I don't know when it became so difficult to ask old friends out for dinner.

We are spinning like spinning tops in our respective lives. It's been a long time, and I can't seem to remember the last time I sat together and gaged.

Yesterday, Da Liu sat in a daze after being busy, and suddenly turned up the WeChat friend list, and the four-digit friend list really made Da Liu flip through it for a while.

As the familiar and unfamiliar names and avatars fell into sight, Da Liu remembered that some friends had not been in touch for a long time.

So, I clicked on the stone's WeChat and sent a message.

"Hey, brother, what's going on?"

It didn't take long for a reply, "I'm working overtime, I'm a little busy, I have time to talk." ”

"Then let's have time to eat together. ”

"Well, another day. ”

The mood of wanting to reminisce with great interest is gradually diluted in the hurry and distance of everyone.

Suddenly remembered an old friend, thinking that it was still the friendship that used to be black, and sent messages in the past familiarly, and found that the relationship between the other party and himself had a layer of time and space formed at the same time, and there was always a subtle embarrassment in the words.

What's wrong with us, aren't we friends?

We once woke each other up on the phone in the middle of the night, pulled out to drink and talk about life and ideals, bragging, and chatting about the girls we met recently.

And now a meal is always about "another day".

Like a man and a woman in love, no one believes who says forever, and no one knows how far away forever is.

And what day will it be "another day"? No one can say for sure.

Let's eat together another day" became a polite polite phrase, meaning that I am very busy now, and I will talk about it later.

The person who "eats together another day" doesn't have the heart to eat with you at all, at least at that moment.

After bidding farewell to the campus, the friends who are tired of being together every day suddenly have their own life circle, busy, hurried, and gradually unable to remember their old friends for a few months, or even years.

When I finally had free time, I suddenly remembered the friend I hadn't contacted for a long time, and I didn't dare to call him.

Is he busy?

Is it rusty to not see you for so long?

What am I going to say?

Can you regain the familiar feeling you once had?

Does he have a more high-end circle and is still willing to play with me?

In the midst of many concerns, he hesitated, and was afraid that his invitation would be rejected, and his enthusiasm seemed too stupid.

But people who cherish this friendship will always have the courage to contact old friends, no matter if they are embarrassed or not.

Xiao Lin always sends WeChat messages to friends every once in a while, or calls to chat, asking if everyone has time to eat together and when they can go out to play.

It took a lot of effort and time to coordinate, so that I could barely get everyone together for a meal and catch up on the old days.

At the beginning, Xiao Lin's heart was indeed tired, and she felt a little embarrassed for her role of "catching up", as if everyone was busy, only she was idle every day, everyone had new friends to play with, only she didn't, staring at some old friends all day long.

But Xiaolin's life is also very busy, and new friends get along very well, but in her heart, she still misses old friends.

Most of the time, or even all of the time, Kobayashi took the initiative. When Xiaolin didn't take the initiative, his friends seemed to be gone, no one was talking in the group, no one was taking the initiative to chat, and no one was taking the initiative to mention the appointment.

Xiao Lin was a little thinking in such a situation, otherwise forget it, always with such a hot face against other people's cold butts.

But for such an old friend, Xiao Lin is still reluctant to be estranged like this.

There is a good saying, you and I have no fate, it all depends on me to be shameless.

With such belief, Xiao Lin has never given up asking everyone to dinner, and he no longer cares if someone takes the initiative to find him. Gradually, it seems that the friendship that once hooked shoulders and drank beer and bragged has returned, and the inexplicable awkward atmosphere in the middle has dissolved.

One of my friends later chatted with Xiao Lin late at night, saying that after a long, long time, he was shocked to find that he had not been in touch with many people for too long, and he didn't know how to speak in the first sentence, and what scale to grasp so as not to be abrupt, so as not to put himself in an embarrassing situation.

The words carefully pondered with a hint of unfamiliar politeness, the other party sounded a little estranged in his heart, and there was a long time between the two people, like a dusty mirror, stalemate not to wipe it, and never see the picture in the mirror clearly.

In interpersonal relationships, getting along is about equality, but at the beginning of a relationship, there is always one person to pay, and one person to rely on shameless support, and there will not be so many relationships that come naturally.

All feelings need to be managed.

There must always be a sincere heart in the interaction between people, since there is a sincere heart, don't care whether he takes the initiative, whether you fall down, and you are willing to be friends with him, then talk about it.

Let go of the psychological burdens that make you subtle and embarrassing, and stride forward to find the friends you haven't been in touch with for a long time, as if you were still talking together yesterday over a beer crate.

If he doesn't contact you, if you don't contact him, then this friendship is likely to die.

It's not just love that is missed, and so is friendship.

My old friend, let's have dinner together. Don't change the day, everyone is busy another day, so let's just do it today.

If you're tired, then I'll go to you, and drink a bowl of chicken soup together to warm your stomach and warm our hearts that we haven't seen each other for a long time.

Do you say okay?

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