After giving birth to the child, with the help of the sister-in-law, the assistance of both parents, and her full-time childcare, Xin Weiyang was excluded from parenting. In addition to ordering diapers and other baby products online, people can't think of asking him to do anything else.

He did not participate in the process of Jane's growth, and he did not have a tangible experience of being a father, so he did not fully understand the responsibilities of a father.

That's why I think that as long as someone is taking good care of his daughter, he doesn't have to meddle in the chaos, and just use peace of mind to earn money to support his family.

It's okay to earn money to support your family, but only earning money to support your family's father's love may be very weak. Weak enough to wait for her daughter to grow up and not know how to get along with her, weak enough to have no patience to play games with her daughter or guide her daughter to do homework, so weak that she has no understanding of her adolescent daughter's rebellious behavior at all, and even so weak that it doesn't matter if you don't have this daughter after divorce.

Yan Rushun regretted it very much, she knew that she should have handed over some things to Xin Weiyang from the beginning to take care of Jian Jian, even if it was a small thing, it was a father's dedication to his daughter.

Father's love is no better than mother's love, which is born.

Father's love is cultivated bit by bit, just like the little prince goes to see the little fox every day and finally tames each other.

Only by giving hard work every day, accumulating feelings every day, will father and daughter establish an unbreakable bond.

She couldn't help but rejoice, glad that everything had just begun, Xin Weiyang didn't miss too much as a father, so it's still too late to correct it.

After calming down, she frankly shared her views with him: "Weiyang, I think we should make adjustments:

"First, Jian Jian is your daughter, the more she grows up, the more sensible she becomes, and your lack of her growth as a father is not only a pity, but also may leave a psychological shadow on her;

"Second, we can't always count on our parents to help, because they are getting older and not getting as good as they used to be. And taking care of children is a very tiring thing, especially when Jane learns to walk and learns to walk, the elderly will definitely not be able to bear it. We must be mentally prepared for this;

"Third, in the final analysis, Jian Jian is our daughter, not the daughter of our parents. She is our responsibility, not our parents' responsibility. There are some things that we have to learn to carry on our own. And if we could take care of the children completely by ourselves, maybe there wouldn't be so many conflicts between me and my parents and our parents, don't you think?"

She looked over expectantly.

Xin Weiyang rubbed the thumb around the coffee cup, and didn't speak for a while, but he couldn't hide the trace of embarrassment on his face.

During these days, he really didn't have any real feelings about his daughter, but he knew a lot about the troubles of raising children.

When it comes to children, every link is very trivial, and it has to be repeated mechanically every day. What attracted was Yan Rushun's complaints, mother-in-law's requests, and mother's accusations, and sometimes it was really wrong to do anything.

It's a nuisance that makes people feel hopeless just thinking about it.

He was quite glad that he had thrown out such a troublesome burden, but he didn't expect his wife to put the burden on his shoulders now.

If he hadn't seen how his wife was in a tragic, maybe he would have gritted his teeth. But now......

Professor Xin, who has always been very responsible, retreated.

After thinking about it again and again, he suddenly thought of an idea, his face was happy, he leaned forward, and said with great interest: "Wife, otherwise you don't care." Anyway, my mother wants to take the child, so I asked my mother to take Jian Jian back to her hometown. We live our world of two, lest they always come to talk about us. How?"

Burst!

Yan Rushun directly sprayed the juice on his face, and asked in a suppressed voice: "Did I just tell you so much in vain? You might as well not give birth in the first place! Oh, we gave birth to Jian Jian, but we threw her to her grandmother, and she didn't see us a few times a year. Obviously, there are parents and no parents, and the family is not unconditional, but it is like a left-behind child. Is your daughter your own, how can you come up with such a bad idea?"

Xin Weiyang wiped his face, wiped it clean with paper, and looked left and right with a weak heart.

Fortunately, there were few people on the weekend, and no one saw the scene just now, otherwise he would have been disgraced.

"I'm just making a suggestion to discuss, don't get excited......" He reached out and patted her on the shoulder soothingly.

Yan Rushun didn't buy it, shrank his shoulders, shook his hand off, and showed a serious face: "I said before I got married, I can endure other things, but the children's business is not good." If you don't want to be responsible for your children, you should have made it clear to me from the beginning that either we don't get married, or we don't have children. ”

But before getting married, he really didn't think that it would be so troublesome to bring a child. Moreover, there are two meticulous record analysts like his mother, whose conscientious and responsible attitude makes even the doctoral students in his lab embarrassed to see - you are not allowed to have the slightest violation or laziness.

Xin Weiyang is a little nerve-wracking, a good wife and a good mother are good, but when a good mother and a good wife have a conflict, it is also very embarrassing.

After knowing each other for so long, he played tricks in front of Yan Rushun for the first time: "I'm not irresponsible, am I not making money to support her?"

"She's a daughter, not a beggar, do you think it's enough to give a few dollars?" Yan Rushun hates that iron can't become steel, "When you get old in the future, your daughter only knows how to pay you alimony, and doesn't care about anything else, so can you accept it?"

"Then I'm not busy with work...... Professor Xin tried to get by.

However, even he himself felt a little bit of the tragedy of stubborn resistance—after all, his wife's argument had convinced his mother, and he himself had not done it.

Yan Rushun really turned on his firepower: "Yes, you are indeed busy with work, but let me ask you, can you be as busy as Madame Curie no matter how busy you are?"

"She is a woman, extracting a tiny amount of radium salt from more than 1 ton of asphalt slag, burning a boiler to cook asphalt like a man for more than three years, working from morning to night, tired like a dog, and taking time out to train her daughter to become a Nobel Prize winner.

"Now, please tell me the truth, Xin Datian, are you really so busy that you can't spare a little time to do something for your daughter every day?"

At this moment, Xin Weiyang really had the urge to vomit blood.

If he could, he really wanted to learn from Yan Rushun's shouting like Yan Rushun had yelled at Yan Mu before: "I don't know how others do it, I just know that I can't do it!"

But why is there such a rebellious woman as Marie Curie in the world? He, a nine-foot man, can't admit with a shy face that he is not as good as a woman.

The most frustrating thing is that he still has the title of "genius". Sure enough, people are afraid of being famous, pigs are afraid of being strong, which is simply unbearable.

Xin Da Genius, defeated with one blow!

The general of the defeated army had no choice, so he was forced to sign an alliance under the city, and obediently promised his wife to go back and surrender to his daughter.

But even when it came to this, he still wanted to die and struggle again: "Shun Shun, I really don't know what I can do when I go back." ”

Yan Rushun was in high spirits when he won the victory, and he was stunned for a moment when he asked him like this.

yes, what can Xin Weiyang ask him to do when he goes back?

Don't rush him home to change Jian Jian's diapers, this is really overkill, and it may not be suitable - think about the bear appearance when he changed his daughter's diapers for the first time, she thinks it's better not to be optimistic that he is positioned as an all-round genius.

Think about it, Marie Curie didn't take her eldest daughter with a handful of and urine back then, the biography says that when she went to work, she entrusted her daughter to the nanny at home, and then told her stories and played games when she returned home.

Yes, yes, a brain as easy to use as Xin Weiyang should give full play to its advantages, accompany her daughter to tell stories, play games, and create a high-intelligence environment for Jian Jian.

Yan Rushun opened widely.

Xin Weiyang was full of question marks: "Storytelling, making games, Jian Jian is only six months old, what can I tell her?"

"You can tell her any story you find interesting. ”

"For example?"

Yan Rushun furrowed her brows, and thought about the stories that contained wisdom: "Aesop's Fables?"

Xin Weiyang spread his hands: "I haven't read it." ”

"You're kidding!" Yan Rushun didn't believe it, "Didn't our mother say that you have read a lot of books since you were a child?"

"It's all science books. ”

"Haven't you read it?"

"Do Chinese textbooks count?"

Yan Rushun was stunned for a long time, shook her head and sighed: "Our mother is too short-sighted, otherwise you must be a master with high IQ and EQ now." ”

Xin Weiyang smiled in confusion, and the subtext was: Okay, whatever you want, but can you absolve me of responsibility?

However, Yan Rushun immediately added: "It's okay, I've already bought a graphic version of Aesop's Fables, just read it according to the book when you go back." ”

Xin Weiyang: "......"

The two discussed properly, one was high-spirited, the other was depressed, and returned home one after the other.

Yan's mother took the initiative to welcome: "I'm back." ”

It is rare to see Yan's mother greet so positively, the two were stunned for a moment at the same time, but they were worried about their daughter's affairs, so they didn't take Yan's mother to heart, answered casually, changed their shoes and went straight to the master bedroom.

Yan Rushun met Xin's mother head-on, and her mother-in-law also had a rare good face: "Are you back together today?"

It seems to be in a good mood.

Is there anything good?

Yan Rushun guessed in her heart, paused at her feet, said hello to her mother-in-law, waited for a while, Xin's mother didn't say anything to her, and Gu Zi went to make her granddaughter happy.

She became more and more puzzled, and always felt as if something was wrong.

But what's wrong?

She crouched in front of the bookcase in the children's room looking for a book as she pondered the question.

As soon as she got "Aesop's Fables", she suddenly reacted: Something was wrong! She hadn't seen anyone since she entered the door, where had they gone?

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