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"Are all the gifts I asked you to buy are ready?"

Hai Zhiwen asked his mother-in-law again.

According to the wedding customs and etiquette habits of country Z, the bride will bring a lot of gifts home with the groom after three days of marriage, which is also called "returning to the door" for 3 days.

Huimen, also known as 'Guining', generally refers to the first time a woman returns to her parents' home to visit relatives for the first time after marriage.

Returning to the door means that the daughter and her son-in-law go back to their parents' house to recognize their relatives and visit their parents, which means going home to visit their parents after marriage.

On the 3rd, 6th, 7th, 9th, 10th day or full moon after the wedding, the son-in-law returns to his parents' home with the bride with gifts to visit his wife's parents and relatives.

The gift of becoming a son-in-law since the beginning of the kiss has been completed.

The time of returning to the door varies from place to place, in ancient times, it was the third day, the sixth day of marriage, or the seventh, eighth, and ninth days of marriage, and there were also full moon people who returned to the door to save relatives.

Generally, it is three days or four days to return to the door, three has the homonym of 'scattered', and four generally represents four flat and eight stable, so it is basically four days to return to the door.

In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a custom of returning to the door, and the descendants have followed it to this day.

The ancient Han marriage custom of returning to the door of the Three Dynasties originated in ancient times, and was widely known as "Guining", which means to go home to visit parents after marriage.

In later generations, the names were different, the Song Dynasty called "Baimen", the Qing Dynasty called "Shuanghuimen" in the north, the south called "Huiqin", some areas in Hebei called "Call Aunt", and Hangzhou called "Huilang".

The customs are different in different places, and the names are different, but the names are different, and the meanings and etiquette are similar.

Because the "return door" is a piece of the newlyweds, it is called the "double return door", taking the auspicious meaning of pairs.

Huimen is also known as "Guining", that is, "returning to your mother's home". Traditional marriage customs. Returning to the door is also the first time for the newlyweds to go back to their parents' home in the real sense, and the couple are both pairs to pay homage to the woman's parents, which is naturally an indispensable etiquette.

At this time, when the groom sees his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he should change his words to father and mother, and officially end the whole wedding, that is, let the bride's parents see the happy marriage of the two.

The Yue's family also held a banquet to entertain the new son-in-law, and some of the woman's relatives also made trouble with the son-in-law.

Of course, at this time, the new son-in-law still has to offer his parents-in-law "return gifts" and "return money", and bring different gifts according to different places.

Some bring a rooster, which means "auspicious wishes".

Some brought some meat, eggs, noodles and other things to the woman's house, and more commonly served oranges, apples, bananas, wine, etc.

The style is not fixed, but do not return to the door for a single, must be an even number, which means that the husband and wife are in pairs, together for a hundred years, and the singular number is unlucky.

After the first Spring Festival, the groom will also go with his wife to bring gifts to his father-in-law and mother-in-law on the second day of the first lunar month.

When returning to the door, the old custom stipulates that the bride walks in front, and when returning to the man's house, the groom walks in front, because this return is the first time the daughter returns to her mother's house after getting married, and some are also called "going to the first trip".

After the "double return door", it is generally not allowed to stay overnight at the Yue's house, and must return to the man's house on the same day, because in the old days there was a custom that the newlyweds did not vacate within a month.

This is a traditional etiquette among the people of country Z.

First of all, the bride can visit her parents when she returns to her parents' house to relieve the pain of lovesickness, and secondly, the groom takes this opportunity to thank his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and at the same time get to know the woman's relatives.

Therefore, the parents of the bride attach great importance to the etiquette of returning to the door for three days, and will hold a grand "return banquet" to invite relatives and friends to accompany them, and the groom can only sit on the first place on that day, which is a big event for each other.

Therefore, when the newlyweds return to the door in 3 days, they must prepare well in the gifts, and strive to leave a good impression on their father-in-law and mother-in-law.

Door-to-door gifts should be prepared in advance, gifts must be something that the bride's parents like, and door-to-door gifts should be bought as fashionable gifts.

As the old saying goes, if you bring four boxes of gifts, you want four things. First of all, cigarettes and alcohol should be packaged in red boxes, so that they can be festivated.

Of course, this is a filial piety to the father-in-law. Then there are canned food, oranges are the best, because there is the homonym of the strings, and finally sugar, which represents sweetness.

In addition, you should bring 4 green onions and 2 bags of vermicelli, and the more green onions you have, the better.

When you come back from your mother's house, you will take home 2 green onions and a bag of vermicelli.

It should also be noted that you can't see your mother's lamp, and you have to go early on the day you go back. After entering the door, she couldn't speak, and her mother-in-law put something to eat in each of the little two.

You can't open your mouth to speak until you've eaten. After drinking the wine at my mother's house, I left before the sun set in the afternoon.

Be sure to go back to your new house before dark.

When returning to the mother's house, the bride and groom must first greet the elderly, and the groom should change his name to the old man at this time, and the mother-in-law should be called his parents, and he should also show cordial, friendly and enthusiastic treatment of relatives, friends and neighbors.

At the family meal, the bride sits on one side with the groom and toasts to thank everyone for their blessings to the bride.

If you can't go home after dinner, you should chat with your parents for a while or engage in some entertainment activities with relatives and friends, go home to the sun before the sun goes down at about 4 o'clock in the afternoon, and invite the elderly and siblings to your home as guests.

When the three dynasties return to the door, they should make a good impression on their father-in-law and mother-in-law. The man's family should prepare gifts, in addition to other small gifts, and also present a large roast pig.

After receiving the roast pig, the woman's family distributed it to relatives, friends, and neighbors to enjoy, indicating that their daughter had found a good husband and had found a good son-in-law.

At noon, you need to eat at your mother's house, and when the man comes home with his daughter-in-law, the woman's family also needs to prepare some return gifts, which is negotiated on personal terms and has no specific requirements.

When the three dynasties return to their parents' house, the man must bring a roast pig (to show the bride's chastity, remember to replace it with a roast pig roll), two boxes of cakes, a pair of wine, and two bamboo sticks (step by step);

A pair of chickens, lettuce (wind and water), two baskets of fruits, (loose and loose), two boxes of noodles, chicken lantern gold, pork belly and pork two catties each.

Woman's return gift: The woman's return gift generally only needs half of the man's gift, but the roast pig is a must, take half of the head and tail of the roast pig and the pig's trotters, which means "handy", and these things should be placed together on the roast pig pot.

When a girl marries into a man's family and is not used to a new life, she will definitely miss her parents, and the bride will be given the opportunity to return to her parents' house when she returns to the door, and the son-in-law must behave well on this day.

Zhang Cuihua glanced at her husband.

It's natural to be a deaf ear, there are good things that no one thinks of the old lady, as soon as there is a job, the old lady is called, why is the old lady thankless?

If it is an elder who is serious, of course, it is impossible to shirk responsibility, but do they respect themselves as elders?

Look at the two daughters-in-law in the past two days, they have gone to the house to offer their hospitality, and I don't know what the benefits are?