Happiness really has nothing to do with a person's material things, happiness is only related to a person's needs at the moment.

It's like a bunch of people running to the toilet with diarrhea, and those who can occupy a pit are happier than those who don't occupy a pit.

This is a relationship of desire and security.

How many people make 3,000 yuan a month at the age of 20 and are as happy as a little fool.

As he grows up, this happy little fool can earn 30,000 yuan a month, but he feels that he is unhappy, he feels that he is so poor and his life is so urgent.

It's because of desire.

The more money you make, the more people have a desire for life, when you earn 3,000 a month, you feel very luxurious when you occasionally take a taxi, but you don't drive a BMW with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, you feel very shameless.

Happiness is equal to the ratio of what a person has and what he wants, and if a person's desires are twenty times more, even if the money is increased tenfold, the happiness is still reduced.

What Zhao Xiaoyao is talking about is this kind of happiness, ordinary people are more likely to get happiness than them, because ordinary people don't have so many desires, and what they want to have is simpler, easier to get and satisfy, so they will be happier.

Eating a hot pot with someone who only earns 3,000 yuan a month will make you feel happy, while someone who earns 30,000 yuan a month may need to eat a three-Michelin-starred restaurant to feel happy!

It doesn't feel old to buy a 300 yuan dress for two years with someone who only earns 3,000 yuan a month, while a person who earns 30,000 yuan a month will feel outdated even if they buy brand-name clothes.

It's delicious to go on a date with someone who only earns 3,000 yuan a month, go to an incorruptible restaurant for a meal, and then go to the noisy pedestrian street to buy a stall, while a person who earns 30,000 yuan a month doesn't go to a high-end restaurant on a date, and they don't feel faceless if they don't spend a few thousand yuan!

Living in a shared house with a person who only earns 3,000 yuan a month does not feel cramped, but a person who earns 30,000 yuan a month will feel miserable if he does not have a house, even if he lives alone in a rental house with a monthly rent of 6,000 yuan!

The level of desire is different, and the difficulty of people getting happiness is different.

"What we lack is the same happiness as ordinary people, so although we have more material things than ordinary people, it does not mean that we are necessarily happier than ordinary people. Zhao Xiaoyao shook his head.

Kai Xin looked at Zhao Xiaoyao blankly: "What determines our happiness ......?"

"What determines your happiness is definitely not the money and material things you have, but whether you are content with your current situation and whether you enjoy the process of chasing. Zhao Xiaoyao said: "The more difficult the process of chasing, the higher our sense of happiness after we get it." ”

"You don't need to chase anything like me to get it, so it's ...... There is no sense of happiness at all. Kaixin took a deep breath, and she suddenly understood a truth today.

Zhao Xiaoyao smiled slightly: "Don't let those things that are readily available ruin your happiness, the things outside your body are not important at all, your own happiness is the most important." ”

"So you have your pursuit, and then find your happiness?" Kai Xin looked at Zhao Xiaoyao curiously.

Zhao Xiaoyao smiled slightly: "Yes, I have my pursuit, material things are meaningless to me, anything I want as long as I want, I can get it by swiping my card, so I won't have happiness, but the other things I pursue are different......"

"Then what are you pursuing?" Kai Xin asked, she wanted to have the same pursuit as Zhao Xiaoyao.

"What I'm after isn't necessarily what you want to pursue. Zhao Xiaoyao shook his head: "You have to find what you really want to pursue, and then you will understand what the happiness after you get it." ”

Kaixin really yearns for it, and she really wants to know what kind of experience that hard-won "happiness" is.

"There's a pretty easy way to get a feel for it. Zhao Xiaoyao smiled: "Tomorrow you will go to KFC, which is the most crowded in the city, order a bunch of food and grab a seat, when you grab an empty seat, you will have a sense of happiness." ”

Kaixin looked at Zhao Xiaoyao with a puzzled expression, she really didn't understand Zhao Xiaoyao's words.

"Then you drink a few more Cokes, wait until you can't hold it anymore and then go to the bathroom to line up, and when you wait in line for 20 minutes to get access to the bathroom, you will also have a sense of happiness. Zhao Xiaoyao said again.

"Neuropathy is so dry. Kaixin rolled his eyes.

"You're pampered, you've never tried the feeling of waiting in line for a public toilet, and of course you don't know what kind of happiness you will feel when you get the right to use it. "Zhao Xiaoyao said: 'I'm just saying now, you may not be able to experience it, but when you experience it yourself, you will definitely understand what I mean. ”

"That's too insane. Kaixin said in disbelief.

Zhao Xiaoyao shrugged his shoulders: "I'm just giving you a little advice, whether you want to try it or not is completely up to you." But if you don't try, you'll never understand what I'm talking about about a sense of 'happiness', that's all. ”

Although Kaixin shook his head and refused on the surface, he had already decided in his heart that he was going to give it a try.

It sounded ridiculous, but she really wanted to know what it was like.

Otherwise, if she didn't even know the so-called "happiness" in her life, wouldn't she live in vain?

"Okay, I won't say more, if you really don't want to get to know everyone, I won't force you. Zhao Xiaoyao said: "But if you want to come to find the happiness of ordinary people, you can also come to Ben Xuan to line up, and when there are no seats, you can get the treatment of going to the back kitchen to eat through my privilege, which is also a sense of happiness." ”

Kaixin was told by Zhao Xiaoyao that he now has an urge to go to Benxi to eat.

It's just over seven o'clock in the evening.

And Kaixin really didn't eat, and to be honest, he was indeed a little hungry.

"Last time I went to your Ben Xuan restaurant, I only tasted the barbecue, I don't know if Ben Qian's hot pot is also very good. Kaixin asked suddenly.

Zhao Xiaoyao understood in seconds: "Is it very good, you can only know after you taste it yourself, no matter how good I say, it's useless if you don't taste it yourself." ”

Kaixin looked at the time again, she didn't say it directly, she just wanted to give Zhao Xiaoyao a chance to invite her, but her stomach grunted very unhappily.

"Let's go, go now, I'll let you know what a little happiness is, a little happiness is being able to eat a big bowl of tender mutton when you're hungry!" Zhao Xiaoyao grinned, pulled Kaixin up and left.