reproduction.

It's good for women to be able to go to work during pregnancy, but it definitely makes a difference.

When preparing to have a baby, it is inevitable to take time off.

Maternity leave is often half a year, and women are not allowed to work outside the home.

After completing maternity leave, I came back to work, and I had an extra worry in my heart.

The child will occupy a lot of positions in the mother's heart, the child is not watched, if you hire a nanny, and you are afraid of the nanny abuse, there are unscrupulous nannies who abuse the child, and there are even guys who send the child to the hands of traffickers.

In this kind of situation, can you rest assured that you are a mother?

When you are worried about work, the efficiency is naturally lower than before.

Many workplaces feel that it is not cost-effective and are reluctant to accept women into the job.

Especially the kind of profession where technology is changing quickly, women are even more unwelcome, and after more than half a year, many things have not been developed to that point.

For female employees, they have to step up their studies.

People's energy and time are limited, work and study have to be occupied, and if they have children, then they pay less attention to their husbands.

Therefore, it would be good if the husband could understand what happened to his wife.

If you don't understand, it's naturally very unpleasant.

Of course, there are also men who advise women not to carry it hard and simply go home.

But can this really be done?

Actually, no, first of all, I can't afford it financially.

It costs a lot of money to raise a child in the city.

Secondly, women who know a lot of problems will not choose to go home and be a housewife.

Housewives are not professions, they can't bring a salary, and they don't have the confidence to speak in the family.

The economic base determines the superstructure, and the same is reflected in the family.

There are women who don't know.

The heroine in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" (not the heroine of Yishuli) is the most typical representative.

Many women, like her, obediently go home and become housewives.

As a result, after many years of being in office, a woman will find that her husband has begun to dislike her, and her husband has a new like-minded lover in marriage.

And the man asked for a divorce because he and his wife no longer had a common language.

After the divorce, she found that she had lost touch with this society, she used to get married and have children just out of society, and then take care of children, so she had no work experience.

Finding a job is a shortcoming.

Because you are working as a housewife, there is no workplace that considers it a job.

You've become a whiteboard newcomer again.

On the way to find a job, you will find that they are a kind of whiteboard newcomer, and they are even more unpopular.

Because there are more and younger newcomers who are also looking for jobs.

They have an advantage over middle-aged people.

The kind of woman who has returned to the family for several years and then comes out to work will find that those who joined the company at the same time as her have often been promoted to middle leaders, and if they are more powerful, they have already reached the top level.

But she can only start from the bottom, and even get the cheapest job thanks to Dade.

Confused.

Don't know where the road is?

As a woman, Fei Fei's mother understands the pain of those women very well.

Many of her subordinates used to be stay-at-home mothers, and then came to the workplace to fight again.

It was a painful transition.

This is still a woman with education and ability.

If you don't have a degree or ability, I'm afraid you won't even have a chance to sweep the road.

"Yes, women are great. Yu Ying said.

She doesn't support women as stay-at-home mothers very much because the social phenomenon is cruel.

Allowing women to go home with their children does not provide legal protection to stay-at-home mothers who make sacrifices.

After the end of the marriage, there are many stay-at-home mothers who leave the house.

They will find themselves unable to support themselves.

In addition, when the husband and wife divorce, who the children belong to depends on whether they have the financial ability to support them.

In other words, if she is the kind of stay-at-home mother who has no savings and no financial income, and wants to fight for child custody, she will find that she is already in a losing position at the beginning.

lost her marriage, lost her husband, and in the end, she couldn't even keep her children.

This is really sad news.

In fact, in this regard, the country is inferior to some countries.

In some countries, when a man divorces, a portion of his salary is automatically converted into alimony for his ex-wife.

This point, at least, allows the former stay-at-home mother to have her own financial resources.

Maybe one day, there will be a better way to solve this problem.

Let women have a better development.

Society is always advancing.

At the end, Yu Ying remembered something, "Feifei's mother, what I want to tell you now is that Feifei shouldn't be friends now, but if she really falls in love, don't stop it with that kind of violence." ”

Fei's mother was stunned.

I heard Yu Ying say: "Since Fei Fei is getting bigger and bigger, it is possible to fall in love suddenly." ”

"Who knows what this so-called love will be like, what if Fei Fei suddenly has a particularly strong affection for a boy?"

"Isn't there a lyric that says: Love comes too fast, like a tornado. ”

"Maybe, it's coming. ”

"Then don't beat the mandarin duck with a violent stick, but slowly figure it out. ”

Sometimes, the so-called hard demolition instead results in a pair of mandarin ducks with the same fate, such as Romeo and Juliet, and then Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai.

Therefore, Yu Ying resolutely disagrees with that approach.

She said: "Anyway, as long as the child is in front of you, it's better to watch it a little bit, and boiling the frog in warm water is the best policy." ”

"If it's really stronger than Jin, then it's a small couple. If it doesn't work, after a long time, it will naturally be easy to disassemble. ”

When Fei Fei's mother heard this, she said repeatedly: "Yes, yes, yes, that's true." ”

Yu Ying said: "Actually, this is all conjecture, Fei Fei and the two of them may not do this kind of thing at all." ”

"Uh-huh. Fei's mother said.

She was really relieved at the moment, and being told by Yu Ying just now made her think that Fei Fei had really found a boyfriend.

In fact, it's not that she doesn't want Fei Fei to look for it, but she hopes that she will not be too late to find it when she is older.

Yu Ying smiled slightly, and did not continue to talk.

If I talk about it again, I'm afraid that Feifei's mother will start to worry again.

For example, a child may be single.

Sometimes it's really contradictory to be parents, children are keen to fall in love, they are in a hurry, why don't they study hard?

After the child settled down and worked hard, they painfully found that the child who had been in love several times before was still a single aristocrat.

made my parents so angry, why was it so good to talk about friends in the early years?

How did you grow up and become clumsy, and you didn't even cheat on a wife (husband)?

And as children, it is also painful to face those demands of parents.

When they want to talk about it the most, it's often that kind of youth.

Because you have to study, you can't talk about it, the school is repeatedly ordering that early love is not allowed, and parents are even more strict against it.

So the sweet and warm early love did not bloom and was stillborn.

When I went to college, I was liberated.

After all, they are all adults, so they basically don't care about falling in love or something.