Chapter 65: Switch
Han Sende had a switch in his mind, and he often fell into a paradox, knowing that the lights were turned off, but still imagining that the lights might still be on. Self-doubt and self-denial almost occupied Han Sen's head. He also has more confirmations than others. Most of the time this is a cumbersome habit and only comes in handy in a few cases.
Once Han Hu's car was sent for repair, borrowing Han Sen's car to drive, Han Sen took the bus with his bag on his back, and after a few seconds of getting on the bus, Han Sen subconsciously touched his bag, and found that the zipper had not been closed, and he was shocked into a cold sweat, which contained 6,000 yuan in cash. Usually when he drives, he throws his bag in the co-pilot, and he doesn't deliberately check it. Thanks to his penchant for subconsciously checking his phone and wallet.
Ever since he forgot to close the car door one night and received a call from the security guard, Han Sen's switch has become more sensitive. Even if the car door is closed, I will go downstairs to check it.
Later, in order to save trouble, Han Sen simply checked and confirmed that the windows and doors were closed twice at the first time. Some people can be so arrogant that they forget where they parked their cars, while others are unsure whether the doors are closed. Everyone's switch is different, and some people don't have a switch at all.
Some people's switches are based on her feelings rather than specific things, for example, if Lin Rouer feels that Han Sen doesn't care about herself or interacts with others, her switch will automatically turn on, quarrel, and anger will follow. Once it is turned on, it is difficult to turn it off, so she can only wait for herself to degas and turn off the switch by herself.
Ning Xian'er's switch is whether it is boring or not, if life is too boring, she will turn on the switch to enter a more interesting mode. She doesn't have time to spend her precious time on trivial matters. Lishan'er's switch lies in a stable life, if her peaceful life is disrupted, she will choose to turn off the noise and choose the most comfortable mode of life.
Don't dwell too much on right and wrong. Zhang Min'er's switch is on trust, if she feels that she no longer has the original trust in each other, she will close the door of communication and not give her a chance to maneuver. Lu Qin'er's switch lies in the family, if her family is not guaranteed, she will calmly choose to quit.
Han Sen's switch is that he thinks in self-denial, and he is able to accept ideas that are completely opposite to his inner thoughts. There are many kinds of switches, and they are often switched. Everyone has a different switch, but the focus is different.
Han Sen focuses on negation and reflection. Many people actually don't have a switch in their hearts, they come when they open their mouths when they speak, and they do things just in their brains, and often some things that should be said and shouldn't be said are said, and what should be done and what shouldn't be done are also done.
In fact, everyone can properly learn to restrain their own words and deeds. It's not a hypocritical thing to worry about what you're doing, it's a dignified sense of social responsibility and excellent self-regulation.
In real life, everyone has made small mistakes that seem brainless, and they can turn on the switch of understanding for each other, a little more human, and a little less angry. Everyone will be a fool at a certain time and place, because life is a paradox, you are a normal person and a fool, and this switch is connected.
Don't overemphasize your own losses, but use rational thinking to evaluate the damage suffered by the other party. Han Sen has been hurt by several girls, and he has also hurt several girls.
When getting along with Lin Rouer, the switch in my mind will open the floodgates of memory from time to time, so that I can be at ease when sudden problems occur, learn from previous mistakes, and bypass redundant detours. The switch connected to the memory will remind him from time to time that you missed too many times and don't keep repeating this ridiculous stupidity.
Han Sen found that most of the people in the country did not have a buffer zone when they got along. At this time, the switch can play a role in regulation, and when you are in a high mood and easy to get angry, you can turn off some excessive behaviors.
When life is difficult and you are in a bad mood, you can turn on some stimulating switches, boldly do things that you didn't dare to try before, and let your stress be released. A good relationship must be a high-quality soul exchange.
If you just blindly emphasize your own interests, think about being invincible, think about not being able to suffer, think about why I have to make concessions, think about being too unfair, think that I am not good and he also wants to be happy, all kinds of things, then there will be a lot of practical contradictions, if one day one of your switches is turned on for others, then you have begun to mature.
You shut up your own darkness and light up the light of others, and in the end it is you who illuminates.