In fact, studying psychology is a very cruel thing, when we understand the world, human beings themselves, we will find that human beings are actually very... Anyway, it's a very imperfect thing, and it's not the kind of thinking we had when we were kids.

The first sentence in the "Three Character Classic", "At the beginning of man, nature is good", is not widely recognized by everyone at all, even if you have not studied psychology. Everybody's childhood is self-centered, I cry when I'm not feeling well, I cry when I want to eat, I can't cry when I'm okay anyway. A lot of good morals and habits in everyone are acquired, and everyone is guided by others to develop in the direction of kindness, because if everyone is selfish, the world will not be the same, there will be no development, which is why this sentence is written in the "Three Character Classic".

Morality is very important for the development of a person, society, country and even all mankind, and then let's analyze this matter in Xiao Ming's family, many people already know that I will definitely talk about morality, but there are also psychological knowledge points......

"Here, dry goods are here, wait until I'm going to find a notebook first. "Isn't this all Xiao Ming's fucking responsibility?Do you still use analysis?" "Look hard and study hard, this is the god of the circle, I watched him play games just to pass the time, and now I can finally watch my favorite psychological analysis!" "This anchor has also studied psychology? I'm afraid I didn't just take a few classes in elective classes to do popular science, right?" "I don't look like it, aren't all those who study psychology because they should look very unfathomable, the kind of mysterious breath leaking?" I used to be as ignorant as you, and I knew that I saw his certificates, ...... "At the beginning of the live broadcast of the circle god, I began to fan him, saying that you will apologize to the circle god later." ”

First of all, let's determine the personality, there is only one person who is wrong in this matter, and that is Xiao Ming's mother, there is no doubt about it, but what can we do with her? It's a pity that none of us can do it, Xiao Ming's mother is only at fault for cheating, but in our country, cheating did not violate the law, and the law does not explicitly stipulate that cheating is subject to legal responsibility, which is a moral problem, but Xiao Ming himself violated the law, because peeking at other people's mobile phones violates other people's privacy, which is subject to civil liability. But does anyone think that Xiao Ming did something wrong?

"There's nothing wrong with that!" "This can't be considered a crime at all, it's obviously Xiao Ming's mistake." "Xiao Ming is a good person, he stood up for his father. "If this matter goes outside, no one will blame Xiao Ming." ”

Morality plays a role in restricting our behavior in our daily life, and we have relied on the law on the one hand and morality to build our country since ancient times.

But I told this story from Xiao Ming's point of view, everyone will be so indignant, but have you ever told this story again from his mother's point of view? Maybe her heart is also wronged to death, why do I spoil my son so much since I was a child, give him delicious food and drink, save food and save money for him to go up, and accompany him to study, but he refuses to forgive me?

"Is this okay? Isn't this a cunning?" "That's right, if it weren't for her own cheating first, Xiao Ming would still think that she is the best mother in the world!" "I thought about it for a while, maybe Xiao Ming's mother will really have a little grievance, my relationship with your father is different from my relationship with you, why do you treat me like this if I am so good to you?" "Oh woman!" "It's not us girls who think about it from a woman's point of view, what's wrong?" "This woman upstairs is very dangerous, everyone remember her name." "You're sick, think about what's wrong, you're not a straight man......, right?"

Next, we focus on analyzing Xiao Ming's father's psychology. He is certainly a respectable man, and we see a lot of shining points in him. I know more than everyone about Xiao Ming's parents, Xiao Ming's father used to be a "prodigal son" , After marrying Xiao Ming's mother, Xiao Ming showed me a photo of his parents, from their youth to the present, Xiao Ming's mother is a very beautiful woman, and Xiao Ming's father can only be regarded as an ordinary person, Xiao Ming said that his grandfather and his grandfather are friends, Xiao Ming's father only married his mother, and was forced to marry by his grandfather, so Xiao Ming often saw his parents quarrel when he was very young, and his father was often the one who gave in.

From this point of view, Xiao Ming's mother doesn't have much affection for his father, and the bond that maintains this family is Xiao Ming's classmate, his father got rid of a lot of bad problems for him and his mother, and went out to do very hard work to make money, so that they can live a better life, and Xiao Ming's mother doesn't want him to have no father because she loves Xiao Ming, so the family has been maintained until now. As for the reason for the derailment, it is naturally very clear, everyone has **, Xiao Ming's father has been working outside for several months, and Xiao Ming's mother naturally cheated when her desires were not met and no one was looking at her.

As for why Xiao Ming's father blamed Xiao Ming, and even asked him to apologize to his mother, there is a saying called "sunk cost fallacy" in psychology, that is, people are reluctant to give up the costs they have invested before, but will persuade themselves in their hearts that "it is not right ......to give up halfway". Money, time, affection, energy...... can all be counted as costs.

For example, we make an appointment with a friend to go to a certain movie, but we don't have other ideas, but we find that we have gone to the wrong movie theater after all the hard work, and the time to go to the right movie theater is no longer enough. At this point, your friends will suggest that you might as well just look at it here, and most people will agree. One of the words we often hear from others is "come and go". Hey, it's all here, let's have a meal and then go, it's all here, why don't you go somewhere? Instead, he forgot his original purpose.

Xiao Ming's father loves Xiao Ming's mother very much, and he has also paid a lot of costs, such as his time and energy to quit all those bad problems, more than ten years of hard work outside, etc., he doesn't want to let this family he is fortunate to maintain fall apart like this because of this matter.

"It does seem to make sense.,I used to be the most skinny one in the class.,It stands to reason that I should be hated by the head teacher.。 But after more than ten years, he still remembers me, but forgets the most well-behaved children in the past. "No wonder I saw someone on the Internet say how bad his ex-girlfriend is but still want to get her back, so that's the case!" "So, we shouldn't be good people?

Therefore, my advice to Xiao Ming is to let him calm down first, and then figure out whether he still loves his mother or not, and think about how his mother treats him from his own perspective. In addition, you need to have a good chat with his father to see what he thinks, and respect his choice, after all, his father is the one who is the most hurt, after all, Xiao Ming has not suffered any substantial damage. If your father still wants to continue to maintain the family, you should sit down with your mother and have a good chat and persuade her to cut off contact with men outside, after all, your mother's favorite person is you, and she will definitely agree to your conditions.

For Xiao Ming himself, he can't be disgusted with the girls of the whole world because of his own reasons. And you can ask yourself: Are you sure that everything you do can be told to others completely in your mobile phone or in your memory? At this time, you need to adjust yourself well, just laugh at life, everyone lives very happily, don't be too pessimistic!