What did she say?

I didn't even think about it, so I sent it to Qin Zhiyun, because I really wanted to know what Luo Jinxuan thought.

Qin Zhiyun: I didn't say anything, I just asked you to stop looking for her, she wanted to be quiet alone for a few days, and when she figured it out, she would naturally go back.

Me: How many days???You ask her if she can come back first, and I promise not to disturb her, at least let me know where she is.

Qin Zhiyun: You know your girlfriend's temper best, is it useful to say it?

Me: In the past, I told you about the past few days, and you also gave me an analysis of whether I was doing the right thing.

Qin Zhiyun: Okay, the old place is waiting for you.

I didn't have the heart to go out in the afternoon, I have been resting at home, and by the way, I also thought about what happened during this time, and I could make it clear to Qin Zhiyun when I saw her in the evening.

At seven o'clock in the evening, I came to the previous private room again, and Qin Zhiyun was already waiting for me inside, with her mobile phone and notebook in her hand.

"Come on, sit down, what to eat?"

"Whatever, Luo Jinxuan doesn't come back, I don't have the heart to eat. ”

Qin Zhiyun smiled, "I didn't see that you were quite infatuated, so let's bring you a pasta, it tastes good." ”

My mind was not on eating, after ordering the meal, I told everything that had happened in the past few days, including the ambiguity between me and Wang Hongxiu, how I used her to bring convenience to myself, and even said my true thoughts in my heart, but I only concealed Sun Feiyan's affairs, after all, this matter had too much impact on Sun Feiyan, and I don't want to be this bad person.

Qin Zhiyun wrote in the book while listening, and after I finished speaking, she said: "According to what you said, nothing happened between you and Wang Hongxiu, except for some ambiguity, so you don't think you have anything to be sorry for Luo Jinxuan, and you are doing this for Luo Jinxuan's sake, you want her company to get on the right track as soon as possible, but Luo Jinxuan has this reaction after knowing these things, which makes you feel very aggrieved and has a feeling of not being understood, isn't it?"

I nodded my head repeatedly, "That's right!"

Qin Zhiyun put down her pen, "Then let's analyze the things you did little by little." First, let's talk about cheating. In your opinion, as long as there is no physical relationship, it cannot be considered a closet, but in my opinion this is inaccurate, if a person can only control the physical impulses but cannot control his thoughts well, and has a spiritual act of coming out, it is also considered to be coming out, and it is even more terrible than coming out physically, especially for women. “

"The physical coming out is more for the satisfaction of physical desires, I have seen some men have lovers outside, but their minds are on their wives, and they take care of their wives very thoughtfully; I have also seen those who have a thief's heart but no thief's courage, especially want to spend time outside but have no action because of family factors, although he has not come out physically, but his spirit has come out, his mind will never be on his wife, and his concern for his wife will naturally decrease, which will directly affect the feelings of two people. Therefore, coming out mentally is more terrible than coming out physically. It's just that most of the infidelity is the coming out of the body at the same time, so you don't carefully distinguish the difference between the two. ”

I said, "Then you mean that I came out of the closet mentally and caused more harm to Luo Jinxuan?"

Qin Zhiyun shook her head, "Actually, I don't think you are coming out of the closet, because you don't have a heartfelt affection for Wang Hongxiu from beginning to end, she took the initiative to tempt you several times in an ambiguous way, and you made the right choice at a critical moment, and confessed everything to Luo Jinxuan last night, which is not easy." It's just that you ignored one point, last night you obviously had the opportunity to explain the ambiguity between you and Wang Hongxiu to Luo Jinxuan, but you chose to hide it, which caused today's incident. The reason why Luo Jinxuan is angry may be because she can't accept the fact that you and Wang Hongxiu are ambiguous, or she thinks that you have deceived her, and last night's confession is just a façade, who knows how much else you have hidden? This is a matter of attitude. If you have reservations when you confess to her, how much credibility do you have for what you say and do?"

I said yes again and again, thinking back on what I have done in the past few days, there are indeed many things that Luo Jinxuan has hidden, no wonder she is angry.

"Then according to your meaning, I will have no reservations about Luo Jinxuan in the future, no matter what I have to tell her, I can't have any secrets in front of her?"

Qin Zhiyun shook her head again, "To be honest, I don't approve of you doing this. In fact, I am on your side in terms of what has happened in the past few days, I think you have done a good job, the only deficiency is that Wang Hongxiu calculated you behind your back and said the ambiguity between you. In the relationship between couples, and even in the life of a couple, I do not agree with the unreserved confession of both parties, and it is beneficial for both parties to appropriately conceal some things. ”

"What do you mean by that?" I asked.

Qin Zhiyun explained: "First of all, couples or husbands and wives are two individuals, and there must be differences between individuals, and it is impossible for two people to have exactly the same cognition. If two people can come together, it means that the two have maintained the same attitude on most things, but in a few things, there must be different or even diametrically opposed attitudes. If the impact of these few things on your life is negligible, then it is better to hide it, but when the matter is more serious, it is better to say it. For example, the ambiguity between you and Wang Hongxiu, you didn't tell Luo Jinxuan to keep her from getting angry and to ensure that the relationship between the two of you would not have an accident, and you have made it clear that nothing will happen to Wang Hongxiu, so I don't think you did anything wrong. Proper concealment, also known as white lies, is good for everyone. ”

I couldn't help but nod my head, and finally someone spoke my mind.

"Then what do you tell me what to do next? It's already like this, and I don't want Luo Jinxuan to be angry with me all the time, so it's important to come back and make it clear. ”

Qin Zhiyun snorted, "I agree with your point of view, it doesn't matter if something happens, it's right to find a way to solve it." It's no use getting angry and awkward, it just makes things worse. Luo Jinxuan is lucky to have a boyfriend like you. ”

I smiled, "Okay, don't praise me, this time I did something wrong, I have to quickly find a way to find Luo Jinxuan and admit my mistake to her, you can quickly give me a trick."