Text Text_272, Flirting Psychology

When Ma Xiao spoke, his body involuntarily leaned towards Ding Qi's side, and his hair had already swept to Ding Qi's shoulders, and when he said "I have a little regret in my heart", he reached out and rubbed his bulging chest. At this relatively informal moment, she also called Ding Qi Teacher Ding, which seemed very close.

Xian Hao had just gone out, and at this moment he happened to walk in the door and saw this scene, so he didn't speak, but just glanced coldly from the side and back. Ma Xiao didn't see Xian Hao, but he shivered inexplicably, rubbing his chest with his hands, and his heart was really beating unstoppably.

What's going on? Ma Xiao was puzzled, of course, it was not Ding Qi in front of him who was terrifying, but the sudden and inexplicable change in his feelings about the environment...... This Teacher Ding is so handsome, what a talent? Ma Xiao deliberately approached Ding Qi, of course, it was at the behest of Ma Yuanling, she originally thought she was very sober, but at this moment, she was inexplicably a little nymphomaniac.

Ding Qi saw it in his eyes and wanted to laugh inexplicably. Xian Hao must not be used to Ma Xiao's attitude, and he scared her coldly, Ma Xiao really couldn't stand the murderous aura, but judging from the results, it seemed to be counterproductive.

Ding Qi is a psychology major and has a good understanding of human autonomic reactions. It is not controlled by the consciousness and does not require the brain to think, which is a physiological instinct for self-preservation.

Fear when you sense danger, and it is an instinctive reaction to speed up your heart, breathe faster, dilate your pupils, and secrete adrenaline. And when people encounter the object of their liking, they react in the same way, as if they are in a dangerous environment, which is also uncontrollable.

You can interpret this response not as fear, but as stimulus versus excitement, because their autonomic representations are consistent. Otherwise, you won't understand why some cuties will sit on a motorcycle that is racing to the death and scream, and then find a place to go crazy with their rider boyfriend after getting out of the bike.

Some people say that the truest feelings come from the inner experience, but the person who said this sentence just doesn't understand that the brain can deceive people, and the experience comes from the nerve reflex, and there will also be misplaced expressions.

How did Pavlov tease Wang Xingren back then? The ringing of the bell and the flesh and bones are obviously two different things, but after establishing a neural reflex relationship, every time the bell rings, the Wang Xingren will drool, thinking that he has ushered in fragrant dog food.

Why do so many people like extreme sports, or like to challenge some thrilling games, to take the simplest example, such as a roller coaster in a playground. Is it to find discomfort? Of course not, it's actually just to find this kind of experience.

The autonomic response releases physiological signals that are in danger, and these signals, in turn, are consistent with the experience of excitement and stimulation, which are consciously processed and transformed into feelings of excitement and stimulation in the brain.

Knowing that a certain sport or certain situation will bring meaningless danger to people, some people experience it as stimulation and excitement in their consciousness, and can even rise to the level of psychological needs such as "challenging themselves", which is also Stagorholm syndrome in another sense.

So the autonomic nerve reaction, will it lead to the illusion that people are in love with someone or who they like? Theoretically, it is also possible, and many flirting masters are good at this trick, which is to use the so-called "illusion of favorability".

For example, if you go on an adventure with a beautiful cutie, you don't need to make it too complicated, a rickety rope bridge, a glass plank road suspended in the sky, a hut deep in the dense forest...... can all create a similar effect. The feeling of heartbeat is actually caused by fear of autonomic reactions, but in the case of external inducement, the brain will interpret it as another signal, which can also be called an empathy phenomenon in psychology.

If you want to flirt like this, you must pay attention to a few principles. The first is to be safe, this safety is not only physiological but also psychological, the degree of danger sensed should not be too strong, otherwise it may leave a shadow and lead to psychological problems, just can produce autonomic nerve reactions.

Secondly, when you let the other party have this kind of dangerous reaction, you have a sense of dependence on you and a sense of security when you are close to you, which is the principle of the so-called "illusion of affection". If the girl's reaction is not to get closer to you, and would rather hold the wire than grab your hand on the drawbridge, then you must have screwed up.

Of course, the most important condition is that you are attractive enough in yourself, or can show that you are attractive enough. In short, if you want to do these things well, you also need skills. There are many young men with touching emotional intelligence, even if they have created such an opportunity, they can't grasp it, but it will make people even more disgusted, and it can only be said that they are single by strength.

The above tricks can be used not only for flirting girls, but also for flirting with men, but in a slightly different way. For example, in the above occasions, in fact, the young man will also be afraid, although it is not good to show timidity in front of the girl, but the heartbeat will also accelerate, you take the opportunity to grab his wrist and feel the pulse by the way.

In this case, snuggling into his arms as if he was frightened will also feel like your heart is racing......

Ding Qi, who is serious, of course, does not have any intention of flirting with his sister, but he is proficient in psychology, Xian Hao's murderous aura is obviously locked on Ma Xiao, although it is only for a moment, but Ma Xiao, who was looking at Ding Qi at the time, was heartbeat, and he actually had an illusion that he was secretly moved by him, which was really laughable.

Ding Qi coughed and announced that the meeting would resume. In fact, there is no longer any topic to discuss, but the representative of the You Huai community threw out another proposal: in view of the large number of people applying to visit Jinshan Academy, can Chairman Ding increase the number of openings or expand the number of visitors, and the current queue has been lined up for half a year.

There are three people from You Huaijie stationed in Nanlan Community, and the representative who attended the meeting as an observer is also their director, named Song Kuizhao.

Song Kuizhao suggested that Jinshan Temple should consider opening like Jingsha Island, rather than being limited to opening only once every two weeks, and if it is really not possible, it can be visited by 30 people at a time, like Xiangshui Peak. After Song Kuizhao finished speaking, he looked around and asked, "Did everyone say it?"

Some people were nodding secretly, and others looked thoughtful, but none of them directly agreed. As soon as Song Kuizhao sat down, he inexplicably shivered, and before he could sit down, Xian Hao said: "This proposal is not suitable. ”

Song Kuizhao hurriedly said: "I'm just making a suggestion, discussing and discussing at the meeting, in fact, this is everyone's hope." If the Kanayama Institute thinks it is inappropriate, of course, it does not have to adopt it. ”

Xian Hao said with a cold face: "If you want to make a suggestion, you can find an opportunity to discuss it privately, but it is inappropriate to throw out this kind of proposal on this occasion." You say it's everyone's hope, but I don't know whose hope it is. Can something like this be discussed or voted on at a meeting?

The constitution of the Fangwai Alliance has long been decided, and it will not interfere in the internal affairs of each family, and some things should not be discussed here. If I also propose that the You Huai Realm be open to the members of the Alliance, and also claim that it is everyone's hope, are you embarrassed? Whether it is open or not, and how to open the secret realm of heaven and earth, is all consciously voluntary. ”

Xian Hao really doesn't give face, usually as long as he understands some human feelings, he will not turn his face and train people in such a public meeting. This is not to say that Xian Hao is naΓ―ve, but this opening cannot be opened, and the signs must be crushed to death as soon as possible. Because everyone represents an outside world behind them, the bottom limit of the principle cannot be touched, otherwise we will not be able to meet together in the future.

Song Kuizhao asked Xian Hao to say this, and also realized that he might be angry, so he quickly stood up and bowed again and again: "This is my inconsiderate consideration, I apologize to everyone this time! Director Xian reminded right, some problems are the affairs of each family outside the world, and it is not suitable for discussion at the meeting of the Foreign Alliance, I will definitely pay attention to it in the future!"

Although they all stood up to apologize and claimed that they were inconsiderate, Ma Xiao won the unanimous favor of everyone after apologizing, while Song Kuizhao attracted a secret disdain after apologizing.

Even the person who nodded secretly just now, thinking about it again at this moment, felt that Song Kuizhao's proposal really shouldn't be, although they also hoped that Jinshan Academy would expand the scale of opening, but it shouldn't be in this way.

Is it possible to propose who should open the secret realm at a meeting of the Outside Alliance? Of course it is not appropriate! Even if it is voted in favor by an overwhelming majority, it is an invalid resolution. In the same way, it is not possible to propose who should open the secret realm, this should not be a matter of discussion and decision.

Why not target Xiangshui Peak or Jingsha Island? Because Xiangshui Peak offers enough places to visit each time, with 30 people, and Jingsha Island has no time limit for visiting. Of course, on the other hand, the more important thing is that Jinshan Temple is peculiar enough, it also has a name called Beast Country, and the Beast Country under the mountain is a rare place of trial.

People who have not been there want to experience it, and those who have already been there also know the benefits, and now everyone can't line up, so I hope that Jinshan Temple will increase the number of openings or expand the scale of opening.

After Song Kuizhao apologized, Ding Qi nodded slightly and said, "Director Xian is right, in the meeting of the Fangwai Alliance, it is not suitable to discuss such a topic, which does not meet the requirements of the Alliance's charter. As for the scale and number of openings of Jinshan Temple, the current conditions are limited, and this can only be done.

If conditions are available in the future, the number of openings can be appropriately increased, but the scale of opening must be controlled, and after entering, they will become beasts, and even have the risk of losing their sense of self, and the number of people must not be too large, which is also for the safety of visitors. When will the number of openings of Jinshan Temple be increased, we will also make an announcement in advance through the Fangwai Alliance. ”

Ding Qi, as the chairman of the board of directors and the head of the Jinshan Academy, has already made up his mind, so there is no need to discuss this issue anymore. Seeing that it was almost lunch, Yu Pengfei asked, "Does anyone have anything else to say?" Let's go to lunch together if it's okay, I have already booked a place in the restaurant opposite the community. ”

Ma Xiao got up again and said, "I have one more thing I want to announce." ”

The people who had already stood up and were about to go to dinner sat down again, only to see Ma Xiao smile towards Ding Qi and said: "Chairman, we people come from all over the world, and now all the outside world have sent people to take turns to stay here, I see that many young people don't like to cook, and they don't even know how to cook, so it's not a way to always order takeout or go out to eat."

So we bought two small buildings on Jingsha Island, and planned to convert one of them into a canteen, which is not large, and the restaurant is located on the first floor, which can accommodate dozens of people at the same time. As for the chefs and service staff, they are all specially sent from the catering department of Xianding Villa, and they can provide breakfast, lunch and dinner every day......"

Before she finished her words, everyone was already applauding, and no one would object to this kind of thing. Yu Pengfei, who had sat down again, asked Ding Qidao, "Chairman, what do you think?"

Ding Qi said with a smile: "Everyone applauded, what else do I think? Of course, this is a good thing! We have to thank Jingsha Island for its contribution, but we can't take advantage of one family in vain." The regular staff of the headquarters of the Fangwai Alliance can eat in the canteen free of charge, and the expenses will be settled and paid by the financial department. As for the staff stationed in other families, including me, you can pay for your own meals. ”

There is really no objection to this matter, and in fact, it is not something that the coalition meeting can decide. Who can object to people converting their small buildings into canteens? And this canteen is convenient for everyone, and it will definitely be welcomed. From the perspective of the Fangwai Alliance, the daily meals of the headquarters staff must be settled, which is the attitude that Ding Qi can show.

As for the other people who live here, they go to the "Xianding Mountain Villa Catering Department Nanlan Community Branch" to eat, whether Jingsha Island will be discounted or even simply free, that is also their own business.

Seeing everyone's reaction, Ma Xiao felt that her temporary decision was correct, in her opinion, since Jingsha Island was willing to pay for 100 million sponsorships, it was of course no problem to make a small matter of a canteen. If you just want to have a good relationship with everyone, then it may be more effective to provide daily life services such as three meals a day.

In the afternoon of the same day, Ma Xiao happily reported the meeting to Ma Yuanling, mainly two things, the first was that the sponsorship was not accepted by the headquarters of the Fangwai Alliance, and the second was that she announced that she was going to build a canteen, which was warmly welcomed by the members of the Fangwai Alliance. But Ma Yuanling's reaction made Ma Xiao very unhappy and even very aggrieved.

Ma Yuanling was stunned for a moment after hearing the news, and then reprimanded Ma Xiao for not making his own opinions, and asked: "Who gave you the power to decide to transform a small building into a canteen without authorization?

Ma Xiao had just explained why he decided like that, and when he heard this, he replied with some dissatisfaction: "Third brother, no matter how much it costs, it will not exceed 100 million......!

Ma Yuanling's voice also raised: "Woman's opinion!"

Ma Xiao: "I've announced it now, but it's not done yet." Of course, the owner can change his mind, and I'll just announce it again!"

Ma Yuanling seemed to be sulking, and was silent for a while before saying: "I'm not saying that this matter can't be done, but you shouldn't be good at making claims, you should discuss it with me in advance, and you must not do it again in the future! This time, I will think about it first, and then decide how to get it, since you have already announced on behalf of Jingsha Island that you want to build a canteen, then we still have to get it out." ”

Ma Yuanling turned around and reported to Shi Liangde again, but completely changed his tone. He told Assistant Wang, who answered the phone, that the 100 million sponsor outside the alliance did not accept it, but he had already thought of another alternative, and asked Ma Xiao to announce at the meeting that he had decided to transform one of the small buildings into a canteen to provide three meals a day.

In Ma Yuanling's place, the method that Ma Xiao came up with in a whimsical move became his prior decision, and asked Shi Liangde's opinion through Assistant Wang. Assistant Wang immediately said that this idea was very good, told him that he must do it well, and praised him for his thoughtfulness, saying that he would definitely report to Mr. Shi when he returned.

After being praised by Assistant Wang, Ma Yuanling couldn't help but feel a little proud after hanging up the phone, and even wanted to praise himself, but then frowned, and thought in his heart: "Oh, why did you forget to talk about the cost, who will pay for the canteen?"

Assistant Wang found an opportunity to report the situation to Shi Liangde. Shi Liangde nodded slightly and said: "Well, the idea of setting up a canteen to provide three meals a day for everyone, and also transferring people from the catering department of Xianding Mountain Villa is very good." That Ma Yuanling is still a person who has some ideas and can do things, let him do it as soon as possible. In short, the grade of this canteen can't be bad, at least according to the five-star standard!"

Wang Zhu said with a smile: "Of course the master of Ma Island will do things, otherwise how can he get your help from Mr. Shi, and how can he have today?"

Shi Liangde said lightly: "I didn't see it before, he was just lucky and got the inheritance of his ancestors...... Is it now possible to confirm that Ding Qi was not present when the Jinshan Courtyard was opened to the public?"

Assistant Wang nodded and said, "Yes, it can already be determined that he was still in Jinghu City at that time." But the next day he should have gone to Xiangshui Peak, the specific time was after Xiangshui Peak closed and opened, we set up surveillance in the Xishuidong Scenic Area, and found that he had appeared in that area at noon on Sunday and Monday morning. Mr. Shi, what other instructions do you have?"

Shi Liangde waved his hand and said, "Not for the time being, for now, it is still mainly to collect intelligence." The Fangwai Alliance held a meeting yesterday to discuss whether to accept the sponsorship of 100 million yuan, and three of them did not express their position, so they could try to contact the three in private and try to give them some benefits, as long as they can accept it. ”

Ding Qi didn't know the series of debriefings behind the scenes, but he probably could think of it. Even if they are remembered, the most important thing is to do their own thing, and in the middle of the night on Friday, he and Xian Hao finally came to the door of the Qin Gaotai again, accompanied by Tu Zhi and Wei Fanting.

Last time, Tu Zhi and Wei Fanting expressed their intention to actively participate in the activities of the sect, so they took the time to rush back this weekend. Ding Qi did not let them go to Jinshan Courtyard this time, but also brought them into the Qin Gao Tai to practice, because these two had never been to the Qin Gao Tai. Today is to wait for the flight of these two people to arrive at Jinghu, so I rushed to the Qin Gao Platform so late.

Climbing into the hidden cave between the mountain walls first, and coming to the end of the cave with a flashlight, Ding Qi took out Jingwenshi and said: "It's still the same method as last time, I'll bring the three of you in together, otherwise it will be scattered in different places." It's a pity that the shake is not in my hands, otherwise it wouldn't have been so troublesome. ”

With only the cultivation of the secret method outside the square, the door opened by holding the Jingwen Stone can only be seen by himself, and others cannot see it, which is far less convenient than using the treasure of the control realm. Dantinzi has another way to bring other people in, but the preconditions for this method are very strict, and not just anyone can do it.

The place to open the portal with Jingwen Stone is random, but the world of Qin Gaotai has been condensed into a heart plate, and after entering, Ding Qi knows in his heart, this is a certain mountain field close to Zhongda Ying, the time is not long after nightfall, and there is darkness all around.