In the eyes of everyone, Qi Qing is the kind of person who is at the forefront of thinking and does his own thing, and it is indeed surprising that this kind of person would suggest Yan Rushun to have a second child at this time.

Xin Weiyang was also surprised, he never expected that it was not anyone else who finally stood up as a lobbyist, but Qi Qing, who had never been unruly in words and deeds and was rejected by him.

Qi Qing smiled and said: "Because we not only live in the present, we will also live in the future." There are times when you need to ditch your emotions and think about life holistically. ”

Along with Xin Weiyang, the three of them looked at her longingly, waiting for further below. Just explain.

She took a sip of water to moisten her throat before continuing: "Let's first analyze the problem that Chinese people don't want to have babies. There are many reasons for this, but I think there are three key points:

"First, the process of modernization has swallowed up a lot of people's time and energy, leaving ordinary families with no time to take care of too many children, or even no time to take care of children - but this process is irreversible and cannot be artificially stopped, so this fundamental aspect that is not conducive to increasing the birth rate will not change for the time being. ”

This is understandable to everyone, and they all nodded.

She held up two fingers and continued: "Second, economic pressures, which have been covered a lot in this media and don't need to be elaborated on — but I think that's a false proposition. Because from ancient times to the present, there is no era in which people's lives are risk-free, and there is no era in which ordinary people can have today's living standards. However, in the past, people would try to have children even if they were in danger, but now even if they have savings, as long as they have not achieved financial freedom, they don't want to have children.

"Since the population crisis has been really in front of us, it can be expected that in the future, the Z government should come out with some relevant policies to encourage everyone to have children from the economy, taxation and other aspects, but because the economic problem is a false proposition, I personally believe that it is difficult to achieve the desired effect in the short term with the policy alone. ”

Yan Rushun felt that what Qi Qing said was indeed quite reasonable.

On the issue of population, she had also seen some relevant reports. In order to encourage the population to have children, many foreign countries have introduced various policies such as single tax, maternity pay, honorary awards, etc., but the birth rate is still hovering at a low level, or the recovery is slow.

This shows that the effect of incentive policies is not as significant as people think.

Qi Qing said: "I think the key lies in the third point, that is, the level of women's willingness to have children. This is linked to the entire social and cultural environment, and the current social culture is more harsh on women, resulting in a greatly reduced willingness of women to have children.

"Raising children in China is still mainly a woman's business, but in general, no one values women's contributions. The current atmosphere is that working mothers are discriminated against, full-time mothers are despised, and if there is something wrong with the marriage, women can only admit that they are unlucky, and they will be despised if they remarry with a baby.

"Being a mother requires a lot of sacrifices, and now it's not like in ancient times, giving birth to a son will bring you what kind of protection for mothers to rely on their sons and raise children to prevent old age, but it will attract unnecessary risks, so that they will bear unnecessary pressure. From an investment point of view, it is certainly not a good deal.

"To put it mildly, the pursuit of stability and pleasure is the mainstream mentality, why should ordinary people take so much risk and carry such a heavy burden? Therefore, it is normal for women to be reluctant to have children or to have more children. ”

That's so right!

Isn't having a child a risk for a woman?

Not only does life take risks, but life also adds immeasurable and uncontrollable risks.

Aren't stay-at-home mothers at risk of being abandoned by their husbands and lacking a source of livelihood? Even if they are willing to take risks, don't worry, there is still the humiliation of not having an income waiting for them.

If it weren't for these reasons, how could Yan Rushun, a person who likes children so much, refuse to have a second child?

It stands to reason that most men, like Xin Weiyang, should not care about having a second child, whether they have a child or not—provided that as long as it is not him who has the child.

Therefore, if women are picky in the matter of raising children, men will naturally forget it.

But if a woman really wants a child, she can get a baby. For example, Qi Qing brought the child back without even having to be her husband.

Mei Bai couldn't help but sigh: "This is true, the collective will of women affects the future of the nation......"

Qi Qing curled her lips: "Otherwise, how can it be said that water can carry a boat and also capsize a boat? This is the same as the stock market, retail investors are like lambs to the slaughter in the eyes of institutions, however, it is also retail investors who determine when and how long the bull and bear markets will start. ”

Yan Rushun was puzzled: "Since you have analyzed it so thoroughly, why do you still suggest that I consider a second child at the right time?"

"First of all, there is a premise, that you yourself do not reject the second child - don't you like children?"

Yan Rushun said: "It's one thing to like, it's another thing to be realistic." I love the Queen's Crown Jewel, but I can't just take it home because of that, right?"

Qi Qing said with a smile: "I said that this matter should be considered as a whole, because your fertility is time-limited, and the situation will definitely change in the future."

"It is foreseeable that the second child will become a politically correct thing in the future. In order to increase the population, the Soviet Union launched the 'Heroic Mother', and today, decades later, we can also introduce examples such as 'Hot Mom with Many Children'. When the time comes, people on the street, including those around you, will encourage you to have a second child, as if if you don't give birth to it, you are sorry for the prince of heaven and earth, and sorry for the genetic country. When the time comes, it will be difficult for people not to be affected when they are in it.

"In such an environment, you yourself do not reject the second child, and even suddenly found that a woman who has a second child can enjoy the protection of many welfare policies, and is therefore ready to move, but at this time you find that you have become an elderly mother, and you must risk your life to have a second child, is that another difficult thing?"

It's a dilemma.

"Oh......" Yan Rushun raised the corners of her mouth a little helplessly, and subconsciously glanced in the direction of Xin Weiyang.

Xin Weiyang looked at Jian Jian, lowered her head and didn't know what to think, and didn't give her a thoughtful look.

Ay!

Yan Rushun sighed sadly: "Let's talk about it when I get rich." In modern society, it is not popular to start a family first and then start a business, and if you don't set up your business, you can't do anything. ”

Qi Qing smiled slightly: "With your words, I know that the population trend is irreversible in a short period of time." ”

Mei Bai asked why.

"It's very simple, because judging from the current national conditions, it will be more and more difficult for young people to start a business and make a fortune in a short period of time in the future. However, everyone has the idea that if they do not start a business and start a family, then when and when will they be able to start having children? If they cannot even have a single child, let alone a second or even a third child? From this, it is speculated that the number of births in our country will further decline. ”

It's really a leaf falling and knowing the world is autumn.

Yan Rushun felt that Qi Qing was very reasonable. But she can't control the general trend of the country, she can only take care of her own mess.

At the moment, even if she obeys her mother-in-law's wishes and gives birth to a second baby, she will never win her gratitude and praise, on the contrary, the contradictions between them will only get deeper, and her mother-in-law's contempt for her will probably only get deeper and deeper.

She is not such an ambitious person herself, and if she wants to achieve a career and make a lot of money, she just wants to win the confidence to freely control her life, so that her mother can recognize her choice from the bottom of her heart.

If she doesn't live out this breath, how can she set an example for Jian Jian?

Could it be that in the future, in front of Jian Jian, she listened to her mother-in-law's derogatory reprimand, so that her daughter could learn to have a temper that was angry?

There's really no way around it.

Mei Bai slowly stroked her round belly, her eyes suddenly moistened, and then she choked up and laughed at herself: "It seems that I didn't choose the right time to get pregnant, otherwise when the state comes out with a series of maternity support and welfare policies to relieve my worries, then this child will not have to leave me." ”

Yan Rushun hurriedly squeezed her hand and comforted: "It's okay, the parents that Qi Qing found for the child will definitely not be bad, and it will be happy." ”

"But, when it grows up, it knows that my own mother has abandoned it from the beginning, and it must hate me, right?" she mourned in her heart, hiding her face and weeping bitterly.

The big guys were so frightened that they panicked, and it took a while of persuasion to finally calm Mei Bai down.

At this time, Qi Qing's parents came back, and the sister-in-law also took the captain home for a walk.

Yan Rushun and the others said hello to Qi's father and mother, teased the captain, and asked about the situation, so they got up and said goodbye: "Since Auntie and Uncle you are back to take care of the captain, then we can rest assured that we can send Xiaobai." ”

Qi's father and mother instructed: "Xiaobai has to be careful along the way." ”

Everyone should be, the handbag of the handbag, the implementation of the suitcase.

Yan Rushun took Jian Jian, who had woken up, from Xin Weiyang's hand, threw two big bags to him, fed Jian Jian some water, ate some fruit puree, and then prepared to set off together.

Xin Weiyang didn't understand what to do, so he quietly asked, "Where is Mei Bai going?"

Yan Rushun also quietly explained to him: "She is approaching her due date and is preparing to give birth smoothly, and she doesn't know when she will give birth, the child's adoptive parents have rented a house near the hospital and asked a nanny to take care of her, and we have discussed sending her over to give birth together today." ”

So that's what happened.

No wonder Mei Bai burst into tears when she thought of the child. Probably because today's departure means that the child will soon be separated from her.

The group escorted Mei Bai to her destination and met the child's adoptive parents.

They are about forty years old, they are kind and kind-eyed, ruddy complexion, have an extraordinary temperament, and drive a Phaeton, which shows that their family background and cultivation are good.

Qi Qing did find a good family for the child.

But even so, Mei Bai couldn't help but feel sad.

If it weren't for the risk, she might not have given birth to the child at all, and because of the risk, she had to make the painful decision to separate.

Why is there no double perfection in this world, and can live up to the original intention?

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