Arguments over child raising

Yan Yongnong's homecoming brought Wang Huilan mixed joy and sorrow. The moment she first saw her husband, she was shocked to fall from the sky, and she suddenly appeared in front of her when she had been looking forward to no news day and night. She was confused and confused the current scene with the dream, and she asked Yan Yongnong over and over again: "Is this true? I'm not dreaming, right?"

Yan Yongnong teased her: "You are daydreaming." A prostitute who can't live without a man, I won't return in a few days, you have to lose your heart and go crazy!"

"It's embarrassing to say that the monks who go out don't ask about their homes, they only care about their own travels, and they are at ease. Even if you still remember this home, you haven't lost your soul, and you haven't forgotten the way home. Wang Huilan's eyes were red.

"No matter how good it is outside, it doesn't belong to me, the toad in the well is still good in the well. How nice it is to be at home, comfortable, comfortable and carefree. ”

When his wife said that he was free outside, he almost came out: "Do you think I am happy outside, I live the life of a dog." In a place where there is money and there is life, it would be nice to be a poor bastard like me to save my life and come back to see you. He held these words in his heart.

Wang Huilan was happy to see her husband, but seeing the "tail" behind him was like pouring a basin of cold water on a snowy day, cold from head to toe, it was difficult for her to pretend to be happy.

She saw this child more terrible than she saw the plague god, and oh my God, she brought him back again, and the doom of this family could not end. Yan Yongnong is not doing his job properly, the fields are going to be abandoned again, and the work of promising others has to be delayed again and again. Not to mention the income without a penny, it is necessary to paste the old book upside down.

It's over, this family is almost tossed by him, I don't know how to toss? How did you spend this day? Thinking of this, her tears swirled in her eyes.

She couldn't help but complain to Yan Yongnong anymore: "Before you go out, you swear that you will send him away no matter what, it is best to find his parents, and if you can't find his parents, send him to the Civil Affairs Bureau." It seems that you don't plan to send him to the Civil Affairs Bureau, otherwise you wouldn't have left him behind from the threshold of the county seat. Why don't you count what you've said? Your teeth are so unreliable? Who is he? It's worth your life. ”

At this time, Yan Yongnong was speechless.

Wang Huilan saw that Yan Yongnong didn't reply, and became angry with the child again: "You are wronged, your quarrel makes my chickens and dogs non-stop, the family god is uneasy, and the God of Wealth also quarrels and runs away." You have come to collect a debt that we owed in our previous lives. You've been begging for so long, maybe you haven't finished begging yet, so you have to ruin our begging family?"

"Don't scare the child, he's innocent. It's all my fault, I'm going to bring him back. Yes, I won't send him to the Civil Affairs Bureau. I have recognized him as a son, he has officially become a member of our family, he is not going anywhere, this is his home. Yan Yongnong solemnly announced.

"What? ”。

"From now on he is my son and yours. Yan Yongnong said word by word.

"Do you think I didn't bear a son for you? I'm still young, and I can give birth to a son if I have a daughter. Not to mention one son, even three or four are fine. ”

"It's not about raising pigs and dogs, raising a big litter, what do you want so much? As the old saying goes: 'A son, a daughter, a flower, and a child will become a family.'" We happen to have both children now, and we are very happy! You don't have to work hard. ”

"You mean we only need these two children, but this son is not his own, and he can't stick to himself by cutting off other people's flesh. ”

"This statement is outdated, you still sleep in the ancient cellar, and you don't know how far society has developed. Now I don't know how powerful medicine is, don't say that cutting the skin and mending the flesh is to change the heart, liver and lungs. Just like changing parts for a machine, new parts are better than old parts. ”

"Okay, I will accept this son if you recognize him, anyway, I am not afraid of having many children and grandchildren. But as long as there is a son and a daughter, there is a little less, and you forget the congratulatory message of the cheering man: 'Five men, two women, and seven sons are reunited.' 'Too much and no need, the same two, two men and two women are suitable. In the future, their brothers will have helpers, and their sisters will have counsel, and they will be able to take care of each other. Even if we don't bully others, we can't be bullied by others!"

"Do you want our son to be the king of the mountain in this mountain? So he gave birth to a large group of brothers to be his helpers? Don't be mistaken, our son is a dragon, he will never be trapped in this old mountain forest, he will definitely fly out of here in the future." ”

"Of course, your wish is good, and I can't wait for anyone to have children and grandchildren. But Liyu's son wants it, and Liyu's son wants it. It is precisely because he will not nest in this mountain that we should have a son who guards the farm and guards us! The daughter is someone else's family after all. If our son is alone, it will be difficult for us to meet him at home in the future, so what is the difference between us and the lonely old man? When we are too old to move and want to be served, he has filial piety, and he can only send us more letters to greet him and send us a few yuan back, but the money is not enough to eat, so someone has to help us buy it! He can't fly to work during the day and come back at night to wait for us! Hey, I'm afraid that at that time, it will be rare for us to see him when we see through our eyes! Do you know that when our eyes are about to be closed, will he be able to come back in time?" Wang Huilan said sadly.

"I said that you are a mountain lonely guy who has never seen the world, you are not convinced, now the braincase of people in the city is advanced, and it is fashionable for a couple to have only one child, regardless of gender. They don't want their children to serve when they are old, and the state has set up nursing homes, and the elderly live in nursing homes. ”

"How can the mountains compare with the cities? The nursing homes in the countryside are inhabited by lonely old people who have no children or daughters. ”

"No matter what kind of courtyard it is, it can't be raised in the countryside of our generation, but as long as he has the income and ability to earn money, he has to serve us personally? Are you afraid that he doesn't know how to hire a nanny to serve us? As the saying goes, 'If you have money, you can ask the devil to grind.'" ’”

"But inviting someone to cry doesn't shed tears! No matter how much the person you invite, you can't match the intimacy of your own children. Besides, you are so sure that this 'eggplant' must be able to be planted, and it can be relied on? If you have two more children, this one cannot be relied on, and there will always be one reliable. ”

"One monk carries water to drink, two monks carry water to drink, and three monks have no water to drink. If you have more children, you push me to help, and the only daughter-in-law of the cub did not shirk the fight. Wife, you have to open some. As the saying goes: A bodhisattva has a burnt of incense. What's more, our ability is limited, and we have to feed a lot of them!"

"Which family in our village doesn't have five or six children? I don't know of a family that can't support it and loses its children and sells them. Even Yan Xian, who is a fortune teller in Chong, has raised three children, and his wife is still a fool, and their children are still green and lush. We are 10,000 times stronger than them, not to mention the strength of the light physique, you have a popular craft, don't say that three or four children are seven or eight can be fed. Besides, how much money does the peasant family spend on raising children? Just fill their stomachs and cover their bodies from the cold. ”

"You put it lightly, as long as they have food and clothing, they don't want anyone to care?

"It's not, a lot of parents like you are either holding their children all day long or carrying them on their backs as if they are raising the prince, not all the eldest children lead the younger children, and the younger children pick up the older children's clothes to wear, and they will be able to endure it in a few years. ”

"I don't know what the use of raising such a large group of children is? As the old saying goes, 'There is no good food for many people, and there is no good chaff for many pigs.'" If there are too many children, there is no good care and good care, and they will not be able to raise a good body, let alone be educated, and if they do not receive a good education, they will have no ability to have low quality in the future. They can't even support themselves, so what can they talk about taking care of the Venerable Master? How many of the children and grandchildren with low quality have a conscience and filial piety? How many 'mirrors' are shining in front of them? Do you remember the Uncle Manchu in Chong?

Yan Yongnong said that the man Guibo is called Yan Mangui, married and gave birth at the age of sixteen to the age of forty-six, born without a barrel bottom, eleven large and small, all of them became forests. The big ones don't raise their grandfathers, and the younger ones have to be raised by their masters, and they are still used as formal laborers at the age of sixty.

It can be said that the old couple raised such a large group of children and suffered a lot, and later the old couple couldn't do it anymore and wanted to raise their children like this.

The big one found a lot of excuses for not supporting his grandmother: "The eaves are the first to suffer, and I have to take my younger brother when I am studying, and when I bring up my younger brother and sister, I will start a family." When I was separated from the family, the family was poor and didn't have to let go of the fart, so I got a room with a broken building and a broken wall, some broken jars and broken bowls, what good is it for me to get my grandmother? ”

The middle said: "The grandparents who came out first hurt, and the grandparents who came out after the old and the young came out hurt, as the saying goes: the grandfather spoils the eldest grandson and the father spoils the late cubs." Only the cowherd baby in my middle responds to it. The clothes worn are worn by the boss, and the delicious ones must be given to the younger ones first. The grandmother's young and spelled business is mostly occupied by the boss, and the old and young read a lot of books, so of course the grandmother should be raised by them. ”

The younger one said: 'When my grandmother was young, she was strong and helped her brothers and sisters fight for the world, and helped them start a family one by one, and now that she is old and has no effect, she will push it to me. I myself am a mud bodhisattva crossing the water——-— I can't protect myself. ”

So Uncle Man sat in the patio and waited for the meal, but no one came to call him to eat at the end of the day, and he thought that maybe his sons had forgotten him because of too much trouble, so he got up and walked to the eldest son's house, and there was a lock on the door of the eldest son's house. He went to his second son's house again, and his daughter-in-law said, "If you want to eat, you should come early, the rice is almost ripe in the pot, and this is the noodles that the monk has come to order." When Uncle Man heard this, he didn't cross the threshold and turned his head and left.

He came to his third son's house again, and his daughter-in-law was washing dishes. This daughter-in-law had a spicy mouth, and she said, 'Daddy, why didn't Ennayan come to the meal earlier?' One-Eyed (just right) we have eaten, and if it weren't for the tight work outside, I would have cooked it for you again.' That's it, Dad, my sister-in-law has just come back, and the meal must not have been eaten yet, so you will go to her house and take a break. Tonight I'm cooking and waiting for Ennajan. ’

Uncle Man hurriedly said, 'I'll eat, you can go in a hurry!' Later, Uncle Man died of starvation in his room without opening the door of any house.

"How many descendants are as bad as Uncle Man's family? Why bother to endure losses and hardships to raise children and grandchildren? Accumulate grain to prevent hunger, raise children and prevent old age, and this is not the case for generations!"

"Children and grandchildren have to be raised, but we can't have too many children, and we adults suffer a lot of losses. We might as well raise our two children well, try our best to send them to school, and get out of this poor mountain nest. Wouldn't it be good to have a good future and make a difference, but wouldn't you like one to top three? Would you rather have a flock of chickens or a phoenix?"

"Wherever I say, you will break it, speaking of which, you are afraid that many children will injure him, and you can rely on him so much? I talk to you as a family without twisting around, it is a good thing that this child has no eyes to walk out of this mountain gate, it belongs to you, it is your son. He has the ability to get out of this mountain gate, and he has the ability to find his biological parents, what if he rolls his eyes and kicks you away and denies you? If you don't say anything about raising people for others, you are afraid that you will not even have 'Bamu' when you are old, and then you will cry and go to the sky! When you are young, you want to live a comfortable life, and when you are old, you can see other people's children and grandchildren enjoying the joy of family, and when your home is lonely, it will be too late to regret it. Anyway, I've broken all the words for you, I'll push the responsibility away now, don't blame me for not reminding you. ”

"I said that you like to wronged, women too much and don't get old. You can't predict anything in the future, so don't think so long-term, and wait until then. What we should worry about is the present, how to live the present life well. I know that the current family background, four people can barely get by, and the population is not good, I am embarrassed to take this big family to beg for rice. ”

"Well, I don't have you to take reason, I can never say you, you are the master of the arithmetic, what am I? Besides, it was me who was tormented by getting pregnant and raising children in October, for fear that I would give birth to such a cheap person! Although my mother's family has only one brother, there are a lot of nephews and nieces, and they don't expect me to give birth to a 'frog or a mouse' to pass on the lineage and support the portal. ”

Wang Huilan knew that it was useless to talk more, and when she saw that their father and son were fleeing from the wilderness, she really didn't want to go, so she quickly waited for them to get water and food.

Yan Yongnong had the final say on the adoption of this child, and he made up his mind, it was enough to have this son, and he didn't want his wife to give birth to a son of heaven. Although Wang Huilan was a little unhappy, she could only reserve her opinion. As for the daughter Xixi, there is no need to ask for his consent, just tell her: he is your own brother, just call him "brother" in the future.