2015 is coming to an end again. Pen Fun Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 ｉｎfo

If you want to say that the harvest of this year is to raise the child by another year.

Dou Kid was admitted to the model high school, although he did not focus on the focus, but he did not live up to the hope that we have always been "demanding" not high.

It's just that in this world that is no longer safe, for the safety of my children, I am always afraid. I don't dare to let go of the child out of the house, I don't dare to let him out of my sight.

Recently, I read the book "Positive Discipline for Teenage Children" by the American Jane Nelsen, and gradually understood that I am not only afraid of growing up children facing the world, but also many parents no longer live in the palms of their parents after facing their children with their own thoughts and personalities, no longer obey their words, but strongly urge to enter this unpeaceful world, which makes many parents at a loss.

I'm an enlightened mom who doesn't control her children's thoughts and behaviors, but on reflection, I still know that I'm still a more controlling and pampered mom.

The core idea of positive discipline is that everything should be analyzed positively, studied and solved for the sake of the child's dignity, rather than sarcasm, sarcasm, punishment, or long preaching.

In the past, I often talked the opposite, which seemed to provoke children's introspection and self-criticism, and often also lectured at length, thinking that as long as the children grew up safely and healthily. As for her achievements, I don't value them.

And in life, I do it all for me, and I hardly have to do anything with my children. As long as the child said that there were any difficulties, I would help her solve them as soon as possible, and never considered that the child had to solve the problem by himself.

Although it has always been well protected, the living ability of the bean child is not bad, which is also a confirmation of the idea that "when the time comes" and "it will be natural when the time comes". Think about it when I was a child, I was also industrious, and I didn't know what to do if I had my own home?

In fact, in the final analysis, I am still reluctant to let my children suffer, think about it, life is not very easy, and the carefree days are so many 20 years, and I have to take care of them one by one in the future, why not let my children relax in these 20 years?

Now it seems that there are still some problems, although the bean child's growth is healthy and her life ability is not bad, but her sense of responsibility and gratitude are not so strong. There are still cases of self-righteousness and self-centeredness.

While ensuring the safety of my child, I am also slowly letting go, no longer overstepping, hoping that she can grow up slowly, mature slowly, and become a person with a sound personality.

It's 2016, 16 years old beans are already tall and big, so many years of careful teaching and meticulous care have given me rich rewards, thank God.

Mom hopes that the bean children in 2016 will grow up safely, happily and maturely.