Out of the door came a middle-aged woman with a tired face, black eyes, and even a little unkempt. If it weren't for the fact that the face was so familiar, she wouldn't have dared to recognize anyone.

This is not the same person as the beautiful hot mom who appeared in the early education center, what's wrong with Sister Yan?

As soon as Sister Yan opened her mouth, she apologized repeatedly: "I'm sorry, Ah Shun, Xiao Wang peed his pants just now, and I was still cleaning up for him when the doorbell rang." ”

This situation has also been seen in the early education center, and Yan Rushun understands it very well: "It's okay, it's okay, I'm not in a hurry, it's most important to take care of Xiao Wang." Then he asked, "Why is Xiao Wang at home today?

"I had a cold before, but now I'm just sick, and I'm going to send him to kindergarten tomorrow. ”

"Oh, the kids in kindergarten get sick so easily. ”

"Yes, when he gets sick once, I take off a layer of skin. ”

No wonder looking at Sister Yan's haggard appearance, Yan Rushun felt more and more that her mother's hardship was not easy.

While talking, the two walked into the living room of Sister Yan's house.

Xiao Wang was sitting on the crawling mat, with a bunch of colorful toys around him, Xiao Wang picked up this one and threw it out, picked up another one and smashed it, and the originally spacious and exquisite room was a mess.

Sister Yan shouted softly: "Xiao Wang, who do you see coming?"

Xiao Wang glanced up at Yan Rushun, but he didn't say a word, and lowered his head to fiddle with the toys in his hand.

Sister Yan's heart suddenly caught fire, but she still forcibly pressed it, raised her voice and said, "Xiao Wang, don't you know each other? This is Teacher Yan, she taught you a lesson at the Children's King Early Education Center, do you remember?"

Xiao Wang still drooped his eyelids and ignored people.

Yan Rushun hurriedly explained: "It's okay, it's okay, I haven't taught him for a while, it's normal that he doesn't remember." Then he coaxed him with the toys he bought, "Xiao Wang, I'll bring you a gift, do you like puzzles? Do you want to build an airplane with your mother?"

Xiao Wang looked at Yan Rushun, didn't say a word, snatched the puzzle over, and tore the package by himself.

Sister Yan emphasized in an accentuated tone: "Xiao Wang, I want to say thank you." ”

Xiao Wang didn't hear it.

She was furious all of a sudden, snatched the puzzle toy, and roared, "Did you hear me speak?" I told you to say thank you!"

Xiao Wang cried "wow", crying so heartbreaking and deafening.

Sister Yan exploded all of a sudden, and unconsciously took out the momentum she had when she was a manager, and said sharply: "Are you embarrassed to howl?

The more she was like this, the more Xiao Wang cried, screaming over a scream, her little face was red one moment, and the next moment it turned white, and people began to roll their eyes as if they couldn't breathe.

Sister Yan suddenly panicked again, hurriedly hugged her son in her arms, patted him on the back and coaxed: "Don't cry, don't cry, mom is wrong, mom shouldn't scold you." Xiao Wang took his time, exhaled - inhaled - exhaled - inhaled ......"

After a long time, Xiao Wang finally calmed down and said, "Mom, I'm hungry." ”

Sister Yan's face was full of fatigue, and she forced a harmonious and amicable explanation: "It's not dinner time yet, so you can't eat indiscriminately." ”

Xiao Wang's nose wrinkled, his mouth opened, and he was about to cry again.

Sister Yan only felt that her head was about to explode, so she hurriedly compromised: "In that case, you can only eat a biscuit." ”

Xiao Wang took the biscuit and ate it happily.

Sister Yan sat on the sofa, exhausted, and suddenly covered her face and whimpered: "Ah Shun, look at it, why is my little Wang like this! I want to jump off the building every minute!"

Yan Rushun was startled, and hurriedly comforted: "Sister Yan, don't worry! Xiao Wang is only four years old, you can educate slowly." You were too anxious just now to scare Xiao Wang, if you calm down, Xiao Wang will be easy to calm down. ”

Sister Yan poured bitter water like a cannon: "I understand the truth, but how can I calm down? In the past, your brother-in-law always said that he would play with Xiao Wang and want him to have a happy childhood, but now look at it, the parents who believed in a happy childhood in the past have all regretted it.

"Do you know how fierce the competition is now? I heard a few days ago that only 35 percent of those who go to junior high school can go to the general college entrance examination, and two-thirds of them have to enter vocational high schools. I don't want to say that I expect Xiao Wang to go to any major university, but I can't even go to college, right? If I don't go to university, it will have a far-reaching impact on people's knowledge and vision. ”

Yan Rushun listened, and her eyelids couldn't help jumping three times: it was the first time she had heard the statement that the general high school admission rate was only 35%, but with Sister Yan's rigorous style, this news was mostly true.

Not to mention the child's mother, even if she doesn't have a child yet, she feels that her scalp is tight.

Sister Yan fell on the back of the sofa in frustration, and said helplessly: "But look at Xiao Wang, and then look at his peers, many children are either familiar with English, or they are familiar with addition and subtraction within ten." He was at home for the past three days, and I taught him 1+2=3, teaching every day, teaching as much as he wanted, and forgetting as much as he taught. You say, how can he compete with his peers in the future? How can I not be in a hurry?"

The more anxious you are, the easier it is to lose your temper, the more you lose your temper, the more disgusted you are, and the more disgusted you are, the more you can't learn, which is completely a vicious circle.

Yan Rushun couldn't help but sigh: "Sister Yan, you taught me before, if you use a method to do things but it doesn't work, it means that the method is not suitable, and you should decisively change your thinking." In fact, if you think about it, this statement also applies to educating Xiao Wang, right? Since being anxious will not make Xiao Wang better, let's calm down first and think about what will really be effective, okay?"

Sister Yan listened, and calmed down a little, but still felt powerless: "Then what can you do? If you have a way, I can kowtow to you." ”

Yan Rushun smiled: "Sister Yan, why do you look like you are in a hurry to go to the doctor." Let me ask you first, please think about it carefully, is it related to the fact that Xiao Wang peed his pants just now, is it related to the pressure you exert during this time?"

This is what Zhao Xuan told her: the three-year-old child's physical development has been basically perfect, and he should have the ability to control urination independently. If a four- or five-year-old child still wets the bed and pants, it is mostly related to psychological factors.

So, she made a bold guess.

Sister Yan thought for a moment and sighed: "Maybe, since I heard about the 35% general high school admission rate, I have been very impatient, and I may have passed this pressure on to Xiao Wang without paying attention." ”

It seems that you should have guessed correctly, at least the two things have a lot to do with each other.

It was because of the excessive pressure that the parent-child relationship between Sister Yan's mother and son, which was easily eased, became tense again.

She continued: "Listen to me, you put your math studies aside for a while. I saw an educational article that said that some of the children who can calculate addition and subtraction at the age of four or five may really know it, but the number is definitely not much, and the vast majority of children memorize it and do not understand the meaning of addition and subtraction.

"This kind of learning is actually not good for children, but it is just to satisfy the parents' temporary desire to win - think about it, as long as you are not a fool or a mental illness, who will not add and subtract a slightly older child? Sooner or later, it is just a problem, but it forces adults to want to jump off the building, and children are forced to pee their pants, adults and children are emotionally out of control, destroying the relationship between mother and child, and it is not conducive to physical and mental growth.

At this time, Sister Yan finally calmed down completely.

After all, she is also a Kochi woman, although she was dizzy for a while, but as soon as Yan Rushun explained the reason, she immediately came back to her senses: "You're right, I'm really ...... Recently, I have been chatting with the parents of those who have been promoted to junior high school a lot, and they are anxious, so I am also anxious. The problem now is, I can't go back to the previous free-range mode, but I can't force Xiao Wang into the Jedi anymore, so what can I do now?"

Yan Rushun Wenyan suggested: "I have a way of thinking, recently I was reading the book "Reading Handbook", and I agree with one of the points in it: whether it is mathematics, physics and chemistry or literature, history and philosophy, all disciplines are always based on reading comprehension ability. If the reading comprehension ability is insufficient, it is like a spaceship without fuel, no matter how much teachers and parents drag it, it will not be able to go to the sky. ”

Sister Yan perked up and asked urgently, "Then what should I do to cultivate reading comprehension skills?"

"Reading, take Xiao Wang to read well every day, first create an atmosphere of family reading, let him become interested in reading, and then persevere, over time, he is addicted to books, you don't have to worry about him not learning, and you don't have to worry about him indulging in online games in the future. ”

Sister Yan took her hand excitedly and thanked her repeatedly: "Ah Shun, you really helped me a lot." Every time I don't know what to do, it's you who give me guidance. In the future, we will have time to talk more, and you can give more advice. ”

can really help Sister Yan, Yan Rushun is still full of a sense of achievement.

However, she herself is not an expert after all, and she is still trying to explore, and she feels that she can't afford Sister Yan's praise, so she hurriedly said: "Sister Yan, don't say that, we can talk, but I really don't dare to say that I am a maze." If you think it's useful, use it, and if not, we'll discuss it again. ”

"Yes, it will work. Sister Yan said very firmly: "As soon as you say it, I think it makes sense, isn't reading comprehension the foundation of learning, I'll go to the Internet to buy that book." ”

Immediately, she sighed again: "I should really be like you, start preparing before becoming a mother, and I won't fall into such an embarrassing situation today." Now that I think about it, no matter how successful my career is, the child is a mess, and I will feel like a failure!"

Yan Rushun replied firmly: "It's not too late." Sister Yan, as long as you have this awareness, the result will not be too bad. ”

Sister Yan looked at her son and nodded a little sentimentally: "I hope so." Anyway, I'm definitely not going to give up on myself, since I gave birth to him, I'm going to be responsible for him to the end - I really started being a mother in that mood. ”

In an instant, Yan Rushun's heart was sour and moved.

Sister Yan, who used to be a strong woman, gave up her advantages, fought desperately on another completely unfamiliar battlefield for her son, experienced unprecedented defeats, and chewed on the frustration that was as heavy as Mount Tai, but she got up again and again and continued to move forward, never forgetting her original intention in her heart.

I hope that one day, Xiao Wang will deeply understand his mother's hard work and sacrifice.

Boom!

A sudden loud bang startled the two of them.

It turned out that Xiao Wang finished eating a biscuit and wanted to eat a second one, but he couldn't open the lid of the biscuit box, and threw the biscuit box on the ground in a fit of anger.

For a moment, Sister Yan's face darkened, but Yan Rushun helped her adjust her emotions, she immediately suppressed her anger, took a few deep breaths, and then walked up and said to her son softly, "Do you want to eat cookies?"

Xiao Wang nodded.

Sister Yan said, "Just now we said that we would only eat one piece. ”

Xiao Wang immediately made a gesture to cry.

Yan Rushun hurriedly interjected to help: "Mom still wants to give Xiao Wang biscuits to eat, but the biscuits in the box just now were broken and not delicious." Do you want to go to the bookstore with your mother and eat cookies while reading a book?"

Xiao Wang stopped crying, and responded very happily: "Okay! ”

Yan Rushun winked at Sister Yan: "Then let's go! Reading a book is a very enjoyable thing, you can read the book for a while while you are waiting for the cookies, and the cookies should be almost ready." ”

Sister Yan nodded knowingly and coaxed her son to change his shoes.

When Xiao Wang clumsily changed into his sandals, Sister Yan apologized in a low voice: "I'm sorry, you came so easily, but I couldn't greet you." ”

"It's okay, it's okay, it's not as important as a child, right?" Yan Rushun didn't care at all.

Fortunately, she didn't forget the main purpose of coming this time, and quickly took out the invitation: "Please appreciate your face when the time comes." ”

Sister Yan shook her hand vigorously: "You will definitely be very happy." ”

She raised her eyebrows in surprise: "Why?"

"Because you've always been clear about what you want and where you're going. It's a rare talent, and I'm sure you'll do it. ”

After saying goodbye to Sister Yan, Yan Rushun was in a good mood for no reason.

This is the first time she independently analyzes the baby's problems for the mother and makes suggestions, in the past, she couldn't do anything except comfort, and the specific opinions always had to be asked by Zhao Xuan before she dared to tell the mother.

Now, she really feels her progress. That unparalleled sense of accomplishment was like Alexander the Great conquering a continent.

The hard work of these days has really not been in vain.

Like a young girl, she walked around the street as if no one was around, happy to herself, so she almost missed a phone call.

Passers-by kindly reminded her, and she hurriedly answered the strange call.

After hearing the content of the phone call, she couldn't help but gasp.

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