Adolescent rebellious.

Specifically, adolescence is a transition period for boys and girls from immaturity to maturity, and the reason for rebellion is the contradiction between early physical maturity and delayed psychological maturity.

At this time, young boys and girls have formed a sense of independence, and they are usually reluctant to passively follow the teachings of their parents and teachers, they want to see the world with their own eyes and measure right and wrong with their own standards.

Junior high school students are at this stage, so compared to elementary and high school, junior high school students are also the most difficult to manage.

In this regard, in fact, rural middle schools are relatively better, after all, the school does not pay so close attention to learning and discipline, and the students are relatively simple, of course, it is only relative, and there must be various problems.

Just like these days, Zhang Dongming often saw Tang Wan calling the students who made mistakes in the class to the office to talk.

To sum up, there are probably two problems, one is that the student fights, and the other is that the student is in love.

Among them, most of the students who fight are not studying at all in the class, and Tang Wan usually only reprimands a few words and is done, it is useless to talk too much, and the students will not listen, and they often smile while being reprimanded.

Students who are in early love generally learn something in the class, and if they are students who don't study at all, Tang Wan generally won't care about this kind of thing, because people don't study themselves, and early love naturally doesn't affect learning.

For these students, Tang Wan doesn't have much requirements, she just hopes that they will fight less and finish junior high school smoothly.

Of course, this is just Tang Wan's hope, and the students don't care about it.

Just like today, the students in their class are fighting again.

This fight was a bit more serious, because it wasn't the students who were fighting, it was the teachers.

If a student beats a teacher, if it is placed in a city school, it will definitely be expelled without saying a word, but in the countryside, at least in this Beishan Township Middle School, it will not be expelled.

The reasons are also very simple, one is that the management of rural schools is loose, most of the students do not study, and fights are relatively common.

The second is that it doesn't matter if the students read this book or not, otherwise there will be no more than 50% dropout rate, and if you don't expel you, if you make a mistake and expel you, then the school estimates that there are few students.

Of course, it is not common to beat the teacher, after all, most students are not bold enough to do this even if they don't study.

"Lu Ye, you are becoming more and more capable, I will teach you a few sentences, do you want to beat me as a head teacher!ah?"

Tang Wan calmed his face and reprimanded loudly.

The boy named Lu Ye didn't speak, nor did he look at Tang Wan, he kept his feet crossed, looking up at the roof.

Zhang Dongming still has some impressions of Lu Ye, a student, who is the object of Tang Wan's focus on "taking care" in the class, and is also a "frequent visitor" in the office.

I heard that Lu Ye's family conditions are very good, his parents run an oil mill in the township, and they seem to be quite capable of fighting, and a few days ago he was called to the office by Tang Wan because of a fight with a junior high school student.

In addition to fighting, Lu Ye's more coming to the office is also a matter of his early love.

It stands to reason that for a student like Lu Ye who doesn't study at all, Tang Wan doesn't care about the problem of early love, the main thing is that Lu Ye's early love object is the best girl in Tang Wan's class.

The girl was bent on studying hard and being admitted to high school, so she naturally ignored Lu Ye, but Lu Ye was also persistent about it, and kept chasing others, and kept writing love letters and sending this and that.

If she doesn't study, she will affect others, and she is the best girl in their class, of course Tang Wan does not allow it, so she has criticized and educated again and again, but Lu Ye is not good at this, no matter what Tang Wan, the head teacher, says, he doesn't listen to at all, what should he do after that.

In short, Tang Wan didn't have much to do with Lu Ye, a student, but fortunately, the girl in the class was determined and never ignored Lu Ye, and her grades were not affected too much.

In addition, Zhang Dongming's impression of this Lu Ye is that he plays basketball well, he has met several times on the court these days, and the two have played together, Zhang Dongming feels that this student is not as bad as the school teachers say.

"You are in class and fighting, Teacher Ma criticized you twice, is it wrong to hit you twice with a textbook, you are so powerful, you directly carried a stool and legs and fought with Teacher Ma, what are you going to do, ah? This is still at school, you have to leave school, you are not allowed to kill people and set fires, ah? Come tell me, what do you think......

No matter what you say, the student beating the teacher is really too bad, Tang Wan, as the head teacher, is really angry enough, reprimanding loudly, her face is flushed, and her chest is up and down.

As for Lu Ye, he still didn't speak or look at Tang Wan, he looked up at the roof with his feet crossed, and rolled his eyes from time to time.

Tang Wan was really angry about this.

He has beaten and scolded this student, scolded and scolded, and his parents have also called him, and he has also talked about all kinds of truths, but people just don't listen, the more you talk about me, the more I will do it against you, a typical adolescent rebellious student.

After a long time of dry training, Tang Wan also knew that people didn't listen at all, and when the student went back, she sat there and shook her head.

Zhang Dongming got up and poured a glass of water, and by the way, he also poured it for Tang Wan, and said with a smile: "Drink some water to dissipate your anger." ”

Tang Wan drank two sips of water and said helplessly: "Tell me about this student." ”

Zhang Dongming explained: "It's still a child, think about it, isn't it the same when we were in junior high school, and we don't listen to the words of adults and teachers, even if we listen, we may not necessarily think that it is right." ”

Tang Wan sighed: "Youth is rebellious, of course I know it, but this is too ...... It's okay in school, if you hit the teacher, you will beat it, and the teacher can't be more serious with a student, but if you go out of school and enter the society, what can you do? ”

Tang Wan is the head teacher after all, and she is usually so serious and responsible, Zhang Dongming probably understands her thoughts, but there is really no need.

"Boys, it's normal to be naughty and mischievous, and you'll understand it when you're older, I don't think Lu Ye's student is anything, just talk about this incident, Lu Ye beat Teacher Ma, but as far as I know, Teacher Ma does have some problems with students in class, Lu Ye still respects you, and he seems to be called Zhao Xiaoli in your class, Lu Ye always teases others, but he hasn't done anything particularly excessive, otherwise Zhao Xiaoli can still study hard. ”

Tang Wan sighed again, and then nodded: "Yes, I know that Lu Ye's student is not bad, so I have been disciplining him like that, hey, this kid ......"

When it comes to the education of students and children, both adults and teachers have good intentions, but they usually make the mistake of habitually thinking about problems from their own perspective and then trying to impose their own wishes on students or children.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with this kind of education, mainly for some special students and children who are in the rebellious period of adolescence, this kind of education method sometimes does not work, and even backfires, just like Lu Ye, a student.

It can't be helped.

Not only Tang Wan, the general environment is like this, regardless of whether it is in the city or the countryside, for students and children in this period, most parents and teachers are facing this educational problem.

Zhang Dongming took a sip of water: "I think that for students like Lu Ye, if a teacher wants to educate well, the key is to understand and communicate more." ”

Tang Wan said weakly: "How do you want me to communicate and understand, haven't you seen it all these days." ”

Tang Wan does have a bit of a headache, in terms of educating students, her ideology is relatively open, and the effect is indeed there, but she has always been helpless against students like Lu Ye.

In fact, Zhang Dongming also admitted that Tang Wan has done a very good job of educating students, being strict when she should be strict, gentle when she should be gentle, understanding when she should understand, and even chatting with students.

These have been done very well, but they may still be the limitations of the times, although Tang Wan has also achieved openness and even openness, there is still an insurmountable barrier between her and her students, that is, identity.

That is to say, in Tang Wan's eyes, students are always students, and in the eyes of students, teachers are always teachers.

It's not that it's bad, it's good, it's not a problem at all.

But sometimes, maybe this approach can be a little more flexible.

"When I talk about communication, I'm not talking about communication between teachers and students, it's communication between friends and friends. ”

Tang Wan looked at Zhang Dongming, as if she was understanding and digesting the meaning of his words.

"It's easy to say. Tang Wan finally said.

"yes, that's lightweight. Zhang Dongming didn't explain.

Tang Wan didn't say much, and asked, "If you are the head teacher and you encounter this incident, how will you deal with it?"

"I'm ......" Zhang Dongming stretched his waist and thought for a while: "I should take Lu Ye and go to that teacher Ma to discuss who asked him to beat my student." ”

"It's your students who make mistakes, how can you be a class teacher like this. Tang Wan was speechless.

"You see, it's useless to say that it's light, and if you don't agree with it, why don't you make friends with students. Zhang Dongming spread his hands and said.

"That has to make sense. Tang Wan said.

"Reason......" Zhang Dongming scratched his head: "Truth is the same as quality, it's not worth half a penny, if you can better educate your students and make your students better, then as a teacher, it's not a big deal to be unreasonable at the right time." ”

Tang Wan looked at Zhang Dongming, her big eyes fluttering and blinking.

Zhang Dongming's sentence was deeper than the sentence just now, and while pondering, she seemed to vaguely touch a window that she had never found and never touched in teaching.

Tang Wan's big watery eyes kept looking at him, and Zhang Dongming said a little embarrassed: "Being looked at like this by Teacher Tang all the time, it is easy for ordinary men to misunderstand." ”

Tang Wan came back to her senses, and said with a smile: "Teacher Zhang, don't you think it's boring to take advantage of it like this?"

Zhang Dongming also reacted, what he said just now was really a bit of taking advantage of the opportunity, and said that a woman's mind is fine, smiled, and didn't explain, and casually opened the book that Tang Wan forcibly gave him that day.

Tang Wan looked at Zhang Dongming, smiled and didn't say much, and concentrated on preparing for class.