This is called divorce without leaving home.

In the eyes of outsiders, how conscientious this ex-husband is.

has been divorced, and let his ex-wife stay in his own home.

How good the heart is.

In fact, the original partner has nowhere to go, and the mother's family will not accept a daughter who has been abandoned.

The new civilization is accepted by only a small group of people.

More people are still in the old culture.

Even if they are not guilty.

It's just that the husband thinks they have no knowledge and no common language.

But not being able to get the favor of their husbands, in the old culture, it was their fault.

To be abandoned is to be foolish.

The scary thing is that they have nowhere to go.

In their lives, they have basically never had the opportunity to go out, and there are only two places they are most familiar with: their mother's house and their husband's house.

Now I don't want my mother's house, and I can't go back.

It was the former in-laws of the husband's family who kept them.

So they stayed where they were.

is still serving the former in-laws and raising children.

It's just that he has changed from being a widow to being abandoned.

Fortunately, husbands and new lovers generally don't go back to their hometowns.

Most of them are in big cities.

And the remnants of feudalism are naturally in the countryside of the homeland.

Many of them also have to be grateful to their husbands.

Because the original husband's family was still willing to take them in and did not drive them away.

In fact, in Yu Ying's opinion, of course the husband's family is willing to take them in, so that the former daughter-in-law will still do her best to take care of the elders.

Same as original.

Nothing has changed.

As for the son's side, he just said it ruthlessly.

The old man of the husband's family is afraid that his heart is also beautiful.

The son is capable, there is a woman to take care of outside, and he can have several more children.

Now my hometown and son have someone to take care of, which is good.

Anyway, many men in ancient times were like this, the eldest wife was filial piety in her hometown, and the younger wife took care of her husband outside, loving and loving.

This has been the case for nearly a thousand years.

The unlucky person is the poor and respectable original match.

They are clearly victims, but they are hurt again and again.

Many old-fashioned women, in just a few years, have been subverted from all notions.

They were at a loss.

Don't know where to go?

Everything that was once a proverb was labeled as a feudal remnant.

And they also became part of the remnants of feudalism.

Despised by some.

Yu Ying has deep sympathy for them.

They are not feudal remnants.

The real remnants of feudalism are those who are still advocating female virtue in later generations.

Things about the remnants of feudalism have not yet passed, and new questions have arisen.

The whole country entered the era of warlord secession, followed by foreign invasions.

Many women survived the storm.

It's just that they have suffered too much.

Dan Dan didn't speak, but shared Yu Ying's thoughts.

Because it is not human, it naturally cannot understand the aggrieved feelings of women in it.

So it changed the subject and asked, "So what TV series did you see and why is there so much controversy?"

Well, the female pig's feet in the TV series have always been thinking about giving birth to a son, and if she can't give birth to a son, it will be a heinous crime in her opinion. ”

"Hey, that's it!"

"Yes, many young viewers say that female pigs have holes in their brains, and they are the same for boys and girls. ”

"In the modern world, when equality between men and women is widely promoted, the idea that children must be born is indeed sick. Dan Dan said pertinently.

"However, it was the Republic of China, and the whole social environment was to ask the son to inherit the family business, and the female pig's foot was an old-style woman, without the baptism of new culture, which is very true. ”

"When watching TV, shouldn't we respect history and then be wary of the resurgence of female virtue?"

"Yes. ”

"Whether it's TV or movies, you can exaggerate or change them appropriately, but on the whole, you should respect history, otherwise it's funny to just say it, don't say anything about respecting history. Yu Ying said with some sighs.

However, some directors like to sell dog meat with a sheep's head on their head.

He said that the white was black, and the enchantress was whitewashed Mary.

Later, Yu Ying didn't even watch any cool dramas that promoted respect for history.

Of course, she didn't say this kind of thought, because people have already cooled to the international market and sold well.

Anyway, it's good to know what you know.

Dandan said: "You just want those girls to learn to respect other people's ideas, as long as they don't go out of line." ”

"Yes, in fact, the three views are generally good, but as long as you are a person who can think, there will still be differences on small issues. ”

"Let's give you an analogy. ”

"For example, if someone wants to have a child, they can even trade their own life. ”

"There are also people who have made up their minds not to have children. ”

"They are divided on whether to have children or not, but no one is wrong. ”

"It's up to you. ”

"yes, I see. Dandan nodded.

"I really hope that one day their descendants will be able to choose their own path. ”

"Your own way?" Dan Dan said.

"Yes, the education of women nowadays is more about making them virtuous and virtuous, stifling their creativity and imprisoning their thoughts. ”

"As soon as they are born, most of them have only one way, to be a good wife and mother. ”

"What I want is that they can choose their own path. ”

"If any of them wants to be a good wife and mother, let him be a good wife and mother. ”

"If you want to do research, you should do it, and when you want to show your skills in officialdom and on the battlefield, you can do it. ”

"The original education was too thin, blindly letting them show weakness and giving them a chance, not even a chance, just a spark, but a spark can start a prairie fire. ”

"In addition, I hope that they will avoid detours. ”

"Hahaha, your idea is quite unique, why is a good wife and mother one of them?"

"Because being a good wife and mother is also a kind of female self-choice. ”

"Really, it's not like I'm talking nonsense. ”

"Women who can make a difference in all fields are respectable. ”

But it doesn't mean that the kind of person who wants to be a good wife and mother is a bad choice. ”

"It's right to want to be a good wife and mother, of course, it has to be her own will, not forced. ”

"In the end, it is her family who will benefit, and as long as her choice is conducive to social development, why should she oppose it?" Ms. Yu said.

"For fellow citizens, we should learn to look at the merits of others, instead of feeling that we must be heretics as long as we are a little different from our own thoughts, and we have to fight to the death. ”

"Well, I agree with that. Dan Dan nodded.

"If you are still living in the original world, you are probably a good mother. Dan Dan said.

"Good mother, I don't know if I count?" Yu Ying shook her head.

Then she said, "When my child had a problem, I didn't realize the reason, and in the process, I felt guilty." ”

Dan Dan glanced at Yu Ying, who didn't understand the family affection in human emotions.

It is not human.

But over the years, Yu Ying has been trying her best to complete the task.

It's just to return to the real society, to return to the son who is still a child.

She has given so much, Dandan feels that she is a good mother.

In the mission, she also tried her best to educate the children around her.

A thought popped up and asked, "Is it empathy that is why you are so good to the children in the task?"

"There should be some, after all, I am also a mother, I understand the feelings of the client very well, and raising children is like planting trees, there will be a sense of accomplishment. ”

"Mmmm, that's how it should be. ”

"Actually, you've probably taken a lot of kids on your mission. ”

"Yes, it is precisely because I have brought many children that I will not object to women becoming good wives and mothers. ”

"To put it mildly, if you let the mother and father raise the child separately, under the same economic conditions, you are only afraid of being a mother. The survival rate of feeding children is much higher than that of fathers. ”

"Women are more suitable for children in terms of temperament. ”

"Of course, there are always outliers, and there are men who bring their children well, and there are mothers who are always on the verge of danger with their children. ”

Yu Ying shrugged her shoulders slightly when she said this.

"In fact, it is very easy to be a parent, as long as you give birth to a child, you automatically become a parent, but it is not easy to do it well. ”

"As a parent, you don't need to take exams to get a job, so there will be that kind of irresponsible parents. ”

Yu Ying's face was not very good-looking.

In the world of quests she has experienced, she has met too many parents.

There are parents who are eager to give everything for their children.

But there are also ruthless fathers and mothers.

Even those who abuse children are many of the child's biological parents.

What is very pitiful is that there is no provision in the law to deprive such parents of guardianship.

Let those poor children have to go back to the abuser.

I only hope that one day I can keep my children away from those who abuse them.

Of course, she didn't say that.

And what she wants to do is to let more people have this idea: even if the parents give the child a body, everything about the child still belongs to them.

Parents have the responsibility to raise their children into adulthood.

Because they are the ones who brought their children into this world.

"I really don't understand, since I don't want to raise my children well, why did I give birth to them?" Dan Dan asked.

"In this day and age, there is no effective contraception, and it is natural to get pregnant. Then, it can only be born. Yu Ying replied.

Dan Dan was a little dumbfounded when he heard this.

followed Yu Ying and said: "Of course, there are also people who regard their children as commodities that can be bought and sold, and after giving birth to children, they will sell them. ”

"I don't agree with that. ”

"Because of parenthood, and everything that has been done in the process of fulfilling the obligations of parents, can you be on top?"

Yu Ying shook her head slightly.

"Some people even regard their children as their own private property, and they can beat them when they want, scold them when they want, and sell them when they want to, which is wrong and violates human ethics. ”

Unfortunately, for a long time, this thinking was not considered wrong.

In their eyes, as long as it is what their parents say and do, there is nothing wrong.

"It's really scary. ”

"Poof! there are parents all over the world!" Dan Dan said with a smile.

At this moment, it happened to think of this sentence.

Yu Ying shook her head and said, "Of course this is false, parents are also human beings, how can it be right?"

This point is that when the Confucian sage arrives, it is impossible to say that he is all right, and he will never be wrong. ”

"So of course parents are wrong. ”

In fact, the original meaning of this sentence is this, as a child, try not to point out the mistake directly, but try to say it tactfully. ”

"Because parents are often old and may not be able to afford to blame them. ”

Yu Ying spread her hands and said: "Nowadays, many times, people like to take things out of context. ”

"Huh?" Dan Dan questioned.

"Taking it out of context means that it is clear that the owner of the original sentence is the same meaning, and the person who interprets it distorts the original meaning when quoting it. ”

This is often the case in Confucian texts. Yu Ying said.

"Some of the texts that have been handed down to later generations have been castrated, and in order to win the favor of the rulers, those who studied the texts have been deleted. ”

"On top of that, some people will only intercept words that are useful to them, or promote things that they feel are appropriate. ”

For example, some people often say: Zi said: repay grievances with virtue. ”

If you only look at these words and explain them, you will become a saint and hope that when you face your enemies, you will also be gracious and value peace. ”

"And not the front bar. ”

In fact, there is another sentence under the saint, and the whole meaning is a great reversal. ”

"The original words of the sage said: How can you repay grievances with virtue?"

Dan Dan was a little dizzy.

Yu Ying said: "The real meaning is that it is a favor to the enemy, so how should you treat your benefactor, is it just a favor?"

"If you do this, how do you look at it, it is better to be an enemy than a benefactor, because you have calculated others and treated them the same as your benefactor, this situation is really unpleasant. ”

"yes! ”

With the latter sentence, the whole sentence changes meaning.

"In my opinion, repaying grievances with virtue is the behavior of fools. Dan Dan said.

Yu Ying nodded.

She agrees more: a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye.

In the same way, the kind of people who rightly say to their children that the world is all about their parents often don't know the true meaning and pick up chicken feathers as arrows. Yu Ying said lightly.

"In my opinion, a mistake is a mistake. ”

"After knowing that you are wrong, you have the courage to correct it or accept the lesson, which is the real way to deal with it. ”

Dan Dan laughed, its owner is sometimes a bit of a talker.

Of course, it is undeniable that as long as it is a normal human being, after hearing criticism, it will be more or less unhappy, which is a normal emotion. Yu Ying said.

"You're going to be upset too?"

"Yes, of course I'll be angry. ”

"Speaking is also a kind of learning. ”

"Some people don't learn to really speak, and if he learns to really speak, then he's better off. ”

"Dandan, I don't know how you feel, I'll just talk about my thoughts. Sometimes someone points out your mistakes, and you'll gladly accept them. ”

"And some people point out your mistakes, which will only make ordinary people break down, or even become enemies. Yu Ying said lightly.

"Whether you can speak or not are two attitudes. ”

"Of course, sometimes when you fall out with someone, you should talk and make them uncomfortable. ”

"For example, when the Lin family is facing the Zhang family, they will not be polite. ”

"When I speak, I also make them embarrassed, they will hold grudges, but they are against each other, so they don't care. Yu Ying said with a smile.

By this time, it was time for the little girls to get out of school.

So after saluting Yu Ying from afar, they left here in groups.

Yu Ying beckoned to them.

Then walk.

"You can also see it, just like Zhang Changsheng, he didn't point out the mistakes in his mother Zhuang's words. ”

The result was that she went further and further on the wrong road step by step, and finally led the Zhang family to go to a small place, and there should be no possibility of returning to the capital. ”