I called and chatted with my mother for half an hour last night, and I learned my mother's true thoughts and learned some about my grandmother's situation. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info

Grandma has been unable to take care of herself for more than a year, for more than a year, most of the time is my mother is waiting, my mother's house is a few miles away from my grandmother's house, my mother doesn't want to drive her brother to pick up, so she runs back and forth on foot to serve. While serving my grandmother, I also had to worry about a mess of things at home, and my mother said, "I'm almost seventy years old, and I'm tired." ”

The elder brother couldn't understand his mother's thoughts, and felt that his grandmother had ten children and should all share some of the burden of taking care of his grandmother, and he shouldn't let his mother bear it alone, so he didn't support his mother's actions. But he doesn't know how difficult his mother is, his mother's brothers and sisters have always been selfish, lazy people, and grandma has no inheritance to share, so the three monks have no water to eat and push around, only my mother feels that she can't let go of this responsibility as a child. While being careful about dealing with the mood of your son and daughter-in-law, you must try to take care of your grandmother. Only I can understand her embarrassment and hard work, and I can understand it.

When it came to the treatment for my grandmother, my mother told me: "Don't talk about treating your grandma, don't say anything about your money, first, it can't be cured, and second, if you are cured of paralysis, it will only increase the burden on your mother, no one will serve and no one will take care of it, and only your mother will be responsible for it." Mom really doesn't have the strength to bear it anymore, Mom is also old, and she wants to live easily for a few years. ”

It was really distressing to hear my mother's words! My mother has lived for others all her life, for her children, for her grandchildren, and for her parents. The father's weakness made the mother bear all the hardships of life that she should not bear, and it was time for the mother to live easily by herself when she was old.

The mother also talked about the issue of grandma leaving and being buried according to local customs, saying that the old man was still in the middle of nowhere, and the children had already quarreled over the issue of money and interests in this matter. It is a sad thing that a few sisters who have been working hard have already calculated their own gains and losses! I know the virtues of my mother's brothers and sisters, and they have already had such a thing when my grandfather died. This time, they will definitely fight to the death for the sake of interests, and they will quarrel all over the world. I told my mother: "No matter who says or does something, the old man is no longer there, everything is meaningless, you don't get involved, you don't care if they quarrel or fight, you can't control it." You only do what you have to do, and that's fine. It would be good if you had a clear conscience and were worthy of your conscience. ”

Mom said: "Don't worry, Mom has never been short of anyone, this year I have been carrying dry food on my back, buying all the daily things that your grandmother wants to use to serve her, as a daughter I think I have done a good job." When your grandma is gone, your mother will just fulfill her personal responsibilities. I want to help your fifth uncle come out with some money, this winter people come and go, your fifth uncle's family is almost eaten and drunk, except for my mother to take some food and drink, everyone else is empty-handed, just this time, my mother helps him, and the rest of them are willing to follow my mother's ideas, and I don't want my mother to talk much. Mom is old, I don't want to entangle with them too much, according to their own conscience. ”

"Well, Mom, I support you! You also tell my dad and my brother not to make them feel unhappy, just do what you should do well. If you have money and can afford it, you can pay it, and if you don't have enough, you can say, I will pay you, and our own family should not have conflicts in this matter. Grandma gave birth to you and raised you once, and when I was a child, I also loved us, the last journey, I don't have a chance to do anything in the future, we should do more, I am willing, just tell me how you arrange, I will listen. "I told my mother.

"Yes, mom has it, you can afford it, you don't have to worry about it. You have time to call your brother and say, don't worry about other people's business, save some snacks for Mom, and Mom will be satisfied. "My mother is not worried, and my brother may feel that my mother is giving too much and is psychologically unbalanced.

There is a saying in the grassland: a wolf also eats meat, and a pack of dogs eats. It means that one who is useful as a child is enough, and a group that is useless is useless. Whether it is useful or not, of course, refers to filial piety to the elderly and support for the elderly.

After listening to my mother's words, there was a lot of sorrow and pain in my heart, my grandmother worked hard to raise ten children in her life, although none of them stood out and glorified their ancestors, but there was no one who had not experienced this hardship and hardship, how could they not have the minimum conscience and conscience to be a human being? They treat their parents like this, and their children naturally see it, and the chickens will crow for generations, so look at it.

Fortunately, I am glad that my mother's actions make me feel gratified, and I will do my best to spend my mother's old age happily.