1242, happiness lies in comparison
"When did you arrive?" Gong Jing smiled and greeted Wang Bo who was lying on his bed, while bending down to pick up the clothes that had fallen on the ground. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info
"Probably not long after you went in. Wang Bo said with a smile, then clenched his fists, raised his arms, and stretched, "Your bed is so comfortable, I almost fell asleep." ”
"Well, then you can lie down for a while. I'm going to have to wash my clothes for a while anyway. Gong Jing said softly, feeling that two red clouds must have flown up on her face. She's actually a little bit of a clean person, not to mention the opposite sex, even a girl in the dormitory, who sleeps in her bed without her consent, and she will feel uncomfortable in her heart. But now, not only did she not have the slightest unhappiness in her heart, but she also had an inexplicable secret joy.
"Okay, then I'll lie down a little longer. Wang Bo was ready to get up, and when he heard Gong Jing say this, he took the opportunity to lie down again. Lying on the single bed, he looked at the girl's busy back by the washstand, and proposed, "Xiaojing, why don't you take your clothes to me and stir them in the washing machine?"
"It's fine. Gong Jing looked back and smiled, "Just these two or three clothes, I will clean them in a few minutes." ”
"That's up to you. Anyway, if I had a washing machine, I wouldn't use my hands. Wang Bo flattened his mouth and stopped persuading.
The afternoon sun shines diagonally across the windowsill into the bedroom, dividing the small sink into two with light, half bright and generally dark. Gong Jing, who was washing clothes at the washstand, stood in this half-light and half-darkness unconsciously, giving people the feeling of stepping on two worlds. Wang Bo, who was lying on the girl's bed, admired the changes of light and darkness in the sunlight like gold dust on the girl, chatting with the other party and asking the other party about her experience of teaching during this time.
The ten days of teaching in the mountains were hard for Gong Jing, but they were also ten days of great gain, and in a sense, they even changed her worldview and gave her a taste of rebirth. Although she has been living in the city, although she knows that the farmers are tired and the mountains are bitter, she has no intuitive impression, just like watching those very poor and miserable, skinny African children on TV, she may feel sympathy and pity at the time, but the next moment, time has passed, and she will soon forget it to the clouds, and she can't stir up the slightest wave in her heart.
This time she went to the mountains to teach, but it was the first time she saw and heard with her own eyes, 360 degrees, all-round integration into that poor place, and those who were fled and abandoned by local young people, leaving only the old and weak women and children to eat and live, with one heart and one mind, feeling their enthusiasm, hatred, or indifference to this land, as well as the countless practical difficulties that need to be faced and overcome. Many of these practical predicaments are things she can't imagine and have never faced in her life. During those ten days, she thought a lot, about the land, about the people who had lived here for generations, about herself, a lot of miscellaneous thoughts, accumulated a lot of feelings, but there was no conclusion. She can see problems and ask questions, but there are no solutions. After all, she was just an ordinary college student.
Gong Jing recounted what she had seen, heard and felt to Wang Bo during this time, sighed from time to time, and finally sighed:
"Xiaobo, the life of the people in the mountainous areas is really too hard, food, clothing, housing and transportation, everything is poor, and it is not in the aspect. After only 10 days, I felt like I had fallen from the world to hell, but the people there have been living there since they were children, and there is no way out or hope for the rest of their lives. When I described life in the city to the children, many things that seemed to us to be common sense and commonplace, seemed to them to be a fantasy, and they had never heard of it at all, and there was only confusion in their clear eyes. In the past, I had a lot of opinions about my life, complaining about this and that, but when I compared it with the people who lived there, I realized that I was living in heaven. I feel that my former self is a little blessed and does not know the blessings. ”
"Haha, this is the 'great historical significance' of the old chairman's family in engaging in 'intellectuals going to the countryside again'! Let you, the people in the city, remember the bittersweet memories and understand the hardships and hardships of the peasant uncles. "Wang Bohaha, made a joke, and then continued to joke," But Xiaojing, if I give you a chance to go to Europe and the United States now, when you see that other people's monthly income is used for one-fifth, or even one-third of their food and clothing, you can eat and dress well, and the rest of the money can be enjoyed and travel around; their annual income can buy a car, so the average car is not a symbol of wealth for them, just like our bicycle, just a means of transportation, do you feel that you are back in hell again?
"So, it's not a matter of complaining, it's about comparison. A person's happiness has nothing to do with absolute material possessions, but only with knowing whether there is anyone who lives better or worse than himself. If you know that the people around you are worse than you, and you don't have a meal, you will feel happier, even if you are only satisfied with food and clothing; if most of the people around you live better than yourself, live in a big villa, drive a luxury car, often travel across borders, and buying luxury goods is like buying a stall, even if you have a house and a car now, and you don't have to worry about food and clothing, you will feel that you are 'poor'.
"The water flows low, and the people go high. From the point of view of evolution, man can change from an ordinary monkey, a beast no different from other animals, to the spirit of all things, the lord of the earth, because of his insatiability!
Otherwise, the landlords of the feudal society sent the hired peasants to the slave society, saying that you are not satisfied, complaining about this and that, you see how miserable the slaves there are? You don't even have the basic human rights of the right to life and the right to ration, and life and death are all up to the joy of the master. Will the peasants buy it? If there is no higher form of social organization, they will buy it; but when they know that there is still a capitalist society and a socialist society on this earth, they will not buy it, they will only spit out the saliva on the face of the landlord and then beat the local tyrants and divide the land! In the words of a certain great man, even the young lady of the landlord's family can also sleep!
"So, see, you see? Not satisfied, happy or unhappy, only in comparison. In this comparison, some people will compare vertically, with the past, with their past self, if there is progress or improvement, they will feel 'broad', while others will compare horizontally, with the people around them, with the countries around them, and even make global comparisons, and then come to the conclusion that they are happy or not, and should not be satisfied. How to compare, many times it is related to the individual's vision, the knowledge absorbed, the circle of contact, the reality of understanding, and in layman's terms, it is related to the three views of people.
"For example, in your eyes, even in such a poor place, there must be people who think that life is good, that it is a happy land, right? Most of them are old people, because the old people have lived a more miserable, harder, and more inhuman life. There are also people who are very dissatisfied with the status quo and want to change, right? Most of these are young people, who are curious and active, who know that there are people outside the world, and who know what their world is like, so they vote with their feet, leave their homes, and even abandon their families and children to go to the city to pursue a better life. Don't they love the hometown where they were born and raised? Yes, but they love a better life! Zoom in to the whole country, there are also people who vote with their feet, those who go to study in developed countries, those who immigrate, as long as they are dissatisfied with the status quo and have the ability to change it, they will definitely change their status quo and make a comprehensive comparison.
"The gap between urban and rural areas in our country is real. This is a structural problem, which is the result of the fact that for decades through the dual structure of urban and rural areas, the same people have two kinds of household registration, urban and rural, and the scissors of workers and peasants are poor, deliberately raising the prices of industrial products, deliberately lowering the prices of agricultural products, and continuing to suck blood (resources and manpower) from the vast rural areas of China for decades, and feed back to the cities. To solve this problem, it is necessary for the state to loosen the bonds, change and reform in terms of policies, adjust the distribution of tax revenues, and truly treat the rural areas and cities as a family, rather than as big houses and concubines, so that the gap between urban and rural areas can be narrowed instead of continuously expanding.
"However, Xiaojing, don't worry too much about the people in the mountainous areas, China's current economic development is very fast, and it will be faster and faster in the future, especially after joining the WTO, officially integrating into the global economic chain, and obtaining the qualification of 'world wage earners', the appearance of China, whether it is rural or urban, will be the same every year in the future, and everyone's life will be better and better after all." ”
Gong Jing didn't expect some of her exclamations to be told so much truth by the boy. Those questions that I can't figure out and can't figure out, under the boy's analysis of the phenomenon to the essence, I suddenly have a sense of enlightenment.
But what she was even more surprised or shocked by was the boy's extraordinary ability to see the fire, to understand human feelings, to get to the point from the chaotic and complex imagination, and to grasp the essence. Listening to the boy's eloquent talk and the references, Gong Jing felt like a student listening to a lecture by an old professor who was knowledgeable and insightful of the world. This is really a kind of spiritual enjoyment, a baptism of the soul, a kind of guidance and guidance that pierces the clouds and sees the sun. Gong Jing said with some excitement:
"Bo, thank you. I didn't expect you to be able to think clearly and clearly about these questions that bothered me. You, you're really amazing!" Wang Bo's words made Gong Jing feel relaxed all at once, as if she had unloaded the burden of a certain thought, and she was extremely relaxed all of a sudden.
"You are a fan of the authorities, I am a bystander. But the most important thing is that I have been a farmer for 18 years, so I think more about the historical reasons and practical difficulties of the current situation of the peasant class. Wang Bo said modestly, but he thought in his heart, little girl, my mental age is as old as two of you, forty is not confused, even these simple questions have to be troubled and confused, I can't understand, that is really living to a dog.