155 Understanding
Our conversation, very hard. But when it comes to a slightly more in-depth question, there are always words I don't understand, or I don't know how to respond if I do. I only hate that my exposure to Arabic is too short, and I have not learned it well, and my foundation is not solid.
The conversation was at an impasse for a while, and no matter how gentle the temperament of both sides was, they could feel the embarrassment and embarrassment suspended in the air. After a few arduous questions and answers, we were silent for a moment at the same time, and I looked down and saw the light shining on my pale knuckles, feeling inexplicably powerless.
After a moment of silence, Moses' mother called the waiter and spoke quickly to her in Arabic, and the waiter nodded, turned away, and when she returned, she brought with her a girl, and Moses's mother seemed to have known her, and nodded warmly. The girl, who spoke English and Arabic, smiled at us and said, "I'll translate for you." ”
I was relieved to finally have the hub of the 'exchange' flow, and at the same time I felt that I was terrible. I wanted to behave well in front of my elders, but I couldn't even complete the most basic communication. If she can't even pass the gentleness of Muses's mothers, how can she hope to integrate into Muses' family?
I took a deep breath, looked at Mussa's mother, and said in as sincere a tone as possible: "Don't worry, I am a quick learner, and I will learn Arabic well in the future, so that you will not be embarrassed." ”
Mussa's mother did not respond directly to my "future plans", she looked at me, took a sip of orange juice with a flat expression, and said something that was conveyed to me by the interpreter's 'girl' child: "You have known Mouses for a long time, haven't you? He told me about you before Mouses and Lemise were married. ”
I was a little confused, and nodded silently.
"Were you a classmate when you were a master's student?"
"Yes. ”
"That's been more than two years. Musa's mother said slowly, "He wanted to marry you a long time ago, why don't you want to marry him?" Her voice remained calm, but perhaps because she had been deadlocked for too long, she now asked straight to the point.
I was stunned for a moment, but after thinking about it, I finally answered honestly: "It's not that I don't want to marry him, but I don't want to share the same husband with others." ”
"However, if Lemise is here, it will be much easier for our family to accept you. Mother Moses looked at me and continued, "It is not up to me to decide what you and Muses are doing. But you joined and studied in August of this year, right? It's not been a few months now, and even if Moses says you're very religious now, we're not very reassured. It is very difficult for two people who do not live together in faith. ”
I was going to say, "Ramis and Mosa share the same beliefs, and there is a problem with different feelings?" I've always felt guilty about this. If it weren't for me, even if Moussa still had no feelings for Lemis, it wouldn't have been to the point of coldness.
So, I just humbly said, "You also know that I have known Moses for a long time, and I like him as well as his way of life and beliefs. These things have imperceptibly affected me. In this way, the time is actually not short. "I'm telling the truth, Muses doesn't 'smoke' or get drunk, he has a gentle temperament, he is friendly and filial, and he has more or less the influence of faith. And these qualities are also things that I admire.
His mother curled the corners of her lips and said lightly: "In fact, in Dubai now, there are indeed friends around me who have married foreigners, and they have had a good and bad life. My heart is on Mouses, and if you really appreciate this way of life, you can be disciplined in your words and deeds, and you will live in harmony with him. Seeing that you are happy, I have nothing to say. Of course, this is just my position and does not represent the rest of the family. ”
I was about to rejoice, when I heard her turn around and ask, "But, do you know that if Moses marries you, a foreign 'woman', he will be forced to give up all the benefits and privileges that the government has given to the natives?"
I opened my mouth, which I had heard before, but I didn't know exactly what he needed to give up. Now that it was mentioned by Musa's mother, my heart hurt a little more, and I was embarrassed to say no more. I had been thinking mostly about converting to the faith, but I didn't think much about the rights that Moses had to give up and the language he had to communicate with his family.
Musa's mother sighed: "So, you two young men, think through everything. I spoke to Moussa, and he promised that he would not regret it. What about you, are you sure you think it through? Faith is eternal, not overnight. ”
I didn't answer her right away, and looked down in contemplation for a moment. What is so difficult for Muses to give up polygamy for me, to give up the welfare of the natives, to hold up for his faith? Although my initial motives were not pure, I truly appreciated all about him and respected his faith for it. In my life, how difficult it must be to meet such a good man. Love each other deeply, what is the opportunity that can be everywhere?
As if I had made up my mind, I looked up at her firmly: "I'm like him, and I won't regret it." We have experienced a lot together, and the precipitation of the future is the driving force for good happiness. I will do my best to treat him well, and I trust him to treat me well. ”
Mother Moussa stared at me for a few seconds and smiled: "I am actually relieved to see you wearing this today, which means that you are also changing for him." You're a little more traditional than I expected, and it's comfortable to look at. Saying that, he sighed, "I heard him say something about you occasionally, and I started to think that time would pass, but I didn't expect to stick to it until now." But when I saw Moussa happy, my heart was happy. ”
I couldn't help but feel a sour taste in my nostrils, Musa's mother was very similar to my mother, despite all her worries and displeasures, she finally chose to tolerate and retreat.
Musa's mother's expression was gentle, and she said slowly: "Today I put the main problem in front of you, not to embarrass you, but to hope that you two children can really think clearly. In the future, don't regret each other's sacrifices and contributions. ”
My heart fluttered in her words, it turned out that she had been ready to agree before she came today, all just to confirm my determination. Her son has already been tossed and turned in his marriage once, and she wants his future life to be smooth and satisfying.
I nodded repeatedly: "I see what you mean, thank you." ”
"Don't be too busy saying thanks, my words don't have a 'sexual' effect on your affairs, they only represent my blessings. Moses' mother sighed, "I value Moses more than anything else, but his parents also have to consider your devotion to the faith and the words of those around you. The future is uncertain, but I will try to persuade it. ”
The 'chest' was full of emotion and emotion, and when Moussa's mother saw me, there was no questioning or interrogation, but more like a reminder and teaching. For her, she may also reject me, but after a lot of struggles and thoughts, in the end, she couldn't bear to see her child continue to suffer, and her loving heart overcame other constraints.
I chatted casually for a while, but because of language problems, I couldn't say too much about the details. Thinking that Musa was still waiting outside, we went out in a short time. When Moussa saw that the two of us walked out, the atmosphere was good, and his solemn expression was also relaxed. Originally, we were told to go to a nearby Middle Eastern restaurant for a meal, but her mother refused. Moussa translated to me what her mother said, saying that when she saw me today, Moses's father did not know, and that it would be better to go back sooner, and that if he had the opportunity in the future, he would still like to eat at home.
Listening to this, a warm feeling enveloped my heart. But I also understand that the annotation of this "home" also has a prefix of "if".
If, there is a home. If, no.
The two possibilities are shuttling in parallel, and we don't know how it will end.
And because of this yet, I have the hope of leaping forward and the tightly tensed heartstrings.
While Mousa sent his mother home, I went back to the Palm Island myself, cooked with my hands, and waited for him.
Forty minutes later, the sound of the key turning was heard at the 'door', and Moses returned. He ran over and hugged me, and couldn't wait to ask, "What did my mother tell you today?" Mussal took my hand and asked softly, "Is there anything that is difficult?"
I shook my head: "She didn't make things difficult for me, don't worry." After thinking about it, he asked him again: "However, your mother is not good at English and does not communicate well, why didn't you mention it to me beforehand?"
"I thought I'd be there too, and I could help you communicate. I was worried about this problem when I knew that the location was in the 'women' clubhouse', but my mother said that there were 'girl' children in the club who knew her well, and they could speak both Chinese and could be interpreters. Moussa frowned slightly and asked me, "What's the matter?" I see you guys were in a good mood when you came out. ”
"I didn't ...... It's nothing. "I thought about it, and it dawned on me that it had all been arranged in advance by Musa's mother. In order to remind me of the difficulties I will face in the future, she also took great pains.
"Your mother loves you very much. As I said sincerely, my mind became alert, and I changed my mind to him, and I said: "I must learn Arabic well, Mosa, and you must help me." ”
He 'rubbed' my hair: "Of course, we work together. You learn Arabic, I learn Chinese. ”
Since then, we have one more learning goal that we can share. I downloaded the tutorial on learning Arabic from the internet and started to study steadily. Mousa didn't like to read tutorials, he just liked to talk to me, and he made progress.
On weekdays, when we have nothing to do, we practice with each other. I speak Arabic and he speaks Chinese. In my spare time, I chanted "uheibukai (I love you)" to him. He said "I love you" to me in Chinese, no matter how many times he said it, he couldn't express his love for each other.