Chapter 35: How Long Does It Take to Change a Person's Beliefs?
Yu Wanwan looked at He Yuzhi and let out a long sigh.
"Yuzhi, you should know that I like Luo Chen. ”
"I know. ”
"Do you know why I like him?"
"Love over time?" He Yuzhi frowned and guessed.
Yu Wanwan shook her head: "No, it's because of what you just said, rely on." ”
This is the first time Yu Wanwan mentioned the reason why she likes Luo Chen. He Yuzhi listened silently, but Yu Wanwan seemed to be taking the opportunity to vent her feelings.
"You just said, is it not good for someone to rely on? Let me tell you, it's really not good. Yu Wanwan took a long breath, "Four years after my mother disappeared, my father went to the court to file for death, and as soon as the marriage was dissolved, he married a junior in less than three months, and since then, I have a feeling of being an orphan." ”
Yu Wanwan talked about the past, and her eyes couldn't help but turn red.
"I used to think that my father, whom I admired so much, was a person I could rely on, but in fact, any pearl in the palm of my hand was fake, and he only loved himself, and I was just a pawn that could be loved when there was no conflict of interest. Later, I also got used to closing my feelings, and it was better to ask for others than for myself.
However, just when I thought I was strong enough, Luo Chen and Aunt Luo showed up at my house and became neighbors with us, and after that, he took care of me everywhere and often bullied me, but what I knew was his expression.
I'm still young, and I'm not happy with the so-called stepmother, but where are the means compared with others, I suffer everywhere, and I haven't been murdered by my father, Luo Chen at that time, he often accompanies me at this time to rescue me, I don't know when it started, I feel that he can be relied on. ”
Hearing this, He Yuzhi also understood why Yu Wanwan fell in love with Luo Chen without believing in love, it turned out that there was such a past.
"But didn't you say that he often bullied you?"
"That's because Aunt Luo cares more about me than she does about Luo Chen, and when I was young, I was somewhat jealous, so sometimes, it was the same as rejoicing in the enemy. Yu Wanwan said sourly, "It's also because of this, we keep raising the bar, and Luo Chen didn't find out that I was different from him." But...... I'm used to dependence, and I want to give up now, which is even harder. ”
He Yuzhi frowned, Yu Wanwan looked heartless, but how uncomfortable it was, he still hadn't changed.
"Behavioral science research has concluded that only about 5% of a person's behavior in a day is non-habitual, and the remaining 95% of behavior is habitual. Another study concluded that repetitions of more than 21 days form habits, and if they are repeated for 90 days, they form stable habits. In other words, repeating the same action for 21 days will form a habitual action. In the same way, the same idea, repeated for 21 days, or repeated and verified 21 times, becomes a habitual idea. So, if a concept has been verified more than 21 times, there is a good chance that it has become your belief. ”
Yu Wanwan smiled bitterly and said: "I actually thought about it, is my liking for Luo Chen because of the habit of companionship and dependence, or even become a belief? If Luo Chen has become my belief, then how long does it take to change a person's belief?"