Chapter 70: How to be Happy
Since Wang Wei moved to Li Juan's place, it has been much easier for him to go to work, and Li Juan usually cooks, he eats a lot better than in the past, and his mood has improved. Now, he gets off work, after eating, he will walk around with Li Juan, Li Juan is the first time to come to the provincial capital, she has never been to many places, but Wang Wei has been in this city for four years, although he is not familiar with every street, but he still knows many places. Li Juan was able to come to the provincial capital because of the hospital, if there was no opportunity, she would not have come to the provincial capital, she had no relatives in the provincial capital, he should have taken care of her more as a landlord, but on the contrary, he took advantage of Li Juan. He was still a little reluctant, he wanted to pay the rent with Li Juan, but Li Juan didn't agree, in return, he often took Li Juan out to eat some local specialties, or took her to see some places of interest.
"As long as you want to, no matter how mundane the work, you will do a good job, you have always played the role of a role model, you have made a good start for our small mountain village. Li Juan can now feel the changes in Wang Wei, and compared to the first time she saw him in this city, Wang Wei's spirit is much better now. Although the work Wang Wei is doing now is very inconspicuous and not very decent, this job is based on technology, relying on his hands to eat, as long as you have technology, not lazy, you can continue to develop in this industry, and Wang Wei himself graduated from computer science, plus he worked here when he was a work-study, so he did this job very easily, and earned a lot of money.
"You are the only one in this world who recognizes me so much, and I am the only one who understands me best. I am not as good as you say, in our remote mountain village, I may be a successful person in the eyes of people, but in this city, I am an ordinary person, like all people who come to this city to pursue their dreams, there is nothing, and we are only confused and helpless. "Wang Wei now has a job, and he is doing a great job, but he can't find a sense of belonging in this city, he will always be a foreigner, no matter how good he does, this city will not recognize him, accept him, and give him a place that can warm his heart.
At this age, we want to go out and see the outside world, we think the world is too beautiful, and life is too simple, so we are hit on the head and bleeding, and we are stabbed all over the body by reality. Home is the place where we wanderers want to go the most, where we were born, where we grew up, where we learned to walk, where we uttered the first words, where all the innocence, ignorance, and ignorance of our lives remained. When we grow up, we just want to leave home, when we are young, we always feel that home is a cage, and our parents' teachings are nagging, naively thinking that the outside world is full of freedom and ideals, knowing that we are really in contact with life, we understand that those words of our parents are really good for us. Now we have only taken the first step in life, the road behind is flat or tortuous, we don't know, only when we go to go will we really understand what kind of road is our own life road, only when we taste the taste of life, can we understand whether it is sweet and sour. Life doesn't give you everything you want for no reason, and all good things are extracted from suffering.
"You don't have to be so pessimistic and misanthropic, people's distress comes from unrealistic desires, if you ask a little lower, it will be easier to achieve the goal. In fact, success and happiness are not the result, but a process, as the so-called enjoy in it, enjoy the process, that is, the process is far more important than the result, if it is just to achieve a certain goal, it will be unscrupulous, and it will not be able to experience the happiness that doing this brings him, but it has become a burden. Li Juan is an easily satisfied person, she just wants to live a good life now, she doesn't think too much about the future, instead of racking her brains to think about those things that can't be seen or touched, it's better to do a few real things, which are more valuable than thinking about some things that are out of reach.
"I now know why you live happier than me, it turns out that happiness is so simple, but I don't know what happiness is, and I think happiness is far away in the sky, in fact, happiness is all around us, but we can't see it, it's not that it doesn't exist, but we ignore it. "Since childhood, Li Juan seems to have always been happy, Wang Wei has never seen why Li Juan is in a hurry, nor has he seen Li Juan's sad face, it seems that there is no such word as sad and sad in Li Juan's dictionary, and now he knows that it is not that Li Juan will not be sad, but that Li Juan knows how to live happily. Life is like a mirror, it reflects the most real you, your happiness, your pain can be reflected through life.
Happiness is not a noun, happiness is not something that can come by saying, any kind of happiness in your eyes is hard-won. People who can create happiness are the strong people in life, strong people in the true sense of the word, stronger and more popular than those who have supreme power and those who have a lot of money. Happiness is priceless, a person can have no rights, no money, but he can be the happiest person, his happiness can not be taken away from anyone, only happiness in the world belongs to you, rights and money will not belong to you forever, rights will be deprived one day, money will be lost little by little, only happiness is eternal.
Happiness has many manifestations, ordinary people have the happiness of ordinary people, princes and nobles have the happiness of princes and nobles, their happiness is priceless, irreplaceable, happiness regardless of poverty and wealth, there is no status. Happiness is the recognition and gratitude of life, people who know how to be grateful and give back, they will be happier, and people who only ask for rewards and do not want to pay, they always do not feel the existence of happiness, they do not know what happiness is.
"You are the first college student in the village, they are too demanding of you, so you are very tired, you carry too much halo and glory on your shoulders, you carry them on the road, how can you be relaxed. I'm happier than you because I pursue less, I care less, I'm easy to satisfy, I'm always immersed in sesame small success, maybe in the eyes of others I'm a person who doesn't pursue, but I like my current life. Li Juan is such a person, she doesn't want to live in other people's expectations, she just wants to live in her own reality.
"Those illusory glories are really heavy, I used to be proud of them, I enjoyed that feeling, but the more I grew up, the more I felt the weight of those glories, and now they weigh me a little out of breath, and now they give me not glory, but a burden. You're right, it's not easy for me to carry them, and if you want to go far, you should let go of your baggage. Li Juan's words made Wang Wei understand why he always felt so tired, those invisible things had always pressed on him, and he wouldn't feel happy if he couldn't get rid of those things.
"Don't think about it so much, we are all ordinary people, ordinary people are already extraordinary as long as they work hard to do a good job of themselves, why envy the lives of others, so that they can not become others, but also embarrass themselves. Li Juan knows that Wang Wei's desire for success is too strong, Wang Wei doesn't seem to have much ideals on the surface, but he is the kind of person who is stubborn in his bones, he doesn't easily tell others about his ambitions, but he is ambitious. Since he was a child, he has too much aura and too many people's expectations, so he is different from others, in that small mountain village, he not only represents himself, but also the hope of the whole village, and he can't let the whole village be disappointed in him. He told a big lie before, that is, he was afraid that the whole village would be disappointed in him, and he was afraid that his parents would lose face in front of the whole village, and now, it was time for him to take responsibility for this big lie.
There are many differences between urban and rural areas, and in China, a country with a large population, rural people account for most of the total population, and there is a difference between urban and rural areas, and there is also a difference between urban and rural people, and ideological concepts are the most obvious difference. The most important manifestation of the difference in ideological concepts lies in the treatment of education, which is the foundation of the country and the most powerful way to strengthen the country, and it should be highly valued by the people of the whole country. However, in backward remote mountain villages, due to various reasons, many people do not receive a good education, so people have different attitudes towards education, some people say that reading is useful, and some people say that reading is useless. In Wang Wei's hometown, there are two attitudes, Wang Wei's parents have a useful attitude, and Wang Wei's achievements today prove that reading is useful, and the elderly people in the village think that Wang Wei has become a big official in the provincial capital. Wang Wei's success has made more people believe that reading is useful, so they are willing to invest more manpower and financial resources in education to support the cause of education. So now Wang Wei is the person halfway up the mountain, he can either grit his teeth and climb to the top of the mountain in one breath, and everyone will be happy, or he will compromise with reality now, so that everything he got before will be gone, and the people who supported and understood him before will also doubt him, and even look at him differently.
Everyone's life is unique, everyone's success is also unique, no one can copy anyone's life, and no one else's success can be copied. In life, there is no absolute success, there is no absolute failure, on the one hand, Wang Wei is successful, but on the other hand, he is a failure, Li Juan is the same, he is successful, but also a failure. Success and Failure are twin brothers with very different personalities, and although they come from the same mother, they represent two different states of life. Success and failure are always accompanied by a person at the same time, but sometimes there is more success, sometimes there is more failure, there is no failure without success, and there is no meaning to success without failure.
"There is a saying that 'it is rare to be confused, it is rare to be confused', and many people are troubled because they live too clearly, and everything must be clear, which will only make them more tired. In this world, not everyone can become a hero, and not everyone can be a hero, heroes are often lonely, lonely, and if they can't bear loneliness and loneliness, they can't become heroes. I don't want you to be a hero and live in someone else's world, I just want you to be happy and live in your own ideals, and only by living in your own ideals can you be your true self. ”
"What a 'rare confusion, confusion is rare'! What a high realm this is! I used to think that confusion was a very simple thing, but now it seems that it is difficult to be a smart fool. You're right, not everyone can be a hero, it's not bad to be an ordinary person with ideals, live in your own world, don't intrigue with this world, don't cheat with the people around you, and simply be myself. "Everyone in this world is a philosopher, but some people can write books and leave a name, while some people only teach philosophy to themselves. Maybe in the eyes of the people in the village, Wang Wei is far above Li Juan, and people hope that their children can be like Wang Wei, be admitted to university, go out of the mountains, and live the life of people in the city, but they don't know Wang Wei's distress, a child who comes out of the mountains, it is difficult to take root in the city, no matter how hard he tries, he loses to the children in the city at the beginning. Wang Wei, like all ambitious young people, once wanted to change the world and his life, but life told him with bloody realities that as a child of the poor, it is difficult to change his life, let alone become a person who changes the world. Li Juan compared with Wang Wei in the village, she didn't have any shining points at all, but she worked hard to be her ideal self, and she did everything she could. From a practical point of view, Li Juan's role is greater than Wang Wei's, but in people's inherent consciousness, Wang Wei makes them more proud.