On the ninth day of April, my sister got married. I took the train, changed the bus a few times, and arrived home on the afternoon of the eighth day of the new year. When I entered the door, only my parents were at home, and my sister had already gone to Pantou, the county seat in advance. When getting married, it is a tradition for a woman to cross her head, which represents growing up and representing a change of identity. It's business as usual at home. Because of working outside, the days with the second child since he was born are very limited. On the third day of his birth, he hurried back to work, and it has been nearly seven months now, during which he has only returned home four times. When I got home, my father hugged the second child and took over the child, he looked straight at me, the seven-month-old child's mind has developed to a certain extent, and there are some emotional leaks. I can feel that the child looks at me a little strange.

Human growth is an irreversible process, and what passes today is gone forever...... In the same way, a child's growth is not only an irreversible process, but also a process of drifting away from their parents. The newborn baby needs the mother the most, and the mother is the guarantee for the baby's survival, but in the process of growing up, when he will stand, walk, and run, he will gradually leave the arms of his mother, and when he goes to kindergarten, elementary school, etc., it is the beginning of his step out of the house, middle school accommodation, university study, work and marriage, and the distance becomes farther away. Because as he grows, he will have more and more ...... Will the heart be as close as it was at the beginning?

My wife often said that I was the closest stranger to my children. I just laughed. When I was in school, I had a lot of dreams, I wanted to do this, I wanted to do that, romantic dreams. More thoughtful, fantastic. When I didn't leave the school gate, I listened to too many words about ideals and reality, such as ideals are very plump and realistic and skinny, such as ...... No matter what I heard, I still thought that I should be able to persevere. I didn't give up after marrying my wife. But you always have to make money, and it's okay when there are two people. But after having a child, milk powder, diapers, etc., and other messy food and clothing, no matter how you treat the ideal, the money that should be spent still has to be spent. Especially, mine is two boys. It is inevitable that we as husbands and wives will think about their future. My father was an ordinary coal miner, honest and rigid, and he didn't get any position or save any money after digging coal all his life. My mother was a farmer, and she was an ordinary farmer, and she was able to maintain the family by planting a few acres of land at home. But it is unlikely that they will be able to buy some business for their two grandchildren. So, in the current state, all I can do is go out and work to earn money, because this is a family need. I think that's the reality. Reality is what I need to do now, reality makes me leave my wife and children to go to a place far away from home, as for what will happen in the future, who knows.

When I am working, I often think about things about growing up. Always tell yourself that you must give yourself more time to spend with your children, because the time is gone. I always give myself a deadline, at least I must accompany my child to finish elementary school and junior high school. But in the end, I can only say to myself that I hope I can do it.

In the evening, my father and the people who had come to me to help me discussed my sister's marriage tomorrow, and I put up the curtains for the wedding. The curtain is bought at a wedding appliance store, and it is a good fit for a hundred years. There are two courtyards in the house, we currently live in the courtyard on the north side, which was built in 08, and since I got married, our family has lived together. Because there is usually a boy in the family now, I don't want to be like that before, and the children need to move out after they get married when they are older, because there are many children, and they can't live in an ordinary farm yard without separating the family. At that time, it was reasonable to split up, but now it's different, it's a boy himself, and if he splits up, the neighbors will laugh at it. It's been a few years since the courtyard on the south side was inhabited, and it's been exactly ten years now. The courtyard is negligently managed, the courtyard wall is very dilapidated, the east and west matching houses have been demolished, vegetables have been planted in the courtyard, some fruit trees have been planted, and only one hall is also very dilapidated. It's convenient, just put a wedding on the door of the hall. Busy outside for a living, every time I go home, I will go to this small yard in the south to stroll, there are a few fruit trees in the yard, cherry trees and persimmon trees are more luxuriant, every time I will think about pruning and pruning, of course, I know in my heart that this is just a reason. I can't say anything, I just feel that something is still there, and every time I want to see it.

When I first came back from Shanxi, my sister and I lived in this courtyard to the south. I remember that at the beginning, there was no courtyard wall, and the east and west matching houses were also built by my father simply, and the hall house has not changed until now, an old-fashioned red brick small tile house. My sister and I went to elementary school, junior high school, and high school with my mother. It was in '08 that I moved to the North Courtyard when I went to college. Now the mother and daughter-in-law have raised two geese and some chickens in this yard and planted some vegetables, and every time two white geese come, the geese and geese will crow non-stop, and the quiet courtyard innocently adds a little noise.

I went to post Xilian, in fact, I also wanted to see it. When he went, the eldest son followed, and the four-year-old spoke in a milky voice. "Dad, what are we going to do over there? "My son has always said that the South Park is over there, and the North Courtyard is over there. I said, "Go over there and post the couplet." "You may not know what marriage is yet, and you don't want to talk to him. "Oh, paste the couplet. "There was a road in front of the door, and I used to hold his little hand. When I got there, the little guy would pull the weeds for a while, saying that he would go back to feed the rabbits, and then look at the green onions planted or something, and then follow me behind my ass to see me paste couplets. My wife arranged to add some water to the chickens and geese, and if there were eggs, I remembered to pick them up, and I remembered them. The goose is very fierce, because he is not often at home, so when he goes in to get eggs and goose eggs, he is very careful to avoid those two guys, and he does not dare to let his son follow. No matter what you do, the youngest son likes to ask, "Dad, what are you doing?" "Dad, what are you going to do? I had to answer him, "I'm adding water to the goose." "I'm going to pick up eggs and goose eggs. "Wait

When he returned, there were many more people to take matters into account. I will eat tomorrow morning at 6 o'clock, so I will prepare the ingredients tonight. In our place, we usually boil a big pot of mutton soup, and we are making a few dishes, hot and cold. This is a way to reward those who send their relatives to help. I'm just on the side to help peel the green onions, pick the garlic, wash and cut the ginger, and when I have time, I will go to the relatives and neighbors who are helping to let the cigarettes add some tea. When I didn't have much to do, it was already more than 9 o'clock in the evening, and my wife had already slept with my second child in her arms......